https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 10:37:44 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-in-laws-acknowledge-or-celebrate-your-birthday/page/2#post-2741245 Sun, 28 May 2017 19:18:46 +0000 grimalkin 2741245@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Eight years later, I'm still waiting for my husband's sister to acknowledge our marriage! The b*&amp;tch still sends Christmas cards addressed only to him and, of course, sends a card for his birthday every year. She's 75 now...I'm practicing the dance steps for her grave. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-in-laws-acknowledge-or-celebrate-your-birthday/page/2#post-2701093 Wed, 22 Feb 2017 10:16:09 +0000 Lilmrsm 2701093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mamapink: Unfortunately I share my Birthday with my MIL. Until this year this has meant we had to have dinner with them on our birthday every year. This was different cause baby two was born I we moved further away! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-in-laws-acknowledge-or-celebrate-your-birthday/page/2#post-2601613 Wed, 10 Aug 2016 08:34:02 +0000 OldpuebloJenn 2601613@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This year I got an unsigned card with an Amazon gift card tucked inside. I'd much rather receive a signed card, or even a text, than a gift. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-in-laws-acknowledge-or-celebrate-your-birthday/page/2#post-2601588 Wed, 10 Aug 2016 08:03:48 +0000 Alba4 2601588@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. My mil's bday is the day after mine. My husband's family actually makes a bigger deal about bdays than mine does and they always expect a get together. My in laws always give me a thoughtful gift. My own parents just give me a check. Lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-in-laws-acknowledge-or-celebrate-your-birthday/page/2#post-2601586 Wed, 10 Aug 2016 07:56:36 +0000 ValentineMommy 2601586@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the first year DH and I were together they did, when we were only dating for a few months.</p> <p>They haven't mentioned it once since. I personally think it's rude. My birthday is 2 days after MILs too, so it's not like she's forgetting it.</p> <p>My parents give DH a card and small gift every year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-in-laws-acknowledge-or-celebrate-your-birthday/page/2#post-2601582 Wed, 10 Aug 2016 07:50:35 +0000 looch 2601582@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I barely acknowledge my own birthday, so it's not important to me if others do anything at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-in-laws-acknowledge-or-celebrate-your-birthday/page/2#post-2601578 Wed, 10 Aug 2016 07:45:57 +0000 MOMTOLITTLEB 2601578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My in laws celebrate my birthday more or less the same as their children. We usually have a dinner with cake and gifts. This year we were on vacation so they came down for the day with a cake in a cooler. I think it's important to treat in laws like family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-in-laws-acknowledge-or-celebrate-your-birthday/page/2#post-2601530 Wed, 10 Aug 2016 05:43:17 +0000 ElbieKay 2601530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL usually sends me a gift for my birthday, but I would not care if she ignored it. I am not all that into celebrating my (or any adult's, really) birthday. I feel a little responsible to plan something for my husband's birthday but that is about it. He never does anything for mine though, so the bar is low.</p> <p>I do, however, think it's important to celebrate a child's birthday! I think is weird that she ignored her grandchild's birthday. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-in-laws-acknowledge-or-celebrate-your-birthday/page/2#post-2601474 Tue, 09 Aug 2016 21:53:27 +0000 Lbruno1386 2601474@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mamapink: I've been married for 28 years and my mother in law ignores only my birthday. My kids get cards with money, my husband gets a visit at his office with a card, money and a gift. I get nothing. I have the entire family to my home with an elaborate dinner for Christmas Eve. I had my father in laws birthday dinner here this year. It's very hurtful just to be treated differently. I don't need a gift and wouldn't mind if they just acknowledged the kids and not my husband or myself. It feels as if she feels I'm not part of the family, despite what she says. What hurts more is that my husband won't address it. I don't want him to be rude or fight with them. I suggested he tell them not to get him anything because it causes hurt feelings when they don't do the same for both of us. He says they have been good to him so he can't. I'm to the point of stopping all the celebrations I do at my house for them. I work hard to make them special but I'm done! Not sure what the solution is. I love my husband but it feels like he is protecting his mother's feelings over mine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-in-laws-acknowledge-or-celebrate-your-birthday/page/2#post-312499 Thu, 27 Sep 2012 08:32:22 +0000 JessiBee 312499@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely! I get a card, a gift, and a phone call from them...and my parents do the same for my DH. I think we just both come from families that like to celebrate birthdays! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-in-laws-acknowledge-or-celebrate-your-birthday/page/2#post-312395 Thu, 27 Sep 2012 07:16:05 +0000 Andrea 312395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL does (they are divorced). She always sends a card, calls, or gives me a gift. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-in-laws-acknowledge-or-celebrate-your-birthday/page/2#post-312392 Thu, 27 Sep 2012 07:11:07 +0000 Sugar.Biscuit 312392@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's a family thing! My family has always been big into birthdays. Use to give small gifts but the last few yeas we have stopped doing that because I was getting married and saving money, its more about the kids anyways. Christmas is a whole different story! My family has broke me a time or two so last year we agreed that the "young adults" would only spend 20/ person.</p> <p>With the MIL &amp; FIL there is a card with 20 bucks &amp; they usually take us out to eat. If not we get together for cake and ice cream. The rest of the family usually does a FB or Txt message. Except for this one sister, she is REALLY cranky, I expect nothing and get nothing &amp; I'm fine with that.</p> <p>Christmas is way different with them. For the hubby &amp; I we exchange gifts with the parents and that's all. We really hate that we can't get gifts for the nieces and nephews. They said when we have kids we can. There is about a 20 yr age difference between my husband and his siblings. Thankfully their kids are old enough and understand that its not our fault. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-in-laws-acknowledge-or-celebrate-your-birthday/page/2#post-312390 Thu, 27 Sep 2012 07:08:37 +0000 anonysquire 312390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've decided that starting this new year I am going to send a card to my immediate family and in-laws for their Bday and major holidays. NOt because then hopefully they will remember my birthday, but because maybe I need to remember peoples bdays too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-in-laws-acknowledge-or-celebrate-your-birthday/page/2#post-312369 Thu, 27 Sep 2012 06:45:08 +0000 mamapink 312369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MediaNaranja: happy belated birthday! =)</p> <p>@evenstar982: my in laws live about 45-90 min away (depending on traffic) but they visit us EVERY SINGLE SATURDAY. </p> <p>the past two years i've been making excuses to be busy around my birthday so that they don't visit us. it kind of defeats the purpose of celebrating your birthday if you have to ask/force people to do it for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-in-laws-acknowledge-or-celebrate-your-birthday/page/2#post-312243 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 22:48:08 +0000 Grace 312243@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Gee, I don't think any of them know when my birthday is. And it's never even occurred to me to send my inlaws anything. DH always calls his dad and sister on their birthdays, so I add my Happy Birthdays to his. I have no idea when my sister's husband's birthday is. Birthdays just aren't that big a deal to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-in-laws-acknowledge-or-celebrate-your-birthday/page/2#post-312060 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 20:08:57 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 312060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mamapink: Aw, well if they do for everyone else I can totally understand why you would be bummed :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-in-laws-acknowledge-or-celebrate-your-birthday/page/2#post-311925 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 18:46:03 +0000 heffalump 311925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They always call me (my mil accidentally called a day early this year, lol) and give a gift. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-in-laws-acknowledge-or-celebrate-your-birthday/page/2#post-311916 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 18:37:09 +0000 anonysquire 311916@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No none of my in-laws acknowledged my birthday. And my husband told them when it was like 2 weeks before when they were here for our wedding. I didn't even get a call or a card or an email or anything. I shouldn't be surprised because they don't do anything for Christmas. </p> <p>It is just so crazy how different 2 families can be. My family takes DH out every year for his birthday, gets him a cake and everyone gives him presents and a card. And for christmas they treat him like another son, giving him gifts from Santa, from the family, they even gave him a cruise trip last year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-in-laws-acknowledge-or-celebrate-your-birthday/page/2#post-311911 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 18:35:14 +0000 mynoahbear 311911@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband's family isn't a gift giving bunch, in general. His dad and stepmom do send LO gifts but they're the only ones. They also never send birthday cards or anything like that. My family always celebrated birthdays and holidays and always did gifts, so it was strange at first to me to see his family not do anything.<br /> We would always send his brothers and their families Christmas presents but we hardly ever got a thank you, do I just stopped shopping for them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-in-laws-acknowledge-or-celebrate-your-birthday/page/2#post-311896 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 18:28:36 +0000 chopsuey 311896@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They do! In laws always send gifts :)<br /> Last year they sent a $200 gift card to.. Omaha steaks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-in-laws-acknowledge-or-celebrate-your-birthday#post-311890 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 18:21:23 +0000 MediaNaranja 311890@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've only met my MIL twice, and can guarantee you she has no idea when my birthday is (today!). In her defense, though, she is also quite a bit older and lives in Ecuador, so even if she did know my birthday was today she wouldn't know how to call or skype :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-in-laws-acknowledge-or-celebrate-your-birthday#post-311792 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 17:13:13 +0000 HLK208 311792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll get a happy birthday text from MIL and that's about it. I'm okay with it since DH likes to make my birthday a big deal. My parents go all out for DH's birthday, mostly because they never had a son and their 3 other daughters aren't married. I'm sure he'll get less once my parents have more son-in-laws! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-in-laws-acknowledge-or-celebrate-your-birthday#post-311788 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 17:12:08 +0000 Cole 311788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My inlaws are pretty good about my birthday although after 12 years together my mil still thinks it is a different date-- but she never misses that date! She always sends a card and a kind gift, usually my husband's gifts are bigger but that doesn't bother me at all. My bils are oblivious but truthfully I only even know the month of their birthdays so it goes both ways! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-in-laws-acknowledge-or-celebrate-your-birthday#post-311783 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 17:08:59 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 311783@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My in-laws don't acknowledge my birthday, but expect us to all get together for dinner and chip in for presents for theirs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-in-laws-acknowledge-or-celebrate-your-birthday#post-311781 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 17:08:08 +0000 evenstar982 311781@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you live near or far from your in-laws? We live in the UK, 5000 miles from DH's family in the US... I always arrange cards and gifts for us to send to them for their birthday's and Christmas; but its pretty rare for them to send packages to us for either occasion (but not just to me, DH doesn't often get more than a Facebook message or an email either!).<br /> I kinda hope this will change when we have kids, and that they'll receive something occasionally... but we do understand that we have more disposable income than DH's family so it's not a big deal if not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-in-laws-acknowledge-or-celebrate-your-birthday#post-311774 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 17:05:20 +0000 BeachMama 311774@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL usually sends me a card with a check or gift and I send cards for MIL and FIL birthdays. My parents get DH a gift. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-in-laws-acknowledge-or-celebrate-your-birthday#post-311694 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 16:01:45 +0000 pinkcupcake 311694@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup, they'll send me a birthday card and $$ :) My parents will take us out to dinner and also give us $$. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-in-laws-acknowledge-or-celebrate-your-birthday#post-311670 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 15:49:50 +0000 mrsjyw 311670@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's really surprising that they don't do anything for your LO!</p> <p>ILs always gift me a bag of goodies and a card and we do dinner out/cake sometime in the birthday month.</p> <p>We do the same for DH, except my parents usually just gift him cash. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-in-laws-acknowledge-or-celebrate-your-birthday#post-311668 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 15:47:07 +0000 DigAPony 311668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My in-laws send me a card and gift (usually a little cash). My parents always get my husband a card and gift too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-in-laws-acknowledge-or-celebrate-your-birthday#post-311649 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 15:34:11 +0000 JessicaMcB 311649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My in-laws throw a little birthday party for me every year. Hell, I tend to get better presents than my husband does ;) </p>