https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 14 Apr 2026 13:47:14 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-kids-ever-guilt-you-for-not-volunteering-at-school-like-the-other-parents#post-2097910 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 12:11:54 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 2097910@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They're too young, but I remember guilting my mom a lot when I was young. I just didn't understand why she couldn't come to class field trips, or pick me up first from school like some of the other parents regularly did. She didn't do a very good job at explaining either though. Hopefully I can get through to my kids when that day comes! I'm already anticipating it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-kids-ever-guilt-you-for-not-volunteering-at-school-like-the-other-parents#post-2097896 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 12:04:07 +0000 mrs. wagon 2097896@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've felt a little guilty a few times when Wagon Jr. told me that he was the only kid in class whose parents didn't attend some special event in the middle of the day. But my only response is, where do these people work?!? </p> <p>But once a year the kids each get a "star of the week" week assigned to them, and I plan for it well in advance, including taking an afternoon off to come in. I also make the week as special as possible, bringing in treats, a project, etc. But honestly, at this point, I don't really feel guilty anymore because hey. Mommy is busy. When I was growing up, my parents weren't even home to bring me home from school and didn't sign me up for any after school programs. So I figure they're better off than I was :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-kids-ever-guilt-you-for-not-volunteering-at-school-like-the-other-parents#post-2097845 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 11:22:18 +0000 808love 2097845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter just bugs to stay at home with me. She says she doesn't want me to work so I can play with her. I felt a little bad about that. </p> <p> She is extremely happy when I do drop off because I always do pick up. I don't feel guilty about that because I don't want to do drop off. We try to make it to most fieldtrips but other than that there is not too much volunteering happening. </p> <p>I think it would be good if you have the go-to-work talk with the kids because it is a fact of life and builds understanding of work ethic. It is just a bit hard to shake the stabs of guilt and desire to be with them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-kids-ever-guilt-you-for-not-volunteering-at-school-like-the-other-parents#post-2097816 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 10:57:10 +0000 yin 2097816@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I stay at home and don't have time to volunteer at school. I tell LO that I have to watch his younger brother. There are times when I can make it to his holiday parties, and he is always so happy to see me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-kids-ever-guilt-you-for-not-volunteering-at-school-like-the-other-parents#post-2097815 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 10:57:06 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 2097815@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter is proud if what we do and when other kids give her a hard time about why her mama never does pick up, she says that I'm busy helping really sick kids.</p> <p>We'll see how that attitude holds through the years! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-kids-ever-guilt-you-for-not-volunteering-at-school-like-the-other-parents#post-2097809 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 10:51:46 +0000 mrbee 2097809@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: Ooh, that's so smart!!</p> <p>We don't have an office, but we have a friend whose office we are allowed to use and maybe we could show him that one of these weekends. Thanks for the idea!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-kids-ever-guilt-you-for-not-volunteering-at-school-like-the-other-parents#post-2097777 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 10:30:12 +0000 looch 2097777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is there any way you can take your son to work, so he can see what you're doing? I am not sure if you go to an office or not, but I found that helped a lot with my son. We didn't actually take him into our office during a work day, we brought him to an event after hours, but he saw the office, he got his own badge, he saw where we eat lunch.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-kids-ever-guilt-you-for-not-volunteering-at-school-like-the-other-parents#post-2097773 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 10:27:05 +0000 blackbird 2097773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>E's too young but I wonder if your kid would understand it if you related it to school. Like: "you're in school all day and we can't just take you out to do XYZ". I'm not sure how to really have that conversation.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-kids-ever-guilt-you-for-not-volunteering-at-school-like-the-other-parents#post-2097764 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 10:21:03 +0000 lawbee11 2097764@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She's too young but I used to do this to my mom and as a working mom now I feel really bad about it! But once I was in middle school I didn't want my parents anywhere near school so it all worked out :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-kids-ever-guilt-you-for-not-volunteering-at-school-like-the-other-parents#post-2097761 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 10:18:53 +0000 Anagram 2097761@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, she's too young but I am not looking forward to this kind of thing. It's kind of even worse for me, because I even have to miss things like the First Day of School (that already makes me super sad and we are years out), and Last Day of School, and Kindergarten Graduation---because inevitably, those are always the same as my first day, and last day, and our year-end award assemblies, so I can't miss. Totally sucks, but LO will eventually understand that my job doesn't allow me to go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-kids-ever-guilt-you-for-not-volunteering-at-school-like-the-other-parents#post-2097759 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 10:18:31 +0000 autumnlove 2097759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>not yet but I didn't want my parents volunteering past a certain age so maybe he will be over it soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-kids-ever-guilt-you-for-not-volunteering-at-school-like-the-other-parents#post-2097754 Fri, 06 Mar 2015 10:16:51 +0000 mrbee 2097754@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son just doesn't understand why some of his friends' parents volunteer all the time, while his parents have to work during the day. We have a fair amount of flexibility in our work, but just can't regularly take a full day (or half-day) off like some other parents are able to.</p> <p>Gonna have to have a talk with him about how some parents have work during the day. I've talked to him about this before, but he just didn't get it! Maybe he'll understand more now that he's a bit older.</p> <p>Do your kids ever guilt you for not volunteering at school like the other parents? </p>