https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 19 May 2026 22:18:35 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-mother-andor-mil-ever-make-comments-about-your-parenting#post-368616 Tue, 30 Oct 2012 21:14:34 +0000 pinkcupcake 368616@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, my mom always does. It's ok, I know she's doing it outta love so I let it go :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-mother-andor-mil-ever-make-comments-about-your-parenting#post-368433 Tue, 30 Oct 2012 19:15:19 +0000 blackbird 368433@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom has already offered up lots of intense info. She's also puts down the advice I get from my friends (that I ask for). I'm already bracing myself for the storm </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-mother-andor-mil-ever-make-comments-about-your-parenting#post-368115 Tue, 30 Oct 2012 15:18:42 +0000 Beebug 368115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mewtill: lol. Saint? I'll take it :)</p> <p>I am just wanting to keep things pretty simple and I feel like everyone else, meaning to or not makes it all so much crazier than it needs to be. Time will go quick.....at least I keep telling myself that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-mother-andor-mil-ever-make-comments-about-your-parenting#post-367747 Tue, 30 Oct 2012 12:28:55 +0000 Sammyfab 367747@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom doesn't say anything because I'm pretty sure she has no recollection of how to raise / take care of a baby. I wish I were joking but I'm not.</p> <p>My mil has made comments along the lines of putting our LO to bed too early or making him nap too much but otherwise she is pretty good. I think I lucked out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-mother-andor-mil-ever-make-comments-about-your-parenting#post-367736 Tue, 30 Oct 2012 12:24:46 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 367736@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Beebug: three weeks?! Yowza - you are a saint!</p> <p>DS is still a newborn, so comments have been few. I'm not worried about my mom (my dad talked to me about how they'll give us any help we ask for, but they know DH &amp; I are the parents so we're going to do what we feel is best).</p> <p>MIL? Well, she's got no filter &amp; I've learned by now to just ignore her. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-mother-andor-mil-ever-make-comments-about-your-parenting#post-367729 Tue, 30 Oct 2012 12:22:57 +0000 alayaya 367729@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pink Champagne: What!? That is so rude! I would be so mad... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-mother-andor-mil-ever-make-comments-about-your-parenting#post-367716 Tue, 30 Oct 2012 12:19:29 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 367716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom does it in a very passive aggressive way by talking in a baby voice to my LO about what she wants me to do. For example, she could be holding LO and she starts to fuss, so my mom would say to her in a baby voice, "oh, you are fussing because you are hungry. You get too much breastmilk and not enough solid food and you are trying to tell mommy to let nana feed you solid food, huh?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-mother-andor-mil-ever-make-comments-about-your-parenting#post-367696 Tue, 30 Oct 2012 12:11:36 +0000 Pink Champagne 367696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom is good.. I actually don't mind her suggestions. She never criticizes me directly so I suppose it's all in the delivery.<br /> My MIL, on the other hand... she hasn't said a lot, but one time when she was holding LO, she did this thing where she started asking him, "Do your parents read stories to you? Do your parents sing songs to you?" Like, as if she could pass along things she thought a "good mother" would do by asking my LO if I was doing them right in front of me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-mother-andor-mil-ever-make-comments-about-your-parenting#post-367669 Tue, 30 Oct 2012 12:01:30 +0000 KT326 367669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: Wow. That really sucks. </p> <p>@Mrs Checkers: I'm trying not to let it get to me since that is just the way she is. But it may be awhile before she babysits again! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-mother-andor-mil-ever-make-comments-about-your-parenting#post-367662 Tue, 30 Oct 2012 11:58:22 +0000 Mrs Checkers 367662@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sweetkate: That is terrible! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-mother-andor-mil-ever-make-comments-about-your-parenting#post-367661 Tue, 30 Oct 2012 11:58:13 +0000 Mrs Checkers 367661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: OMG. No words. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-mother-andor-mil-ever-make-comments-about-your-parenting#post-367648 Tue, 30 Oct 2012 11:55:25 +0000 regberadaisy 367648@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL doesn't, she's very cognizant of it. My mom on the other hand is so guilty of it! She makes comments about how everyone handles baby! In her mind her way is the best way. Love her and she's a amazing grandma but drives me batty sometimes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-mother-andor-mil-ever-make-comments-about-your-parenting#post-367568 Tue, 30 Oct 2012 11:31:07 +0000 KT326 367568@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, my step-MIL won't say it to my face but she will say it behind my back. She had been begging to babysit so when DS was 16 weeks old we let them so we could go to a concert for my birthday. I thought everything was fine but then I recently found out she was bad mouthing me for leaving him when he was so young! </p> <p>Luckily my mom is great and doesn't say anything unless I ask her for advice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-mother-andor-mil-ever-make-comments-about-your-parenting#post-367549 Tue, 30 Oct 2012 11:22:59 +0000 MrsTiz 367549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was pregnant for about 10 weeks (miscarried) and in those short weeks, my MIL told me that I was "absolutely crazy" for considering cloth diapering. That breastfeeding was nasty, and that it was stupid to have a nursery because "a good mom has her baby in her room" </p> <p>..whhhaat!</p> <p>My mom is not intrusive and only offers advice- key word being "offers", not telling me how to do things and thinking i'm a bad person for not doing things her way </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-mother-andor-mil-ever-make-comments-about-your-parenting#post-367516 Tue, 30 Oct 2012 11:09:41 +0000 lovehoneybee 367516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They're both encouraging of me letting him cry and fuss it out (not when he's sleeping, just during the day) but he usually fusses for a reason, even if it's just wanting cuddles, so I usually won't let him just cry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-mother-andor-mil-ever-make-comments-about-your-parenting#post-367488 Tue, 30 Oct 2012 10:59:30 +0000 boiledpnut 367488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL has made comments and the baby isn't even here yet! She's very much a know-it-all though. My mom is very unimposing. She said we'll figure it out and learn from our mistakes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-mother-andor-mil-ever-make-comments-about-your-parenting#post-367471 Tue, 30 Oct 2012 10:51:08 +0000 meredithNYC 367471@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You know, both are pretty good about letting me figure things out, and I appreciate that. Although, I don't think I do things much differently from the way they did them, so maybe that's why there are few problems? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-mother-andor-mil-ever-make-comments-about-your-parenting#post-367465 Tue, 30 Oct 2012 10:48:46 +0000 Beebug 367465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am on day 10 with new baby, and on week one of three with MIL here from across the country.</p> <p>I struggle......to say the least with the comments. She is trying to help, wants nothing but the best, and I understand that. It's still tough learning to be a new parent, I am really interested in finding my way on my own/with DH, let alone constant comments/suggestions. I know my DH sacrificed a lot moving away from home, so having her here for him is important, trying to remember that. Know I will miss the cooking she is doing when she's gone, but also looking forward to being on my own....I like my space. I don't say anything back, I vent to DH instead (though, I need to stop that, I know it bugs him) and am trying to remember she does mean well (she is a retired nurse, knows her stuff!!) and that it's short term. Oye. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-mother-andor-mil-ever-make-comments-about-your-parenting#post-367440 Tue, 30 Oct 2012 10:36:05 +0000 autumnlove 367440@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All the time! I always say stuff back to my Mom but I don't as much with my MIL. </p> <p>I think every Asian grandma thinks the baby will freeze in short sleeves..haha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-mother-andor-mil-ever-make-comments-about-your-parenting#post-367432 Tue, 30 Oct 2012 10:34:43 +0000 IcebergMom 367432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Once in a while but I try hard to not take it personally because I know they both think I'm a great Mom. I tell myself they are makin comments about the baby, not me. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-mother-andor-mil-ever-make-comments-about-your-parenting#post-367422 Tue, 30 Oct 2012 10:32:24 +0000 Mrs Checkers 367422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom's actually not that bad, but she does make side comments here and there that sometimes drive me up the wall!</p> <p>I remember early on, when we had first started bottle-feeding my mom would always say how my bottles were prepared too cold. "She can't drink this, it's too cold!" </p> <p>This morning when she was changing LO out of her PJS (she watches her while I am at work) she was like, "You put her in a short-sleeve?" Like she was going to freeze! It's been in the 80s here in So Cal during the day! Yes, it gets a little cooler at night, but it's so hot in her room when I put her down. Ughhh. I usually explain myself but it's such a bother. I shouldn't have to justify why I'm doing things.</p> <p>Does your mom or do your in-laws ever make comments? Do you say things back? </p>