https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Jul 2026 08:27:15 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-drive-you-crazy-when-they-visit#post-2645986 Tue, 01 Nov 2016 07:37:49 +0000 yin 2645986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both my parents and in-law's live nearby, and they still drive me crazy when they visit for an hour. The mothers are always criticizing every detail, and they have this look of disapproval the whole time they are here. My FIL is the only one who plays and interacts with the kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-drive-you-crazy-when-they-visit#post-2645977 Tue, 01 Nov 2016 07:28:12 +0000 erinbaderin 2645977@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, but I know that it's little petty things that I should let go of. For example my dad always makes himself a rye and coke and when he leaves always leaves the rye, empty coke can, and glass on the counter. And I once watched my mom put sugar in her coffee by dipping the spoon into the sugar bowl and then carrying the spoonful of sugar across the room to the other side of the kitchen where her coffee cup was, scattering sugar the whole way. And then leave the dirty spoon sitting on the counter. Stuff like that makes me crazy but they're also very generous with their time and love my kids like crazy so I need to work on not being so uptight about a little mess. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-drive-you-crazy-when-they-visit#post-2645965 Tue, 01 Nov 2016 07:10:15 +0000 ValentineMommy 2645965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom is literally at my house almost every day to watch the kids, she's the greatest. While there are some tiny things she does to get on my nerves every once in awhile, it's nothing over-arching or repetitive. It's just the nature of having someone else in my space. My dad is annoying, only in the fact that he ignores us because he's so excited to see the boys....nothing major again.</p> <p>On the other hand, 95% of what my ILs do annoy me (MIL in particular). The reasons why are too long to even describe. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-drive-you-crazy-when-they-visit#post-2645714 Mon, 31 Oct 2016 14:02:48 +0000 Ajsmommy 2645714@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love when my family visits, however DH doesn't and it drives him crazy which in turn makes him drive me crazy. Fun times. Bring on the holidays :meh: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-drive-you-crazy-when-they-visit#post-2645696 Mon, 31 Oct 2016 13:46:57 +0000 My Only Sunshine 2645696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My in-laws are helpful and wonderful. It's MY parents that make us crazy! They insist on staying at a hotel instead of with us, which seems nice but comes off as kind of insulting. And my dad is addicted to his iPhone - I once had to send him outside when he was watching videos on Facebook during DD's bedtime story time. He can't hear but won't get hearing aids so while my mom and I were reading stories to my 2 year old, my dad's phone was blaring some stupid video his local weatherman posted on Facebook! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-drive-you-crazy-when-they-visit#post-2645687 Mon, 31 Oct 2016 13:40:15 +0000 MaryM 2645687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: I want to know what weird things happen in the yard!</p> <p>My mom is great. DH doesn't mind when she comes either. She usually cooks a meal or two and she isn't capable of sitting still for too long so she'll reorganize things like the tupperware cabinet (that I appreciate! I hate that DH can't keep it that way)</p> <p>MIL stays for longer than I'd prefer when she visits. I get tired of "entertaining" her (my mom is low key and we can sit in silence and be fine, but MIL needs more attention) but DH doesn't agree and doesn't feel she overstays, so that's a little odd. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-drive-you-crazy-when-they-visit#post-2645681 Mon, 31 Oct 2016 13:32:22 +0000 Anagram 2645681@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We like when our parents come, and they tend to come for 1-2 weeks at a time (and we live in a two bedroom condo). But little things are mildly annoying. My mom always cooked everything when I was growing up, but in her retirement has basically stopped. So when she visits she's amazing with the kids but basically will ask me every night when I get home from work, "So, what's for dinner?" and I just have the added stress of planning meals for one more person. But she's super active and will take the kids out to parks or on walks, or wherever. She'll also go do touristy things alone, leaving us to do our own thing. She doesn't have to be entertained.</p> <p>Dhs parents are the exact opposite. They come and camp out--they do not leave the house at all, except to go to the grocery store basically. But MIL will cook every single meal, so I can't complain too much.</p> <p>Neither of our parents leave messes. My mom will get in there and randomly organize stuff, like my pantry (I don't mind, it's usually a mess). Dh's mom will cook all day and clean as she goes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-drive-you-crazy-when-they-visit#post-2645609 Mon, 31 Oct 2016 12:40:53 +0000 catgirl 2645609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When my mom comes alone she never bothers me and DH honestly loves when she visits. When she comes with her husband he gets on my nerves a bit but he loves DD so much and spends most of the time playing with her so I deal.</p> <p>My inlaws drive me insane. They only come occasionally and spend half of their time playing on their iPad or just doing their own thing. Even DD, who isn't even 2, gets annoyed with them. The one plus is my MIL will always cook a meal or two which is nice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-drive-you-crazy-when-they-visit#post-2645603 Mon, 31 Oct 2016 12:37:05 +0000 Truvy 2645603@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, but it is mostly because my mom makes big messes when she plays with the kids, doing art projects, baking, getting out all the toys. But she entertains them and the kids have a blast. The clean-up I have to afterwards is annoying, but I try to let it go. I wish they could go to her house more where they could be as messy as they like but it would mean that I have to drive them 2 hours, and stay at least one night, which is also hard for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-drive-you-crazy-when-they-visit#post-2645588 Mon, 31 Oct 2016 12:19:09 +0000 lamariniere 2645588@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Timely, my ILs are here now! It hasn't quite been 24 hours yet, so we haven't gotten into annoying territory yet. But my MIL did buy them candy first thing this morning "it's Halloween" and she's been giving it to them periodically today without asking me (they are out of school part of this week). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-drive-you-crazy-when-they-visit#post-2645583 Mon, 31 Oct 2016 12:17:45 +0000 nana87 2645583@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my parents do little things that are annoying (like my dad leaves the toilet seat up--whyyyy? or if he puts lo to bed--which is amazing, don't get me wrong--he forgets her milk cup in her room and so it gets left out overnight) but generally they're so helpful, and respectful of our parenting, that it way outweighs the negative.</p> <p>mil drives me crazy though! very passive aggressive, and somehow both wants to be helpful yet expects us to wait on her. She doesn't know how to do child-centered activities, really, like she always wants to take lo to the grocery store but won't take her to the park. But then she'll go to the grocery store and buy things she wants for herself, like fruit, but won't ask us what we need--even obvious things that lo needs like milk. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-drive-you-crazy-when-they-visit#post-2645516 Mon, 31 Oct 2016 11:33:16 +0000 snowjewelz 2645516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I wish they'd visit more to help entertain DD haha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-drive-you-crazy-when-they-visit#post-2645505 Mon, 31 Oct 2016 11:25:34 +0000 psw27 2645505@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom, no. My dad, sometimes because he just works the entire time he visits and that's lame. </p> <p>My in laws, 2 out of the 4 basically 95% of the time. 2 out of the 4 5% of the time. My FIL and his wife really annoy me - they leave teabags out, reheat coffee in the microwave and explode it everywhere, inappropriate personal space stuff, refuse to take shoes off even though we are a no shoe house, obnoxious political and religious discussions knowing full well what the outcome will be, etc... Makes me batty! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-drive-you-crazy-when-they-visit#post-2645482 Mon, 31 Oct 2016 11:08:02 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2645482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom a little. She doesn't get how being a smoker is so annoying. Every time the door opens for her to go in and out of the house it's grating. </p> <p>My inlaws are coming this weekend (MIL's side) and DH said he doesn't want to leave LO completely in their care, but I can't be myself. So I have to bite my tongue when I witness them do stuff wrong. Yeah, we'll see how long that lasts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-drive-you-crazy-when-they-visit#post-2645479 Mon, 31 Oct 2016 11:07:08 +0000 Freckles 2645479@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. It's funny because we miss them when we don't see them and when we finally do it's like "ahhhh let's get this visit over with already!!!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-drive-you-crazy-when-they-visit#post-2645478 Mon, 31 Oct 2016 11:02:37 +0000 mediagirl 2645478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents were here this weekend. They stayed for 2 full days. I think we were all ready when they headed out yesterday afternoon. Things get misplaced, food gets left open and weird things happen in the yard, among other things...</p> <p>Don't get me wrong, they were helpful, too. They watched our daughter while we went out Friday, they watched her while we ripped out our kitchen and they carved pumpkins with her. </p> <p>But they drive me so crazy sometimes when they visit!! </p>