https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 10 Apr 2026 10:50:21 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-or-inlaws-have-keys-to-your-house/page/2#post-2832436 Thu, 05 Jul 2018 19:17:05 +0000 erinbaderin 2832436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents have a key, but they live four hours away and they wouldn’t use it unless invited (like, when I know they’re coming over and they’ll arrive before I get home). My in-laws live in England so it isn’t an issue. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-or-inlaws-have-keys-to-your-house/page/2#post-2832425 Thu, 05 Jul 2018 18:26:34 +0000 maddyz 2832425@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents are in the access list for our apartment. They can get a key from the door man. It's mostly helpful because we only have 3 keys and it's a juggle when they visit, but this way the can get a 4th key. They also often arrive late and can let themselves in without waking us up. They live far away so they would not stop by without me expecting them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-or-inlaws-have-keys-to-your-house/page/2#post-2832393 Thu, 05 Jul 2018 12:55:48 +0000 smuckers 2832393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aw man, like 4 people have the key to our house, lol. My parents have a key (in case of emergency; they live less than a mile away), our neighbors (my high school BFF) have a key in case we lock ourselves out, my BIL has a key (he comes over pretty often to hang out with my DH during the day before his overnight shift; he's allowed over whenever he wants, so if DH and DD are upstairs napping he'll let himself in and watch some TV. All parties are 100% fine with this), and my ILs have a key as they watched DD before DH left his job to stay home ( and they still come over when he's not feeling well). </p> <p>We're very very lucky that everyone is super respectful! It's honestly super convenient for us, but it would never work if everyone wasn't on the same page with expectations. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-or-inlaws-have-keys-to-your-house/page/2#post-2832390 Thu, 05 Jul 2018 12:42:19 +0000 Sams Mom 2832390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My sister has a key to our house, but that's because she takes care of our animals while out of town and sometimes drops her dog off at our house if she has to work a long day. </p> <p>My mom &amp; dad live over an hour away, and they have the garage code for if they get into town before we make it home.</p> <p>My in-laws used to have the garage code to our house, but then we changed it and didn't tell them due to being no contact and my FIL is crazy. I didn't want them to have it to start out with because they would invite themselves over all the time and just walk in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-or-inlaws-have-keys-to-your-house/page/2#post-2832377 Thu, 05 Jul 2018 11:58:17 +0000 alphagam84 2832377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents (who live out of state) and sister (20 mins away) both have the access code to our house, we don't have a traditional key. My sister has it so it's easier for her to get in when she comes over, she only comes when we are expecting her. It's handy for my parents to have so they can let themselves in whenever they are here if we aren't with them. My IL's are in the area but do not have the code as I wouldn't want them to just drop by and let themselves in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-or-inlaws-have-keys-to-your-house/page/2#post-2832374 Thu, 05 Jul 2018 11:54:20 +0000 snowjewelz 2832374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>None of us use keys because we use the garage code. So I have no idea if they have keys or not :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-or-inlaws-have-keys-to-your-house/page/2#post-2832364 Thu, 05 Jul 2018 11:35:10 +0000 Alba4 2832364@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, both sets of parents do, but mostly because they helped with daycare. They respect our privacy. Should I be asking for them back😜? Ha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-or-inlaws-have-keys-to-your-house/page/2#post-2832336 Thu, 05 Jul 2018 10:00:45 +0000 Caly 2832336@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents have the code to get in. My dad regularly watches our girls and also watches our dog when we're out of town so it's very helpful for him to have the code. Also, I have absolutely no concerns of it being abused, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-or-inlaws-have-keys-to-your-house/page/2#post-2832334 Thu, 05 Jul 2018 09:42:34 +0000 Becky 2832334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup. They watch our kids so that’s a big one, but they’ll also stop by to drop things off. And we’re pretty big on popping in unannounced (I appareciate the diversion for my kids). The only privacy issue I could foresee would be if my husband and I were alone in the middle of the day and taking advantage of it but that has happened once ever in our 4.5 years as parents so I’m not concerned. They don’t usually knock, and we don’t either when we go to their houses. This also extends to siblings/siblings in law. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-or-inlaws-have-keys-to-your-house/page/2#post-2832332 Thu, 05 Jul 2018 09:23:07 +0000 lioneyes 2832332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have a door code, which my parents have. They live close by, and they do stop by occasionally while we are out to drop off/pick stuff up. When they are coming over and we are home, they always knock and wait for us to let them in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-or-inlaws-have-keys-to-your-house/page/2#post-2832325 Thu, 05 Jul 2018 08:32:29 +0000 bhbee 2832325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom and brother have keys, I think. I also have keys to my brother’s and the code to my mom’s. We’re pretty private people and none of us would use it without asking, but since my brother and I live 45m apart and my mom often comes and watches the kids from out of town it has been useful every now and then. My in laws no, because they also live out of town and come to visit not to babysit :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-or-inlaws-have-keys-to-your-house/page/2#post-2832322 Thu, 05 Jul 2018 08:15:12 +0000 looch 2832322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha, old thread, old answer!</p> <p>We don't have keys, but we have a key pad at our house currently. My parents have their own code and my dad has a fingerprint scan at our garage door. They live in town and we have never had an issue with them abusing it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-or-inlaws-have-keys-to-your-house/page/2#post-2832321 Thu, 05 Jul 2018 08:06:15 +0000 WinterBee 2832321@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents don’t, they live about 4 hours away and rarely visit so it wouldn’t make sense. My husbands parents do, they live about 5 minutes up the road. They would never just ‘use’ the keys to enter our house, but there have been circumstances where we’ve been held up and they came to care for our dog. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-or-inlaws-have-keys-to-your-house/page/2#post-2832320 Thu, 05 Jul 2018 07:50:57 +0000 Not Sure About Anything 2832320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LAHELA017</p> <p>Thank you for the reply! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-or-inlaws-have-keys-to-your-house/page/2#post-2832319 Thu, 05 Jul 2018 07:49:13 +0000 Not Sure About Anything 2832319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sweetiepie - thank you for replying!</p> <p>Yes dad would use it if he thinks i'm not home and just wants to get in - he means well - drop something off etc but i have told them it's ok i'm fine - i don't need this or that and they come anyway and sometimes i'm not home hence asking for the keys.... thankyou again! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-or-inlaws-have-keys-to-your-house/page/2#post-2832318 Thu, 05 Jul 2018 07:38:19 +0000 SweetiePie 2832318@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Not Sure About Anything: what do they want a set for? When you say your dad would use it, you mean he would go into the house when you’re not there without asking?<br /> I would just say you’d rather give them a key when necessary, like if you go out of town and need them to watch kids or something.<br /> They can’t make you do something you don’t want to do...I wouldn’t make a big stink, I’d just say “nah, I don’t think it’s necessary. I’d rather have the only set of keys.” And just leave it at that. </p> <p>To answer the OP, helllllll no. My parents live a plane ride away. My MIL has no boundaries. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-or-inlaws-have-keys-to-your-house#post-2832316 Thu, 05 Jul 2018 07:22:43 +0000 Lahela017 2832316@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, my parents have a set of keys even though they live 3 hours away. It has come in handy though for when they come to visit and DH are running late or stuck in traffic. They never just come unannounced. It is always a planned trip and they let us know if they are going to let themselves in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-or-inlaws-have-keys-to-your-house#post-2832309 Thu, 05 Jul 2018 01:57:13 +0000 Not Sure About Anything 2832309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm divorced and my parents want a set of key to my place - and my dad would expect to use it - not sure how to tell them i'm not happy about it - or am i being unreasonable? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-or-inlaws-have-keys-to-your-house#post-280257 Mon, 03 Sep 2012 04:39:56 +0000 SugarplumsMom 280257@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I believe the in-laws and BIL have spare keys. No one comes unannounced though, so it's not at all a problem. In fact, it's pretty convenient for when we're out of town and his dad checks on the house. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-or-inlaws-have-keys-to-your-house#post-280236 Mon, 03 Sep 2012 03:10:07 +0000 looch 280236@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, but we have a key to my husband's parents home (50 minutes away). Having a key to my parents home doesn't do us any good as they're a plane ride away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-or-inlaws-have-keys-to-your-house#post-280211 Mon, 03 Sep 2012 01:27:48 +0000 luckypenny 280211@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>MIL has a key because she lives close by. I accidentally locked my car keys in the trunk so it's nice to know she could go to the house and get spare set for me or any other emergency like that </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-or-inlaws-have-keys-to-your-house#post-280206 Mon, 03 Sep 2012 00:40:30 +0000 Running Elley 280206@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom has a key and she drops by pretty often to drop things off. If we're home she'll always ring the doorbell and won't come in if we don't answer. If our cars aren't outside she'll text and make sure it's okay that she goes in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-or-inlaws-have-keys-to-your-house#post-280199 Mon, 03 Sep 2012 00:18:47 +0000 pinkcupcake 280199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents do bc they live close by. They never abuse it...only stop by to drop off food :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-or-inlaws-have-keys-to-your-house#post-280190 Sun, 02 Sep 2012 23:50:42 +0000 birdofafeather 280190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>no, but only because we live so far away, so that wouldn't be useful for us. our neighbors have spares. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-or-inlaws-have-keys-to-your-house#post-280143 Sun, 02 Sep 2012 22:28:11 +0000 MusicaV 280143@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents have one for emergencies or when they are house sitting. They never come over unannounced. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-or-inlaws-have-keys-to-your-house#post-280117 Sun, 02 Sep 2012 22:00:58 +0000 erwoo 280117@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. Both sets lives so far that it doesn't make sense. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-or-inlaws-have-keys-to-your-house#post-280114 Sun, 02 Sep 2012 21:55:58 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 280114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>only my mom because she's close and sometimes picks stuff up from my place. It's actually a good thing because DH forgot his keys, was locked out and I was over 40 mins away. He stopped by my mom's to grab her key.</p> <p>Even our Next door neighbor has a key. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-or-inlaws-have-keys-to-your-house#post-280087 Sun, 02 Sep 2012 21:26:09 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 280087@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No but they don't live close to us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-or-inlaws-have-keys-to-your-house#post-280081 Sun, 02 Sep 2012 21:24:22 +0000 Mrs squirreld 280081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. But we have keys for all their houses :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-or-inlaws-have-keys-to-your-house#post-280055 Sun, 02 Sep 2012 20:26:41 +0000 mrs. bird 280055@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. We wouldn't give a key to my ILs. My parents know where we have a spare though. </p>