https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 29 May 2026 20:38:08 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-still-try-to-micro-manage-your-life#post-70648 Wed, 08 Feb 2012 20:51:20 +0000 mrs. wagon 70648@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>good vent, good vent!! :) My parents were very controlling and sheltered me like crazy growing up. My mom and I were at odds for my entire teenage years, so after going through that fire we're now friends and we talk very frankly with each other. She used to force me to wear dresses to church and school dances when everyone else was in jeans... and she totally let me pick my own wedding dress and just told me I looked beautiful in everything. That was a shock.</p> <p>My dad and brother, on the other hand, love to tell me what to do. It gets pretty annoying. My dad writes these emails that are obviously joking but SO serious at the same time-- "my grandson had better be first in his class EVERY SINGLE YEAR or I will KILL HIS PARENTS!" It's like, ok, you are really crossing the line from funny and sarcastic to ridiculous and crazy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-still-try-to-micro-manage-your-life#post-70592 Wed, 08 Feb 2012 18:39:47 +0000 MsMamaBear 70592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess she'd really have a problem with me.LOL I have my master's and teach at a preschool too. I'd prefer a school, but you gotta do what you gotta do til the economy gets better.</p> <p>My mom is like this somewhat, but I just ignore her. I'm 30, too late for all that crap.LOL </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-still-try-to-micro-manage-your-life#post-70577 Wed, 08 Feb 2012 18:00:17 +0000 googly-eyes 70577@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow. Well I think at a certain point you just have to say to yourself, I'm an adult, and this is what I'm going to do with my life. It might hurt but I think eventually your mom will get over it.</p> <p>I went through some similar situations but not as extreme. Also I am working on a masters and plan on working as a preschool teacher for awhile and eventually administrating. (I'm not working in the field yet, though I'm in the second semester of grad school. I plan to work after this pregnancy though!) It is underpaid and under respected, but I love working with kids (worked in another position before deciding to do early childhood ed). Oh well. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-still-try-to-micro-manage-your-life#post-70576 Wed, 08 Feb 2012 17:54:42 +0000 heffalump 70576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh wow, I don't blame you for wanting to move an hour away! Sounds like a good idea to distance yourself. Have you talked to her about it?</p> <p>My mom doesn't do anything like that. She is very pushy when it comes to me getting treatment for migraines, but that's because she hates that I'm always in pain. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/do-your-parents-still-try-to-micro-manage-your-life#post-70523 Wed, 08 Feb 2012 16:50:02 +0000 lilteacherbee 70523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just feeling frustrated because my mom is always trying to make decisions for me. Its seriously always something. Usually its because she thinks DH is inadequate, which REALLY bothers me.</p> <p>She had something to say about me getting my Master's in Early Childhood Education (direct quote: "Why would you go to graduate school to be a rinky dinky preschool teacher?") Yeah, that upset me and I was literally in tears.</p> <p>DH and I were sexually active before we were married. Granted we were young (17-21), but she still hasn't gotten over it. Oh and he was my first and only. She has screamed at me for HOURS at a time because there's apparently something wrong with me because no woman likes sex unless she's a whore.</p> <p>When DH and I moved ONE HOUR away from her after we got married, you would have thought we moved across the country. She's still not over that one either.</p> <p>Everything I do, she has to have an opinion. I don't understand...I'm a married grown adult. Why does she think that she still gets to control my every move?? A little advice here and there, that's fine. But she definitely doesn't respect the fact that people have different lives and different paths.</p> <p>I see her often because my grandparents live next door to her and I want to spend as much time with them as possible because who knows how much time they have left. We just lost DH's grandmother last year and that was really tough, so I'm trying to appreciate time with my own grandparents.</p> <p>The worst part? My mom thinks she is completely justified. Hopefully, none of your parents are this extreme, but do they still try to micro-manage your decisions no matter how big or small?</p> <p>*Whew, I feel better now :) </p>