https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 16 May 2026 11:08:52 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dodid-you-ever-just-let-your-newborn-cry#post-988817 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 20:04:16 +0000 rrachael 988817@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rahlyrah: you're right! I guess I was thinking babywearing to satisfy the need to get other things done. But for pumping and showering just read my other comment :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dodid-you-ever-just-let-your-newborn-cry#post-988686 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 18:28:48 +0000 hilsy85 988686@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>one of the most helpful things I remember hearing was I think from happiest baby on the block, it went something like "newborns are like fire alarms--they go off at the same volume whether it's a burnt piece of toast or whether the house is up in flames." Made me feel a little better when I knew his needs were met but I had to use the bathroom or swallow some food quickly or just have two minutes to myself in the shower. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dodid-you-ever-just-let-your-newborn-cry#post-988640 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 17:44:00 +0000 Mrs. Twine 988640@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm just going to go for broke here. I am very concerned about coming across as pushy and fanatical, which is not where I'm coming from at all. This is information, nothing more, nothing less. If it helps you or interests you, that's great. If not, disregard it and please, please know that I am all for you getting things done however you need to. Honest. Check this out for babywearing while pumping. <a href="http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=3sW6pIPBJOU&#038;desktop_uri=%2Fwatch%3Fv%3D3sW6pIPBJOU" rel="nofollow">http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=3sW6pIPBJOU&#038;desktop_uri=%2Fwatch%3Fv%3D3sW6pIPBJOU</a> and, of course, I did a post about showering with a newborn: <a href="http://www.hellobee.com/2013/05/09/the-cave-people-made-me-do-it-showering-with-the-small-set/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hellobee.com/2013/05/09/the-cave-people-made-me-do-it-showering-with-the-small-set/</a> Both things are not necessarily desirable or helpful for everyone, but some people do them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dodid-you-ever-just-let-your-newborn-cry#post-988590 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 16:59:47 +0000 Ra 988590@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Twine: @rrachael: I'm all for baby wearing but I cannot wear him when I pump and shower. I EP due to latch/transfer issues so I pump 8 times a day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dodid-you-ever-just-let-your-newborn-cry#post-988546 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 16:20:44 +0000 rrachael 988546@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Twine: I definitely second babywearing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dodid-you-ever-just-let-your-newborn-cry#post-988455 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 14:27:32 +0000 Mrs. Twine 988455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a zero threshhold for my babies crying. Not that there is anything wrong with it per se, just it sets off every alarm bell in my entire body and I'm fairly non-functional until I "fix" it. Babywearing made my life so nice. If you want to try to help with the crying and also get things done, it might help. Otherwise you just do whatever you need to. The most important is to be able to take care of you and the baby, so sometimes you might need to make sure needs are met and then take a moment for self care. It is certainly important, too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dodid-you-ever-just-let-your-newborn-cry#post-988424 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 14:01:15 +0000 Arden 988424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't personally, but I also had my Mom around in the newborn days to hold her when I needed to shower or eat. </p> <p>Have you tried putting him in a bouncer in the bathroom? Would it help him to be able to see you? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dodid-you-ever-just-let-your-newborn-cry#post-988412 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 13:54:23 +0000 rrachael 988412@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My lo was the same way! It's totally fine to let them fuss for a little while. I also started pumping while she was awake ... I'd put her in the crib with her mobile - which was the one and only thing other than me that soothed her for more than two minutes, or I'd pump while she did.tummy time. Sometimes she'd be fine lying on her back and cooing, playing with toys as long as I was right there ... So I could pump then. As for showers .. I put her in the crib with the mobile and the monitor on her and if she fussed, she fussed! Showers made me feel human, those are nonnegotiable :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dodid-you-ever-just-let-your-newborn-cry#post-988330 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 12:39:40 +0000 tysonja 988330@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>oh yeah, for sure we let him cry as a newborn :). not too terribly long, but he was fine to cry for a few minutes (maybe up to 20?) if i knew he was otherwise ok and things needed to be done etc. </p> <p>i felt bad sometimes, too, but he self soothes so well now, i think it was the right thing to do at the time :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dodid-you-ever-just-let-your-newborn-cry#post-988172 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 10:10:37 +0000 mrsbookworm 988172@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wind up having to do this almost every day. My LO also won't nap unless I'm holding him, so when I shower he almost always winds up crying : ( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dodid-you-ever-just-let-your-newborn-cry#post-988166 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 10:05:51 +0000 LittleFox 988166@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you put her in the bathroom when you shower? Once I realized I could stick him in his rock n play in the bathroom with a couple of toys as I showered, it was life changing! He was safe in the rock n play, liked the white noise and moisture from the shower, and I got to take a shower in peace. I removed my outer curtain for a while and just had the clear plastic one, because I wanted to see him, but I eventually put our curtain back once I realized he was safe. </p> <p>No advice on the naps, unfortunately. My Lo napped on me for probably the first four months, and I kinda loved it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dodid-you-ever-just-let-your-newborn-cry#post-988157 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 09:59:17 +0000 JoJoGirl 988157@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO was the same way. I would've killed for 10-20 mins in the swing!! She screams even louder in it. I have no advice- she'd work herself into such a frenzy I didn't shower or pump :-/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dodid-you-ever-just-let-your-newborn-cry#post-988154 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 09:56:08 +0000 Boheme 988154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel absolved of some of my guilt now! I feel awful when C cries even for like 30 seconds but I have to get over it. I mean, I need to shower at least occasionally :)</p> <p>You are doing such an awesome job with B! Hang in there while you are solo. I hope it goes by fast for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dodid-you-ever-just-let-your-newborn-cry#post-988145 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 09:51:57 +0000 immabeetoo 988145@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rahlyrah: my LO wasn't a swing fan either, i feel ya! he'll live, you have to take care of yourself too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dodid-you-ever-just-let-your-newborn-cry#post-988132 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 09:39:21 +0000 Ra 988132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pepper: @Revel: B really isn't into the swing. :sad: He will tolerate it (and even nap) for about 10-20 minutes if I'm lucky. I'm hoping he will grow to like it eventually! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dodid-you-ever-just-let-your-newborn-cry#post-988122 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 09:30:58 +0000 Revel 988122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pepper: Yes! We went out and bought one when she was like two weeks old on a hunch - I would have paid triple at that point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dodid-you-ever-just-let-your-newborn-cry#post-988119 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 09:28:56 +0000 Pepper 988119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Revel: The swing is a lifesaver!! It's the only place he'll zone out and fall asleep in during the day (other than on me). Best $$$ I've ever spent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dodid-you-ever-just-let-your-newborn-cry#post-988117 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 09:27:57 +0000 Pepper 988117@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As usual, I had the same question! When I'm home by myself, I have to let him cry while I wash the shield or pump parts. It kills me because he'll default to a sobbing hysterical cry after a few minutes. He has been sooo fussy the past week... I feel like unless he's eating or fast asleep he's crying. I guess I need to get over it so I can get more stuff done (like feeding myself). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dodid-you-ever-just-let-your-newborn-cry#post-988112 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 09:23:27 +0000 Revel 988112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not an answer to your specific question, but do you have a swing? LO is 9 weeks now and up until maybe a week or two ago the swing was pretty much the only place I could put her down and walk away without her crying. She's starting to be into her activity mat, bouncy seat with the toys attached, and probably would love a mobile (we don't have one). Some of those might be worth trying, or trying again if it's been a few weeks? I had given up on the bouncer because she didn't like it but just tried it again recently and she is mesmerized by the toys - I get like 20 minutes of entertainment out of it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dodid-you-ever-just-let-your-newborn-cry#post-988100 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 09:18:38 +0000 lomom 988100@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. He gets super clingy in the evenings after I get him from daycare and sometimes he has to cry a little while I use the bathroom. I try to baby wear as much as possible when I have to get stuff done, which helps a lot. When I EP'd, I kept him in the rnp next to me so I could rock him, give him a pacifier, stroke his cheek, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dodid-you-ever-just-let-your-newborn-cry#post-988077 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 09:03:26 +0000 blackbird 988077@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yeah, mine just cried sometimes. If i was in the shower, going to the bathroom, hands deep in a raw chicken, etc. Around 8 weeks, my LO started to enjoy her mobile, so I could set her on her back in the crib and she'd just look up and watch it. Maybe try that? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dodid-you-ever-just-let-your-newborn-cry#post-988062 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 08:52:50 +0000 cmomma17 988062@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rahlyrah: you are a great mom. My LO had to cry a few times while I pumped or showered. It's no big deal at all. I'd have LO at my feet in a bouncy seat while I pumped. I'd bounce it with my foot. Sometimes he'd fall asleep, sometimes he wouldn't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dodid-you-ever-just-let-your-newborn-cry#post-988059 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 08:51:30 +0000 Smurfette 988059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! Sometimes you just have to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dodid-you-ever-just-let-your-newborn-cry#post-988055 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 08:45:47 +0000 loveisstrange 988055@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep. Sometimes things have to be done. Sometimes you have to cut your losses and step away for a few minutes to regain your sanity.</p> <p>You gotta do what you gotta do. He'll be fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dodid-you-ever-just-let-your-newborn-cry#post-988054 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 08:45:46 +0000 Bookish 988054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I do. She has started to fuss for no reason, so if I need to get something done, I let her be fussy. If she's full, has a clean diaper, and is safe, sometimes there's just nothing I can do. I only started doing it recently, like in the last week, and I've already seen an improvement in her self-soothing skills, so I don't feel bad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dodid-you-ever-just-let-your-newborn-cry#post-988053 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 08:43:45 +0000 Dandelion 988053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You need to shower, you have to get things done! It'll be fine! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dodid-you-ever-just-let-your-newborn-cry#post-988048 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 08:41:19 +0000 Andrea 988048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup. You gotta do what you gotta do. I have an older daughter so I have to take of her, too, and that is usually when the baby needs to wait! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dodid-you-ever-just-let-your-newborn-cry#post-988042 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 08:37:12 +0000 autumnlove 988042@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, definitely! I had to shower, take care of my toddler, finish cooking...etc! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dodid-you-ever-just-let-your-newborn-cry#post-988041 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 08:36:24 +0000 tlcbaby 988041@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, he will be fine! I feel the same guilt, but sometimes A is okay when I start my shower and starts crying after I am in there. I just finish up as quick as I can, but there have definitely been times where he has had to just cry through it for 5 or 10 minutes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dodid-you-ever-just-let-your-newborn-cry#post-988037 Sun, 04 Aug 2013 08:32:22 +0000 Ra 988037@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know that sounds like a horrible question. I'm not sure what else to do though.</p> <p>B is a horrible napper. He really only naps when held or in the car. Thankfully, DH works from home so he is always around to help if I need to pump, shower, or use the bathroom. The problem is, he travels to California for a week a month for work. Next week is his first week back, which leaves me alone with an 8 week old. </p> <p>How do I pump or shower if he screams when I put him down? Occasionally, he can occupy himself on his playmat or bouncy seat but it's not guaranteed. </p> <p>On the upside, I don't go back to work until after he returns so I don't have to stress about that aspect yet. I just feel so guilty letting him scream. I don't have many other options though. Am I horrible mom if I let him cry for 10-15 minutes a few times a day? </p>