https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 17 Apr 2026 07:05:19 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-else-rush-home-when-dh-is-taking-care-of-your-lo#post-221645 Sun, 15 Jul 2012 06:47:52 +0000 heffalump 221645@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way. I figure he will make mistakes, as do I. But as long as she's alive and well, and I do trust him to do that, than life will go on and I should enjoy my me time. Because really, it's very rare that I get any. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-else-rush-home-when-dh-is-taking-care-of-your-lo#post-221459 Sat, 14 Jul 2012 20:07:41 +0000 erwoo 221459@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do rush home but not b/c I don't trust my husband but b/c I need to feed the LO. My husband does a great job with both kids. He just hasn't been home with both of them at the same time yet... ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-else-rush-home-when-dh-is-taking-care-of-your-lo#post-221370 Sat, 14 Jul 2012 17:20:39 +0000 mrstilly 221370@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In a way it is a lack of trust, but I don't think it's necessarily bad. It is important to know your DH. If he wants you to come home sooner, than it's great. But it he wants you to trust that he knows what/how to do things, then you might want to be careful about rushing home. </p> <p>I was never away from DS except when I went back to work at 12 weeks and it took a few months after that to leave him for anything else. DH was home with him over the summer (he's a teacher) after I went back to work, and I had to trust that he could do it on his own. He got offended that I didn't trust him more. I did trust him, but it is incredibly hard to turn down the "I know my baby best, and only I do it just right" switch. </p> <p>You're not alone, you're not crazy, but just be mindful of what your husband thinks/wants to make sure he's feeling validated as a father. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-else-rush-home-when-dh-is-taking-care-of-your-lo#post-221354 Sat, 14 Jul 2012 16:14:25 +0000 calsmom 221354@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not at all. He's been amazing with letting me have my 'me' time going out and sleeping in like today. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-else-rush-home-when-dh-is-taking-care-of-your-lo#post-221351 Sat, 14 Jul 2012 16:02:13 +0000 Freckles 221351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. High Heels: i definitely think it's guilt...even though he tells me not to rush home! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-else-rush-home-when-dh-is-taking-care-of-your-lo#post-221336 Sat, 14 Jul 2012 14:25:31 +0000 Mrs. Pen 221336@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>haha nope! DH is super awesome with DS, they are sooo cute together. And he totally knows his routine and all that. Sometimes I think he's the better parent :-/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-else-rush-home-when-dh-is-taking-care-of-your-lo#post-221318 Sat, 14 Jul 2012 13:17:10 +0000 skibobrown 221318@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes definitely! It's hard to trust DH w/ baby after I spent 3 months of maternity leave getting to know all of baby's cues and establishing a good daily routine. But... I know I just have to let it go. DH is home w/ our daughter for the entire month of July on paternity leave. I know I have to just trust that he will find his own way with baby. I try to just trust him and only offer suggestions when he asks for them or when he seems overwhelmed. I still do rush home every day after work b/c I'm so excited to see my daughter, and I want some QT w/ her before bed. DH also love that I swoop in and take baby off of his hands at the end of a long day :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-else-rush-home-when-dh-is-taking-care-of-your-lo#post-221270 Sat, 14 Jul 2012 11:21:22 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 221270@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was like that too when DD was younger. But now I still like to rush home because I "feel bad/feel guilty" that I left my hubs all alone with her (though he doesn't make me feel guilty and is great with her!!).</p> <p>Like right now I'm 2 hours away at a bridal shower/bachelorette party and he's home with her all weekend... I should be enjoying this time away, but I keep missing them and can't wait to get home to them! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-else-rush-home-when-dh-is-taking-care-of-your-lo#post-221267 Sat, 14 Jul 2012 11:17:34 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 221267@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do this.....but only because my LO is very attached to me and cries when anyone else holds her. So I know if I am gone and she is with DH, she is probably fussing a lot for him. I hope this is just a stage!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-else-rush-home-when-dh-is-taking-care-of-your-lo#post-221112 Fri, 13 Jul 2012 23:13:54 +0000 Mrs. Superhero 221112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm like that with the baby, but not the 2 yo :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-else-rush-home-when-dh-is-taking-care-of-your-lo#post-221068 Fri, 13 Jul 2012 20:47:57 +0000 Freckles 221068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sammyfab: He's definitely gotten better now that she's a little more predictable, and i trust him to follow our routine to a tee. But sometimes i'll modify the routine to adapt to her behaviour, and i don't feel like he has that instinct to do the same. </p> <p>I am going out tomorrow night for a girls' night and i will definitely be taking my time coming home! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-else-rush-home-when-dh-is-taking-care-of-your-lo#post-221060 Fri, 13 Jul 2012 20:19:35 +0000 prettylizy 221060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I totally do this, and he panics if she cries. It's a bad scene!lol! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-else-rush-home-when-dh-is-taking-care-of-your-lo#post-221050 Fri, 13 Jul 2012 20:01:56 +0000 Sammyfab 221050@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am the same way even though DH can totally handle LO on his own. DH is the only one I trust to watch LO for more than an hour or two and know how and when to put him down for a nap! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-else-rush-home-when-dh-is-taking-care-of-your-lo#post-221034 Fri, 13 Jul 2012 19:40:42 +0000 Freckles 221034@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD is 3 months. I used to take my time but then i would get texts from him, "where are you? i think she's hungry. will you be home soon?" It would totally stress me out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-else-rush-home-when-dh-is-taking-care-of-your-lo#post-221029 Fri, 13 Jul 2012 19:38:39 +0000 chopsuey 221029@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was the same way when LO was younger (maybe the first 3 months or so?). I don't rush home anymore now! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-else-rush-home-when-dh-is-taking-care-of-your-lo#post-221027 Fri, 13 Jul 2012 19:37:41 +0000 Freckles 221027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Today, DH came home early so i could hit the gym for an hour. The timing was perfect because he came home right after i fed her and changed her diaper, and he would get to play with her before putting her down for a nap. </p> <p>Now i'm not one of those moms who can't bear to be away from her LO, and DH is great with her...but i always feel anxious. What if he doesn't read her tired cues in time? What if he doesn't swaddle her properly? What if he doesn't let her self-soothe? etc..etc..etc.. </p> <p>Am i crazy and alone in this? I'm afraid that it comes off as me not trusting him. </p>