https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 26 May 2026 16:44:39 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-ever-make-you-feel-bad-for-having-a-c-section#post-2068466 Fri, 13 Feb 2015 11:31:46 +0000 LuLu Mom 2068466@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Espion: I thought my first recovery was pretty easy too, so I'm hoping that my next one is as easy! My daughter was 8 lbs 10 oz. everyone was shocked, they all guessed 7 max ;) She was hiding her chunk! haha so if this baby is just as big I'm going to be so thankful for my section! My sisters and I apparently all make very big babies, there hasn't been one under 8 lbs yet! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-ever-make-you-feel-bad-for-having-a-c-section#post-2068417 Fri, 13 Feb 2015 11:09:11 +0000 Espion 2068417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LuLu Mom: My first c-section was a pretty easy recovery, and the second (scheduled) was even easier. (Not to mention my 2nd was 2 lb bigger than my first. I would have not been prepared for him to come out my lady exit!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-ever-make-you-feel-bad-for-having-a-c-section#post-2068402 Fri, 13 Feb 2015 11:01:00 +0000 babynumber1 2068402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaBehr: That is true! My husband calls my c section scar LO's escape hatch. She knows that is where she came out of. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-ever-make-you-feel-bad-for-having-a-c-section#post-2068384 Fri, 13 Feb 2015 10:52:52 +0000 LuLu Mom 2068384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babynumber1: Same here! I tried, I gave it my best shot, but she got stuck and we both got fevers. My doc said I would most likely end up in a repeat anyways...so schedule away I'm not putting myself through that again only to end up in surgery! Lets pick a date and time and give me my baby ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-ever-make-you-feel-bad-for-having-a-c-section#post-2068335 Fri, 13 Feb 2015 10:31:34 +0000 autumnlove 2068335@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaBehr: yay for 3! &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-ever-make-you-feel-bad-for-having-a-c-section#post-2068198 Fri, 13 Feb 2015 09:22:43 +0000 MamaBehr 2068198@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hate that people act like C-sections are the worst thing in the world. I'm already upset about my C-sections, I don't need other people chiming in.<br /> All those people suck, and I'm sorry you have all had such nasty comments.<br /> For those having RCS, it is a LOT easier to explain to your older children where the baby comes out ;) </p> <p>At this point I've had three C-sections, they aren't that bad! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-ever-make-you-feel-bad-for-having-a-c-section#post-2068010 Fri, 13 Feb 2015 07:30:05 +0000 MrsBananaGrabber 2068010@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm only 14 weeks, but at my last appointment there was some indication that I may need a c-section (obviously way too early to know for sure). When I mentioned to various family members that a c-section was a possibility, they all acted like that was the worst thing in the world. Most of them assumed I would do everything possible to avoid a c-section, even if it meant a less safe birth, and they thought there was something wrong with me because I said I'd have no problem with a scheduled c-section. I was offended. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-ever-make-you-feel-bad-for-having-a-c-section#post-2066925 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 15:43:37 +0000 babynumber1 2066925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yea, let someone say that to me and they might get punched in the face. I labored for 28 hours and had an emergency c section bc LO was stuck. My pelvic opening wasn't big enough. If her little head couldn't fit, why would I attempt labor again. RCS all the way with this one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-ever-make-you-feel-bad-for-having-a-c-section#post-2066901 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 15:31:49 +0000 Mamasig 2066901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In real life, only by my SIL. With a look of disdain, she told me I was lucky that I don't have to push my babies out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-ever-make-you-feel-bad-for-having-a-c-section#post-2066897 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 15:28:21 +0000 mrsjazz 2066897@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I made myself feel bad about having a C-section but no one in my life has made me feel bad or said anything negative about it.</p> <p>A real birth is one in which a baby comes out of your body. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-ever-make-you-feel-bad-for-having-a-c-section#post-2066875 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 15:18:04 +0000 marionberry 2066875@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't really faced any negative comments about my c-section. Most people (friends who are on their 2nd and 3rd babies, nurses I work with, etc.) who I ask about trying a VBAC for the twins wonder why and definitely suggest a RCS. So I guess I've been lucky.</p> <p>Don't listen to your family, friends and other naysayers. It's a totally personal decision. You're still giving birth, just a different way, and I would assume that for most if not all of us your first c-section was a necessity, not a choice, and who can blame you for that. There are plenty of risks with both an RCS and a VBAC so there shouldn't be a given preference by people of one over the other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-ever-make-you-feel-bad-for-having-a-c-section#post-2066871 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 15:17:18 +0000 plantains 2066871@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>People are say things here and there, but I haven't had any bad comments from family or very close friends. I wonder how they will react when I tell them that I am not even considering vbac this time :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-ever-make-you-feel-bad-for-having-a-c-section#post-2066841 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 15:07:39 +0000 Applesandbananas 2066841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. I loved my c-section and would totally go that route again! It was a super easy recovery and I didn't tear my vag. Win-win. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-ever-make-you-feel-bad-for-having-a-c-section#post-2066733 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 14:30:51 +0000 Mae 2066733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. No one has ever said anything negative about my c section. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-ever-make-you-feel-bad-for-having-a-c-section#post-2066686 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 14:17:31 +0000 LuLu Mom 2066686@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmmm, no not really I've had the comments "that's too bad you missed out on real birth" or "oh no, are you handling it okay, that's so sad you didn't experience birth?" Oh I'm sorry I didn't realize I didn't experience a child coming into this world out of my body because I had a C-section. And trust me I got to experience real birth, I pushed for 2 1/2 hours and recovered from both types of birth...it's too bad you will never experience a C-section and know how degrading some of your "innocent" comments are... I just laugh it off and make it very known that I experienced birth too...most people come back with "well you know what I mean." </p> <p>I have absolutely no regrets scheduling my repeat, none at all! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-ever-make-you-feel-bad-for-having-a-c-section#post-2066639 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 13:59:17 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2066639@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What a terrible thing to say!</p> <p>I'm afraid of this with #2. I had an emergency C-section with DS, and I told one good friend who is an L&amp;D nurse that I was likely going to have a repeat C-section, and she said, "you know, you can always try for a VBAC." Yup...I know that, but I'm choosing not to because of my first birth experience and almost losing LO. But thanks!</p> <p>LO's birth wasn't any less "real" because he came out a different way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-ever-make-you-feel-bad-for-having-a-c-section#post-2066626 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 13:53:49 +0000 charlotte 2066626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>people who haven't had a c-section have told me how "sorry" they are that I did. sorry for what? I had a great c-section experience and a healthy baby and wouldn't hesitate to do a RCS. people are just ridiculous. sorry that one happens to be your MIL ---ughhh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-ever-make-you-feel-bad-for-having-a-c-section#post-2066564 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 13:27:51 +0000 Littlebit 2066564@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: @Espion: you ladies just made me laugh out loud! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-ever-make-you-feel-bad-for-having-a-c-section#post-2066513 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 13:03:07 +0000 daniellemybelle 2066513@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, thankfully, because I was very sensitive. But I did have a few people ask prying questions about why I had a C-section... and since I was so defensive at the time it made me uncomfortable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-ever-make-you-feel-bad-for-having-a-c-section#post-2066378 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 12:21:31 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2066378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: yeah. Mine's only good at the sex. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-ever-make-you-feel-bad-for-having-a-c-section#post-2066369 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 12:20:03 +0000 blackbird 2066369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: she has a super vagina, obvs </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-ever-make-you-feel-bad-for-having-a-c-section#post-2066355 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 12:16:49 +0000 ShootingStar 2066355@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, that's terrible. Luckily I've never gotten a comment about it. And I guess if I didn't go through real birth then I don't have a real baby either? Maybe next time I can have a fake pregnancy and go the "easy route" for that too :silly: . </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-ever-make-you-feel-bad-for-having-a-c-section#post-2066350 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 12:15:15 +0000 Raindrop 2066350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow that sucks!! I'm sorry your MIL is kind of a jerk.</p> <p>I had to have a c-section due to a breech baby ... no way around it really... though I did have a sucessful last minute rotation ... I still ended up with a c-section because of baby heart rate issues. My family has been super supportive (especially my in laws!) and most of them even said that as long as the baby is healthy it doesn't matter how it came into the world. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-ever-make-you-feel-bad-for-having-a-c-section#post-2066347 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 12:14:39 +0000 yoursilverlining 2066347@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>ugh, your MIL can suck it :bummed: </p> <p>No one has "made me feel badly" for having a C-section, because haters gonna hate and I don't care what nonsense they spew. I'm happy with my C-section and feel it was a totally "real birth". </p> <p>My step-MIL has made several comments about other family member's pregnancies/deliveries and how "wonderful it is they didn't have a C-section", but whateves. She's spiteful anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-ever-make-you-feel-bad-for-having-a-c-section#post-2066337 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 12:10:38 +0000 pui 2066337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow your MIL sucks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-ever-make-you-feel-bad-for-having-a-c-section#post-2066320 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 12:04:57 +0000 wonderstruck 2066320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: Ohhh yes, I get that from my SIL too! She had three hour long labors and pushed approximately five times with both of her kids. I had a 20 hour labor followed by an emergency c-section, and then a repeat c-section because of issues related to my gestational diabetes. So I do not want to hear about how easy birth is for her and how impressed the doctors were. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-ever-make-you-feel-bad-for-having-a-c-section#post-2066312 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 12:01:51 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2066312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh your MIL.</p> <p>My SIL likes to go on and on about how my niece managed to birth twins vaginally and how impressed the doctors were at her ability to push them out. </p> <p>Ummmm yeah they arrived at 34 weeks and combined weighed less than my first. Shut it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-ever-make-you-feel-bad-for-having-a-c-section#post-2066295 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 11:58:44 +0000 blackbird 2066295@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Your MIL is the worst </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-ever-make-you-feel-bad-for-having-a-c-section#post-2066291 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 11:57:56 +0000 edelweiss 2066291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>whoa, that's horrible. i haven't had a c-section but would be really f'ing pissed if someone made me feel badly about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-ever-make-you-feel-bad-for-having-a-c-section#post-2066289 Thu, 12 Feb 2015 11:57:51 +0000 Pirouette 2066289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Never! "real birth?" that's obnoxious! but i just have to say i was reading this and saw "I am pregnant with 3" and had a mini heart attack for you being pregnant with triplets! need more coffee this morning :) </p>