https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 17 Jul 2026 02:32:34 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-regret-their-child-spacing/page/2#post-1411699 Mon, 10 Feb 2014 12:01:15 +0000 Mrs. WinterWheat 1411699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@birdofafeather: yah it confuses people when they just ask what year they are born.<br /> But maybe that is the perfect gaping :) were they are close in age but have a larger space in school grades.<br /> We chose all winter babies because then I had the most time between birth and DH starting seeding. It is easier when they are 4-5 months vs having a newborn. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-regret-their-child-spacing#post-1411004 Mon, 10 Feb 2014 06:29:49 +0000 lavender 1411004@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My two girls are exactly 22 months apart, while I love it- if/ when we choose on having #3 it'll be when DD #1 is out of daycare. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-regret-their-child-spacing#post-1410990 Mon, 10 Feb 2014 02:41:03 +0000 lamariniere 1410990@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine are 3 years apart. Initially I would have liked 2-2.5 years, but the timing didn't work. However, I really like the 3 year gap so far. DS is pretty independent at 3, so it's not like I have 2 babies to deal with. I also love that he is so interested in his little sister. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-regret-their-child-spacing#post-1410962 Mon, 10 Feb 2014 00:52:39 +0000 tysonja 1410962@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we don't have 3 kids yet, but so far loving 16 months apart for the first two! will wait a bit for the next one though.... haha :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-regret-their-child-spacing#post-1410949 Mon, 10 Feb 2014 00:15:27 +0000 HLK208 1410949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine are 3 years, 1 month apart and my second and third will be 2 years, 1 month apart.</p> <p>So far, 3 years has been great. DS, my oldest, has always been helpful and enjoyed having a little sister. The spacing felt like a BIG gap. It was hard to decide whether to use a double stroller while out, making my oldest feel like a baby, but needing to contain both kids at times. Otherwise, I'm more worried about how we'll handle the 25 month difference!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-regret-their-child-spacing#post-1410947 Mon, 10 Feb 2014 00:13:07 +0000 birdofafeather 1410947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. WinterWheat: that's an interesting way of looking at it! i have a january 2013 baby and hope to have most of my kids in the winter/early spring due to my profession (wedding photog). my siblings and i were all 3 grades apart although my brother is 3.5 years younger than me and my brother and sister are 2.5 years apart. they were always closer growing up due to their ages. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-regret-their-child-spacing#post-1410936 Sun, 09 Feb 2014 23:55:00 +0000 Mrs. WinterWheat 1410936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a 25 month spacing and a 23 month spacing. I like the spacing though some days it can be difficult but it has more to do with the middle child being "busy".<br /> One thing I sometimes regret is where their birthdays fall. DD1 is dec 2009, DD2 is Jan 2012, and DS is Dec 2013. I don't regret having Christmas babies but I always saw myself with perfect 2 year spacing. So even though they are "2 years apart" in most activities and schooling it will be 3 years and 1 year gap.<br /> As for career, I am an RN in Canada so we get a year off. This means since I have convicated I have been out on mat leave 3 out of the 6 years. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-regret-their-child-spacing#post-1337319 Sat, 11 Jan 2014 08:22:56 +0000 MadamBabyFever 1337319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always thought 3 years, at least 2, would be ideal. That's the gap between me and my little brother, and a lot of my friends had the same gap with their siblings. We were mortal enemies during the pre-teen-teen phase but after growing out of that we're super close.</p> <p>I'm not sure it's the ideal spacing for me anymore though. We are starting to TTC in March and even if we conceive no1 straight away that would mean no1 in dec'14/jan'15 making me 31y6m so the 3 year gap would make me about 35 when giving birth to no2 and I'm not sure if I want to wait till I'm that age.<br /> Not something I really have to worry about yet but it's definitely on my mind </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-regret-their-child-spacing#post-1337189 Sat, 11 Jan 2014 00:48:57 +0000 googly-eyes 1337189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meganmp: I had to read that twice... I thought you were exaggerating but then I remembered you have twins!! :)</p> <p>@Running Elley: @sarbear: You mamas are awesome. That is all! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-regret-their-child-spacing#post-1335907 Fri, 10 Jan 2014 14:09:19 +0000 GrapeCrush 1335907@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine are 15 months apart and I'm so happy with it! It's not always easy, but worth it :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-regret-their-child-spacing#post-1335778 Fri, 10 Jan 2014 13:40:21 +0000 tequiero21 1335778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Spacing between mine are and will be 2 minutes and 29 months. I definitely never imagined 3 under 3, but I do think once they are grown up, it will be ideal since they will all be close in age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-regret-their-child-spacing#post-1332882 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 19:27:54 +0000 Greentea 1332882@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: I know what you mean. I definitely will/do have to make sacrifice in my work as I also work for myself. So for the next few years... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-regret-their-child-spacing#post-1332839 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 19:21:02 +0000 KT326 1332839@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We only have one LO so far but our spacing will probably be 3-4 years. It makes more sense for us financially to wait. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-regret-their-child-spacing#post-1332810 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 19:16:39 +0000 meganmp 1332810@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I absolutely didn't plan on the two minute difference between kids, but wouldn't change it. If we have more, I think that I would wait until they're older (4 years old-ish) before trying for more (5 year age difference, ideally). I just can't imagine trying to deal with a 2 or 3 year old while also dealing with a newborn, and I commend all of you that do! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-regret-their-child-spacing#post-1332765 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 19:10:01 +0000 SAHM0811 1332765@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't regret #1 and #2 being about 3 years apart. We're doing it again, actually because #2 and #3 will be just under 3 years apart too :) I think it's the perfect balance for our family. 3 years is close, but not too close or far apart. I feel like I have been getting a nice break in between newborn and young toddler phases, before starting all over again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-regret-their-child-spacing#post-1332558 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 18:34:24 +0000 Andrea 1332558@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think our spacing has been ideal for me. 2 years and 9 months </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-regret-their-child-spacing#post-1332548 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 18:32:36 +0000 Running Elley 1332548@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine are 13.5 months apart and I don't regret it at all. It can be difficult at times but I really love it and feel like it is perfect. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-regret-their-child-spacing#post-1332527 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 18:28:41 +0000 shopaholic 1332527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Really interested in these responses as well! I'm thinking ~ 3 yrs would be ideal for me. #1 would be out of diapers, be able to listen and comprehend more directions, and hopefully be helpful. But since I'm already 34, I'm thinking I'll want to try for a #2 sooner than later. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-regret-their-child-spacing#post-1332399 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 18:03:09 +0000 chopsuey 1332399@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had moments where I felt bad for DD (kids are 20 months apart), but I'm happy with our spacing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-regret-their-child-spacing#post-1332311 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 17:39:43 +0000 hellobeeboston 1332311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NorCalWayfarer: ditto. Career/age -- hard to figure out how to space them and handle it all!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-regret-their-child-spacing#post-1332291 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 17:32:01 +0000 Dandelion 1332291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@googly-eyes: That's true! I think DS could have done well with it at 3. He started preschool and was pretty much potty trained and learning to a lot of things on his own.</p> <p>If this one is rotten at 3, I might not be as interested, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-regret-their-child-spacing#post-1332120 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 16:48:15 +0000 googly-eyes 1332120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Dandelion: I always wonder about that because some people say the threes are the hardest so it would be hard to have a newborn then... But it depends on the kid (of course!)</p> <p>@yin: @knittylady: @cascademom: I'm about six years apart from my brother so that is a factor for us to... That and the longer we wait, the longer til our kids play together, we experience things as a family, etc.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-regret-their-child-spacing#post-1332059 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 16:38:12 +0000 mrsjyw 1332059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NorCalWayfarer: my career was def a factor in our decision for child spacing! </p> <p>we will likely start trying this spring/summer, ds will be 16 months+ so on the earlier side, they will be 26 months apart. I've been back at work a full year next month, which was my number one goal. and it'll likely be more than two years before i take any maternity leave for future LO#2... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-regret-their-child-spacing#post-1332041 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 16:35:13 +0000 NorCalWayfarer 1332041@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Espion: Yeah not getting any younger (and wanting to have at least two kids) is my main concern for not wanting them too spaced out... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-regret-their-child-spacing#post-1332035 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 16:34:14 +0000 Espion 1332035@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With luck, our plan is to space our kids out by 22-24 months. I have a demanding job, but I'm not getting any younger. We may even try a little sooner because I have no idea what to expect of our TTC journey this time around. (First was m/c then BFP 4 months later.) It makes me sad that I won't have the same time with the second as I did with E when he was born, though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-regret-their-child-spacing#post-1331947 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 16:13:44 +0000 NorCalWayfarer 1331947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Subscribing because I'm curious about this too, particularly with WOHMs who want to maintain a professional career path. I'd really like to have kids spaced 2-3 years apart, but not sure how my career will fare with that much time off... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-regret-their-child-spacing#post-1331545 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 14:52:50 +0000 snowjewelz 1331545@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Interesting responses so far! I am 7 years older than my sister, and while I love it (can't change it anyway! haha), I definitely can see the benefits of being closer in age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-regret-their-child-spacing#post-1331518 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 14:48:57 +0000 erinpye 1331518@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ours will be about 22 months apart and I'm thrilled with the spacing. My sister and I are 21 months apart and have always been very close, and now my DDs will have the same :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-regret-their-child-spacing#post-1331474 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 14:36:35 +0000 cascademom 1331474@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wonder this too. Originally, I wanted to be trying sooner than we will be. I originally wanted a 2014 baby, but other factors are making it look like a 2015 baby will happen instead. I want my kids closer in age. DH is 7 years apart from his brother and it's too much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyone-regret-their-child-spacing#post-1331467 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 14:34:29 +0000 prettylizy 1331467@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well my kiddos are going to be 2 years apart (maybe to the day depending on when #2 arrives!) and I'm excited about that spacing. My sister and I were 22 months apart and grew up so close.<br /> I think there are pros and cons to all child spacing, and the type of kid you have makes a difference. You're going to run into struggles no matter what the spacing. </p>