https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 24 May 2026 21:51:17 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyones-baby-not-really-seem-to-like-nursing#post-1022644 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 21:17:03 +0000 pastemoo 1022644@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sslm: I think I posted like 6 new "WTF NURSING?!?" HB posts in the very beginning. I have never in my life before this experienced something so demoralizing on one hand and so pride-filled on other.</p> <p>Good luck, mama You're doing great. ANd no matter what you will choose the best choice for you and your little family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyones-baby-not-really-seem-to-like-nursing#post-1018108 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 07:43:11 +0000 sslm 1018108@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: Bottle feeding can definitely present the same issues then! Maybe she's just trying to tell me she's ready to go longer... I never really considered that. I thought 3 hours was the general rule!</p> <p>@mrs. wagon: Thank you. I'm going to try to trust her more today!</p> <p>@hergreenapples: Really? Her weight gain improved? That's so counterintuitive! I'm definitely going to give this a shot. I don't have to worry about waking from naps though, she's into 30-45 minute naps at the moment :P</p> <p>@MamaMoose: I'm so glad to hear it was just a phase for you! Hoping that's what it is here too :)</p> <p>@Silva: Hmmm. I guess we'll go with the spaced out... flow :)</p> <p>@pastemoo: It definitely is. It's weird, I expected it to be hard, but I never expected it to be hard in this emotional way. </p> <p>@DillonLion: 8 months is great!! </p> <p>@rachiecakes: Yes! It's the same! She is so distracted. She's great nursing at night too. I really treasure that time.</p> <p>@autumnlove: :( I hope it's just a phase for us April moms!</p> <p>@erinpye: Oh that's interesting. I go for her 4 month check up on Monday, I will definitely ask about that.</p> <p>@hilsy85: That's a good point. I say I want to quit, but I know I won't because she seems to be getting enough and I know it's good for her. :)</p> <p>Thanks so much everyone for all of your comments/ideas/support. I love hellobee! I woke up to TEN emails and they were all posts on this thread. I feel a lot better this morning, and I'll be trying a more relaxed approach today :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyones-baby-not-really-seem-to-like-nursing#post-1017899 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 06:03:26 +0000 hilsy85 1017899@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My Lo is similar...he's not a comfort nurser and gets his business done and then wants off my lap! It does make me sad sometimes, but I second nursing when they're sleepy...I get more cuddles that way. </p> <p>Also don't stress about getting to 7 feedings...you Lo might be ready to drop one or two! Follow her cues.</p> <p>As for me, I nurse even tho Lo doesn't sento love it because I think it's good for him...probably the first of many things that will follow that pattern! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyones-baby-not-really-seem-to-like-nursing#post-1017804 Thu, 15 Aug 2013 02:25:54 +0000 erinpye 1017804@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine started freaking out, screaming, arching, flailing, biting and flat out refusing. That rejection is the absolute worst and I'm so sorry you're experiencing it. For my LO, it ended up being due to posterior tongue tie and lip tie, that 2 LCs and 3 pediatricians missed. Once it was corrected, I had a willing nursling. Might be worth getting it checked out- I've written and commented on lots of other posts here about TT, but you can also read great info in the articles on kiddsteeth.com. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyones-baby-not-really-seem-to-like-nursing#post-1017567 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 22:08:22 +0000 autumnlove 1017567@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm in the same boat...she doesn't really like nursing or bottles! :-( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyones-baby-not-really-seem-to-like-nursing#post-1017551 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 21:57:34 +0000 rachiecakes 1017551@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sslm: My DS only liked to nurse at night. He wasn't a cuddler and hated to be held close unless he was really tired or crying. It was nearly impossible to nurse him during the daylight hours because he was so easily distracted and would get upset if I tried to redirect him.<br /> I guess it worked for us because I went back to work at 7 weeks and he had to take bottles if he wanted to eat during the day.<br /> I did make it to 11 months but it was always a struggle. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyones-baby-not-really-seem-to-like-nursing#post-1017535 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 21:41:53 +0000 DillonLion 1017535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine never really cared for it. We lasted 8 months and then I became an exclusive pumper when I couldn't take the rejection any longer </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyones-baby-not-really-seem-to-like-nursing#post-1017533 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 21:34:09 +0000 pastemoo 1017533@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sslm: We had a nursing strike around 3.5 months, too... and every time he gets sick.</p> <p>Nursing can be so heartbreaking--such an emotional rollercoaster!</p> <p>Hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyones-baby-not-really-seem-to-like-nursing#post-1017520 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 21:26:22 +0000 Silva 1017520@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sslm: we are in some kind of a transition here, too. I've had a fast let down for awhile, but figured out how to work with it, mostly using the Kelly mom info. Now I think T is spacing out her feedings more...I'm so used to offering it every couple hours that it is really throwing me off! Our ped recommended trying to space it out more too, to try to resolve a possible foremilk/hind milk issue.....we'll see how it goes.</p> <p>Also, I'm glad you posted weeks because I've totally lost track! :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyones-baby-not-really-seem-to-like-nursing#post-1017513 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 21:23:19 +0000 mrs. wagon 1017513@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sslm: oh I wanted to also add, after about 4-5 months my son and I fell into a groove. But it did take that long for the groove to feel natural and good for both of us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyones-baby-not-really-seem-to-like-nursing#post-1017511 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 21:22:09 +0000 MamaMoose 1017511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh sister. This post really hits home for me because there have been many times where I swore my LO didn't like nursing. I worried she wished I would just give her a bottle since the milk comes out faster. But now at 8 months she's a boob monster and I worry how I'll ever wean her! Its a phase (a long one but a phase none the leas!). Don't feel rejected! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyones-baby-not-really-seem-to-like-nursing#post-1017506 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 21:20:08 +0000 heartonastring 1017506@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sslm: It's SO hard not to stress about it, I know! The same LC also told me to stop waking her from naps to feed her...that was REALLY hard for me, but I committed to trying it for a day and then I ended up sticking with it. Strangely enough, DD's weight gain has vastly improved since I started following her cues.</p> <p>Good luck...I know it's really hard. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyones-baby-not-really-seem-to-like-nursing#post-1017484 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 21:08:21 +0000 mrs. wagon 1017484@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sslm: I totally feel you. Neither of my kids were particularly fond of nursing. It didn't help that I didn't like it either. I still made it to 7 months with my first by my pure stubbornness. I just forced my son to eat when I thought he should. As a result he was RIDONKULOUSLY fat. Haha. I think he was fine (and as a 3.5 year old now he's definitely thinned out, it's a struggle to keep weight on him now!) but when my daughter came along I trusted her a whole lot more (as a previous poster said) and sure enough, her nursing sessions were short and spaced very far out compared to how I fed her brother. And she hasn't fallen past the 99th percentile in weight. I moved to exclusive pumping with her because I was still not happy nursing, and it's really the same-- I never went over an 8 oz bottle for her (some of my son's bottles were 10 oz!) and she's still 99th percentile in weight at almost 13 months. </p> <p>I would say just do what seems to make sense for both of you and only worry if she starts to lose weight! Your ped will let you know if you have a reason to worry! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyones-baby-not-really-seem-to-like-nursing#post-1017477 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 21:06:35 +0000 blackbird 1017477@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know bottles aren't the same but recently LO started going more than 3 hours between bottles. More like 4 a lot of times and none first thing in the AM (she will eat at 3 or so and again at 8). I don't let it go more than 5 hours but she gets MAD if you try to feed her and she doesn't want it. She could easily just be spacing them a bit more</p> <p>Formula wise, mine basically gets the minimum. Not a milk monster either, at 17 weeks :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyones-baby-not-really-seem-to-like-nursing#post-1017464 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 21:02:43 +0000 sslm 1017464@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs.cookie: that link is very helpful! That sounds a lot like my situation. I'm already only feeding from one side, but I think I'll try some of the other suggestions. It's hard because I expected all babies to be milk monsters (like your son!) and M most definitely is not!</p> <p>@Smurfette: that's probably true. Sometimes I get so caught up in what's "normal" that I totally freak out. </p> <p>@hergreenapples: that really helps. I'm going to try to be more like that! I keep saying I feed on demand but really I don't, since most of the time I just feel like it's time for her to eat. It's been a long time since she's "told" me she was hungry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyones-baby-not-really-seem-to-like-nursing#post-1017317 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 20:04:58 +0000 heartonastring 1017317@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sslm: Babies know how much they need to eat :) I used to stress about feeding every three hours too until my angel of an LC told me to trust my baby more and feed her when she indicated she wanted to eat. I hesitantly followed her advice and have never looked back. Some days she eats nine times, but some days she only eats six times. Based on that experience, I definitely don't think it's necessary to feed every three hours or a certain number of times a day. M will tell you whe she's hungry :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyones-baby-not-really-seem-to-like-nursing#post-1017295 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 19:52:27 +0000 Smurfette 1017295@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sslm: she might not need 7 feeds. R gets 5 or 6 a day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyones-baby-not-really-seem-to-like-nursing#post-1017286 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 19:49:43 +0000 mrs.cookie 1017286@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p><a href="http://kellymom.com/bf/got-milk/supply-worries/fast-letdown/" rel="nofollow">http://kellymom.com/bf/got-milk/supply-worries/fast-letdown/</a></p> <p>This might be helpful! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyones-baby-not-really-seem-to-like-nursing#post-1017282 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 19:47:09 +0000 mrs.cookie 1017282@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SSLM - no trouble at all!I'm just sorry you're going through this!</p> <p> I had a fast flow on one side too - I always started on the "good" (slow) side so LO didn't get too angry with me! </p> <p>I also had trouble each time she was ready to space her feeds a little more, it's really really hard to relax and trust the baby that they know what they are doing! But they do. I think. Maybe! </p> <p>Maybe try spacing a tiny bit, wait 3 hrs 15 m? See what happens?<br /> My LC encouraged the use of feeding zones - we designated 90 min windows, 5 times a day, where I would offer the breast if she didn't finish a feed - but then she had to wait til the next zone. That helped me relax that P was getting enough to eat.<br /> Veeeerrrry different to my firstborn - a little boy who wouldn't have ever left the boob if I'd let him! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyones-baby-not-really-seem-to-like-nursing#post-1017266 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 19:34:39 +0000 sslm 1017266@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: she's 16 weeks. I think she's gained about 3 lbs in 8 weeks which seems good? I know I have a fast flow for sure. You could be right... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyones-baby-not-really-seem-to-like-nursing#post-1017260 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 19:33:03 +0000 sslm 1017260@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs.cookie: thank you so much for your response!! I really appreciate you writing all of that out. I'm sorry you also experienced this! It's nice to know I'm not alone though. I wondered about thrush. I don't think she has it but I have her 4 month appointment on Monday and will definitely ask! </p> <p>@Smurfette: she's sleeping a long stretch at night (8-9 hours) without eating and then during the day I try to feed her every 3 hours but she won't always eat. Tonight she went 4 hours between feeds. With the long stretch at night it makes it hard to get to 7 feeds!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyones-baby-not-really-seem-to-like-nursing#post-1017247 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 19:28:02 +0000 Foodnerd81 1017247@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe you just have a fast flow or really rich milk? Someone was telling me that some people's milk just has a lot more calories than others so baby doesn't need to eat as long? If she's gaining weight, I wouldn't worry too much though I'm sure that's easier said than done. How old is she? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyones-baby-not-really-seem-to-like-nursing#post-1017216 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 19:16:24 +0000 Smurfette 1017216@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How often is she eating? Maybe she is ready to space them out more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyones-baby-not-really-seem-to-like-nursing#post-1017207 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 19:11:02 +0000 mrs.cookie 1017207@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ok that was an essay sorry! But definitely check her mouth for thrush (white coating on tongue and mouth) - unexplained fussiness is often caused by oral thrush! Our problems started around 8 weeks too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyones-baby-not-really-seem-to-like-nursing#post-1017200 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 19:07:56 +0000 mrs.cookie 1017200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh, I feel your pain! Deflated is the perfect word for it, i felt at times like i was mourning the nursing experience i had dreamed of. My LO (now just 1) never seemed to like nursing - she bit, pinched and scratched, she pushed me away and god forbid I try to nurse her when she wasn't hungry! And she didn't take bottles either! When she's done, she slams her hand into the breast, rolls over and jumps off my lap without a backwards glance!<br /> Things that were a factor for us - reflux, food intolerances (she's got multiple food protein intolerances, but dairy and soy are worst), oral thrush, funny latch.<br /> Things that worked for us to improve nursing - reflux meds and strict diet for me to deal with intolerances (though she remained a difficult nurser), nursing in a dark room, nursing when she was sleepy, nursing at night. Time.<br /> Time was the biggest factor - around 8 mo she started loving nursing - once she could ask (sign) for it when SHE wanted it. She's a very, very determined child who knows what she wants.<br /> I don't know if this helps at all ... PM me if you'd like more info about any of it!<br /> We saw 8 lactation consultants (yes, 8!!) and finally at five months I saw a lovely one who told me straight "this is the way it is and it might not ever change, and its nothing to do with you and your relationship with her". That actually helped, I stopped resenting and despairing the situation and just let LO do her thing... I'm glad I persevered as we have had some lovely moments nursing... Though I'll be honest, there have been plenty of frustrated moments still.<br /> But oh, I'm right back there with you reading this post. Hang in there... I found I'd live and die with the quality of each feed - good feed and I was ecstatic, bad one and I was miserable and dreaming of weaning... Good luck x </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyones-baby-not-really-seem-to-like-nursing#post-1017196 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 19:06:52 +0000 sslm 1017196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@brownie: she's 16 weeks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyones-baby-not-really-seem-to-like-nursing#post-1017185 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 19:04:10 +0000 brownie 1017185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How old is she? She may just be spreading her feedings out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyones-baby-not-really-seem-to-like-nursing#post-1017180 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 19:01:06 +0000 sslm 1017180@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsbookworm: @Pepper: maybe, but it's been going on for about 8 weeks now... Seems like a long time to be a phase. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyones-baby-not-really-seem-to-like-nursing#post-1017177 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 18:59:47 +0000 Pepper 1017177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have any experience since my LO is younger, but maybe it's just a phase? Like a nursing strike kind of thing? Hang in there, she still needs and loves you, even if she's being a fussy eater! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-anyones-baby-not-really-seem-to-like-nursing#post-1017164 Wed, 14 Aug 2013 18:52:40 +0000 mrsbookworm 1017164@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aww, I'm sorry. That stinks! Maybe it's just a phase? </p>