Hellobee Boards Topic: Does every kid need their own bedroom?

Hellobee Boards Topic: Does every kid need their own bedroom? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 07 Apr 2026 04:50:21 +0000 Mrs. Train on "Does every kid need their own bedroom?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-every-kid-need-their-own-bedroom/page/2#post-2169241 Wed, 06 May 2015 15:33:11 +0000 Mrs. Train 2169241@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We have 3 bedrooms so right now my three boys are in a room and my daughter has her own. We aren't planning on buying a five bedroom house so our kids will have to share. jedeve on "Does every kid need their own bedroom?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-every-kid-need-their-own-bedroom/page/2#post-2169234 Wed, 06 May 2015 15:29:41 +0000 jedeve 2169234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Mama Bird: my DH's grandpa was the youngest of 11 and grew up in a house that was maaaaybe 800 sq ft! I'm guessing two bedrooms, maybe three Need? Definitely not. I have mixed feelings. My sister and I shared when we were little, and then got their own rooms. DH's siblings shared until they were in high school, even though they had empty rooms. Our kids will probably share once we have a third, even though we have a guest room in the basement. I was an introvert who didn't particularly get along fantastically with my older sister, and I think it would have been tough to share. DH says it was good bonding for him and his brother and definitely wants our kids to do it. If/when they share, I think I will try to make it a positive. I don't want them to see a need for their own room to house all their own stuff that no one else can touch. I think our culture can put a lot of emphasis on a) materialism and b) the ego, which I don't love. I hope to be able to show them that they can find time and space for themselves, even while sharing. Cause you know what? I don't get my own room either! hilsy85 on "Does every kid need their own bedroom?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-every-kid-need-their-own-bedroom/page/2#post-2169219 Wed, 06 May 2015 15:22:36 +0000 hilsy85 2169219@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Nope. My sister and I shared til she was 16? And then my parents built a temporary wall...in urban areas, it's just not financially feasible a lot of time. Our LOs will be sharing a room at least the first year, and then when we hopefully move to a 3bedroom apt, LO#3, if we have him/her, will share with one of the kids. A 4 bedroom apt is just outrageous. turquoisemama on "Does every kid need their own bedroom?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-every-kid-need-their-own-bedroom/page/2#post-2169032 Wed, 06 May 2015 14:10:15 +0000 turquoisemama 2169032@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My sister and I loved sharing a room. We were in the same room until I was 11 and she was 13! HLK208 on "Does every kid need their own bedroom?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-every-kid-need-their-own-bedroom/page/2#post-2169004 Wed, 06 May 2015 13:56:40 +0000 HLK208 2169004@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Nope. I had 3 sisters though so we always shared rooms. My kids each have their own bedroom but we're thinking of having the girls share since they're 25 months apart. Then having the spare be a playroom. I honestly loved sharing with my sisters. I think it made us bond really well. Laying in bed talking about school, crushes, what we'll be like as grown ups, was what made us so close. But when my sisters graduated high school and went to college, I had my own room as a teenager so maybe it would have been worse if we had been closer in age? anonysquire on "Does every kid need their own bedroom?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-every-kid-need-their-own-bedroom/page/2#post-2168986 Wed, 06 May 2015 13:33:56 +0000 anonysquire 2168986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes. My babies have their own "rooms" even though they share my bed. simplyfelicity on "Does every kid need their own bedroom?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-every-kid-need-their-own-bedroom/page/2#post-2168961 Wed, 06 May 2015 13:11:55 +0000 simplyfelicity 2168961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My parents had four kids in a three bedroom house, so I didn't have my own room until my older siblings moved out/ went to college. I shared a room with my younger brother (so much fun!) for a few years until my parents felt we were too old to share and then I bunked with my sister. I don't think having your own room is a necessity by any means but, with opposite sex siblings, it is a different story. I wouldn't have wanted to share a room with my brother while I was figuring out this whole Aunt Flo business. SugarplumsMom on "Does every kid need their own bedroom?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-every-kid-need-their-own-bedroom/page/2#post-2168953 Wed, 06 May 2015 12:59:21 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2168953@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We only have 1, but if we ever have another girl, then I'd like to tear down a wall and make 2 small rooms into 1. I think that sharing a room is good for them. DH and his bro shared a room and (I'm biased) but I think both of them turned out great :grin: sarac on "Does every kid need their own bedroom?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-every-kid-need-their-own-bedroom/page/2#post-2168892 Wed, 06 May 2015 12:09:51 +0000 sarac 2168892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Not required at all in my opinion. For opposite sex siblings, it would be different. birdofafeather on "Does every kid need their own bedroom?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-every-kid-need-their-own-bedroom/page/2#post-2168810 Wed, 06 May 2015 10:59:45 +0000 birdofafeather 2168810@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I Grew up having my own room, but DH shared with his two sisters until 12! Since I work from home and need an office, and we want 3 kids, I don't foresee us having a 5 bedroom home, so someone will have to share! Mama Bird on "Does every kid need their own bedroom?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-every-kid-need-their-own-bedroom/page/2#post-2168796 Wed, 06 May 2015 10:45:07 +0000 Mama Bird 2168796@https://boards.hellobee.com/ It's partly a cultural thing, in a lot of places is normal to have the entire family living in tight quarters. I know a family that raised two kids in a one room apartment they shared with the in laws... when it feels like my family has no room, I think of them and remind myself it could always be worse! Personally I'd expect my kids to share a room if they were the same gender, but would love to give them separate rooms otherwise. I had to share a room with my little brother into my teens and it was ok, but a little more privacy would have been nice. 2littlepumpkins on "Does every kid need their own bedroom?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-every-kid-need-their-own-bedroom/page/2#post-2168791 Wed, 06 May 2015 10:40:35 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2168791@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I don't think its a "need." My kids will share in the beginning and probably split after a few years but if they turn out to be he same gender and our situation is helped by staying in a smaller place then I could see keeping them together longer, through elementary school or so. Mrs. Jacks on "Does every kid need their own bedroom?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-every-kid-need-their-own-bedroom#post-2168787 Wed, 06 May 2015 10:37:40 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 2168787@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We have 3 bedrooms and my girls have always preferred to share a room even before Theo's arrival. I anticipate they'll want their own rooms as teens and we parents plan to make our third floor into a master suite so everyone can have their own room. Another alternative is that my current bedroom has an attached office, so they both may want to take that over so that they have their own space but still share. (I'll still get my master suite in that case!) Miss Ariel on "Does every kid need their own bedroom?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-every-kid-need-their-own-bedroom#post-2168721 Wed, 06 May 2015 09:57:39 +0000 Miss Ariel 2168721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My husband would think yes and he always had his own room growing up. On the opposite side I always shared with my brother who was 2 years younger than me, and never thought it was an issue. PawPrints on "Does every kid need their own bedroom?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-every-kid-need-their-own-bedroom#post-2168708 Wed, 06 May 2015 09:49:36 +0000 PawPrints 2168708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ DH shared with his younger sister until he was ten and they liked it fine. I think preteens and teenagers should have their own space though. ktdid23 on "Does every kid need their own bedroom?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-every-kid-need-their-own-bedroom#post-2168699 Wed, 06 May 2015 09:44:55 +0000 ktdid23 2168699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @plantains: I agree with your statement "I don't think it fosters family closeness" We live in an apartment now, with plans to house hunt next spring... But we are looking at Cape Cods similar in size to where we live now :-) ktdid23 on "Does every kid need their own bedroom?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-every-kid-need-their-own-bedroom#post-2168695 Wed, 06 May 2015 09:42:52 +0000 ktdid23 2168695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I don't think is a necessity. I grew up in a 4 bedroom home, and I'm one of 4 kids. My younger sisters shared a bedroom. In the house before that, I shared a room with my younger sister (3 bedrooms, 3 kids). We are in a 2 bed/ 2 bath right now and I just delivered my second child. We will look for a bigger house next year, but for now, my daughter (4) loves sharing a room with her baby brother (even though he still sleeps in my room - she gets a kick out of having his crib in her room and asks when he can sleep there lol) lamariniere on "Does every kid need their own bedroom?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-every-kid-need-their-own-bedroom#post-2168690 Wed, 06 May 2015 09:39:50 +0000 lamariniere 2168690@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Definitely not necessary. We will only live in apartments for the foreseeable future and if our opposite sex LOs have to share a room, so be it. They currently have separate bedrooms and we will probably always try to have separate bedrooms when it is feasible, but it will depend on future living conditions. avivoca on "Does every kid need their own bedroom?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-every-kid-need-their-own-bedroom#post-2168676 Wed, 06 May 2015 09:31:13 +0000 avivoca 2168676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I don't think it's a necessity. I shared with my sister from age 4 to 14. Once we hit high school, it was nice to have our own rooms, but I'm not going to buy a house specifically so my kids can have their own room. plantains on "Does every kid need their own bedroom?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-every-kid-need-their-own-bedroom#post-2168668 Wed, 06 May 2015 09:22:42 +0000 plantains 2168668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I don't think that each kid needs their own room no. I think room sharing helps kids learn how to live with different quirks and traits and not be so set in their ways. Helps them be more flexible and adaptable. I grew up in a 5 bedroom house but my sister and I shared a room all the way. My brother had his own room but wanted to sleep in ours all the time. For us, I feel that we don't really want great huge spaces and everyone escaping to their own far flung corner. I don't think it fosters family closeness. mrs.shinerbock on "Does every kid need their own bedroom?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-every-kid-need-their-own-bedroom#post-2168664 Wed, 06 May 2015 09:20:17 +0000 mrs.shinerbock 2168664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We have a 4 bedroom house and I'm still planning on having LO2 (when he/she arrives and moves out of our room) share a room with LO1 for a few years. I thinks it's better to have them share a room when they are young, not just something to do "if you have to." If/when we have more LOs (and definitely by late elementary school) we will look at putting one of them in their own room. twodoghouse on "Does every kid need their own bedroom?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-every-kid-need-their-own-bedroom#post-2168657 Wed, 06 May 2015 09:15:09 +0000 twodoghouse 2168657@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I don't think they NEED it, but my preference is that my kids have the option of separate rooms later on. They're boy-girl twins and share now, but I think at some point they will outgrow that. Our house has 4 bedrooms, which seems standard here? We didn't consider any homes with less rooms. In the future we'd only buy a 4 or 5 bedroom house, as we don't want any fewer rooms. mrsjyw on "Does every kid need their own bedroom?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-every-kid-need-their-own-bedroom#post-2168648 Wed, 06 May 2015 09:09:48 +0000 mrsjyw 2168648@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My brother and I room shared through grade school and we loved it! We moved when I was in middle school and each got our own room. Greentea on "Does every kid need their own bedroom?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-every-kid-need-their-own-bedroom#post-2168638 Wed, 06 May 2015 09:05:40 +0000 Greentea 2168638@https://boards.hellobee.com/ No way! BananaPancakes on "Does every kid need their own bedroom?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-every-kid-need-their-own-bedroom#post-2168634 Wed, 06 May 2015 09:04:12 +0000 BananaPancakes 2168634@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My sister and I shared a bedroom off and on until high school and we survived. I don't think any kid NEEDS their own bedroom. I don't even have my own bedroom now. :) I think that opposite sex siblings should get their own space by middle school, though. Modern Daisy on "Does every kid need their own bedroom?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-every-kid-need-their-own-bedroom#post-2168633 Wed, 06 May 2015 09:03:39 +0000 Modern Daisy 2168633@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We live in a 3/3 ranch house with no master suite. Right now we love having a guest room so much that if we have another baby we will try to have them share a room. If budget allows we might also put on a second floor with a real master suite and office. I feel like most buyers want a 4 bedroom so this will help with resale too. ShootingStar on "Does every kid need their own bedroom?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-every-kid-need-their-own-bedroom#post-2168630 Wed, 06 May 2015 09:01:45 +0000 ShootingStar 2168630@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I think for same sex siblings separate rooms is a nice to have. but I think for opposite sex siblings it's a necessity after a certain point. MOMTOLITTLEB on "Does every kid need their own bedroom?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-every-kid-need-their-own-bedroom#post-2168623 Wed, 06 May 2015 08:52:36 +0000 MOMTOLITTLEB 2168623@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I don't think it is necessary and I think sharing rooms goes along with being part of a big family. We only want 2 children and I would like them to have their own rooms. We only have one child now but are moving to a house that has four bedrooms plus a small room off the master. Our plan was to find something we could grow into but I grew up in a small house with 2 siblings and it was fine until we were teenagers. Peasinapod on "Does every kid need their own bedroom?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-every-kid-need-their-own-bedroom#post-2168622 Wed, 06 May 2015 08:51:12 +0000 Peasinapod 2168622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My sister and I shared a room for a few years. I have good and bad memories from it. She was older so bossed me around in our room. But if I had a nightmare or couldn't sleep she'd do shadow puppet shows for me on the wall. I think overall it was a good experience. PurplePumps on "Does every kid need their own bedroom?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-every-kid-need-their-own-bedroom#post-2168621 Wed, 06 May 2015 08:49:12 +0000 PurplePumps 2168621@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I don't think it's a necessity. If I had the space to do so, then sure, I guess it would be nice. But I wouldn't sacrifice my house budget or location or anything to ensure it.