https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 16 Apr 2026 06:41:15 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-annoy-you-when-holiday-cards-are-addressed-to-mr-amp-mrs-husbands-initial-last-name/page/2#post-456126 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 15:46:19 +0000 BKCaribBaby 456126@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I highly dislike. I have a name. I also hyphenated my last name. Most people don't do this, so I don't see it often. It also tends to be people who don't know me very well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-annoy-you-when-holiday-cards-are-addressed-to-mr-amp-mrs-husbands-initial-last-name/page/2#post-456103 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 15:37:28 +0000 kjn 456103@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: The funny thing is I'm not really a formal person and I definitely don't mind not being called Dr. And I also don't mind being called by my husband's last name in social situations. But the combination of dropping my Dr and calling me by my husband's first name really irks me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-annoy-you-when-holiday-cards-are-addressed-to-mr-amp-mrs-husbands-initial-last-name/page/2#post-456101 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 15:37:11 +0000 heartonastring 456101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's kind of cute, as usually the only people in my circle who address things that way are older relatives. It's something of a generational divide. I didn't even take DH's last name, but I'm okay with it. I might think it was odd if someone my own age did it though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-annoy-you-when-holiday-cards-are-addressed-to-mr-amp-mrs-husbands-initial-last-name/page/2#post-456018 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 15:15:28 +0000 allison 456018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hate it! And I took husband's last name. I address things using both first names (and last, if they're different). Or I just do "Mr. and Mrs. (Lastname)".</p> <p>A few years ago, some friends of ours got married and combined last names (so they both took each other's name, hyphenated with their own.) Does that make sense? Anyway, his family held a hometown reception for them, and made a big banner that said "Congratulations, Mr. &amp; Mrs. (guy's last name only)!". It was kind of a slap in the face, because it was known that the guy's family wasn't happy about the unconventional name change of their son. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-annoy-you-when-holiday-cards-are-addressed-to-mr-amp-mrs-husbands-initial-last-name/page/2#post-456009 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 15:12:31 +0000 Turd Ferguson 456009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nah, doesn't bother me at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-annoy-you-when-holiday-cards-are-addressed-to-mr-amp-mrs-husbands-initial-last-name/page/2#post-456008 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 15:12:16 +0000 Arden 456008@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kjn: The Dr and Mrs thing would really annoy me if I were a doctor as well. That's really bothersome that people wouldn't recognize your title as well as his.<br /> I think I might end up getting passive aggressive and returning it to sender, marked "No Dr. and Mrs. at this address. Home is occupied by Dr. and Dr.". lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-annoy-you-when-holiday-cards-are-addressed-to-mr-amp-mrs-husbands-initial-last-name/page/2#post-455999 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 15:07:27 +0000 travelgirl1 455999@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: thanks, that's exactly what I meant :-) I'm Mrs g, but I'm not Mrs j g </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-annoy-you-when-holiday-cards-are-addressed-to-mr-amp-mrs-husbands-initial-last-name/page/2#post-455981 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 15:03:11 +0000 kjn 455981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This annoys me so much. My husband and I are both physicians and I kept my maiden name. But we still get mail addressed to Dr and Mrs hisfirstname hislastname. Sorry but I'm not a Mrs and neither of those are my name! I don't know why it bothers me so much but it totally does! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-annoy-you-when-holiday-cards-are-addressed-to-mr-amp-mrs-husbands-initial-last-name/page/2#post-455970 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 14:59:29 +0000 Mrsbells 455970@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mr and Mrs John Smith is the correct etiquette for fromal cards and letters and it doesnt bother me although people never call me that because my husbands last name is hyphenated so its quite a mouthfull on its own </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-annoy-you-when-holiday-cards-are-addressed-to-mr-amp-mrs-husbands-initial-last-name/page/2#post-455965 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 14:58:45 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 455965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't care and I didn't change my name when we got married. I'm just happy to get a real card in the mail! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-annoy-you-when-holiday-cards-are-addressed-to-mr-amp-mrs-husbands-initial-last-name#post-455948 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 14:54:32 +0000 JerricaBenton 455948@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It doesn't bother me. I usually address cards that way to a married couple, Mr. and Mrs. A. Smith. If it's a casual thing and they have kids, I'll write The Smith Family. It's still thought of as the proper way to address a married couple on an envelope so it doesn't feel like a slight to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-annoy-you-when-holiday-cards-are-addressed-to-mr-amp-mrs-husbands-initial-last-name#post-455882 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 14:36:16 +0000 Arden 455882@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think a lot of people in this thread misunderstood the question. I believe the OP is not referring to cards addressed to "Mr. and Mrs. Smith", but to cards addressed to "Mr. and Mrs. John Smith."</p> <p>And yes, it bothers me a lot. At our wedding I insisted we would be introduced as Mr. and Mrs. H, not Mr. and Mrs. Hisname H. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-annoy-you-when-holiday-cards-are-addressed-to-mr-amp-mrs-husbands-initial-last-name#post-455877 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 14:34:59 +0000 Mrs. Tricycle 455877@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I usually address my Christmas cards that way to be "fancy." I like the old fashioned formal feel for some occasions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-annoy-you-when-holiday-cards-are-addressed-to-mr-amp-mrs-husbands-initial-last-name#post-455852 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 14:28:44 +0000 MrsHotDog 455852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I actually like it. I love that I am his wife and I have no qualms with sharing his name. I am also very traditional and I didn't even realize it might rub people the wrong way. I always address an envelope like this or I use "The Blank Family" if they have kids on a not formal envelope. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-annoy-you-when-holiday-cards-are-addressed-to-mr-amp-mrs-husbands-initial-last-name#post-455733 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 13:33:22 +0000 shopaholic 455733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: Oh my! That would annoy me and I'd be all "what's up with that?!?!" to the DH! </p> <p>I don't mind. I think it's easier to write that way. I always get a little stuck when addressing couples that the wife didn't change her name. Sometimes I address both by just 1st name, or usually just "The XYZ Family". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-annoy-you-when-holiday-cards-are-addressed-to-mr-amp-mrs-husbands-initial-last-name#post-455727 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 13:31:09 +0000 Running Elley 455727@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Doesn't bother me! I kind of like it :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-annoy-you-when-holiday-cards-are-addressed-to-mr-amp-mrs-husbands-initial-last-name#post-455726 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 13:29:42 +0000 birdofafeather 455726@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i don't think i even notice either way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-annoy-you-when-holiday-cards-are-addressed-to-mr-amp-mrs-husbands-initial-last-name#post-455723 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 13:29:19 +0000 travelgirl1 455723@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@adnama: I like to do that too, it seems more personal.</p> <p>This year, now we have a baby, I love cards addressed to 'the g........ Family' or all three of our first names. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-annoy-you-when-holiday-cards-are-addressed-to-mr-amp-mrs-husbands-initial-last-name#post-455698 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 13:16:49 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 455698@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: omg that is so annoying!</p> <p>It doesn't bother me, only a few people did it, generally older traditional people.</p> <p>I am so bad at addressing cards. I will put things like "Smith Fam" or "John, Jane and (dogs name)". I address cards to my parents as "Mom" and "Dad"</p> <p>I really shouldn't judge other people since I am so terrible at it! haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-annoy-you-when-holiday-cards-are-addressed-to-mr-amp-mrs-husbands-initial-last-name#post-455691 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 13:13:39 +0000 yoursilverlining 455691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It does annoy me. I give a pass to very old relatives but deep down it still bothers me to see “Mr. and Mrs. His Name Only”. I am my own person, I have my own name. I had my own name before we got married; I have my own name now – and they know this! Also, I’m more than just a “Mrs.”. It just rubs me the wrong way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-annoy-you-when-holiday-cards-are-addressed-to-mr-amp-mrs-husbands-initial-last-name#post-455663 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 13:03:33 +0000 Smurfette 455663@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Doesn't bother me at all.</p> <p>I addressed ours to Mr &amp; Mrs Last Name or Last Name Family. I only have one friend that didn't take her husband's last name, so I addressed it with their first names cause I didn't know how else to do it since I didn't want to be formal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-annoy-you-when-holiday-cards-are-addressed-to-mr-amp-mrs-husbands-initial-last-name#post-455661 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 13:03:18 +0000 MaisyMay 455661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We get a few things a year address to Mr. and Mrs. W. P_____ and it just makes me smile because I automatically know they are from part of his family. His grandmothers, aunts, and cousin all address our mail that way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-annoy-you-when-holiday-cards-are-addressed-to-mr-amp-mrs-husbands-initial-last-name#post-455658 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 13:01:37 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 455658@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also dislike this. </p> <p>@Adira: I didn't take his name, and I don't make an exception socially. Not that I'm going to make a big stink about it, but my name is my name is my name, no matter what the situation. When I get cards addressed to Mr. and Mrs. His Name, it just shows me that that person must not know me well at all :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-annoy-you-when-holiday-cards-are-addressed-to-mr-amp-mrs-husbands-initial-last-name#post-455642 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 12:57:11 +0000 Alivoo01 455642@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm indifferent about it. For close friends, I just write both of their first names followed by their last name. For more formal people, I write Mr. &amp; Mrs. (last name). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-annoy-you-when-holiday-cards-are-addressed-to-mr-amp-mrs-husbands-initial-last-name#post-455633 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 12:55:45 +0000 travelgirl1 455633@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ha ha, DH is joking that it's because he 'owns' me :-)<br /> I do realise it's the traditional way to do it, I just personally find it old fashioned. I'm proud to have his last name but I didn't take on the first one too.</p> <p>@Adira: I love it when our post is addressed as Mr &amp; Mrs his last name. I just don't like us both being lumped under his initial.</p> <p>@Mrs.Someone: this is totally what I mean! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-annoy-you-when-holiday-cards-are-addressed-to-mr-amp-mrs-husbands-initial-last-name#post-455619 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 12:48:53 +0000 Adira 455619@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always address married couples as Mr. and Mrs. &lt;Husband's First Name&gt; &lt;Husband's Last Name&gt;. Isn't that the norm? And even if you didn't take his last name, socially, you are still Mrs. &lt;Husband's Name&gt; even if professionally (and technically) you still have your maiden name.</p> <p>So this definitely doesn't annoy me. I'm curious what you want it to be addressed as? Just leave off the "Mr. and Mrs." part and address it as &lt;Husband's First Name&gt; and &lt;Wife's First Name&gt; &lt;Husband's Last Name&gt;? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-annoy-you-when-holiday-cards-are-addressed-to-mr-amp-mrs-husbands-initial-last-name#post-455618 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 12:48:23 +0000 MamaMoose 455618@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelgirl1: Yup. Mr. and Mrs. John Smith. But I'm always sure to acknowledge exceptions properly (spouses with different last names, wives who have titles, etc). My mom is a real etiquette stickler so she taught me all the rules. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-annoy-you-when-holiday-cards-are-addressed-to-mr-amp-mrs-husbands-initial-last-name#post-455612 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 12:47:07 +0000 meredithNYC 455612@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know that it bothers me, but it does kind of make me laugh - like, how old-fashioned and almost quaint, I guess. I have a hyphenated last name so I realize it's quite long to write both of our full names, though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-annoy-you-when-holiday-cards-are-addressed-to-mr-amp-mrs-husbands-initial-last-name#post-455608 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 12:46:15 +0000 Mrs.Someone 455608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not a fan! Makes me feel that I'm just an appendage of DH, instead of an equal partner. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-annoy-you-when-holiday-cards-are-addressed-to-mr-amp-mrs-husbands-initial-last-name#post-455603 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 12:45:10 +0000 mediagirl 455603@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's the formal way of addressing. I address my family cards that way (with first name, not the first inital) and will continue to do so. I'm proud to be Mrs. ___ ______. If I had a different last name than my husband, I still would be okay with people doing it. It's easier to write mr and mrs than it is to write mr. john doe and mrs. jane eyre..... </p>