https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 26 May 2026 01:31:47 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-bother-you-when-you-see-other-people-spend-money-irresponsibly/page/2#post-310795 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 07:31:50 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 310795@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We used to be like that... and actually are still learning. We never buy anything full price, and we always find ways to get things in exchange of other things. From the outsiders view, it would seem like we are spending all sorts of money. Which we are not. </p> <p>That being said, we do need to reduce the amount of material stuff we have. Pay off debt and get back on track. But my sister is like what you mention. Complains she never has money, that she needs to be on a tight budget but then goes on trips 1 a year. I haven't gone on a trip in 7 years so hopefully my family and friends don't see me to be "AS BAD" as my sister. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-bother-you-when-you-see-other-people-spend-money-irresponsibly/page/2#post-310790 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 07:27:42 +0000 SugarplumsMom 310790@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LittleFox: I just read your post and I totally have a friend like this. I remember when I was struggling with a divorce and in financial shambles, while she was single, making 6 figures and shopping everyday after work. This girl would try to mooch off of me when we'd go out to eat. She would purposely come late to a dinner and ask to eat off our plates claiming she was full - yet would convince someone to order more!! Man, I almost forgot about that! Ha! She's another person that was hit hard with the crisis and hopefully has learned her lesson. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-bother-you-when-you-see-other-people-spend-money-irresponsibly/page/2#post-310781 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 07:16:38 +0000 SugarplumsMom 310781@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It used to bother me. Now I don't really care what ppl do with their lives, just as long as it doesn't affect me personally. But I do worry about the gambling sites they always advertise here. No one seems to be bothered about it, but advertising has a huge impression on teens and children. I'm afraid of new addictions that might arise because of it and the governments duty (and taxpayers) to get these ppl help down the road.</p> <p>What used to bother me: when ppl complain about not having any money, or commenting that I must have money, when in fact I save while all they do is spend! But the only friend that did that back then has (I hope) learned her lesson. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-bother-you-when-you-see-other-people-spend-money-irresponsibly/page/2#post-310768 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 06:45:31 +0000 mediagirl 310768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>YES. It drives.me.crazy. Sometimes it's because people don't realize the things they are buying will cost them more money down the road. It's irresponsible and just part of the problem of our country that we all have to have the newest, greatest thing out there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-bother-you-when-you-see-other-people-spend-money-irresponsibly/page/2#post-310745 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 03:25:38 +0000 loveisstrange 310745@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If the person. a)complains constantly about being broke b)tries to get me to pay for things when we're together or c)tries to borrow money from me, then yes it bugs me. </p> <p>Other than that? Nope. It doesn't affect me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-bother-you-when-you-see-other-people-spend-money-irresponsibly/page/2#post-310743 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 02:04:54 +0000 BSB 310743@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it annoys me but only because I might be annoyed with the person. I think the person could cure cancer and I would be still annoyed for one reason or another. So my annoyance (sp?) follows the person, not really the situation. </p> <p>I try not to judge because I've been in those shoes. I used to be annoyed with one family member because they always were asking for help. Well, my DH and I had some tough times this past year and who had to suck up their pride and ask my parents for help. Me! Judge me all you want but if you knew some of the stuff I had to deal with this past year, you would have some sympathy for me. You know when crap is raining down on you, sometimes you got to spend a little to make yourself feel a little better. I'm in no way reckless with my money and I'll admit I'm not perfect either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-bother-you-when-you-see-other-people-spend-money-irresponsibly/page/2#post-310727 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 01:23:19 +0000 808love 310727@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetMamaM: I could see that happening! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-bother-you-when-you-see-other-people-spend-money-irresponsibly/page/2#post-310726 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 01:22:52 +0000 808love 310726@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: I agree with you about everyone not having equal financial literacy so it can be unfair to judge people's backgrounds. </p> <p>I feel worried/ concerned about friends if they are spending a lot, getting more in debt, not taking advantage of refinancing, tax deductions etc. when they could do something about their situation. I also feel we spent a lot this year and we have a lot of extras, yet I still complain about the price of a meal if I don't think it's worth it. It makes me feel financially savvy when I make observations because I reflected on the value, afterthoughts and all. After reading these posts, I talked to DH and we agreed it might be 'socially irresponsible' talking about toys (dishwasher/ipad/used car/solar water heater) we bought this year and how much we don't agree with the cost of lesser things (company tshirts/price of milk/LO's shoes) in the same breath. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-bother-you-when-you-see-other-people-spend-money-irresponsibly/page/2#post-310721 Wed, 26 Sep 2012 00:48:17 +0000 tequiero21 310721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i agree with some of the pp above. as long as it doesn't affect me, to each their own. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-bother-you-when-you-see-other-people-spend-money-irresponsibly/page/2#post-310646 Tue, 25 Sep 2012 22:22:35 +0000 Boogs 310646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It makes me soooo bananas when they complain about money or keep talking about trying to save, yet they keep buying irresponsible and frivilous things. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-bother-you-when-you-see-other-people-spend-money-irresponsibly/page/2#post-309988 Tue, 25 Sep 2012 14:29:55 +0000 SweetMamaM 309988@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Interesting. I can only think of a couple of people in our lives in which this situation applies (maybe it's a British colonial hangover thing but we tend to not really speak about how much we earn) but in saying that, we do get a lot of pressure about our own spending habits. We're fairly frugal and as a couple we get questioned about why we haven't bought property yet, whilst DH's friends don't seem to understand his desire to cut back on social spending. LOL sometimes I think our friends would be happier if we did spend irresponsibly! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-bother-you-when-you-see-other-people-spend-money-irresponsibly/page/2#post-309426 Tue, 25 Sep 2012 10:24:13 +0000 Andrea 309426@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not really, unless it affects me somehow. But I can think of one example where someone said they can't afford to send their DS to a better preschool but their current one has a lot of problems. That did bug me because I know that they could sacrifice spending on themselves to make up the difference. Instead, they were looking to get money from their parents for this. I've always seen my parents sacrifice and save to send me to good schools so that issue is closer to my heart. But some people don't think education is a good investment so everyone has different priorities. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-bother-you-when-you-see-other-people-spend-money-irresponsibly/page/2#post-309373 Tue, 25 Sep 2012 10:02:03 +0000 Mrs Checkers 309373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>YES, it totally does. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-bother-you-when-you-see-other-people-spend-money-irresponsibly/page/2#post-309359 Tue, 25 Sep 2012 09:55:52 +0000 littlebug 309359@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It depends on what you mean by "irresponsibly." I will be the first to admit that I spend irresponsibly. I am known to shop with money I don't have (credit cards). But I know my limits. I'll buy a few shirts at Old Navy that I don't need, but I don't go out and spend $200 on an iPhone. I am trying to get better about it, and Hubs is good at reigning me in, but I can't really fault someone for something like that without being a total hypocrite. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-bother-you-when-you-see-other-people-spend-money-irresponsibly/page/2#post-309332 Tue, 25 Sep 2012 09:42:26 +0000 oliviaoblivia 309332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelingbrit: that would drive me nuts! how do you deal? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-bother-you-when-you-see-other-people-spend-money-irresponsibly/page/2#post-309083 Tue, 25 Sep 2012 03:27:28 +0000 LittleFox 309083@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It doesn't bother me a whole lot. I get more annoyed at friends who just complain a lot about money in general and about people who mooch. I have one friend who would complain about her financial situation a lot while I was single. I didn't make a lot, but I budgeted and lived within my means. She would seem so upset and would ask if we could just eat at my place (my food) when we got together or to share my food at restaurants. Well, I later found out that between her and her DH they made over double my income! Sure, they had a mortgage, but because we lived in different places it wasn't much more than my rent. They also had a sizeable chunk of change in savings - and here I was paying for her meals when we got together with friends and feeling sorry for her! Now even though I'm married and starting to do a bit better I still veto the meal sharing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-bother-you-when-you-see-other-people-spend-money-irresponsibly/page/2#post-309057 Tue, 25 Sep 2012 01:42:23 +0000 looch 309057@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want to say no, but it kind of does bug me. I am a tightwad but I like nice things, I am sure people think I spend more money than we should because I am a SAHM. They don't know our financial situation so, I try not to judge others. </p> <p>I also wanted to write that not everyone has the same financial education, so I really have no understanding sometimes of why people make the decisions they do.</p> <p>As long as I am not paying for someone else's lifestyle, I have no say in the matter. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-bother-you-when-you-see-other-people-spend-money-irresponsibly/page/2#post-309036 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 23:58:28 +0000 jedeve 309036@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. Doesn't affect me.</p> <p>And you don't always know people's real situation. We were really broke this summer between jobs, but I still bought a "new outfit" - maternity shorts at goodwill. And my parents paid for a family vacation, which was awesome and generous, but it's not like it meant we had more money for groceries suddenly, you know? </p> <p>I don't care what other people do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-bother-you-when-you-see-other-people-spend-money-irresponsibly#post-309008 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 23:09:55 +0000 daniellemybelle 309008@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are a little guilty of this. We definitely splurge on things we don't need - going out to eat, the occasional mani-pedi, etc. We would be in a much better place financially if we stuck to our budget better! I know some do much better than we do, and some are A LOT worse, but I try not to judge because I know we are less than perfect. At the same time, I definitely don't complain about money to anyone - except maybe anonymously on the Internet! I know DH &amp; I are incredibly fortunate to have such secure jobs at our age, and I don't ever want to seem ungrateful by telling people we are "broke," even when we feel like it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-bother-you-when-you-see-other-people-spend-money-irresponsibly#post-308927 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 21:50:51 +0000 Grace 308927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It only bothers me when I have to listen to them complain about it. And that goes for anything, like the friend of mine who is living with her in inlaws again, by choice, even though they drove her craaaaaaaaazy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-bother-you-when-you-see-other-people-spend-money-irresponsibly#post-308921 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 21:47:29 +0000 MsMamaBear 308921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. It's not my money so I don't care. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-bother-you-when-you-see-other-people-spend-money-irresponsibly#post-308920 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 21:47:00 +0000 anonysquire 308920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travelingbrit: Oh that is not cool! DH's mom has begged for money many a time but when I know she is going out and getting wasted 3 or 4 nights a week, I just can't. She is over 50, she should know how to budget by now,,, </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-bother-you-when-you-see-other-people-spend-money-irresponsibly#post-308917 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 21:44:34 +0000 wheres_c 308917@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: we pay a "living stipend" to mil too. She drives a much nicer car than I do :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-bother-you-when-you-see-other-people-spend-money-irresponsibly#post-308905 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 21:33:15 +0000 anonysquire 308905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It doesn't bother me, but I wouldn't ever lend or give them money. We all get to choose how we spend our money :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-bother-you-when-you-see-other-people-spend-money-irresponsibly#post-308902 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 21:31:14 +0000 pinkcupcake 308902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I get annoyed, but try not to think about it ... their life, not mine (but it's hard not to feel irritated when it's right in front of your face). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-bother-you-when-you-see-other-people-spend-money-irresponsibly#post-308821 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 20:16:00 +0000 HLK208 308821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have given money to a certain family member twice, our mistake, but she is always spending her money on dumb things. She lives with her elderly parents but gets her nails/toes done and does "fun" things all the freaking time. Grow up! We are half her age and we never spend money when we don't have it. </p> <p>We buy nice things once in awhile and have an okay savings but most of the time we are very frugal. I don't like the, "I deserve it" mentality. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-bother-you-when-you-see-other-people-spend-money-irresponsibly#post-308815 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 20:11:02 +0000 Sugar.Biscuit 308815@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It doesn't really "bother" me just annoys me. I have a coworker who is a single mother with one child, is on welfare &amp; doesn't get much from her baby daddy cause he has 13 other kids. Needless to say she complains all the time about how she has no money and can't work more then 28hrs a week cause she will lose her welfare &amp; childcare. Yet she is out drinking A LOT (poor kid), smokes, gets her nails &amp; hair done, has the latest phone. IMO buck up or shut up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-bother-you-when-you-see-other-people-spend-money-irresponsibly#post-308737 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 19:13:10 +0000 rachiecakes 308737@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>doesn't bother me unless it's someone that's always complaining about being broke, asking to borrow money/spot them for lunch, etc. or bailing on our plans because they can't afford it. I don't care how you spend your money but I don't want to hear whining, or you asking to borrow mine or ditching our plans last minute because of it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-bother-you-when-you-see-other-people-spend-money-irresponsibly#post-308703 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 18:31:12 +0000 MamaMoose 308703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oahujeni: I'm with you. I see no problem splurging on a big ticket item after you have paid all your bills. My real problem is with the people who complain about their money woes so much and then buy frivolous items! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-bother-you-when-you-see-other-people-spend-money-irresponsibly#post-308701 Mon, 24 Sep 2012 18:27:03 +0000 autumnlove 308701@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It only bothers me a lot if they are related to me and if they ask if they can borrow money! </p>