https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 19 Apr 2026 03:41:00 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-piss-you-off-when-people-criticize-your-parenting-skillz#post-107164 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 18:52:59 +0000 mrbee 107164@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's great! We spend a long time in the bath together, and it's a wonderful bonding time. If Bee gets in the tub with Charlie, she makes sure not to get her hair wet so she just has to towel off. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-piss-you-off-when-people-criticize-your-parenting-skillz#post-107162 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 18:51:02 +0000 chopsuey 107162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rubies: Yeah. it's a pain. I used to have bath time with her when DH was out of town. When he was IN town, he did bath time with her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-piss-you-off-when-people-criticize-your-parenting-skillz#post-107160 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 18:50:18 +0000 chopsuey 107160@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rubies: HAHA already?! Dang! You might as well just jump in with her since she soaks you anyway.. :D<br /> @mrbee: Yeah, I used to jump in with her, but it became such a pain for me.. I don't mind short baths.. it's her loss. Who doesn't like sitting in a pool of warm water?! :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-piss-you-off-when-people-criticize-your-parenting-skillz#post-107159 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 18:50:08 +0000 Rubies 107159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Is it annoying to do alone? I have to do bedtime routine alone (hubs gets home after LO goes to bed) and I think about having to dry off, put clothes on, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-piss-you-off-when-people-criticize-your-parenting-skillz#post-107157 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 18:47:04 +0000 mrbee 107157@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have you guys tried getting into the tub? Charlie used to try to get out all the time, til we jumped in there with him! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-piss-you-off-when-people-criticize-your-parenting-skillz#post-107156 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 18:45:59 +0000 Rubies 107156@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: OMG, yeah, LO does that, too! By the time her bath is done, I'm soaked! Bath is a struggle every night because she keeps trying to escape! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-piss-you-off-when-people-criticize-your-parenting-skillz#post-107129 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 18:22:28 +0000 chopsuey 107129@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: I think she gets up because we don't have any bath toys for her. HAHA. Today DH gave her a 2 minute bath! :P<br /> I should probably get some toys to distract her.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-piss-you-off-when-people-criticize-your-parenting-skillz#post-107108 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 18:05:09 +0000 heffalump 107108@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: Have you tried toys or bath crayons? I obviously don't have any real advice, as my LO stays put because she doesn't know how to get out. I'm sure if she could, she would. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-piss-you-off-when-people-criticize-your-parenting-skillz#post-107106 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 18:03:52 +0000 chopsuey 107106@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rubies: HAHA. Your LO has a super cute big girl tub. :) Omg. My LO won't stay in her tub anymore. She keeps standing up and tries to get out. :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-piss-you-off-when-people-criticize-your-parenting-skillz#post-107104 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 18:02:55 +0000 heffalump 107104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Oceanis723: Wow. What are people thinking? Why is it her business how many kids you have? Good for you for sticking up for yourself! The worst any stranger ever said to me was that LO was cold. She had a jacket and hat on and a blanket, and she was sleeping peacefully in her stroller. I just walked away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-piss-you-off-when-people-criticize-your-parenting-skillz#post-107100 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 18:00:25 +0000 heffalump 107100@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rubies: Lol. Well if it makes you feel any better, my LO weighs more than yours and she's still in her infant tub. And I'm going to keep her in it as long as I want to! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-piss-you-off-when-people-criticize-your-parenting-skillz#post-107095 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 17:58:56 +0000 Rubies 107095@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haaaaaaaaaaaaate it when people give unsolicited advice or make comments about how I do things with LO. There is a difference between a) me being unsure about something, SEEKING advice from another mom and being open to suggestions and b) people telling me how to do things.</p> <p>I was amongst a group of women months ago and I was talking about LO was getting too big for her infant tub. One lady said, 'Oh, you're still using that? You should really get LO into a big tub now.'</p> <p>Well lady, you should go take a freakin hike? WHO ASKED YOU? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-piss-you-off-when-people-criticize-your-parenting-skillz#post-107080 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 17:53:45 +0000 banana 107080@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oceanis723: Are you serious? That's absurd. That is TOTALLY none of that woman's business. I seriously can't believe some people. GAH! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-piss-you-off-when-people-criticize-your-parenting-skillz#post-106873 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 14:55:32 +0000 Mrs. Train 106873@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't been criticized directly about my parenting techniques. I have had complete strangers criticize how many children I have. I had someone in the grocery store tell me she hoped my baby machine was turned off. I politely told her that anything that happens with my girly bits and whether or not it is productive was between me and my husband. Go figure, I did have another kid and it was none of her business </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-piss-you-off-when-people-criticize-your-parenting-skillz#post-106864 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 14:44:33 +0000 owlmom 106864@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I spent an entire day being criticized by a woman with a baby a couple months older than mine. I could care less about her opinions (she gives her baby plastic shopping bags - you know, the ones that say "this is not a toy," "suffocation risk," etc), but after a full day of being told that I was doing everything wrong, I felt awful. </p> <p>I'm sorry your feeling crummy :( I hope the cake helped! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-piss-you-off-when-people-criticize-your-parenting-skillz#post-106854 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 14:27:17 +0000 brownie 106854@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like having parenting discussions where philosophies are discussed. I don't like when I am told my philosophy is wrong. We did start with one philosophy and our child has definitely taught us a completely different one. I was totally against co-sleeping, nursing a toddler, etc etc etc. Yeah, we cosleep, I am nursing him till he is 2. We are relatively hands off (but we do watch him). I do still criticize other parents. Mostly my sister who doesn't actually watch her kids when she is around. And my friend who treats her 3 year old like he is 1, thinks the doctor is the end all be all. But only when she is complaining </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-piss-you-off-when-people-criticize-your-parenting-skillz#post-106651 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 12:30:24 +0000 Rock n Roll 106651@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm especially sad to hear it was a doctor- I think when a doctor criticizes a person, it makes them less likely to be honest with their doctor in the future, and that increases risks since the doctor doesn't know the whole story.</p> <p>I do have to say no one has had the balls to criticize my parenting to my face. I think they know what they'd get back from me. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-piss-you-off-when-people-criticize-your-parenting-skillz#post-106645 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 12:26:45 +0000 BSB 106645@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not even pregnant, yet, and I don't like it when I hear criticism. I see if from my SIL, how hard it is to parent nowadays. </p> <p>I used to criticize my sister but that was years ago when I was young and very naive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-piss-you-off-when-people-criticize-your-parenting-skillz#post-106597 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 11:50:50 +0000 mrs. wagon 106597@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>CAKE! (please tell me you've seen The God of Cake)</p> <p>I do sometimes complain about kids who are obviously not disciplined at home and therefore terrors (and rub off on RJ when he spends time with them)... but never to them, only to Rob Sr. Things like "I can't believe in 2 hours together the parents never said no to them once." But I'd never do it to anyone's face. Even in those cases I can totally understand that every parent/child situation is different and I cannot and will not judge their choices. </p> <p>When I get questioned (usually by my own parents or my MIL) I usually brush it off because they probably don't remember what they had to go thru as parents. If/when I get questioned by a peer, I get REALLY mad. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-piss-you-off-when-people-criticize-your-parenting-skillz#post-106580 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 11:43:57 +0000 Andrea 106580@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: mad props, woman </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-piss-you-off-when-people-criticize-your-parenting-skillz#post-106578 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 11:42:45 +0000 chopsuey 106578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: hahah you read my mind!!!!!!! lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-piss-you-off-when-people-criticize-your-parenting-skillz#post-106575 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 11:40:10 +0000 Andrea 106575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: yeah see!! time and a place. haha. you guys can "make up" tonight. ;-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-piss-you-off-when-people-criticize-your-parenting-skillz#post-106574 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 11:39:16 +0000 chopsuey 106574@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: He was giving me the "I told you so" look too. Fffff! I think I'm just pissed at him and not the doctor. HAHA. He's out and is bringing home a peace offering. We had a fun ride back home. :D I don't think I've ever used that tone of voice with him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-piss-you-off-when-people-criticize-your-parenting-skillz#post-106570 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 11:37:15 +0000 Andrea 106570@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: yeah, but it was in front of the doctor. that is the part that would irk me. he can disagree with me later at home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-piss-you-off-when-people-criticize-your-parenting-skillz#post-106568 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 11:36:25 +0000 His Barista 106568@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah. Because we have only been parents for a month and need to figure out what works for us without hearing 10 different thongs from family members. Grrrrrrrrrr. Lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-piss-you-off-when-people-criticize-your-parenting-skillz#post-106563 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 11:34:18 +0000 chopsuey 106563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: I guess it's good that he didn't. I really do need to break these habits before they get any worse.. -.- Wish me luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-piss-you-off-when-people-criticize-your-parenting-skillz#post-106562 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 11:33:39 +0000 chopsuey 106562@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: HAHAH </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-piss-you-off-when-people-criticize-your-parenting-skillz#post-106557 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 11:31:07 +0000 MamaMoose 106557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If another mom was just being critical for the sake of being critical, then yes, I'd be pissed. But if my doctor thought I was doing something that wasn't in my best interest or my baby's best interest I would want them to tell me. In a nice way of course, but I would still want them to tell me. I would try not to be offended by this and instead try to work with the suggestion. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-piss-you-off-when-people-criticize-your-parenting-skillz#post-106554 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 11:30:21 +0000 mrbee 106554@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never criticize parents. I am even scared to comment on this post. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-it-piss-you-off-when-people-criticize-your-parenting-skillz#post-106545 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 11:26:17 +0000 heffalump 106545@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: My husband also disagrees with me with things like that, like he wants LO to nap in her crib. Easy for him to say, he's not here at nap time to deal with her! Honestly, if I felt judged by my doctor I would probably switch. It's important that you're comfortable with them and feel like you can tell them things without being judged. </p>