https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 11 Jul 2026 19:00:03 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-offering-choices-not-work-for-your-lo#post-2075994 Thu, 19 Feb 2015 00:31:25 +0000 Freckles 2075994@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I no longer let DD choose her outfits. I will lay everythjng out for the week, and the only thing she picks is her underwear. If we are having a morning where she is bring stubborn and not wanting to get dressed, I tell her she has the option to get dressed or go back to sleep, and I will come back when she is ready to start the day properly. That usually works! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-offering-choices-not-work-for-your-lo#post-2075964 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 23:22:19 +0000 brownie 2075964@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Grace: I have seen this article and I like her (though we are attachment parents and don't do babywise). This I do believe is a true problem in that too many choices are just as problematic as no choices. God why is being a parent so hard. Damned if you do and damned if you don't. </p> <p>One thing we don't realize is that we often speak to our kids like little adults when they are kids. For example making commands sounds like requests. "how about we xyz okay?" when we should just say "we are going to xyz". So we end up giving the kids a lot of choices and power. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-offering-choices-not-work-for-your-lo#post-2075957 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 23:15:12 +0000 Grace 2075957@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I read something the other day, about giving kids too many choices not being a good thing. I'm not sure how much I agree with the article, but maybe it's food for thought. <a href="http://www.babywisemom.com/2009/08/wise-in-your-own-eyes.html?m=1" rel="nofollow">http://www.babywisemom.com/2009/08/wise-in-your-own-eyes.html?m=1</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-offering-choices-not-work-for-your-lo#post-2074867 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 09:48:49 +0000 cascademom 2074867@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had a phase where I would let him choose undies and shirts. It caused more headaches and tantrums. Since then, I've been picking out his clothes and focusing on one thing he can choose. Now, he picks out his sticker for his morning routine chart. Eliminating the choices and the stress of the decision actually makes our mornings go easier (not for the other morning drama that happens). </p> <p>Our former daycare owner suggested eliminating choices of clothes, etc. until later around 3-4 years because the stress and you being the leader of the house. Right now, he doesn't care what he wears, so it makes mornings go easier. One choice a morning is working for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-offering-choices-not-work-for-your-lo#post-2074854 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 09:41:29 +0000 littlebug 2074854@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All the time I read and hear about offering choices to help kids feel like they're participating in their day-to-day routine and to ease the stress they feel and help them feel like they have some control. I have tried this with D but it just does not work. He can't make a decision and stick to it! </p> <p>So for example, getting dressed - I offer him a choice between 2 or 3 shirts. He chooses one. I go to put it on and he freaks.out. Like, screaming, squirming away from me, etc. And this happens all the time with any choices we offer. It's incredibly frustrating! </p> <p>Any thoughts? Suggestions? Can anyone commiserate? Or is my kid just a stubborn, indecisive little punk? </p>