https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 20 May 2026 14:35:34 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dh-have-female-friends#post-545359 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 20:28:51 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 545359@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He has several girl friends, but they are more so text or IM buddies at work. He doesn't hang out with them, so I haven't met any of them just heard stories. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dh-have-female-friends#post-545084 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 17:26:30 +0000 pui 545084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>95% of his friends are also my friends. Most of our friends are male, but a few are female.</p> <p>Your DH's friend sounds frustrating and passive aggressive. I think it's fine for your DH to hang out with this girl during work hours, but if she's going to make it so obvious that she doesn't like you, I don't think he should hang out with her in the evenings. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dh-have-female-friends#post-544996 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 16:52:13 +0000 Dandelion 544996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband is a loner type...he only has a couple of guy friends, and the only friend who is a girl is the fiance of one of these guys. She's cool, though and I'm totally ok with her.</p> <p>However, if there was someone (man or woman) that had a problem with ME, I know that he wouldn't have anything to do with them. His family first, and I know that without a doubt. Anyone that makes me uncomfortable isn't ok in his book...and it goes the same way for me...if he doesn't feel comfortable with someone I hang out with, he would let me know and I would put my marriage first and not associate with them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dh-have-female-friends#post-544962 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 16:39:13 +0000 Ra 544962@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep! I like all of his female friends. He has one (his old boss) that he goes out to lunch with at least once a month. I love her though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dh-have-female-friends#post-544942 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 16:32:06 +0000 LuLu Mom 544942@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is friends with the girl who cuts his hair, she's very nice and just had a little girl a couple weeks ago, so our daughters will be in the same class. He also used to live with his best friend and his wife before we moved in togehter, and him and the wife are very close. We have also gotten very close and were in each others weddings (they weren't married when he lived with them.) Otherwise it is all guys. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dh-have-female-friends#post-544911 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 16:24:10 +0000 Pink Champagne 544911@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I find it hard to embrace the concept of this woman being your husband's "friend". She doesn't act like any friend I'd like to have.</p> <p>My husband has tons of female friends, and I don't care if he hangs out with them without me. I like all of them. But they don't act like that crazy co worker of your husband's, they act like normal women and therefore it's not an issue. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dh-have-female-friends#post-544889 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 16:16:35 +0000 Bookish 544889@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He has a few. They are all co-workers and are all very nice to me. We hang out as couples or at parties, but he's not interested in hanging out with just them, or them without me (which is good by me!). There is *one* co-worker who fawns on him at company parties (luckily once or twice a year I see her, or I'd claw her eyes out). DH thinks it's hysterical that I don't like her; I think it makes him feel good that I get jealous :p lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dh-have-female-friends#post-544625 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 15:07:31 +0000 mrsjazz 544625@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, one of his closest friends is a woman--she was his "Best Woman" at our wedding. He's always had more female friends than guy friends. I like his friends, I consider them my friends now, too.</p> <p>@septemberlove: I don't like this friend of your DH's. Not cool. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dh-have-female-friends#post-544615 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 15:04:46 +0000 littlek 544615@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septemberlove: She sounds jealous</p> <p>DH doesn't have any close female friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dh-have-female-friends#post-544608 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 15:03:07 +0000 lomom 544608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH told his team at work, which doesn't include her, and his boss but beyond that, he was happy to let it spread through the grapevine. She was at this event right after DH had announced (maybe 3-4 days before) and people kept coming up and congratulating me (DH was hanging out with his boss across the room, I'd been talking to one of his coworkers) and asking when we were due, if we were going to find out gender, if we had names, etc. and she was kind of awkwardly eavesdropping off to the side and she stormed up and was like "you're not pregnant! Are you?" and I was (I'll admit it) grinning the biggest shit-eating inyourface grin and I said "yes, DH and I are sooo excited!" and she was like "since when?!" her tone was just so mad, it wasn't friendly or excited or anything but angry. I told her we were 9.5 weeks and then she told me I shouldn't be telling since I could miscarry. I informed her that we'd heard the heartbeat and our OB told us that the chance of miscarriage after hearing the heartbeat was very low, and that DH was SOOO excited, he just couldn't wait to share the news! And for good measure I also threw in that DH had already bought and assembled the crib and dresser because he was just so excited!</p> <p>She stalked off after that and was visibly unhappy the rest of the evening. She left really early. </p> <p>I'll admit, I was very much haha-in-your-face about it once she came at me with such an angry tone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dh-have-female-friends#post-544457 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 14:22:57 +0000 JennyLayneAZ 544457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septemberlove: OMG if a woman was livid over my husband and I expecting, I'd be livid at him for thinking I was over reacting. This chick is NOT ok. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dh-have-female-friends#post-544419 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 14:13:26 +0000 Anagram 544419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septemberlove: she was livid when she found out you were expecting? details!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dh-have-female-friends#post-544412 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 14:12:24 +0000 lemondrop 544412@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, quite a few and I really like them! He went to vet school, which is like 90% female these days. His class is unique and not filled with too many type A's or anyone who would who would try to mess with our marriage, so they are a lot of fun at reunions and conferences.</p> <p>On the other hand, I do have a good guy friend whose wife I'm not a big fan of. We don't hang out with them much since she's very negative and pretty judgey over our parenting choices. It is unfortunate because they have a kid the same age as ours. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dh-have-female-friends#post-544381 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 14:04:57 +0000 yoursilverlining 544381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband's best friend of 20+ years is a woman. She and my husband talk almost everyday on the phone; she lives across the country so we only see her a few times a year; I'm sure if we lived closer they would do things together a lot and we would also hang out as couples a lot.</p> <p>It doesn't bother me that his best friend is a female. I like her, she likes me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dh-have-female-friends#post-544372 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 14:01:34 +0000 lomom 544372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NaturallyCathy: we've definitely talked about it. He knows I dislike her and so he never does anything one-on-one but he is a bit frustrated that I don't like him even going out in a group if she's there. He always asks me before going to anything she's going to be at. I trust him completely, I just hate her lol and I hate the idea of her touching him and stuff. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dh-have-female-friends#post-544353 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 13:55:34 +0000 lomom 544353@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: you made me lmao! thankfully she's rarely around anymore since changing jobs. This is the first time she's been an issue since a work event about 4 months ago (which was when she found out about us expecting, lol that's a whole 'nother can of worms! Suffice it to say she was livid. It was a very comical evening.) DH never hangs out with just her but he does like to go out with groups of coworkers for drinks and stuff like that every now and then, which she's almost always a part of. (She still works at the same company).</p> <p>He kinda thinks I'm just overreacting. Luckily he doesn't hang out with her much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dh-have-female-friends#post-544351 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 13:55:00 +0000 heffalump 544351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He does. He was friends with all of them before we met so its no biggie. We all get along..... but some I prefer for them to hang out without me. After all, they are friends, not me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dh-have-female-friends#post-544349 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 13:54:52 +0000 Mrs. Grizzly Bear 544349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH only has one female friend, the wife of one of his best friends. He's known her for years and if it weren't for her, we wouldn't even be dating! Even without having done that, though, she's an awesome person and I'm glad to know her.</p> <p>I totally agree with you though. If my DH had a 'friend' like that who acted like that way, I would tell him the exact same thing about 'don't expect to remain married...' She's obviously out to stir up trouble and cause grief. That's a really unhealthy friendship and I would talk to your husband about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dh-have-female-friends#post-544346 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 13:53:44 +0000 doxielove 544346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septemberlove: Oh, and btw, I would NOT be ok with some other chick touching my DH, regardless how close a friend she is. Not appropriate! Especially admitting she's jealous of your marriage...?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dh-have-female-friends#post-544341 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 13:52:18 +0000 doxielove 544341@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not really...I know he's friendly (texting, occassionally facebooking...) with a mutual ex-coworker of ours (we all used to work together) but that's about it. </p> <p>I'm kind of relieved he doesn't have any close female friends - I'm the jealous type so it would drive me nuts, as much as I hate to admit it!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dh-have-female-friends#post-544334 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 13:49:31 +0000 hummusgirl 544334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, he has a few female friends and I really like them all. He would actually like more male friends but hasn't made very many close guy friends since we moved to a new city. </p> <p>Sometimes he hangs out with girls one-on-one without me but it's always to do something that I wouldn't want to do anyway - see a horror movie, concert of a band I don't like, drinking late-night etc. It doesn't bother me because I trust him so completely, I know he's not attracted to them, and most of all, I'm friends with them too. When he has a social life, he's so much happier overall, so I'm happy he has these people to do things with especially now that we have a baby. His best girl friend is a lesbian so I really don't have to worry about that one! </p> <p>Your situation sounds completely different though and I don't blame you for not wanting him to hang out with her! She sounds awful! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dh-have-female-friends#post-544326 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 13:45:14 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 544326@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septemberlove: i'm not sure if you are even asking our opinion on your specific matter, so if you are not, then ignore me! But if you are:<br /> I fully agree with you. I'd be super annoyed. If she doesn't like you, DH shouldn't like her. Bottom line.<br /> And touching him? and inviting him to things that his SPOUSE is not able to come to? That's soooooo out of line. I can totally understand if you dislike this chick. Honestly, I'd work on cutting her out because people like this can be detrimental to a marriage. Even if DH has ZERO interest in her, she can still cause arguments and feelings of tension within your marriage, and that's just not fair to you and your marriage.<br /> I can "take care of her" for ya ;) if ya know what I mean *smack,smack!* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dh-have-female-friends#post-544318 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 13:42:13 +0000 MrsTiz 544318@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: +1 to every word of that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dh-have-female-friends#post-544316 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 13:41:50 +0000 Anagram 544316@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I have (had? ugh, it's hard to maintain friendships when you move cross country) more guy friends than DH has girl friends.</p> <p>He had a girl friend when we lived in Texas, and she was perfectly nice, so I didn't mind at all if he did something with her when I had other plans (I knew if I was free, I would be welcomed, too).</p> <p>BUT I have (had?) a guy friend that DH doesn't like because he's convinced the friend had a big crush on me, or did "inappropriate" things to me, like touching my arm too often, or what-have-you. But we disagreed about that, because I knew the friend before I knew DH, and he's like that with ALL women (I genuinely don't think it's flirtatious, I just think he gets along better with women), and he's cluless about relationships and what "not okay" to do once someone's in a relationship, and finally...we were both single at the same time and I feel like if he really DID secretly like me, he would have tried to do something in that time. Which he never, ever did. In fact, we never hung out alone---just in big groups.</p> <p>So I thought DH was too sensitive, and he thought I was missing "all the signs".</p> <p>So maybe it's similar to your situation, in reverse? Kinda? (or maybe I'm reaching here- lol). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dh-have-female-friends#post-544314 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 13:41:13 +0000 Alivoo01 544314@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup but they're mostly spouses of his buddies. He does have a few single lady friends, and while I'm not a fan of some of them, they don't bother me. If I have an issue with them, I tell the hubby what my beef is with them and he'll rectify the situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dh-have-female-friends#post-544311 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 13:40:32 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 544311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>um, no. That's just not OK with me.<br /> That being said, he is "friends" with all of his friends' wives and all of my best friends. By that I mean, we all go out as couples and they get along, talk and joke. But they don't communicate privately or when I'm not around. If things need to be said, they go through me. The only time he would ever call my friend or his friends wives is when he needs to find me or one of his buddies and relay a message. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dh-have-female-friends#post-544271 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 13:30:28 +0000 lovehoneybee 544271@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>None that I don't know/am friendly with as well. </p> <p>That behavior would not be okay with me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dh-have-female-friends#post-544259 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 13:27:33 +0000 hellobeeboston 544259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes... One of his best friends is a girl - and yes I like her!</p> <p>My best friends from high school are guys, including my BFF - but DH doesn't love him, but he likes him more every year.</p> <p>Each of our opposite sex BFs were in our wedding 1 guy with the bridesmaids and 1 girl with the groomsmen</p> <p>Oh - and that behavior is definitely not cool. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dh-have-female-friends#post-544244 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 13:23:04 +0000 MamaMoose 544244@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The only female friends he has that are "his" friends specifically are co workers. But I get along with them (one is coming to our house for the super bowl with her husband and baby girl). Hubs would have no desire to maintain a friendship with someone who didn't like me, male or female. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dh-have-female-friends#post-544242 Fri, 01 Feb 2013 13:22:37 +0000 plantains 544242@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, he has a few. I'm pretty friendly with all of them though. </p>