https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 07 May 2026 00:46:19 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dhso-like-your-cooking-even-if-its-not-like-his-mothers#post-343516 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 16:53:06 +0000 sarac 343516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is so sad! I'm lucky, I guess, in that my husband can't really stand his mother's cooking and loves mine. Maybe you two could talk about the kind of food he likes and figure out how you can cook it. Maybe your MIL could even teach you, if that wouldn't be too awful. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dhso-like-your-cooking-even-if-its-not-like-his-mothers#post-343494 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 16:43:27 +0000 Mrs. Pen 343494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ali: btw so sorry about your DH!! I know if my DH ever said that, I would end up crying in the bathroom... and I wouldn't allow him to order take out (by the way it's totally funny that you say take away lol!!). I hope things continue to get better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dhso-like-your-cooking-even-if-its-not-like-his-mothers#post-343488 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 16:39:41 +0000 Mrs. Pen 343488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH does NOT like his mothers cooking... He was SO happy to get married and move out because that meant no more of her cooking... sad but true.</p> <p>Actually he is QUITE the cook himself... dare I say even better than I. He enjoys it more as well. He told me he used to "fix" his mothers cooking :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dhso-like-your-cooking-even-if-its-not-like-his-mothers#post-343477 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 16:35:07 +0000 Cherrybee 343477@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Spaniellove: I think maybe I'm the one who brings his mother into it (and he just agrees).... she's a really tough act to follow! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dhso-like-your-cooking-even-if-its-not-like-his-mothers#post-343454 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 16:22:46 +0000 MaisyMay 343454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hubs will eat anything and lots of it, so he doesn't usually complain. His dad is a really good cook, but tends to make heavier meals. Most of what I make is lighter, which is nice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dhso-like-your-cooking-even-if-its-not-like-his-mothers#post-343432 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 16:13:34 +0000 mrsjyw 343432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm glad everything worked out!</p> <p>DH actually says he prefers my cooking because it's more to our palette. While we both love his mom's cooking, it's def a different type (all day cooking) vs my 30 min meals~ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dhso-like-your-cooking-even-if-its-not-like-his-mothers#post-343412 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 15:52:25 +0000 spaniellove 343412@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also wonder if he has distinct taste/food preferences that he hasn't been expressing properly, so he's just been explaining it away as his liking mother's cooking. It would be more helpful if he could sit down with you and describe what flavors or textures he likes. It's possible for a person to have strong preferences to the point that they feel physically overwhelmed when they encounter something different, and I bet you'd be willing to make small changes to accommodate him if he could try not to bring his mother into it so much! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dhso-like-your-cooking-even-if-its-not-like-his-mothers#post-343365 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 15:33:11 +0000 MediaNaranja 343365@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ali: I am in a similar boat. My DH grew up in Ecuador, and moved to the states when he was 31. He was already a picky eater to begin with. When we lived in Ecuador, I was fine with cooking and eating Ecuadorian-style food. This is because of our kitchen set-up (two small gas burners, two pots and a saute pan), which didn't allow for anything too complicated or "fancy," and also because we were pretty limited as to what ingredients we could find. As a result, we relied on the same 4-5 Ecuadorian dishes to sustain us.</p> <p>One of the things I was excited about once we moved back to the states was access to better kitchen equipment and a larger variety of ingredients. Only it turns out that DH doesn't like things that have too many herbs or spices. He doesn't like things that are bread-based. He gets really pissy if there is not rice. He doesn't like it if there is even a hint of sweetness to a dish. I could go on, but the jist is that he is a very picky eater. Forget about trying to go out to eat.</p> <p>It actually is a huge source of tension, especially because he gets in these extremely nasty moods if he is hungry. And he won't eat if it is something he doesn't like. And I refuse to make 2 separate meals, and I don't want to make Ecuadorian food every night (I need some variety!). The compromise we have come up with is that he cooks 3 night, I cook 3, and we go out on Fridays. No complaining is allowed. If you don't like what is prepared, you are not allowed to say anything, but you may make yourself something different later once the dishes are cleaned up.</p> <p>So I guess I don't really have any solutions, but I can sympathize! I'm glad you put your foot down with your DH, and hope things get better soon!</p> <p>ETA-just saw your update, glad everything worked out! Would love to see your curry recipe! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dhso-like-your-cooking-even-if-its-not-like-his-mothers#post-343359 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 15:31:10 +0000 Arden 343359@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>His mom cooks very traditional American food, period. She also doesn't use seasoning, or onions, in her cooking, so it's all extremely bland.</p> <p>My cooking is very international, and lots of seasoning and interesting flavors. </p> <p>We're very different, he likes both, but he says mine is better and I think he means it. I do occasionally PO'd at him when he adds ketchup or other condiments to perfect food and ruins it. </p> <p>Reading through your post though... I got kinda annoyed with your DH. He needs to suck it up and be polite, whether he likes it or not. I would tell him he's eating what you put on the table or nothing at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dhso-like-your-cooking-even-if-its-not-like-his-mothers#post-343351 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 15:29:15 +0000 blackbird 343351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm of the opinion that if someone makes you food, you should STFU and eat it, graciously. But it sounds like he was just being nice and didn't want to burden you with cooking, since he has previously done it so much :) </p> <p>You know what? These men didn't marry their moms, and that's ok! :) They should just be happy they are fed, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dhso-like-your-cooking-even-if-its-not-like-his-mothers#post-343320 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 15:14:52 +0000 Cherrybee 343320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for all the replies, everyone. Your responses gave me the courage to raise the subject properly with DH tonight. Whilst he does feel that my cooking isn't always up to his mum's standard, he denies "hating it" and actually said my curry is the best homemade curry he's ever had. He really does need to compliment my cooking more - he's quick to criticise! </p> <p>He explained that his suggesting take away is not, as I suspected, to get out of eating my cooking but because he doesn't have the energy to cook (because of his illness) and feels guilty for "making me" cook every evening. Of course, I have told him that I actually enjoy cooking.... </p> <p>So we both know how the other one feels now, which can only be a good thing. Fingers crossed for the future! </p> <p>Thanks again, everyone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dhso-like-your-cooking-even-if-its-not-like-his-mothers#post-343238 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 14:34:13 +0000 cyndistar3 343238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh gosh, I feel so sorry for you! I sometimes forget how blessed I am that dh's mom is a terrible cook therefore anything I ever make is like a gift from God to my husband lol! He will eat anything I cook with a smile on his face and a grateful heart :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dhso-like-your-cooking-even-if-its-not-like-his-mothers#post-343217 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 14:29:50 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 343217@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well my situation is a bit different then yours - I am literally the worst cook ever. I feel bad for DH. When he cooks it turns out great, but he doesnt too often. We end up eating out tooo much. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dhso-like-your-cooking-even-if-its-not-like-his-mothers#post-343209 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 14:27:50 +0000 heffalump 343209@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel for you. I had this problem more in the beginning of our relationship than I do now..... but with certain foods it still holds. Like with chicken soup. He prefers his mom's chicken soup even though it's bland and he always has to add a ton of salt to it. Mine is soooooo much better! But it's not his mom's so it's not what he likes. But you know what? I'm still going to make mine and if he wants soup bad enough, he'll eat it. </p> <p>I think the difference is that he doesn't want to hurt my feelings so he does eat it. And I do believe that as time goes on my cooking is growing on him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dhso-like-your-cooking-even-if-its-not-like-his-mothers#post-342544 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 10:39:36 +0000 blackbird 342544@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh yes, very much so. His grandma is The cook and she has a few signature dishes-I don't make anything similar! But he requests plenty of my dishes and is always gracious and let me know when he likes something. More than once, he's voiced his thanks on "forcing" him to eat healthier and try new things. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dhso-like-your-cooking-even-if-its-not-like-his-mothers#post-342503 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 10:16:48 +0000 Maysprout 342503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband loves to cook while cooking grew on me once I moved out of my parents and wanted to eat good meals again. We both had frustrations sometimes, especially in the beginning, he wanted to eat sausage with like every meal which hurt my stomach. He also had some 'helpful suggestions', which sometimes I found annoying but since I felt like I was still learning about cooking and he had been cooking for awhile I usually didn't take it like criticism. </p> <p>Our style has evolved a lot over the years, we're both mainly vegetarian, which is a far cry from the sausage days. And while both our parents are good cooks it's tickled me that he gets itchy to get back home and have some of 'our style' food after a few days. It's just what he's gotten used to and we have listened to each other over the years to figure out likes and dislikes. When we try new recipes we say what we like and dislike but we've learned how to express it in ways that don't offend, it's taken some time to perfect that technique though ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dhso-like-your-cooking-even-if-its-not-like-his-mothers#post-342430 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 09:53:50 +0000 tororojo 342430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, DH likes my cooking but thinks I make stuff too spicy...which is true. But I love spicy stuff! I try to hold back for him, though.</p> <p>*ETA* That's super rude that your husband won't eat your cooking! I'm sure he's not happy being unable to do things, but it's mean to insult your cooking and ridiculous to suggest takeout after you've cooked a meal! He shouldn't take things out on you like that and I'm sure your food is delicious (you would know, since you eat it!). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dhso-like-your-cooking-even-if-its-not-like-his-mothers#post-342412 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 09:47:37 +0000 autumnlove 342412@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL is a great cook that uses unhealthy ingredients. I try to sub some ingredients that are healthier and DH isn't always pleased but he will still eat it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dhso-like-your-cooking-even-if-its-not-like-his-mothers#post-342397 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 09:42:38 +0000 Alivoo01 342397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow! That's crazy! The fact that dinner is already cooked and ready to eat. It's not like you burnt the crap out of it - sheesh! I think that's just rude of him. I'm sorry you have to deal with it. Maybe sit him down and hash it out, and tell him as his wife, it really hurts you, etc.</p> <p>Hubby's mom is a great cook, and I definitely don't/can't cook like her, but he'll eat and enjoy what I do cook. He also has no problem telling me he's not a fan of something, but he'll eat it. Every person has their own flair of cooking, no two people can cook alike. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dhso-like-your-cooking-even-if-its-not-like-his-mothers#post-342375 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 09:32:16 +0000 doxielove 342375@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband is not a picky eater at all. That being said, I wouldn't say he *likes* my cooking necessarily, but he eats it. He is hispanic (I'm white), so he grew up with really yummy Mexican food all the time. I'm not so good at cooking Mexican lol. He playfully calls my tacos "white washed." lol. So in that regard I think he misses some of his fav dishes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dhso-like-your-cooking-even-if-its-not-like-his-mothers#post-342374 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 09:31:20 +0000 hilsy85 342374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That would really hurt my feelings...I mean, it's one thing if food is inedible bu it's another thing if it's just not the same food his mother cooked! For me it would be a respect thing as well--if I'm putting in the effort to make a nice meal for us, I expect him to appreciate it and eat it happily (especially if it's good, which it sounds like your food is!). As for my cooking vs my MIL"s, we cook very differently...she makes very traditional Russian foods, which I don't know how to make. It means that DH often craves things from his childhood that I can't reproduce, so he goes to their house to eat it. I find it somewhat annoying, but it's my own fault--I should just ask her for the recipes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dhso-like-your-cooking-even-if-its-not-like-his-mothers#post-342368 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 09:29:07 +0000 Cherrybee 342368@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>To clarify, I put my foot down on Sunday and said "No, we'll eat the diner I've made" and on the two occasions he ordered take away for himself it was before I had started cooking the meal I'd planned (he claimed he didn't fancy salmon and, last night, he didn't fancy vegetable chilli but I have a sneaking suspicion he just didn't facny anything I'd cooked). </p> <p>I have spoken to him about the way he critasises everything I cook (literally, he has a "helpful" suggeston for everything I make) and his response was that every guy loves his mother's cooking best because it's what they grew up with and nothing wil ever match. He always complains that I can't take critacism - and I really can't!! But I haven't had the conversation about him hating my cooking so much he'd rather eat pizza.... I do need to have that one! </p> <p>I love the idea of getting some recipies from his mum! As for getting him involved in meal planning, it's difficult because he's so indecisive (unless it's take away) - we can be in the supermarket and he still doesn't know what he wants to eat and, every suggestion I give, he says he doesn't fancy it. I could be offerring to cook his favourte meal and, right then, he doesn't fancy it. </p> <p>This is so difficult!! :-( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dhso-like-your-cooking-even-if-its-not-like-his-mothers#post-342333 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 09:10:48 +0000 Weagle 342333@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That would be so frustrating and would definitely make me mad. Maybe he could help you with some part of the meal planning/prep, so he felt like he still had a bit of control? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dhso-like-your-cooking-even-if-its-not-like-his-mothers#post-342304 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 09:01:52 +0000 Mrsbells 342304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ali: Wow have you spoken to him about it? I dont have this problem. so I cant relate but I know it must suck to feel that he doesnt like your food. </p> <p>I have a different style of cooking from his family but he loves my cooking too, somedays I will cook things "his way" and sometimes I will do it my way. There are certain dishes that we both acknowlegde his mom is better at than me, in the same way that my mom makes better soup than I do. But there are certain things I make that he loves so much he told his mom to come over and try it and she loved it too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dhso-like-your-cooking-even-if-its-not-like-his-mothers#post-342292 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 08:56:37 +0000 aprk 342292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I bet that is frustrating for you! What if he helped you meal plan, so he was still involved? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dhso-like-your-cooking-even-if-its-not-like-his-mothers#post-342288 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 08:55:50 +0000 Smurfette 342288@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My Mom isn't the best cook, so I didn't have a lot of teaching growing up. My MIL passed away before DH and I met, but he says that she was an amazing cook. DH cooks pretty well too. He has told me that I have gotten better over the years. </p> <p>I would be pissed if I cooked dinner and then he ordered a pizza. Even if he isn't in the mood for whatever I cook, he eats it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dhso-like-your-cooking-even-if-its-not-like-his-mothers#post-342279 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 08:52:59 +0000 MamaMoose 342279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow that would make me REALLY mad. My MIL has a few things that she makes really well but in general I actually think I'm a better cook than her and I'm pretty confident my husband would agree. But either way... if I went to the trouble of planning, buying, and preparing a meal for him my husband would NEVER order take out. That would be pretty insulting. Have you let him know that it's pretty hurtful to you when he does that? What does he say? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dhso-like-your-cooking-even-if-its-not-like-his-mothers#post-342272 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 08:47:25 +0000 Adira 342272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yikes! I'm so sorry you're dealing with this! I don't really have any advice. My MIL is also an amazing cook (so is my mother), but Hubs and I are both terrible in the kitchen. We both know how to make a few select dishes and we just make them over and over again.</p> <p>Maybe you could ask your MIL for a couple of recipes or something? Then just alternate between your own recipes and hers and hopefully your husband will appreciate the effort your making and stop being so picky about his food! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-dhso-like-your-cooking-even-if-its-not-like-his-mothers#post-342259 Tue, 16 Oct 2012 08:40:07 +0000 Cherrybee 342259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL is an amazing cook, there's no denying it and I think that this simple fact has created a challenge in our lives. </p> <p>Before meeting my DH, I always prided myself on being a great cook but right from the early days, every time I cooked for him,, he'd take over - adding a bit of this, a pinch of that, ingredients I wouldn't have used and insisting his version was better. I just let him do it (and lost a lot of culinary confidence) and, before I knew it, he was doing most of the cooking. </p> <p>Well, earlier this year, he got ill with an arthritic condition that makes him tired and in pain all the time - so he really doesn't feel up to cooking. Since the start of this year, we've spent almost £1000 on take away and I've put on 2 stone (DH had gained a lot of weight, too). </p> <p>Initially I thougt nothing of it - I just thought he fancied take away a lot- but since trying to get healthy for TTC I've been paying more attention and I think I know what the problem is: He hates my cooking but is too tired to cook himself :-( </p> <p>Over the last 5 days, I've pre-planned 5 meals and on two of those occasaions he has opted for take away instead, even if I go ahead and cook the pre-planned meal for myself (yes, you read right, I was eating baked salmon and he ordered a pizza). On Sunday, he even suggested take away when the meal was on the plates because he said the meat wasn't cooked properly and, once it was done to his satisfaction, the vegetables were overdone. </p> <p>Now I know I'm not as good a cook as his mother but I'm really not that bad, I'm sure.... anyone else face this? What on earth do I do?! </p>