https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 26 Apr 2026 19:59:13 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-have-lots-of-annoying-and-very-strong-opinions-about-your-pregnancyparenting#post-232308 Tue, 24 Jul 2012 11:40:09 +0000 MrsMccarthy 232308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow. I am so sorry you are going through that. I just can't imagine anyone being so backward as to find breastfeeding gross. Breastfeeding affects health, intelligence, bonding ability. It's absolutley one of the best things you can do for your child. You mother is obviously very ignorant about the whole thing. I am glad you are fighting her on this one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-have-lots-of-annoying-and-very-strong-opinions-about-your-pregnancyparenting#post-232284 Tue, 24 Jul 2012 11:35:18 +0000 kml636 232284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry! I would have to start avoiding them if I were you! I try not to bring up my more "controversial" decisions with people (natural labor, cloth diapering, etc) because I just don't want to hear unsolicited advice. Same thing with the name, we are telling no body the name for the same reasons! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-have-lots-of-annoying-and-very-strong-opinions-about-your-pregnancyparenting#post-231663 Mon, 23 Jul 2012 21:35:52 +0000 78h2o 231663@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How freaking annoying!!! I've been lucky so far... my parents and in-laws have been pretty good.</p> <p>My mom did read some article on msn about how important it is to mind your own business as a grandparent... it inadvertently showed up on her facebook feed as something she'd read, which made my sister and I laugh!</p> <p>ETA: Here was the article she read: <a href="http://living.msn.com/family-parenting/the-family-room-blog-post?post=58aa21c4-c41c-4e78-bb64-3169997f445f" rel="nofollow">http://living.msn.com/family-parenting/the-family-room-blog-post?post=58aa21c4-c41c-4e78-bb64-3169997f445f</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-have-lots-of-annoying-and-very-strong-opinions-about-your-pregnancyparenting#post-231252 Mon, 23 Jul 2012 13:14:43 +0000 Mrs. Train 231252@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I was struggling with breast feeding my twins my mom kept telling me all about formal, how it's fine, and how they could help feed them. Not that I didn't know that formula was ok. My oldest son was completely formula feed nd he's fine but I relly wanted to try. One of the days I was having a really hard time and a lot of pain she kept harping on the formula and I lost it. I screamed at her in tears as I was trying to tandem nurse these babies that if she didn't want to support me in what I was trying to do tht she could just leave.</p> <p>She looked at me in horror and explained that she was trying to support me. She just wanted me to know it was ok if it was too hard. I told her I needed her to tell me I could do it instead of telling me I can stop. She was much better after that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-have-lots-of-annoying-and-very-strong-opinions-about-your-pregnancyparenting#post-231242 Mon, 23 Jul 2012 13:07:21 +0000 birdofafeather 231242@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yikes! family is tough. we haven't had a lot of opinions yet, but i'm bracing myself. </p> <p>FWIW, i LOVE the name harper leigh! i love the name harper (but our friends JUST announced that their baby girl due in October is harper, so that's out) and i have always loved the name leigh. but in my circumstance, i love TKWM, so the association wouldn't bother me. it would probably bother me more that my mom was insisting on it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-have-lots-of-annoying-and-very-strong-opinions-about-your-pregnancyparenting#post-231240 Mon, 23 Jul 2012 13:05:24 +0000 ladyfingers 231240@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That sounds awful. I'm sure FIL will have plenty of unsolicited opinions. DH has already told me that he's sure his dad won't be happy when we tell him nobody can come see the baby until an hour after delivery because I want family bonding time. I told him, "I don't really care." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-have-lots-of-annoying-and-very-strong-opinions-about-your-pregnancyparenting#post-231058 Mon, 23 Jul 2012 11:11:48 +0000 LuLu Mom 231058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm lucky that our mom's have kept most of their opinions to their self through my pregnancy and our decisions. I have some friends though that think just because they had a child first that they know everything, and they drive me nuts. I know they are trying to help and be supportive, but it comes across as judgemental and bossy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-have-lots-of-annoying-and-very-strong-opinions-about-your-pregnancyparenting#post-230981 Mon, 23 Jul 2012 10:33:26 +0000 JessicaMcB 230981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom was really offended when I told her we weren't going to be co-bedding because she did it with us. My husband is a heavy sleeper who rolls and I don't want to add any SIDS risks to our lives- she told me SIDS is a myth and no one ever rolls on their baby...right.</p> <p>My BIL's girlfriend also has interesting ideas, and she has no living children. She's forever telling me that you should still drink, smoke, do pot and eat all restricted foods because the stress is worse for the baby than any of that is... Because I disagree (mostly because these behaviors definitively caused her 21 week loss and because I'm not crazy) I'm apparently the whacky one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-have-lots-of-annoying-and-very-strong-opinions-about-your-pregnancyparenting#post-230947 Mon, 23 Jul 2012 10:07:20 +0000 Foodnerd81 230947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh, and as for the BF thing-- at least you have plenty of people HB to support you, even if you mom doesn't! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-have-lots-of-annoying-and-very-strong-opinions-about-your-pregnancyparenting#post-230945 Mon, 23 Jul 2012 10:06:56 +0000 Foodnerd81 230945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not pregnant yet, but I have heard all about this sort of stuff from my sister. My mom is very distrustful of doctors, so she has all these theories about how they were wrong about the due date, this and that. She did BF all of us, so her judgy-ness comes more in not understanding how people can have a hard time with it or have it not work out. It's not very nice. She was also pretty judge-y about the name my brother picked for his son, to the point that she hoped they had a girl (team green). Now of course she is fine with it, but it was annoying. </p> <p>For the OP, I'd say, just tell your mom you are thinking of the middle name pretty heavily, but aren't deciding anything until you meet her. Then just say, oh she just didn't look like a Harper Leigh! (FWIW, I think that's pretty adorable, but yeah, people who assume you named her after the author, so I get it). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-have-lots-of-annoying-and-very-strong-opinions-about-your-pregnancyparenting#post-230766 Mon, 23 Jul 2012 07:42:38 +0000 mrsjyw 230766@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh sorry. Thankfully I haven't had too many comments like that to bear... but I'm bracing myself for when LO is actually here being that he will be the first grandchild for both mom and mil! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-have-lots-of-annoying-and-very-strong-opinions-about-your-pregnancyparenting#post-230642 Sun, 22 Jul 2012 21:59:20 +0000 BSB 230642@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom is really annoying to my brother and my SIL. I can't wait to have kids to hear the crazy stuff that comes from my mom. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-have-lots-of-annoying-and-very-strong-opinions-about-your-pregnancyparenting#post-230616 Sun, 22 Jul 2012 21:38:50 +0000 hilsy85 230616@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh sorry :( When my family brings up stuff that bothers me like that, I just try to say, "You know what, I'd rather not talk about it right now if that's okay." And then change the subject. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-have-lots-of-annoying-and-very-strong-opinions-about-your-pregnancyparenting#post-230592 Sun, 22 Jul 2012 21:15:36 +0000 Jumpingjacks 230592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom isn't that bad, but I am expecting my Dad's wife to be horrible. She expressed her opinions constantly when her own daughters first had their babies and that drove me nuts (and it wasn't even about me!). My plan is to not talk to her about it. And honestly, I'm going to keep quiet about our decisions among most of my older female relatives. I'm sorry that I'm invoking a stereotype, but I think it's often the women of our mothers' and grandmothers' generation who are the worst for this. I'm keeping to vague answers to questions (even with my mom) and I'm just going to do my own thing. We'll see how it goes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-have-lots-of-annoying-and-very-strong-opinions-about-your-pregnancyparenting#post-230574 Sun, 22 Jul 2012 20:44:37 +0000 Sweet T 230574@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: My grandmother told me the same thing about raising my arms! I was hanging some clothes in the closet and she told me this crazy story about how it "happened to her (insert relative here)" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-have-lots-of-annoying-and-very-strong-opinions-about-your-pregnancyparenting#post-230573 Sun, 22 Jul 2012 20:43:06 +0000 Sweet T 230573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom was not supportive about breastfeeding. It was awful! She was constantly nagging me about wanting to be able to feed DS. DH was deployed and I really needed support from her. After having some feeding issues added to that lack of support, I ended up switching to formula. I still regret the switch and can't help but place part of the blame on her for not supporting me. I so know how it feels to hear those comments! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-have-lots-of-annoying-and-very-strong-opinions-about-your-pregnancyparenting#post-230572 Sun, 22 Jul 2012 20:42:30 +0000 autumnlove 230572@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh. My mom told me I would have a miscarriage if I lifted my arms above my head. And the reason my milk came in late is because I refused to eat pigs feet...lol. Very annoying!</p> <p>Harper Leigh is so cute but I understand why it would bother you! Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-have-lots-of-annoying-and-very-strong-opinions-about-your-pregnancyparenting#post-230561 Sun, 22 Jul 2012 20:28:58 +0000 PrincessBaby 230561@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents have been driving me nuts about the middle name of our baby. They want me to use my mom's &amp; my middle name, which is Leigh. We have decided to name her Harper - middle name not totally decided. Harper Leigh won't work because - duh- Harper Lee wrote To Kill A Mockingbird, and this would totally urk me for like, my whole entire life. My parents bring it up every time I talk to them. I tell them no. Then they bring it up the next time. Rinse and repeat.</p> <p>My mom also is very animated about the fact that she thinks breastfeeding is "gross." And how everyone she ever knew who breastfed complained all the time because they just felt like a "Big Boob." I explain to her that BFing may not even work out for me, but I just want to try it bc, well, I personally think it's best for Harper and for me (weight loss). But she basically never shuts up about it. She even goes as far as to say that she won't be able to stomach me BFing around her. Awesome, right?</p> <p>Do your parents/family annoy the crap out of you with their opinions on you/pregnancy/parenting? </p>