https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 28 Jul 2026 05:35:19 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-respect-your-los-namenickname#post-950413 Sun, 21 Jul 2013 16:37:31 +0000 meganmp 950413@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septemberlove: I just talked to DH about this, and his response was (and I quote), "Screw it. You know what I would do? Not see them any more. I don't care, they need to know that she's serious, and they are not being cool." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-respect-your-los-namenickname#post-950407 Sun, 21 Jul 2013 16:34:21 +0000 meganmp 950407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septemberlove: We established before they were born (team green) that if it was a boy and a girl, they would be named John and Elizabeth, but they would go by Jack and Ellie. When they were born, we introduced them, as the walked in the door to my recovery room, as Jack and Ellie. Maybe it helps that a) there are a so many Johns in this family, another one would be confusing and b) Elizabeth is a long name- half the syllables, and fitting for a little girl. I'm so sorry they are not respecting your wishes! I'd be annoyed if everyone started calling Jack John. It would be frustrating. I especially think it would annoy me if DH loved the idea of a Junior so much that that is what he's calling him- it's disrespectful to call him something else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-respect-your-los-namenickname#post-949921 Sun, 21 Jul 2013 12:08:37 +0000 lomom 949921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sarac: I'd normally agree but because he's a Junior, them choosing to refer to him by what DH goes by makes things confusing, which leads to the lectures, which are beginning to make my blood boil. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-respect-your-los-namenickname#post-949820 Sun, 21 Jul 2013 11:14:22 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 949820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She's not here yet, but my dad tries out a different ridiculous nickname every time he sees me. He's totally kidding though - I think they'll be very good about using her full name when she's here. </p> <p>His current nickname for her? Shortening Kennedy to 'Edy'. He says its "hip". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-respect-your-los-namenickname#post-949759 Sun, 21 Jul 2013 10:52:09 +0000 sarac 949759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I mean, the lectures sound really rude. But I personally think that specifying the nickname that your child will be referred to is not appropriate. Everyone gets to build their own relationship with your child. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-respect-your-los-namenickname#post-949682 Sun, 21 Jul 2013 10:09:57 +0000 lomom 949682@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd be okay if they called him something like peanut as a term of endearment (my grandpa called me monkey) or whatever but they want to call him by what DH uses (and gripe at me for it being confusing) or a shortened version of the formal first name rather than Junior like we've asked. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-respect-your-los-namenickname#post-949625 Sun, 21 Jul 2013 09:53:47 +0000 MsLipGloss 949625@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, everyone uses her nickname. But my mom hated LO's name at first . . . until all her friends told her how much they loved it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-respect-your-los-namenickname#post-949610 Sun, 21 Jul 2013 09:43:52 +0000 wonderstruck 949610@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I was pregnant we had big issues with my FIL changing the middle name whenever he said it - he wanted us to use his first name (which is also DH's middle name and our nephew who is FIL's other gradson's middle name - and we really didn't want our LO to have the same middle name as his cousin!) That was quite annoying, but he dropped it before LO was born.</p> <p>I thought that Landon was pretty much un-nickname-able, but my brother found a way. Just drop the 'n' and it becomes a Star Wars reference! lol. Doesn't bother me though because I know he's just kidding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-respect-your-los-namenickname#post-948749 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 17:32:16 +0000 Smurfette 948749@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That would really annoy me. Luckily no one calls her anything but her name. Well except my SIL who calls her her baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-respect-your-los-namenickname#post-948741 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 17:27:26 +0000 Silva 948741@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom has a nickname for her that is different than the one we use. I don't mind, it's cute and I think it wil be special when she is older. My mom asked me if it was okay </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-respect-your-los-namenickname#post-948719 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 17:20:33 +0000 Boheme 948719@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My baby's name is hard to make a nickname out of - I haven't even stuck with a consistent one! But I have had family members on both sides complain that you can't make a nickname out of his name :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-respect-your-los-namenickname#post-948714 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 17:17:55 +0000 loveisstrange 948714@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep. We specified that if a nickname was to be used, it would be Charlie. People have stuck to that if they choose, but mostly everyone uses her full name. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-respect-your-los-namenickname#post-948691 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 17:03:00 +0000 Adira 948691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom is definitely not a fan of Xander's nickname. She almost always calls him by his full name, Alexander, which annoys me. BUT it is his name, so I try not to let it bother me too much. He's around us the most, so I think he'll associate his nickname to himself more than his full name, regardless of what my parents do! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-respect-your-los-namenickname#post-948675 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 16:55:44 +0000 stargal 948675@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>urgh that would be annoying. I was worried people would try to put his two intials together and call him PJ, which I hate ( no offense to any Pj's out there) but luckily they didn't! </p> <p>my mil use to call my lo junior and he's not a junior ;) lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-respect-your-los-namenickname#post-948673 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 16:55:25 +0000 autumnlove 948673@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Crumbs: I'm not a huge fan of it but LO won't stop saying it so I'm sure it will stick..haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-respect-your-los-namenickname#post-948642 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 16:30:55 +0000 Dandelion 948642@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS's dad calls DS by a nickname that DS hates. It's derived from his name, but he prefers to be called his full name. It drives us both crazy that he won't stop calling him that, even after we've both asked him to stop. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-respect-your-los-namenickname#post-948634 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 16:26:35 +0000 JerricaBenton 948634@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That would aggravate me, especially since you've made your wishes known. My MIL always calls LO by her formal name when we mostly use a nickname, but she barely sees us so it doesn't bother me that much. And it is her name. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-respect-your-los-namenickname#post-948628 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 16:24:09 +0000 lomom 948628@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meganmp: how did you introduce them? </p> <p>I think it's most aggravating because of how proud DH is to have a Jr. He just lights up every time he says Junior. He's gotten a few comments from family members too and I know it hurts his feelings. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-respect-your-los-namenickname#post-947996 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 09:35:53 +0000 SugarplumsMom 947996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: It's a really sweet nickname, it's just that my LO's name is Emily. So, it's a little unusual for it, plus of the girl I knew, which I'm sure was the one exception and all the others are nice and sweet &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-respect-your-los-namenickname#post-947995 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 09:35:51 +0000 meganmp 947995@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's demanded that they respect the nicknames, but I think that the way we introduced them is what helped. DS is a FIFTH (for the love of god...), so he kind of has to go by his nickname or else there would be massive confusion (his name is John, he goes by Jack). DD is Elizabeth, and Ellie just fits with a little baby, so that way easy. Sorry that your family is being so difficult! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-respect-your-los-namenickname#post-947992 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 09:31:07 +0000 Ginabean3 947992@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO is named Natalie and my SIL calls her Natie because she has another niece named Mathilde who she calls Matti and she likes the idea of having a Matti and a Natie. LOL. doesn't really bother me even though secretly I think of the beer Natty Ice.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-respect-your-los-namenickname#post-947981 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 09:20:39 +0000 autumnlove 947981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mil refused to call my older LO by her name for the first month...she called her the name she liked better.</p> <p>Everyone is ok now! </p> <p>@Crumbs: haha, that is my LO's nickname for the baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-respect-your-los-namenickname#post-947976 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 09:15:14 +0000 SugarplumsMom 947976@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My ex-MIL sometimes refers to DD as Mimi. I'm sure there's a lot of lovely Mimi's out there, but that name is forever tainted by a not-so-sweet Mimi I knew in school. I don't talk to her directly, so I haven't corrected her, but tried to relay the msg to my mom (they're good friends).</p> <p>P.s. She's a wonderful woman and I'm sure she'd stop if I just told her, but I can't help but cringe when I hear her say it (which only happens when I'm talking to my mom on the phone and she's in the background). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-respect-your-los-namenickname#post-947964 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 09:07:17 +0000 runsyellowlites 947964@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For the most part everyone just calls them by the name we gave them. My step mil does try to call P penny, which I hate, but we don't see them often. On the other side, my dad dad called ALL us grandkids by different names &amp; they were always pretty off the wall! Ie. G's name is Irving &amp; my name is a concoction of about 5 names put together... it was always enjoyed &amp; accepted though.</p> <p>G's bio-dad was a 2nd &amp; he really hated how the whole name thing went. His dad went by Tom &amp; he ended up going by Tommy which made him feel like a little kid even when grown. I'm sure the whole 2nd/3rd/Junior circumstance creates a whole new level of stress when it comes to family &amp; what a child is called. :/ Hope you can get your family to stop going against you guys though.. that was peeve me tons! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-respect-your-los-namenickname#post-947958 Sat, 20 Jul 2013 09:02:53 +0000 lomom 947958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine definitely doesn't and I continuously correct them at 3 months. </p> <p>LO is a Jr. and we call him Junior. They HATE it, but they all have nicknames like Bean and Roon. I don't see why Junior is such a hideous nickname in their eyes compared to Bean and Roon. They refer to him by his full first name a lot, which is what DH goes by, so I get confused and that leads to a lecture about why having a Jr. was a terrible idea. Eventually we will call him a shortened version of his first name but for now, we like Junior (well, actually we call him baby, little man, big boy, etc. more than we call him Junior). </p> <p>If theyd just call him by the nickname his parents have given him, there wouldn't be any confusion so the lectures really piss me off. They named and nicknamed all their kids, I get to name and nickname mine!</p> <p>End rant. </p> <p>Are your families respectful of your name and nickname choices? </p>