https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 11 Apr 2026 08:54:37 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-say-anything-about-your-family-plans#post-2415804 Sun, 10 Jan 2016 14:35:19 +0000 Finfan 2415804@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, not really. We have 2 and May or may not have one more and I can't imagine them being anything but excited if we did. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-say-anything-about-your-family-plans#post-2415795 Sun, 10 Jan 2016 14:23:25 +0000 Tanjowen 2415795@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both sets of parents are adamant we can't stop at one. After my recent miscarriage I think my MIL is scared we won't have another so we get lots of talks about how it'd be hard to grow up without a sibling. Thanks a bunch, we'll get right on that. My siblings both have 3 kids. They don't ask but seem to assume we will have more kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-say-anything-about-your-family-plans#post-2415680 Sun, 10 Jan 2016 12:28:49 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2415680@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Every once in awhile my mom tries to convince me. She says, "even if it's another girl, just have another" and it always rubs me the wrong way. We don't plans to add another, but if we did, I'd prefer to have another girl! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-say-anything-about-your-family-plans#post-2415678 Sun, 10 Jan 2016 12:24:25 +0000 LilSprinkles 2415678@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH's side of the family doesn't say anything. Mine, all the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-say-anything-about-your-family-plans#post-2415634 Sun, 10 Jan 2016 11:15:44 +0000 lady baltimore 2415634@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've mostly been hearing, "we didn't even think you wanted kids!" :silly: (LO is five weeks old.) Nothing in the way of sibling pressure yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-say-anything-about-your-family-plans#post-2415571 Sun, 10 Jan 2016 09:39:22 +0000 fancyfunction 2415571@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thankfully neither my parents or MIL ever said anything or asked when we would have a baby, how many, etc. They're respectful of that and never pressured for grandchildren but were all over the moon when we announced both M and my current pregnancy. And now we're done ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-say-anything-about-your-family-plans#post-2415535 Sun, 10 Jan 2016 09:05:38 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2415535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: holy moly 4! </p> <p>My mom will say things like, you've got plenty of room in that minivan for another. But no pressure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-say-anything-about-your-family-plans#post-2415525 Sun, 10 Jan 2016 08:56:31 +0000 Applesandbananas 2415525@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We sometimes get comments from ILs about more, families of 5+ are pretty common for them, so stopping at 1 is really odd to them. They don't know yet about LO2. I feel like for the most part, they're not being judgy or pushy, I think they get that it's a different set of circumstances with 2 FT WOH parents and daycare expenses and stuff. </p> <p>My mom barely acknowledges LO so I don't know if she has an opinion. She also doesn't know about LO2.</p> <p>My dad wants us to have a girl. He adores LO but I was daddy's little girl and he really treasured that and wants DH to experience it too. He knows about LO2 and is so thrilled for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-say-anything-about-your-family-plans#post-2415514 Sun, 10 Jan 2016 08:46:48 +0000 lawbee11 2415514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. They're all supportive of whatever we decide and trust us to make the best choices for our family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-say-anything-about-your-family-plans#post-2415506 Sun, 10 Jan 2016 08:35:40 +0000 MrsKoala 2415506@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They know we want more than one but they have never expressed opinions about when to have another or how many we should have. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-say-anything-about-your-family-plans#post-2415464 Sun, 10 Jan 2016 06:56:41 +0000 Foodnerd81 2415464@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think most people are happy we had more than one, but also would have been fine if we had stopped at one- my brother and sister both just have one kid and no know my parents thing more is better (I'm one of five kids after all) but they also know the parents have their own reasons. We were always open about wanting to have more than one kid so there wasn't any outside pressure. I think if we decided to have a third everyone would be supportive (but with this current difficult 3 week old that is NOT happening). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-say-anything-about-your-family-plans#post-2415461 Sun, 10 Jan 2016 06:30:25 +0000 travellingbee 2415461@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No one says much besides my mom who firmly says each time it (jokingly)comes up that we should stop at 2. We definitely are done at 2 so I don't know why she says that everytime. She had 2 and thinks it's perfect. Plus they are getting older and she is scared of being overwhelmed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-say-anything-about-your-family-plans#post-2415457 Sun, 10 Jan 2016 05:49:43 +0000 Andrea 2415457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They think two is perfect and tell us not to have any more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-say-anything-about-your-family-plans#post-2415443 Sun, 10 Jan 2016 03:40:47 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2415443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They don't say much but I get the feeling they want us to stop at two because they seem supportive of that when we say we are stopping. We're both from two kid families (plus half siblings so not really but for most of the time) so it's not surprising... But if we ever make a lot of money and the timing is right we kind of want a third now. :shocked: I never thought I'd say that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-say-anything-about-your-family-plans#post-2415418 Sun, 10 Jan 2016 00:22:06 +0000 autumnlove 2415418@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents are happy with 3 and my MIL wants us to have another. She wants to hear a pregnancy announcement at the end of the year/early next year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-say-anything-about-your-family-plans#post-2415394 Sat, 09 Jan 2016 23:28:06 +0000 lilteacherbee 2415394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom think we should stop at 2 or at the very least wait awhile before trying again (like 2-3 more years). My boys are 20 months apart and the youngest is 5 months. We're considering a similar age gap for future #3 and my mom is not a fan of that plan. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-say-anything-about-your-family-plans#post-2415392 Sat, 09 Jan 2016 23:25:33 +0000 nana87 2415392@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mil has never said anything and won't. My parents know we want another but never push. I think my sil (brother's wife) is the only one who has ever directly asked me, but in a friendly way, not pressure-y! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-say-anything-about-your-family-plans#post-2415381 Sat, 09 Jan 2016 23:14:25 +0000 Raindrop 2415381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Every one in my direct family thinks we should stop bc of things they know we went through but out side of that every else thinks we should try for a girl. :) I tell people we will see. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-say-anything-about-your-family-plans#post-2415369 Sat, 09 Jan 2016 22:59:18 +0000 LCTBQE 2415369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>a fair amount of pressure from my parents, just to me and not to "us". telling them about my first miscarriage put an end to that. it was out of love because they know I want children and I think just don't want me to wait too long, and weirdly it wasn't that annoying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-say-anything-about-your-family-plans#post-2415360 Sat, 09 Jan 2016 22:48:42 +0000 Lilbear 2415360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Many of our family members assume (and comment) on how we are done with two simply because we have one of each gender. We personally don't give a crap about genders and are considering having a 3rd in the future (obviously depending on how well having 2 kids goes). I haven't shared this with them just to spare ourselves the comments. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-say-anything-about-your-family-plans#post-2415358 Sat, 09 Jan 2016 22:47:30 +0000 MOMTOLITTLEB 2415358@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both of our moms say they want a little girl in the family- but my mom has a chance of one of my sisters having a girl someday too so it's not directed at us. My MIL isn't pushy but would like another grandchild. Even though we are leaning towards having another I just say maybe someday. I don't want to disappoint them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-say-anything-about-your-family-plans#post-2415349 Sat, 09 Jan 2016 22:35:52 +0000 alphagam84 2415349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We received a lot of pressure from MIL about having a baby. It got so bad that DH finally had to have a conversation about it and told her we wouldn't be able to see her anymore if it kept up. Totally worked and she didn't bring it up again. We just had a baby so she's finally happy and no one (other than my sister who I don't mind doing it) has brought up us having a second yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-say-anything-about-your-family-plans#post-2415328 Sat, 09 Jan 2016 22:15:55 +0000 Mrs. J 2415328@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My dad has requested twin girls lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-say-anything-about-your-family-plans#post-2415326 Sat, 09 Jan 2016 22:15:36 +0000 Synchronicity 2415326@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They all would like us to have had a baby a year ago :silly: Sorry 'bout your luck, folks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-say-anything-about-your-family-plans#post-2415319 Sat, 09 Jan 2016 22:12:19 +0000 Mrs.KMM 2415319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom jokes that we should provide her with another grandchild soon. She knows that we want more kids though. And she's not actually pressuring, just joking around! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-say-anything-about-your-family-plans#post-2415305 Sat, 09 Jan 2016 21:58:14 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 2415305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They are happy to hear me say that I want another. No one in our family has just one child so they all think being one and done is terrible! Before DD was born I had no clue if I would want to go through treatments again and was vocal about that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-say-anything-about-your-family-plans#post-2415300 Sat, 09 Jan 2016 21:54:58 +0000 yin 2415300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>People ask, and I tell them I'm happy with two. Most think we should go for a third to try for a girl. No thank you. The good thing is that most don't push the issue. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-say-anything-about-your-family-plans#post-2415291 Sat, 09 Jan 2016 21:50:16 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 2415291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mil thinks we should be done because 3 is just "too much." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-say-anything-about-your-family-plans#post-2415287 Sat, 09 Jan 2016 21:46:19 +0000 sera_87 2415287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I get everything from 'don't have another' to 'thank goodness' when I tell them we're taking a break for a few years. Family, man. 😒 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-family-say-anything-about-your-family-plans#post-2415234 Sat, 09 Jan 2016 20:59:37 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2415234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've been open about wanting three and no one has flat out said don't do it, but I have noticed a concerned look across faces. :meh: </p>