https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 01:49:03 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-heart-break-every-morning#post-1518093 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 15:48:37 +0000 anandam 1518093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@californiadreams: Haha yeah it's sort of pathetic. Maybe it's also pregnancy hormones? We're hoping for 6mos maternity. That's the max they'll hold my position and I think we can swing it financially. So at least I'll get some good time home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-heart-break-every-morning#post-1518056 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 15:39:42 +0000 californiadreams 1518056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anandam: oh no! how long of a mat do you get? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-heart-break-every-morning#post-1518051 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 15:36:59 +0000 anandam 1518051@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I cry on my way out the door most days just saying bye to DH and our cat, so God help me once this baby comes. I can only imagine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-heart-break-every-morning#post-1517823 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 14:28:08 +0000 plantains 1517823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. She gets up early so I have about 3 hours with her in the morning before drop off. When I drop her off she is always so excited to see her friends so we have a good parting. After I pick her up we have another couple of hours together so I feel like we have lots of time for fun during the week too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-heart-break-every-morning#post-1517791 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 14:14:40 +0000 californiadreams 1517791@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swurlygurl: yes, i understand. Our nanny is amazing with LO and he seems perfectly happy with her. sometimes when he is crying and i have to leave, i wait outside the door and listen and he stops within a minute. our nanny is really good at distracting him and getting him happy again..... but i miss him and often in the morning i would rather stay home with LO than go to work! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-heart-break-every-morning#post-1517570 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 13:18:28 +0000 swurlygurl 1517570@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes :(</p> <p>Not in the guilty way though - I am 100% okay with leaving her at daycare. Her daycare provider is a very close friend of ours, and she has a blast playing with the other kids.<br /> My heart breaks because she's so stinkin' cute and I just miss her so much and I'd rather play with her than sit at my desk for 9 hours. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-heart-break-every-morning#post-1517554 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 13:13:38 +0000 LuLu Mom 1517554@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Monday's are always hard because she likes to sleep in so we are rushed and I don't get my morning snuggles. I know I'm doing what I can for her &amp; she loves daycare, so I just have to keep that in mind. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-heart-break-every-morning#post-1517487 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 12:55:08 +0000 PurplePeony 1517487@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel bad saying it, but not most days (there are always those random really really hard days). I see her in the middle of the day, though, because I nurse her at lunchtime. And due to my DH's hours, he usually picks her up by 2 and she spends the rest of the afternoon with him so she's only away from both of us for 5 hours or less per day. I'm always antsy to get home at the end of the day, but I'm comfortable with our setup. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-heart-break-every-morning#post-1517019 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 10:51:38 +0000 sotofamilia 1517019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@californiadreams: yes, it does. Especially because my husband worked all weekend and our playgroup was canceled so we got to just hang out all weekend. This morning, our nanny said to him "come say goodbye, mama has to go to work" and I died a little inside. We have family that watches him and he's doing awesome, so that makes me feel a lot better...but I get jealous of women who are happy in their situation...not necessarily home or working, just happy with their set-up. I hope to also go part-time after the next baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-heart-break-every-morning#post-1517014 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 10:50:47 +0000 Madison43 1517014@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup. I like to work, and need to work to preserve my sanity, but am still drowning in mom guilt. I've only been back a few months though, so hoping it gets better. I also find myself irrationally annoyed with out nanny that she gets to spend all day with my baby. Considering I'm the one that pays her to do this, I fully recognize that it's crazy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-heart-break-every-morning#post-1516967 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 10:40:26 +0000 californiadreams 1516967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mamimami: i understand that. I am working to support my kids/family too....but we could manage with me part time and DH full time. My job is a full time position and it is early in my career, so i need the experience (and the benefits for my next mat leave!). I don't think i could stay home permanently (that's why i am planning to do part time in the future), i didn't feel LO or I were ready after just a year so it has been hard. though i admit i am more used to it as time goes on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-heart-break-every-morning#post-1516952 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 10:37:16 +0000 yoursilverlining 1516952@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I very rarely feel sad/heartbroken dropping LO off. I really don't have any "mom-guilt" about daycare. As a mom, it isn't my job to be there 24/7 to care for her, it's my job to make the decision about what care during the day is best for LO. Would she get more out of hanging out alone with me all day and attending a few short group activities/classes, or does she get more out of being immersed in activities with several other peers? What is best for me, mentally and financially? Those answers are clear to me, so I don't feel guilty about them! </p> <p>I do often miss her during the day, but I don't feel guilty about that :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-heart-break-every-morning#post-1516942 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 10:34:29 +0000 shellio 1516942@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, it isn't hard for me to leave. It is rare that my kids are up before I leave for work, though, so I think that makes it a lot easier. Saying goodbye to them when they're awake is harder. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-heart-break-every-morning#post-1516912 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 10:23:43 +0000 littlek 1516912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The days he cries are tough, but most days are fine. He really loves it there. I wish I worked less and could pick him up earlier though.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-heart-break-every-morning#post-1516900 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 10:20:17 +0000 MrsKoala 1516900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-heart-break-every-morning#post-1516897 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 10:19:54 +0000 Alivoo01 1516897@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yes!! monday's always suck! Weekends go by much too quickly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-heart-break-every-morning#post-1516856 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 10:04:13 +0000 mrsjazz 1516856@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mondays are normally hard. This Monday wasn't though! LO had the worst tantrums and sleep ever so I was happy to hand her over to her nanny. :silly: </p> <p>But my heart breaks almost every morning. I've just gotten used to it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-heart-break-every-morning#post-1516831 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 09:56:57 +0000 mamimami 1516831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I honestly don't feel this way although Mondays can be a little tough. I am working to support my kids and to maintain my own sanity! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-heart-break-every-morning#post-1516735 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 09:34:43 +0000 blackbird 1516735@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, I don't feel this way. Sorry you're having a rough monday, though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-heart-break-every-morning#post-1516729 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 09:33:47 +0000 tinyperson 1516729@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@californiadreams: Honestly, S loves daycare. She's happy to go — but, she's equally happy when we come to pick her up — and that makes all the difference. I'm comfortable knowing she's having fun and learning so much there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-heart-break-every-morning#post-1516704 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 09:29:20 +0000 looch 1516704@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, no. I have learned to compartmentalize my son's behaviour, because if I didn't, I'd be mentally unable to continue. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-heart-break-every-morning#post-1516667 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 09:22:25 +0000 californiadreams 1516667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@septca: i get what you mean. since the time changed, LO has been sleeping in more and we get less time in the mornings, I think that is why he has been more clingly. He has been having a hard time at bedtime too so we are experiemting this week with waking him earlier in the mornings. hopefully it gets better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-heart-break-every-morning#post-1516664 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 09:21:02 +0000 californiadreams 1516664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>in general i just have so much mom guilt about working full time. I wonder if i will feel better about it when he starts daycare in a co uple of months. I love our nanny, but i feel bad leaving because i feel like it should be MY job to stay with him at home and take care of him until he goes to daycare/school...sigh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-heart-break-every-morning#post-1516650 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 09:19:26 +0000 californiadreams 1516650@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Periwinkle: I am going to have to deal with that tomorrow because our nanny needed the day off so we have a back up coming in :(</p> <p>@autumnlove: fridays are definitely amazing here too - i finish work an hour early! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-heart-break-every-morning#post-1516646 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 09:18:36 +0000 septca 1516646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's funny for me, but it's either total heartbreak or I can't drop her off fast enough. There's no middle ground. :wink: </p> <p>DD slept in super late this morning, so I barely got to see her before it was time to leave. Days like this break my heart. But other mornings, when she is super clingy or cranky or does not want to eat breakfast... those days I am so excited to hand her over to our nanny (who she loves) so I can enjoy a cup of coffee in peace. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-heart-break-every-morning#post-1516612 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 09:13:23 +0000 Periwinkle 1516612@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am generally OK leaving LO with his caregiver because I can see how happy he is there. This morning, though, his caregiver was sick so we had to use our backup. He is not as familiar with her and did not want me to leave. That broke my heart into a million pieces as I left.</p> <p>@tinyperson: me too, this morning! It helped to ease my mommy heartache a bit too :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-heart-break-every-morning#post-1516608 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 09:13:02 +0000 Cherrybee 1516608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's Sunday nights for me, after I've put her to bed. I look at her sleeping on the monitor and I feel really sad that the weekend is over and I wont get to hang out with her properly again until the following Saturday. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-heart-break-every-morning#post-1516591 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 09:10:15 +0000 autumnlove 1516591@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@californiadreams: I watch the clock on Friday afternoons.... countdown to daycare pickup! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-heart-break-every-morning#post-1516585 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 09:09:30 +0000 rachiecakes 1516585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@californiadreams: YES! Mondays are the worst. But before you know it it'll be Friday again :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-heart-break-every-morning#post-1516571 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 09:07:55 +0000 californiadreams 1516571@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tinyperson: nice! </p>