https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Apr 2026 21:10:08 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-go-to-others-easily#post-590073 Sun, 24 Feb 2013 13:04:06 +0000 lomom 590073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hope LO only wants me :) lol I'm selfish, I admit it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-go-to-others-easily#post-589990 Sun, 24 Feb 2013 11:59:32 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 589990@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Honeybee: he's a pretty mellow guy, and it is always so nice to get some boy snuggles. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-go-to-others-easily#post-589772 Sun, 24 Feb 2013 07:07:23 +0000 Honeybee 589772@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: It's funny because DD has gone through a few very distinct stranger danger stages but DS's version of strangers danger is just a very strong momma preference. He's ok being apart if I'm out of the room, but if I'm around, he usually wants to be right with me. (Which is why it was so nice I got a little babt free time at your house last week!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-go-to-others-easily#post-589713 Sun, 24 Feb 2013 01:12:50 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 589713@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlek: not necessarily, but it will be important to teach her to be wary of strangers as she gets older for her own safety. Outgoing temperament is fine, but it's those kids who climb into my arms and snuggle me as their pediatrician without regard to their caregiver where I worry about whether they ate getting the bonding they need at home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-go-to-others-easily#post-589671 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 23:57:45 +0000 banana 589671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DD is going through some major stranger anxiety. She screams like there's no tomorrow when anyone other than my mom, DH or I hold her. I feel bad whenever someone holds her and she starts bawling her eyes out. Glad it's an appropriate developmental stage for babies. Because it makes me feel SO bad for other people who have to deal with her stranger anxiety! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-go-to-others-easily#post-589641 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 23:17:08 +0000 luckypenny 589641@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. She loves attention from everyone! She's also only 10 months old so I'm sure if she doesn't have stranger danger it doesn't mean she isn't well adjusted. Our ped said she loves how consistentt happy and cooperative she is. I do notice she is a bit more apprehensive with men only because she's not around very many </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-go-to-others-easily#post-589628 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 23:03:23 +0000 hilsy85 589628@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO in general is cautious of new people. He doesn't cry or turn away, but he is very serious and watches them intensely. If we hand him to someone he doesn't know, he has recently begun to turn out his lower lip and start to whimper, which is just about the saddest sight in the world! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-go-to-others-easily#post-589618 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 22:51:11 +0000 regberadaisy 589618@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaCate: hahah yup she does the same. But when we go to restaurants she will pick a table to just stare at the entire time we'r e there until they pay attention to her then she smiles and laughs. hahah she's so weird. Then if someone new walks into the room she will literally crane her neck to follow them till they are out of her sight. But she only does this when we're out eating. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-go-to-others-easily#post-589600 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 22:36:55 +0000 MamaCate 589600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: Glad I am not the only one! I feel like people have to "earn" her smiles but it is worth the effort! She is always staring down people at the grocery store or when we are out and about and it is too funny! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-go-to-others-easily#post-589579 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 22:17:53 +0000 regberadaisy 589579@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaCate: this is exactly what my daughter does! haha she "stares" them down before deciding they're worthy of a smile! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-go-to-others-easily#post-589578 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 22:15:28 +0000 MamaCate 589578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: I was actually thinking of your story when I wrote that but was too lazy to go back and add you in to reply! When my grandma came to visit LO, she did this constantly and I felt bad always stealing her away, but I didn't want her to be miserable, so I ended up playing interference. I'd leave her in there for a little bit and kept making excuses to steal her away--oh she needs to nurse, needs a new diaper, needs a break--to keep everyone sane. So tiring! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-go-to-others-easily#post-589575 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 22:12:00 +0000 PrincessBaby 589575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaCate: i think you nailed it- my LO got overstimulated by my family for sure...They just didn't want to give her up until she was in full- on freakout mode. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-go-to-others-easily#post-589574 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 22:11:13 +0000 littlek 589574@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO doesn't have stranger anxiety but he's been around a lot of people his whole life. First he was treated by a different NICU nurse every shift and now he's in daycare with multiple teachers. He has no issues being held by other people, he's a big cuddler. Does this mean may baby is not well adjusted because he doesn't have stranger anxiety? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-go-to-others-easily#post-589571 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 22:09:38 +0000 MamaCate 589571@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think some of this may be environment but some is definitely temperament. My lo has always been fairly cautious and watchful at first with people, even those she knows. We had friends over tonight and she had to stare them down and " check in" with DH and I several itimes before deciding they were worthy of smiles. If we encourage her but let her take her time she warms up pretty quick.</p> <p>Sometimes when relatives/others arent sensitive to the babys cues it ends up being overstimulating and they dont have the chance to warm up at their own speed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-go-to-others-easily#post-589564 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 22:02:38 +0000 regberadaisy 589564@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO is at the stage now where she is a little wary when going to new people but she doesn't freak out either. She'll warm up after a little while though. I don't think there's anything wrong with that.</p> <p>Our family doesn't live close either so she's not exposed to a ton of people all the time but she does go to daycare so that might be why her stranger danger anxiety is less. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-go-to-others-easily#post-589550 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 21:58:18 +0000 betsyboop 589550@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: This is very reassuring to read because my LO always freaks when we're at the pediatrician's office and I always feel bad.<br /> I'm also on the shy side and I think my LO takes after me. She developed stranger anxiety quite early. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-go-to-others-easily#post-589534 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 21:44:28 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 589534@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: crap! CLASSmates</p> <p>iPhone! Sorry :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-go-to-others-easily#post-589523 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 21:34:55 +0000 PrincessBaby 589523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jump Rope: lol, assmates:). Best typo ever! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-go-to-others-easily#post-589522 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 21:33:43 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 589522@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: Chloe has no concept of stranger danger. We visited my sister this weekend and had lunch on her college campus. Chloe reached up to be held by two of my sisters assmates. I've never met these people before!</p> <p>It makes me nervous! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-go-to-others-easily#post-589512 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 21:23:29 +0000 skibobrown 589512@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our daughter is pretty good with strangers. I haven't ever seen her cry because of new people. However, she is definitely shy around new people, and she likes to "hide" by laying her head on my chest at first, when she meets new people. I think it's sweet b/c it's one of the only times that she ever wants to snuggle with me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-go-to-others-easily#post-589504 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 21:18:57 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 589504@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sammyfab: I think in large family situations where the baby is constantly exposed to GPs, aunts, uncles they may be accustomed to those people... but when I see a baby who screams when I come into the room, I think of it as a great sign of a well adjusted baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-go-to-others-easily#post-589467 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 20:51:18 +0000 Sammyfab 589467@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: your words are reassuring!! </p> <p>My LO gets pretty anxious when he sees me walk away and when he is in other people's arms at times (not always). We run errands and see people everyday, go to playgroups weekly, and I always encourage interaction with other people. I don't think stranger danger is *caused* by parents or that you can do anything special to prevent it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-go-to-others-easily#post-589457 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 20:44:52 +0000 PrincessBaby 589457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We went home last weekend to see my family and it was the first time aunts/cousins/grandmothers met LO...They were all excited and there were practically fights over who would hold her, and she kept looking at all their faces and getting super fussy. My aunt walked over to me with her, and my not quite 3month old literally lunged at me...I took her and my aunt kept looking at her and trying to talk to H, and then she lunged toward my opposite shoulder to get away from my aunt! I don't know if more exposure helps them get over it...That was pretty constant for 5 days and she didn't seem to get used to everyone in her face. My mom called me a Baby Hog, but it was really more that LO was being a Mommy Hog:) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-go-to-others-easily#post-589455 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 20:44:38 +0000 chopsuey 589455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep. She's never had stranger anxiety. She's a social butterfly! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-go-to-others-easily#post-589444 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 20:38:03 +0000 heffalump 589444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My lo started stranger anxiety early and its gotten better, but still here. When she was around 4 months all of a sudden if someone other then dh and I looked at her she screamed at them. No exaggeration. Now she's 19 months and people can play with her and talk to her and she will smile and talk to them, but if they try to pick her up she screams, except for her grandparents. These include people that she sees weekly. </p> <p>I was always very shy, she takes after me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-go-to-others-easily#post-589443 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 20:37:26 +0000 LaughLines 589443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>this LO wouldn't even go to his grandparents who babysit him for a full day 2x a week - maybe he's just shy, too, or nervous because there were a lot of people around </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-go-to-others-easily#post-589436 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 20:32:22 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 589436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Stranger danger is very appropriate in babies. I worry when they don't have it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-go-to-others-easily#post-589427 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 20:27:44 +0000 Weagle 589427@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She doesn't. She's around people other than DH and me quite a bit, but she's pretty shy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-go-to-others-easily#post-589397 Sat, 23 Feb 2013 20:12:39 +0000 LaughLines 589397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My cousins kids have very large families and are always being passed around between cousins/aunts/uncles/friends/etc, and the LOs are completely fine with it. However, today I was at a family function with a different side of the family and a cousin's baby would not go to anyone but his dad (mom wasn't there - they're divorced). I think it may be because they're a smaller family and the LO hasn't been exposed to as many people. </p> <p>Have any of you intentionally tried to help your LO be more accepting of going to others, even if he/she doesn't "know" them (like cousins that aren't around every single week)? </p>