Hellobee Boards Topic: Does your LO hit when frustrated?

Hellobee Boards Topic: Does your LO hit when frustrated? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 05 Apr 2026 12:51:13 +0000 BoogieBea on "Does your LO hit when frustrated?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-hit-when-frustrated#post-135887 Tue, 24 Apr 2012 17:10:38 +0000 BoogieBea 135887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ LO used to hit us too when he was younger. He doesn't do that as much anymore now that he can express himself verbally. We tell him "hands are not for hitting" and redirect his hands and say something like "hands are for waving bye bye". It's from a book we have called "hands are not for hitting". He recalls the book which distracts him from being angry. banana on "Does your LO hit when frustrated?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-hit-when-frustrated#post-135868 Tue, 24 Apr 2012 16:54:19 +0000 banana 135868@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My LO went through a short period of time where he would pinch us when he was mad. We promptly said "No pinching! Owie!" every time. He eventually stopped. I think it was his way of expressing frustration because he couldn't talk. And he was around 1 at that time too. I would say to just keep saying "No!" and to let him know that it hurts. Hopefully this phase will pass quickly for you! chopsuey on "Does your LO hit when frustrated?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-hit-when-frustrated#post-135860 Tue, 24 Apr 2012 16:49:31 +0000 chopsuey 135860@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Wow! LO makes fists with both hands and swats at her own head when she's frustrated! :( I think it's good that you grabbed your LO's hands and said NO HIT! 1 year olds totally know when they're not supposed to be doing something. Sometimes LO will smack our faces and think it's funny. I grab her hands and have her touch my face gently. And I said "ee-bbuh-yoh.." which means pretty in Korean. HAHA. mrbee on "Does your LO hit when frustrated?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-hit-when-frustrated#post-135851 Tue, 24 Apr 2012 16:44:56 +0000 mrbee 135851@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Charlie has recently started saying, "I want to hit daddy!" or "I want to hit mommy!" If he does it, we put him in timeout... hoping it will stop soon! Honeybee on "Does your LO hit when frustrated?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-hit-when-frustrated#post-135847 Tue, 24 Apr 2012 16:42:12 +0000 Honeybee 135847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ DD went through a hitting phase, too. What we'd do is basically tell her "gentle" and remove ourselves from her range. So if I was holding her and she hit me, I'd say, "Be gentle, please," and put her down. If she ran over to me and hit me, I'd remind her that we need to be gentle and walk away. He's probably hitting because he doesn't know how else to express himself or because he gets some kind of reaction from you. You can try teaching him a different way to signal his frustration (e.g. by signing "mad" or "angry"); most kids will grow out of this with time, as they learn to communicate better. looch on "Does your LO hit when frustrated?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-hit-when-frustrated#post-134810 Tue, 24 Apr 2012 02:34:09 +0000 looch 134810@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My 16 month old son throws things when he gets frustrated. He'll be playing with something and he can't manipulate the way he wants to and the result is he throws it. I've noticed for sure he realizes something is wrong in his behavior when I change the tone of my voice. I don't yell, but I do say "Do not throw" more forcefully and emphatically. If he continues the behavior, then I remove the toy, but I explain what I am doing and introduce something else. I try not to say "NO" too much because I don't want him to think everything is off limits. Good luck! mrstilly on "Does your LO hit when frustrated?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-hit-when-frustrated#post-134711 Mon, 23 Apr 2012 21:40:55 +0000 mrstilly 134711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ DS is almost 13 months old and has been hitting when he is frustrated. Usually it is when I am holding him (and sometimes when DH is) and he wants to get down or I'm pulling him away from something he can't have. He will get mad, cry and then smack my face. Initially I think he didn't realize what he was doing, it was just a knee-jerk reaction to his frustration. But now I think he has started doing it on purpose. It's like he looks at me first and makes up his mind to hit me. At first I tried distracting him or grabbing his hands. I've tried saying "No" loudly. Today he hit me really hard, so I said "NO HIT" really loud. He paused, looked at me, then smacked me again. I said "NO HIT" loud again, and he burst into tears. I don't know if he was startled, scared, or just mad that I scolded him. Can a 1 year old know that something is "wrong"? Has anyone else dealt with this that can give me some advice on how to handle it?