https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 08 May 2026 23:34:54 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-listen-better-to-everyone-else#post-2503940 Wed, 23 Mar 2016 07:40:04 +0000 Foodnerd81 2503940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: yes! Even when she was still getting over her ear infection, I dropped her off at gym class and told them she had been off and throwing tantrums so to call me if she wasn't herself. I picked her up and they were like, she was a dream, no problem! Then she had a tantrum before we even got to the stairs to leave the building. :crying: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-listen-better-to-everyone-else#post-2503925 Wed, 23 Mar 2016 07:30:44 +0000 hilsy85 2503925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoyfulKiwi: that is exactly what our LO's preschool teachers told us. </p> <p>@Foodnerd81: basically kids NEED to go through an oppositional stage, and they save it for the people they feel the safest with--I know whenever my LO is with my parents or in laws or someone else for an extended period, I can almost guarantee a tantrum when we are alone again together because he's been holding it together for so long and needs to let out some negative emotion!! But I remember when LO's preschool teachers told me he was so mellow and relaxed and they could never imagine him throwing a tantrum. I was like, are we talking about the same kid??? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-listen-better-to-everyone-else#post-2503919 Wed, 23 Mar 2016 07:27:05 +0000 Canoli 2503919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes...............although his daycare teachers say from time to time he needs to be redirected and doesn't always follow classroom rules. We have a class clown on our hands. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-listen-better-to-everyone-else#post-2503912 Wed, 23 Mar 2016 07:24:38 +0000 Foodnerd81 2503912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoyfulKiwi: I guess that's a nicer way to look at it. Yesterday she started not listening to our pediatrician and I told the doctor LO must like her too much since she listens to other adults! She has a two year old too so was amused. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-listen-better-to-everyone-else#post-2503897 Wed, 23 Mar 2016 07:10:29 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 2503897@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, I wish! My son is 3.5 and a booger for his teachers. I think it's because I work in the preschool classroom next door to his and he's wayyyyy to comfortable at school; like its his second home.<br /> When I taught Kindergarten, my mentor teacher told me this phenomenon happens when parents are doing a good job teaching respect &amp; boundaries. Kids know they need to obey adults, but it's exhausting work so they are drained and push the limits, etc when they're with their parents because that's the "safe space". Anecdotally I think that's true. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-listen-better-to-everyone-else#post-2503888 Wed, 23 Mar 2016 06:57:47 +0000 looch 2503888@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: Exactly! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-listen-better-to-everyone-else#post-2503887 Wed, 23 Mar 2016 06:49:33 +0000 Foodnerd81 2503887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: so you've perfected your mom glare! :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-listen-better-to-everyone-else#post-2503885 Wed, 23 Mar 2016 06:45:14 +0000 SweetiePie 2503885@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Totallyyyyy. He's 18 months so it's still early. But every class teacher and at Sunday school they comment on how he is such a good listener. When they say "circle time" he is the first to sit. "Snack time" he runs to the table and patiently waits for his snack. Instructions on how to beat the drum (soft or loud, fast or slow).<br /> He is a good listener at home (pick that up, freeze, go get your shoes) when he feels like it, but he'll often ignore me or tune me out if he's doing something he really enjoys. Apparently there's none of that outside the home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-listen-better-to-everyone-else#post-2503882 Wed, 23 Mar 2016 06:36:48 +0000 looch 2503882@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not any more. He used to be an angel for others and a terror for me, but we've now gotten to the point where he understands that he is part of a family and that he has certain resposibilities in this family, one of which is to follow directions on the first time I say them and not try to negotiate. It's been a long road, but I can finally say that all I have to do is to make eye contact with him from across the room now and he modifies his actions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-listen-better-to-everyone-else#post-2503214 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 13:35:23 +0000 Foodnerd81 2503214@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: no, it makes no sense! Even when he is being nice and I've hit my breaking point and am just yelling, she's still clambering to get to me. I mean I'm sure a lot of it is that she used to have all my time and now we have the new baby but still. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-listen-better-to-everyone-else#post-2503208 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 13:32:55 +0000 ShootingStar 2503208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Absolutely. It drives me nuts sometimes, especially when we're around my parents. Last month we were visiting them and left DS with them over night. The next day we met them at a restaurant and he was nightmare. And they're all like, "Wow, he hasn't done any of this since you left. He's been a perfect angel." He gets dressed for them, eats for them, let's my mom change his diaper with no fuss. For me he was in a stage where it was screaming and running away and demanding my phone 24-7. Mad me feel like a crappy parent :bummed: . Luckily that phase has gotten better. But I still know he's way more behaved for everyone else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-listen-better-to-everyone-else#post-2503191 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 13:25:19 +0000 winniebee 2503191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep! He's an angel at school. Constantly praised for independence and good listening, following directions. At home, I have to ask 7 times for him to do something. And never mind cleaning up toys! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-listen-better-to-everyone-else#post-2503179 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 13:20:16 +0000 mfa_lady 2503179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>100%. Girlfriend is an angel for her babysitter--even when I'm standing right there. I could say the exact same thing and she'd likely completely ignore me. And, she's only 14.5 months old. :shocked: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-listen-better-to-everyone-else#post-2503173 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 13:17:27 +0000 snowjewelz 2503173@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: Haha, is he the softie? I'm def the softie and she knows it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-listen-better-to-everyone-else#post-2503165 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 13:13:59 +0000 Foodnerd81 2503165@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: oh c listens to me better than DH. She just won't listen to him at all. It's so annoying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-listen-better-to-everyone-else#post-2503160 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 13:12:14 +0000 snowjewelz 2503160@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD is only 15 mo but for sure listens to my mom and DH better! She knows she can play me :silly: :meh: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-listen-better-to-everyone-else#post-2503155 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 13:09:38 +0000 KT326 2503155@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son was like this. Now that he is turning 4 it has gotten so much better, but sometimes he still listens better to others than to us. </p> <p>@BlueWolverine: Ugh my son does this too! I will take his arm to guide him out of the store when he doesn't want to leave (I'm not grabbing him hard at all!) and he will yell "owe you are hurting me!" as loud as he can. It is so embarrassing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-listen-better-to-everyone-else#post-2503145 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 13:04:53 +0000 JoJoGirl 2503145@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@aprild: Haha yes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-listen-better-to-everyone-else#post-2503123 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 12:54:44 +0000 cat620 2503123@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: I think you're referring to this: <a href="http://www.momnewsdaily.com/study-children-are-800-worse-when-their-mothers-are-in-the-room/" rel="nofollow">http://www.momnewsdaily.com/study-children-are-800-worse-when-their-mothers-are-in-the-room/</a></p> <p>I agree that my child is better for others than he is for me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-listen-better-to-everyone-else#post-2503118 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 12:51:02 +0000 Foodnerd81 2503118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: oh yeah, I remember reading that! That was back when she was just turning two or so and no new baby in the picture and I was all, oh that's funny but MY kid is so well behaved... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-listen-better-to-everyone-else#post-2503114 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 12:50:42 +0000 BlueWolverine 2503114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All. The. Time. Her day care teacher told me she was an angel all day yesterday, but within five minutes of being outside of day care, she refused to get in the damn car to go home. Which, of course, resulted in screaming "owie" over and over half of the way home because I forced her in her car seat and put on the straps. There was no owie involved, but she's learned that when she says that, people generally stop what they're doing and talk to her about it. It's my new least favorite thing she's adopted. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-listen-better-to-everyone-else#post-2503113 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 12:50:41 +0000 deerylou 2503113@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Absolutely. She's a complete and total cherub with everyone else. Patient, kind, flexible, compliant and accommodating. She tends to save the rest for me and DH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-listen-better-to-everyone-else#post-2503105 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 12:47:59 +0000 JoJoGirl 2503105@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>YES. I ready some study that said something like "kids are 800% more poorly behaved around their parents". My parents had my crazy defiant LO this weekend so we could spend the night in a hotel and she didn't argue ONCE about ANYTHING - peeing, getting dressed, eating, taking a bath. Nothing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-lo-listen-better-to-everyone-else#post-2503100 Tue, 22 Mar 2016 12:46:49 +0000 Foodnerd81 2503100@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Does your LO listen to other grown ups way better than to you or your SO? C is 2.5 and has been having a tough time with being a good listener lately. Yet we go out places and she's an angel for other people? She listens to her gym teacher, our playgroup leader, the doctor. Took her to the dentist and she even let the hygienist scrape tartar with the pointy thing. Then when it's time to go home she won't even put her coat on for me. I get her to listen by invoking other people- "remember, the dentist said mommy brushes your teeth first, then your turn. The dentist said!" </p> <p>I mean, it makes my life easier that she will listen to them, but then we get home and I'm like, WTF kid? </p>