https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 04 May 2026 00:05:39 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-preschooler-yell-and-boss-you-around#post-2430066 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 19:43:55 +0000 GreenThumb 2430066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD is 2.5 and we hear a lot of "Stop talking! Stop talking! STOP TALKING!" when DH and I are trying to have our own conversation. I'm a SAHM and she is in control to the max. If I ask her to do something, she mostly just smirks and runs away. I'm really not sure how to change things. Like a lot of others, I am glad to hear it is not just her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-preschooler-yell-and-boss-you-around#post-2430061 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 19:35:30 +0000 NovBaby1112 2430061@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh man, DD is SO bossy and controlling- @travelgirl1 agree, reading this makes me feel better. I hear a lot of "don't look at me!" "Don't kiss me!" (And then proceeds to smack her face trying to get the kiss off) " "Don't follow me, stay there!" Gah. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-preschooler-yell-and-boss-you-around#post-2429984 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 18:18:20 +0000 travelgirl1 2429984@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rachiecakes: @hilsy85: so glad to hear the "don't talk to me" thing isn't just my kid! So embarrassing!!!</p> <p>This whole thread has made me feel a lot better. DD does a whole lot of yelling/screaming lately, mainly to DH but gosh it is tiring. </p> <p>I do let her dictate a lot during play, not so much in real life. I find it is hard to strike a balance between letting her exercise some control and choice over her life (small stuff obviously, she is only three) and letting her know that we are the parents and we make the rules. I pick my battles. And there are consequences if she doesn't stop yelling when she is asked to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-preschooler-yell-and-boss-you-around#post-2429966 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 17:49:09 +0000 Mrs. Tiger 2429966@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup, this is 4y/o K for sure! I often pick my battles but some are so ridiculous - "I wanted to brush my teeth first! Brush D's again after I'm done!" or "I can't eat breakfast when he's looking at me!" or "grandma has to come at 2 not at 4" all yelling stomping, etc. I can't wait for this phase to be over! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-preschooler-yell-and-boss-you-around#post-2429959 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 17:39:20 +0000 Mama Bird 2429959@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh I thought this was just my kid! I'm glad I'm not alone, maybe that means it's just a phase! Then again, DH still tries to boss his mom around... he's always badgering her to go outside for walks and eat healthy. If DS behaves like this when he's grown up, it'll be sweet but would probably drive me bananas! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-preschooler-yell-and-boss-you-around#post-2429923 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 17:07:38 +0000 travellingbee 2429923@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, he is so bossy. "Don't come in here, Mom!" "No, I don't want to." etc. It is quite an annoying phase. We model asking nicely and DH has practiced with DS role playing asking nicely and it helps but doesn't eliminate the behavior completely. Ugh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-preschooler-yell-and-boss-you-around#post-2429906 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 16:57:04 +0000 mediagirl 2429906@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, she does a little of this. She also gets SO MAD when we are talking and she is trying to talk. She will say, "Sssshhhh! I'm trying to talk!" Or "I'm talking! Hush now!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-preschooler-yell-and-boss-you-around#post-2429811 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 16:01:45 +0000 sarac 2429811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh hell no. My daughter does this, and she is very firmly reminded that she isn't allowed to yell and demand that I do this and that. I try to model speaking politely not loudly demanding that she do this and that either. It's worked pretty well - at four she is pretty polite for a kid her age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-preschooler-yell-and-boss-you-around#post-2429500 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 13:30:35 +0000 BandDmommy 2429500@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@californiadreams: I was referring to my particular situation, asking nicely isn't our issue, it's his constant demands. He always says please and thank you. It's just the extent and quantity of requests. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-preschooler-yell-and-boss-you-around#post-2429491 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 13:26:42 +0000 Alivoo01 2429491@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS is 2.5 and is definitely bossy! He loves telling us what to do, but is light hearted about it. He'll laugh if I don't always do what he says or I make him say please. He doesn't yell though (yet). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-preschooler-yell-and-boss-you-around#post-2429405 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 12:46:53 +0000 californiadreams 2429405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BandDmommy: i guess it depends what it's for. i don't think it's pointless. sometimes when he can't reach or do something for himself, he will tell me to do it and i respond by telling him he has to ask nicely. like if we are at the table and he drops something. then there are other things he is capable of like taking off his shoes and coat, sometimes he is all "you do it/you take it off", so i try to gage his mood and if it is worth just doing it because he is overtired and upset in general if i get him to do it . i find it pays off, because there are also plenty of times when he does ask nicely for things without me prompting him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-preschooler-yell-and-boss-you-around#post-2429400 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 12:44:24 +0000 ShootingStar 2429400@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS has just started this - he yells in this guttural tone of voice either "no" or he tells us to do something. We calmly say something like "that's not a nice way to talk to mommy/daddy." and we don't do what he wants. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-preschooler-yell-and-boss-you-around#post-2429387 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 12:38:19 +0000 looch 2429387@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh, yelling and raising voices doesn't fly with me. It's one thing to try to tell someone else how to play, I actually will do the opposite of what my son will ask sometimes to turn it into a teaching moment about dealing with things when they don't go as expected, but I don't tolerate yelling. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-preschooler-yell-and-boss-you-around#post-2429377 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 12:33:35 +0000 BandDmommy 2429377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@daniellemybelle: Yes, the "ask nicely" thing is pointless, he's very polite, it's just the constant requests and bossiness. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-preschooler-yell-and-boss-you-around#post-2429303 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 11:55:59 +0000 daniellemybelle 2429303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO is only 2 but she is very verbal and soooo bossy. She bosses other kids around any chance she gets and she is always yelling at us and telling us what to do. For a while, we were trying the, "Ask nicely," thing, but now I am at a point where I don't think it's a good idea to even let her try to tell us what to do, phrased nicely or not. So I am trying to put the kibosh on the whole thing. She's not in charge! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-preschooler-yell-and-boss-you-around#post-2429264 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 11:38:45 +0000 californiadreams 2429264@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son definitely likes to tell me what to do. I mostly remember to make him ask nicely before I do it. And I praise him when he does ask for things nicely on his own. And even when he I have to tell him to ask nicely, once he does, I'll respond by saying "sure i will do that, since you asked so nicely!"</p> <p>He definitely has his moments though where he is less willing to comply with my request for him to ask nicely. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-preschooler-yell-and-boss-you-around#post-2429257 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 11:33:55 +0000 rachiecakes 2429257@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: the cashiers that try to give him stickers and he starts yelling at them... ugh.. awful! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-preschooler-yell-and-boss-you-around#post-2429250 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 11:30:35 +0000 yellowbird 2429250@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: yes!! My lo does this to stranger Ana skids at the playground and I get so embarrassed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-preschooler-yell-and-boss-you-around#post-2429226 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 11:16:47 +0000 rachiecakes 2429226@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: my husband works nights and sometimes he'll drop him off at my office on his way out, about a half hour before I leave for the day. Everyone is so happy to meet my son and then he's like, "Noo don't look at meeee!" omg mortifying. </p> <p>@BandDmommy: last night it was "I don't want this!!!! aahhh I don't want pajamas! I don't like this"<br /> my poor neighbors, I feel like I should leave them a bottle of wine or something.<br /> Talking to J just got him even more fired up, that's when I just went downstairs and left him wailing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-preschooler-yell-and-boss-you-around#post-2429211 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 11:10:15 +0000 BandDmommy 2429211@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rachiecakes: OMG the pajamas. B has a favorite pair of PJs and if I try and get him to wear another he will say "no, I said the yellow construction PJs, it's a no mom, no to these pajamas, it's a YES to construction PJs." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-preschooler-yell-and-boss-you-around#post-2429204 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 11:08:05 +0000 hilsy85 2429204@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rachiecakes: OMG the "don't look at me!" and "Don't talk!" to strangers! It's terrible. In stores, or in our elevator in our building, he'll tell people to get out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-preschooler-yell-and-boss-you-around#post-2429203 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 11:07:31 +0000 rachiecakes 2429203@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: @BandDmommy: @hilsy85: thank you!</p> <p>My son has been so rude lately. It kills me! He's like this to everyone, me and DH, his teacher, my coworkers, the cashiers at Target.<br /> Lots of "don't look at me!", "I don't want you to talk to me!"</p> <p>Where did it come from? (and how do I make it go back?)</p> <p>Last night he threw a fit over putting on his pajamas. I let him scream and yell upstairs by himself and went downstairs to read. He eventually came downstairs and asked what I was doing. I told him if he couldn't stop yelling and being mean, I couldn't talk to him. Ugggghhhhh.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-preschooler-yell-and-boss-you-around#post-2429191 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 11:01:56 +0000 hilsy85 2429191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BandDmommy: yep. It's like living with a little dictator.<br /> Mommy do this! Do it now! I want this now! You go over there! You bring that to me!</p> <p> :meh: We try to work on using a nice voice to ask, but jeeeeez it wears on me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-preschooler-yell-and-boss-you-around#post-2429184 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 11:00:46 +0000 BandDmommy 2429184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh my gosh, so demanding and opinionated now! I have no idea when it started for DS but I feel like he rules my life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-preschooler-yell-and-boss-you-around#post-2429179 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 10:57:53 +0000 erinbaderin 2429179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son does this - he likes to dictate where people sit. Sometimes in the middle of dinner he'll make people move - "Daddy, sit over there! Mommy sit right there! Papa sit on stool!" We try to give in a little but not let him be totally in charge, but it's hard - sometimes it doesn't seem worth the fight in the short term even though I know I'm creating a monster in the long term. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-preschooler-yell-and-boss-you-around#post-2428920 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 09:31:55 +0000 yellowbird 2428920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I dont understand where lo got this behavior! </p> <p>My lo is extremely bossy and a control freak. Sometimes I will do what she asks me as long as it doesn't interfere with whatever it is I'm trying to do. Lately, it's gotten out of control though!</p> <p>An example, sometimes she will watch a short show in the morning while I'm getting ready. When I blow dry my hair I will close the bathroom door so she can still hear her show while she's on my bed. This morning she was using the potty and had just woken up when I was blow drying so I didnt bother closing the bathroom door. She ran in with her pants still down and screamed at me to close the door! I told her it wasn't nice to scream and that I didn't need the door closed this morning. She kept yelling, so I told her that I would have to leave the room if she was going to yell at me.</p> <p>Another controlling example, she is always asking me to play barbies with her. When we try to play, though, if I don't say the right thing or do the right actions she gets mad at me and yells! I tell her if she yells at me I won't be able to play and I will leave the room, but she's still so mean!</p> <p>Is this her just trying to have a little control? I do let her do most things on her own and she has a lot of control. Maybe I need better boundaries?? I have no idea! Help! </p>