https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 09 May 2026 06:48:02 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-realizeappreciate-all-that-you-do#post-455075 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 10:15:53 +0000 edelweiss 455075@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>he tries, but i don't think either of us truly appreciate all that the other does. sometimes we have to speak up and "toot our own horn" to let the other person know the effort we've made. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-realizeappreciate-all-that-you-do#post-454966 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 09:28:15 +0000 purrpletulips 454966@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I just got into a tiff this morning about this exact topic. While he helps out around the house I do not feel that he appreciates all I do. I work full time, do all the cooking, majority of the kiddo care, all the laundry, almost all of the shopping and often find it 9PM before I can even sit down at night; we split the household chores but even those are not an even split with me picking up more than him. The discussion is still ongoing but he at least acknowledged that he doesn't do enough to let me know I'm appreciated. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-realizeappreciate-all-that-you-do#post-454961 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 09:26:15 +0000 winniebee 454961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sometimes. He gets swamped at work and forgets, so then I have to remind him : ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-realizeappreciate-all-that-you-do#post-454955 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 09:23:39 +0000 hilsy85 454955@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, he is super appreciative and makes sure to tell me all the time. He is so happy with me as a wife/mom, which makes me feel really good! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-realizeappreciate-all-that-you-do#post-454938 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 09:17:54 +0000 autumnlove 454938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, he is pretty good about helping out and being vocal with appreciation. I need to give him more positive feedback! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-realizeappreciate-all-that-you-do#post-454886 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 08:36:00 +0000 Anagram 454886@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This thread reminds me that I need to be more vocal of everything my DH is doing right now. I'm *still* sick with the extreme nausea, so I honestly can't remember the last time I cooked, cleaned, or took out the trash at home.</p> <p>So DH has been doing all of that for himself/us. He's had to do my laundry a few times, too, when I was too sick to do it myself and had no clean clothes. And I know I'm so wrapped up in how awful I feel that I haven't told him enough how much I appreciate him.</p> <p>Typically, we split the house duties 50/50. We both work full time. I'm not too worried about after our LO comes out. From what I can see, he's extremely hands-on with our neices and nephews, so I think he'll pull his weight without me even asking. Like...he'd give the kiddo a bath while I do the dishes, or vice-versa. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-realizeappreciate-all-that-you-do#post-454846 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 07:20:08 +0000 heffalump 454846@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I often wonder if dh notices things. Like does he know I am constantly (literally daily) doing laundry? Or does he not even realize that all of his clothes end up clean, folded, and put away? </p> <p>Honestly I don't need a thank you for this stuff, I'm a sahm itsmy job. I'm just curious if he knows. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-realizeappreciate-all-that-you-do#post-454819 Wed, 19 Dec 2012 06:15:00 +0000 Sweet T 454819@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Um no. Obviously he needs to have a little chat with some of the hive husbands! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-realizeappreciate-all-that-you-do#post-454722 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 23:41:11 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 454722@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He told me he appreciates me today. :) It is nice to hear. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-realizeappreciate-all-that-you-do#post-454699 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 23:14:30 +0000 sarac 454699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I consider the household to be my responsibility, in general. I do about 75% of the work, my husband does 15%, and the rest just goes undone, lol. My husband is really aware of it, and has a lot of appreciation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-realizeappreciate-all-that-you-do#post-454690 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 23:11:18 +0000 Bao 454690@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: hmm...hopefully that's something you guys can work out so that it doesn't become a bigger issue in the future. It sounds like you're pretty bothered by it and I think it really needs to be addressed and he needs to be understanding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-realizeappreciate-all-that-you-do#post-454629 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 22:39:58 +0000 MrsTiz 454629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bao: yes! Probably too much if we're being honest lol he gets defensive and brings up the one or two things he's done recently, like helped with dinner one time last week..which he honestly believes is enough and that he's doing his part. I can talk to him about it until I'm blue in the face but after living together a little over a year, I don't seem to be getting through to him. :/ that is the only thing I cant stand about him and it's turning out to bother me a lot more than I imagined it could! </p> <p>Sorry for threadjacking! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-realizeappreciate-all-that-you-do#post-454581 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 22:22:03 +0000 Bao 454581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: wow :/ have you talked to him about this? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-realizeappreciate-all-that-you-do#post-454573 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 22:17:40 +0000 mrbee 454573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: Man that's a tough one!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-realizeappreciate-all-that-you-do#post-454561 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 22:08:49 +0000 MrsTiz 454561@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No &amp; no. This is actually the thing that I am most resentful and fearful of in the long run. DH is so unhelpful, and doesn't acknowledge or appreciate anything I do..which is every.freaking.thing, btw. I lose sleep over it now, and we don't even have a LO, which makes me nervous for when that time comes. He'll be an excellent father, no question, but I can't imagine him being any more helpful. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-realizeappreciate-all-that-you-do#post-454505 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 21:36:02 +0000 Bao 454505@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: This is exactly how I feel ETA: and DH says the same to me, so I know he gets it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-realizeappreciate-all-that-you-do#post-454475 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 21:16:17 +0000 Andrea 454475@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think he realizes all that I do because there are so many little things. I do the majority of the chores. But he tells me that I'm such a good mom and wife so I know that he appreciates me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-realizeappreciate-all-that-you-do#post-454472 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 21:13:09 +0000 Mrs. Confetti 454472@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>To a degree, I think DH understands what I do - but I don't think he always appreciates all of it. He works LONG hours during the week, so he doesn't see much of the stuff going on, but realizes that I have our LO basically for 5 days in a row each week with no other support from family. So he tries to help on weekends a bit, but I wish it was more... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-realizeappreciate-all-that-you-do#post-454468 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 21:10:22 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 454468@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes!! He's amazing when it comes to that. I always feel so appreciated and special.:-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-realizeappreciate-all-that-you-do#post-454407 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 20:27:51 +0000 Bao 454407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: oh I haven't received any flowers in a long time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-realizeappreciate-all-that-you-do#post-454029 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 15:50:49 +0000 blackbird 454029@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lately, the shoe's on the other foot in our house. Dh has been doing EVERYTHING. Cleaning the house, making dinner, bringing me flowers. I make sure I'm vocal about my appreciation; I think it goes a long ways! </p> <p>But usually we are pretty even! He's just been really great about picking up the slack. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-realizeappreciate-all-that-you-do#post-454020 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 15:46:50 +0000 Bao 454020@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MaisyMay: haha ;)<br /> @BelugaBean: aww that's so sweet!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-realizeappreciate-all-that-you-do#post-454006 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 15:40:29 +0000 BelugaBean 454006@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He does see what I do. When he's home, he helps as much as he can and tells me he's not sure he could stay home with her. He also does a lot around the house when she's being extra demanding. </p> <p>The other day we came home from visiting family and she had been pretty challenging on the way home. He stopped me when we got inside, hugged me, and told me I was amazing for everything I do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-realizeappreciate-all-that-you-do#post-453999 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 15:36:42 +0000 MaisyMay 453999@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmmm...wonder where this came from? lol</p> <p>My DH is very good about seeing what I do, but I am curious to see how that changes now that I am on leave and he is working. We've had a few times in the past where I'll be off-work for a few weeks and just home, but during those times he makes sure to notice what I've done and express appreciation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-realizeappreciate-all-that-you-do#post-453990 Tue, 18 Dec 2012 15:35:06 +0000 Bao 453990@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am a SAHM and just because I stay at home doesn't mean I get to do nothing all day. My husband is pretty good at understanding I do a lot throughout the day, but sometimes I think he forgets how much work it really is. I take care of LO and do all of the cleaning, baking, cooking, organizing and planning. DH does help sometimes if I ask, which is nice. I do feel like since I do stay home I need to pull more of the weight around here though. </p> <p>Does your SO realize everything you do, and show appreciation? Do you do a majority of the chores or is it pretty even? </p>