https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 18 Apr 2026 12:12:34 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-research-baby-stuff-at-all/page/2#post-2372758 Mon, 30 Nov 2015 10:05:30 +0000 snowjewelz 2372758@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He will if I ask him to, but for bigger items I guess! I'm so into her stuff so I do most of the research and I present options to him if I can't decide! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-research-baby-stuff-at-all/page/2#post-2372588 Mon, 30 Nov 2015 02:04:23 +0000 Nutella 2372588@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do all the research and shortlisting, then will ask his opinion if I'm stuck between two or three options, or if it's looking expensive. i struggle with over-researching so sometimes it's great when he's just like 'that one for sure!' :happy: </p> <p>The only thing I've known him to research is post-miscarriage forum posts to try and figure out what was going on with me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-research-baby-stuff-at-all/page/2#post-2372339 Sun, 29 Nov 2015 19:32:53 +0000 Keybee 2372339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH researches his safety concerns, but that's about it.<br /> I research and buy all the gear, I ask his oppinion on things and he usually doesn't have one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-research-baby-stuff-at-all#post-2372273 Sun, 29 Nov 2015 17:40:03 +0000 buttermilk 2372273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope never! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-research-baby-stuff-at-all#post-2372267 Sun, 29 Nov 2015 17:22:39 +0000 PawPrints 2372267@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-research-baby-stuff-at-all#post-2372106 Sun, 29 Nov 2015 12:18:17 +0000 KayKay 2372106@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>hahahahaha. ummm, no. except for the best ipod docking system to play white noise, but i think he had ulterior motives there ;) he's happy to weigh in if i need help making a decision, but then just listens to my research/pros &amp; cons. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-research-baby-stuff-at-all#post-2372101 Sun, 29 Nov 2015 11:49:56 +0000 winniebee 2372101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>None, unless medically related. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-research-baby-stuff-at-all#post-2372098 Sun, 29 Nov 2015 11:44:30 +0000 csross217 2372098@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladybee: Same here! I tend to go overboard researching things before buying (especially baby gear), but the only opinion he ever has on anything is the price. Always wonders why we can't just buy the cheaper one....</p> <p>But of course, he'll spend hours on end researching power tools only to decide he needs the fanciest, most expensive one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-research-baby-stuff-at-all#post-2371986 Sun, 29 Nov 2015 07:59:52 +0000 yellowbird 2371986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@AggieDaze: my Dh is the same on parenting issues. It really drives me crazy and he's always telling me I never do anything his way! Its especially hard because I have been employing a lot to gentle parenting techniques that work great with my daughter, but he is the exact opposite and wonders why she tantrums way worse for him and gets angry that I don't back him up when he puts her in time out for extended periods. I try to talk to him about it, but I don't really get anywhere. Maddening! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-research-baby-stuff-at-all#post-2371980 Sun, 29 Nov 2015 07:50:37 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2371980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He researches what I ask him. Like car seats there was so many options, so I told him to pick two and then I would decide from there so he did all the research and basically picked what one he thought was best so we got that. </p> <p>He also researches things like milestones and behaviour stuff sometimes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-research-baby-stuff-at-all#post-2371971 Sun, 29 Nov 2015 07:24:45 +0000 Foodnerd81 2371971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@shopaholic: true- I am sure he will research what golf clubs and skis to get her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-research-baby-stuff-at-all#post-2371953 Sun, 29 Nov 2015 04:46:04 +0000 shopaholic 2371953@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. Not at all. I do all the research. I get similar comments like "If you just google..." blah. Of course, if it's something HE cares about, he'll look into it and get it (i.e. DD just got new skis and ski boots that he ordered!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-research-baby-stuff-at-all#post-2371936 Sun, 29 Nov 2015 02:54:59 +0000 sunny 2371936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm the researcher in the relationship so I do all off it. He did express an opinion on the car seat based on what we heard from the (knowledgeable) sales rep so we went with that car seat. Other than that, he's been ok with whatever I wanted to get. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-research-baby-stuff-at-all#post-2371886 Sat, 28 Nov 2015 23:16:47 +0000 QBbride 2371886@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, not at all! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-research-baby-stuff-at-all#post-2371885 Sat, 28 Nov 2015 23:16:09 +0000 AggieDaze 2371885@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Sunshine: yes!! This was especially true for us with regard to time outs - what we were going to use them for, how we were going to handle them... I bought a book on the subject that our led recommended and DH didn't even read the parts I highlighted for him! He still puts LO in time out for things I wouldn't and does other stuff I wouldn't with regard to timeout.... And honestly timeout is not working for our LO. Maybe we should have done more reading/discussing first!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-research-baby-stuff-at-all#post-2371878 Sat, 28 Nov 2015 23:05:37 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2371878@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@AggieDaze: this is basically my life. I try to avoid the problems by discussing these things beforehand but he will literally tell me to do whatever I personally think is best and then contradict me later. It drives me bananas </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-research-baby-stuff-at-all#post-2371875 Sat, 28 Nov 2015 23:03:07 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2371875@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. He shows no concern. I'll even do research h on something, attempt to discuss with him, have him say he doesn't have an opinion, only for him to suddenly have extreme opinions aftrr I've already made a decison. Thanks for your help, hon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-research-baby-stuff-at-all#post-2371860 Sat, 28 Nov 2015 22:28:08 +0000 sapphire 2371860@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I ask him to he will, but doesn't typically take the initiative on those sorts of things which is okay. He'll offer an opinion if I give a set of options. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-research-baby-stuff-at-all#post-2371822 Sat, 28 Nov 2015 21:42:06 +0000 mrbee 2371822@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't research much re: gear, but I'm researching a lot more around education. Didn't realize I felt so strongly about it until the past year or so! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-research-baby-stuff-at-all#post-2371820 Sat, 28 Nov 2015 21:38:04 +0000 lady baltimore 2371820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: My DH is exactly like yours! It is frustrating sometimes, but I also appreciate not having to run every little decision past him. We'll see how it goes when LO gets here, and we're dealing with parenting choices, not just gear and pregnancy stuff. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-research-baby-stuff-at-all#post-2371799 Sat, 28 Nov 2015 21:09:23 +0000 Foodnerd81 2371799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@AggieDaze: yeah Dh can be like that with behavior/ parenting things. Luckily we naturally are on the same page with a lot of things, and generally if I feel strongly about something he will go along (like, I wanted to do BLW, I was feeding her most of the time anyway, so he didn't complain). But sleep training was one where he wanted to just "go with it" and I was like, why do you think there are 6000 books and blogs and websites about this!? If it was so easy no one would buy the books! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-research-baby-stuff-at-all#post-2371792 Sat, 28 Nov 2015 21:01:12 +0000 AggieDaze 2371792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do all the research... On everything - gear, discipline, feeding, trouble shooting issues, etc.</p> <p>It didn't bother me on gear... I mostly went with reviews and if it directly impacted him (like the convertible car seat in his car) then I give him a heads up on what I'm thinking and he approves.</p> <p>It drives me bonkers on parenting issues like discipline. My husband has no frame of reference for how we should be doing things or what is "normal"... He just goes with what seems right. I, meanwhile, read, research and talk to other moms and our pediatrician about almost every issue so I feel comfortable with how we are handling it. Then, we aren't always on the same page which is annoying, and worse he has no rationale for why he wants to do time out a specific way, or why he is concerned about the latest round of spit up. In an ideal world, we'd each research the big issues And then discuss and form a united front. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-research-baby-stuff-at-all#post-2371790 Sat, 28 Nov 2015 20:58:26 +0000 BrandNewMom 2371790@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The ONLY thing mine cared about was the car seat, but he works in auto damage in car insurance, so that makes sense. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-research-baby-stuff-at-all#post-2371788 Sat, 28 Nov 2015 20:54:04 +0000 jlm22 2371788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's funny, DH researches everything into the ground, but when it comes to baby stuff, he doesn't! I have free reign. He knows when it comes to baby gear, I get what I want :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-research-baby-stuff-at-all#post-2371779 Sat, 28 Nov 2015 20:39:16 +0000 CRGmama 2371779@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Literally none. But I don't really care. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-research-baby-stuff-at-all#post-2371767 Sat, 28 Nov 2015 20:03:18 +0000 Mrs.KMM 2371767@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For the most part. I do the research. But he has had a few things he got really opinionated on and those he did research. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-research-baby-stuff-at-all#post-2371626 Sat, 28 Nov 2015 14:02:53 +0000 LuLu Mom 2371626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, I'm researcher by trade(ish) so I gather all the information to make an informed decision and he goes with it </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-research-baby-stuff-at-all#post-2371622 Sat, 28 Nov 2015 13:41:58 +0000 jhd 2371622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He researched the camera when we were ready to buy one (we waited until we were ready to move LO from our room to his own room) and helped with car seat and stroller research. Oh and the gate for the top of our stairs. But mostly I do the research on baby related things. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-research-baby-stuff-at-all#post-2371619 Sat, 28 Nov 2015 13:38:40 +0000 Charm54 2371619@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha omg I have to laugh because we had this exact same scenario this summer. </p> <p>In the end, the Motorola I wanted went on sale so I gave him until the day before the sale ended to research and find an iPhone monitor at a similar price...deadline came and went so he shrugged and told me to just get the Motorola :) I'm very happy with it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-research-baby-stuff-at-all#post-2371617 Sat, 28 Nov 2015 13:35:16 +0000 Foodnerd81 2371617@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I should say for the most part, I appreciate having free reign. When I said we needed an UB vista, and found the best deal, he never complained about the price, just trusted me. For the convertible car seat I narrowed it down to a few and we went and tested them out together at BBB. It's just the stupid monitors that are driving me crazy, and they are expensive so I don't want to end up with another crappy one. And I don't feel like doing to research! If he can spend as much time on reddit as he does, he can pick out a few monitors for me to look at. </p> <p>But glad to hear it's not totally unique. </p> <p>@Cherrybee: my BIL is just like your DH. The returned so many gifts because they were "unnecessary" only to go back and rebuy them anyway. Drove my sister crazy. </p>