https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 29 Apr 2026 07:01:15 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-want-you-to-work/page/2#post-789320 Thu, 16 May 2013 21:05:03 +0000 doodlepoodle 789320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, but only because he doesn't work ;) He's a FT student so without my income we'd be in a cardboard box! :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-want-you-to-work/page/2#post-789249 Thu, 16 May 2013 20:54:30 +0000 JessKas 789249@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He wants me to work, but I think if I really wanted to be a SAHM he would work to make that possible. Right now I am in school full time, and work part time. After the baby comes I will most likely not return to work. Affording daycare while I'm in school is not very realistic. However, when I'm done with school I am really looking forward to working. I'd ideally like to work part time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-want-you-to-work/page/2#post-788655 Thu, 16 May 2013 19:34:05 +0000 GrapeCrush 788655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I say no, but only because he knows how much I want to stay home with the kids. But I know he's prefer me to work so the budget isn't as tight </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-want-you-to-work/page/2#post-788580 Thu, 16 May 2013 19:22:08 +0000 Sugar.Biscuit 788580@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He just wants me to be happy. Right now I have to work but if I could stay home I know he would want me to do so. He has always wanted to be "that man" who pays for his wife to stay home. If I could I'd finish my degree while I stayed home &amp; would become a full time student. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-want-you-to-work/page/2#post-788561 Thu, 16 May 2013 19:17:42 +0000 petunia354 788561@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He supports my decision, and right now I do work. But I know he would love for my to stay home with our son.. We are lucky though since my mom watches LO, we have the best of both worlds. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-want-you-to-work/page/2#post-788527 Thu, 16 May 2013 19:12:41 +0000 blackbird 788527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. I wouldn't want to be with someone who doesn't want me to work. It doesn't jive with my personality. Plus, I don't want to stay home. I'm home now and feel so blah cooking and cleaning and taking care of the baby. </p> <p>And I expect him to work. We expect the same of each other </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-want-you-to-work/page/2#post-788417 Thu, 16 May 2013 18:58:05 +0000 yellowbird 788417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He wants me to do whatever makes me happy. Finances dictate that I work, and I prefer working. I just wish I could set my own hours;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-want-you-to-work/page/2#post-788383 Thu, 16 May 2013 18:53:57 +0000 teamjse 788383@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He's always left that decision up to me, I'm happier working. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-want-you-to-work/page/2#post-788304 Thu, 16 May 2013 18:46:13 +0000 ShootingStar 788304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He mostly wants me to be happy. But he also really likes the money I make, lol. He said he thinks we'd both be happier with me working. And he's probably right :). Though I wouldn't mind part time hours with full time pay, haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-want-you-to-work/page/2#post-788179 Thu, 16 May 2013 18:32:12 +0000 hilsy85 788179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ree723: same! </p> <p>DH loves that I am a SAHM, but if it were important to me to work, he would support that 100%. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-want-you-to-work/page/2#post-788056 Thu, 16 May 2013 18:11:49 +0000 Anagram 788056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Theoretically, I think he'd be fine either way...</p> <p>But he'd expect me to be a "homemaker" as well as a SAHM, and would probably expect me to be cleaning and cooking all the time. And although I like cooking and baking, I definitely don't like cleaning....and I wouldn't want to be expected to do it all.</p> <p>So, I kind of like it the way I have it now. I have a low-pressure, high-reward job, we split cleaning 50-50, and I can cook as much as I want but it's definitely not expected because we're both at work all day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-want-you-to-work/page/2#post-788012 Thu, 16 May 2013 18:01:29 +0000 sunny 788012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He prefers if I work but I think he recognizes that life is easier for both of us when I stay at home with our LO. So for right now I'm at home and I'll head back to work next year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-want-you-to-work/page/2#post-787980 Thu, 16 May 2013 17:51:22 +0000 Ree723 787980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH loves that I am a SAHM but has also made it clear that this is a decision entirely up to me if I want to return to work. If pushed for a preference, he'd say he prefers for me to be at home, but it's up to me. We're more than comfortable on his salary alone, and I love being home with our LO every day, so this is an arrangement that makes all of us very happy.</p> <p>ETA: he recognizes that taking care of our LO is a full time job as well so we split the household chores fairly evenly. I do a lot of the basic cleaning and most of the grocery shopping, but he cooks dinner every night and does the bigger tasks (ie mopping the floors, scrubbing down the walls, and all outdoor chores). It's definitely a balanced relationship and works well for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-want-you-to-work/page/2#post-787978 Thu, 16 May 2013 17:49:12 +0000 delight 787978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes he definitely wants me to work! I am planning on going down to 3 days a week after my mat leave (currently I work 4 days) and he wants me to keep my 4 days. However, I feel I will be much happier only working 3 days, so I can care for LO and look after the house. We all know a happy wife is a happy life :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-want-you-to-work/page/2#post-787972 Thu, 16 May 2013 17:45:18 +0000 Corduroy 787972@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, he doesn't want the pressure of being the sole earner and he thinks if I took an extended period off I would never go back to work. My mom took a year off when her first was born and never went back so he always points to that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-want-you-to-work/page/2#post-787971 Thu, 16 May 2013 17:45:04 +0000 HLK208 787971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He supports me either way but I think he leans toward wanting me up work so we could be more comfortable financially. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-want-you-to-work/page/2#post-787939 Thu, 16 May 2013 17:31:27 +0000 Rubies 787939@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He wants me to do what makes me happy. If I wanted to stay at home, he'd be supportive of that decision. For now, I enjoy working but maybe in the future I may decide to take a few years off. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-want-you-to-work/page/2#post-787938 Thu, 16 May 2013 17:31:25 +0000 yoursilverlining 787938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes - both of us want and expect each other to contribute financially, and he knows I'm happier working.</p> <p>I know a lot of women find it awesome and sweet their partner doesn't want them to work, but honestly, men who don't want women to work totally rub me the wrong way, and I'll leave it at that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-want-you-to-work/page/2#post-787927 Thu, 16 May 2013 17:26:37 +0000 luckypenny 787927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. He likes that I can stay home. Both of his parents worked and he spent a lot of time with his grandparents so I think he likes that I can be there to take DD to school and what not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-want-you-to-work/page/2#post-787916 Thu, 16 May 2013 17:21:54 +0000 runsyellowlites 787916@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. He's happy that I'm able to be the primary caretaker for our kids, homeschool G, and is proud to be able to provide for us (even though we have a very tight budget &amp; live on much less than many of the ladies here). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-want-you-to-work#post-787906 Thu, 16 May 2013 17:18:07 +0000 Boogs 787906@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If he doesn't get better benefits at work he's hoping I can find something part time with excellent benefits once the kids are in school full time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-want-you-to-work#post-787899 Thu, 16 May 2013 17:16:27 +0000 Ginabean3 787899@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine wants me to stay home and I want to stay home too....but we're in the process of buying a house and can't quite swing it yet. I'm trying to negotiate a job share with my employer so I only have to go back part time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-want-you-to-work#post-787805 Thu, 16 May 2013 16:56:39 +0000 autumnlove 787805@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, he wants me to be a SAHM but I want to work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-want-you-to-work#post-787803 Thu, 16 May 2013 16:56:09 +0000 beachbee 787803@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, and he's very hard on himself since his salary alone doesn't allow me to stay home. It's not ideal but we are making it work! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-want-you-to-work#post-787716 Thu, 16 May 2013 16:28:01 +0000 stargal 787716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He supports whatever I want to do but for right now we agree that its better.that I be a stahm. We both feel like that's my.job. but if I wanted yo go to work he would totally support it to. I plan to once all the kiddos are in school but for now I don't want.to miss put on anything, I'm really obessive about it. Lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-want-you-to-work#post-787631 Thu, 16 May 2013 16:13:03 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 787631@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>RIght now, yes. No kids! Eventually when he is through this training program at work and we have kids, I won't work and he is totally on board with that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-want-you-to-work#post-787621 Thu, 16 May 2013 16:10:49 +0000 Running Elley 787621@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: Exactly this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-want-you-to-work#post-787618 Thu, 16 May 2013 16:10:10 +0000 aprk 787618@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. He asked me about being a SAHM before we even got engaged. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-want-you-to-work#post-787609 Thu, 16 May 2013 16:08:03 +0000 MamaJ 787609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. He says he doesn't trust daycares. But I told him I would like to go back to work when LO is a year. So he will have to get over it haha. My previous job didnt cover the cost of daycare and I was miserable there so that's why I quit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/does-your-so-want-you-to-work#post-787601 Thu, 16 May 2013 16:07:11 +0000 Smurfette 787601@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep!! Besides so we have extra money to live comfortably and not be on a budget, despite day care expense. He knows me and knows that I need the adult interaction during the day, no matter how much I still want to be with R all day. </p>