https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 17 May 2026 20:16:52 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-lo-try-to-stop-you-talking-to-other-people-esp-oh#post-2484979 Sat, 05 Mar 2016 06:04:21 +0000 illumina 2484979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cherrybee: I haven't been on here in a while, but I've been looking through some of the previous threads in behaviour/discipline because we are having a rough time right now with S. I could have written this post though...from the "STOP TAWTING" to coping with the demands of dealing with her and either my parents or MIL at the same time. I actually won't go to MILs anymore with S but without DH because it's too stressful...MIL won't stop for a second and sometimes I feel like screaming "STOP TAWTING" lol! </p> <p>One of my friends has a 3yr old and a 1 yr old and when she needs to talk to her husband about something important they leave the room and shut the kids in the room they just vacated! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-lo-try-to-stop-you-talking-to-other-people-esp-oh#post-2468917 Sat, 20 Feb 2016 20:08:53 +0000 MoonMoon 2468917@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: honestly, this is one of our biggest behavior/discipline problems, and when I try things like put my hands on his shoulders to signal that I hear him but I need to finish talking to daddy first, that winds him up even more! It's very frustrating. BUT, I think your LO is about 2 months younger than mine, and I have to say every day and week makes a difference. He's a lot mellower and some of our reminders are sinking in more and more, I feel, so he doesn't get as upset when we're talking. So no real advice, just keep reminding her that everyone needs a chance to talk etc. Good luck! Right there with you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-lo-try-to-stop-you-talking-to-other-people-esp-oh#post-2468814 Sat, 20 Feb 2016 17:46:31 +0000 kgbee 2468814@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We taught my oldest to say, "excuse me" and wait for us to tell him we were listening if he wanted our attention while we were otherwise engaged. When he needed a LOT of attention, I also tried to postpone whatever could be put off in an attempt to be more fair to him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-lo-try-to-stop-you-talking-to-other-people-esp-oh#post-2468771 Sat, 20 Feb 2016 16:05:23 +0000 Rockies11 2468771@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: mine does this all the time, especially when I am talking with my husband. I say nicely "mommy and daddy are talking right now. If you need some extra love, you can come and cuddle me". Which generally works (one way or another) but sometimes leads to her cuddling me and putting her hands over my mouth and screaming " stop talking!" Lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-lo-try-to-stop-you-talking-to-other-people-esp-oh#post-2468751 Sat, 20 Feb 2016 15:30:48 +0000 Mrs. D 2468751@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We wait for the bus together every morning with the same people. Whenever I speak to them or they try to speak to her, she gets upset about not talking to strangers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-lo-try-to-stop-you-talking-to-other-people-esp-oh#post-2468722 Sat, 20 Feb 2016 14:45:46 +0000 Cherrybee 2468722@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@deerylou: Hahaha! Talk to the Easter Bunny!! :happy: Yeah, E starts off just saying daft stuff and asking for everything under the sun (the toilet, a drink, food, TV on) then, when she gas run out of things to ask for, she starts saying she's hurt or spills her drink on purpose. Maybe I should give up talking at Easter Bunny! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-lo-try-to-stop-you-talking-to-other-people-esp-oh#post-2468719 Sat, 20 Feb 2016 14:42:32 +0000 Cherrybee 2468719@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jess1483: I like that! :happy: </p> <p>The more I think about it, the more I know what has caused it to ramp up recently. I've just gone back to work after three months off. She still went to daycare, but we could leave the house at our leisure and I did all my household jobs during the day so I could devote evenings and weekends to her. I bet she feels really rushed and abandoned. To top it off, we are having loads of work done to our house, so little things like cooking together are out of the question, and I'm often distracted giving instructions to builders or cleaning up their mess. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-lo-try-to-stop-you-talking-to-other-people-esp-oh#post-2468687 Sat, 20 Feb 2016 13:58:35 +0000 Jess1483 2468687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: I didn't read all the other responses, but could you give her a "secret signal" to give you if she needs your attention (touch her nose, tap your arm, etc.) and one that you give back to her to tell her you will get back to her as soon as you can? That might show her that she still has your attention. Right away, you'll need to only make her wait a few seconds, but you should slowly be able to stretch out the time she will be able to wait. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-lo-try-to-stop-you-talking-to-other-people-esp-oh#post-2468684 Sat, 20 Feb 2016 13:51:23 +0000 Applesandbananas 2468684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: true. We do it as a consequence for not following rules or not listening to us. So if we say "please don't interrupt, if you do, you will go to time out", it's more that that's the consequence for disobeying than trying to further isolate him when he's already feeling left out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-lo-try-to-stop-you-talking-to-other-people-esp-oh#post-2468674 Sat, 20 Feb 2016 13:26:44 +0000 deerylou 2468674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Same age, same issue, same infatuation with Peppa. :wink: </p> <p>It's very, very common. I usually tell her something like, "Mommy is talking to Daddy/Auntie/Grandma right now. Is there something important you'd like to say?" If she has something pressing, like she has to go potty, sure, I will address her. But mostly, she just stammers around and says she wants to talk the Easter Bunny, or something equally random. </p> <p>I often have my phone near me, so I set a timer. I tell her she needs to go play like a big girl until the timer goes off and then we can talk, together. This tends to work, as she's very rule oriented. Just chatty as fuq. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-lo-try-to-stop-you-talking-to-other-people-esp-oh#post-2468671 Sat, 20 Feb 2016 13:23:55 +0000 looch 2468671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think a good strategy is to stage some behavior between you and your husband that would mimic what your daughter does, so that she can understand what it feels like to be interrupted. She probably doesn't really get why her actions are bothersome, as my son didn't, until I turned the tables on him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-lo-try-to-stop-you-talking-to-other-people-esp-oh#post-2468663 Sat, 20 Feb 2016 13:18:29 +0000 Cherrybee 2468663@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Applesandbananas: No, we don't do timeouts. Even if we did, it seems counter intuitive somehow to put her in timeout eg exclude her because she was upset about being excluded. </p> <p>Earlier on today, my inlaws popped round. They had some information about a family funeral. As they were telling me about it, she screamed "go away! I want to play with mummy". </p> <p>Aaaaagh! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-lo-try-to-stop-you-talking-to-other-people-esp-oh#post-2468565 Sat, 20 Feb 2016 09:53:30 +0000 ShootingStar 2468565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe you need to start setting more boundaries. For example, during dinner DS will say he's done and want to get out of his seat. He then frequently tries to pull us away from the table to play with him. We firmly tell him we're still eating and he can sit with us or go play in the living room. He doesn't always love the answer, but we are consistent with that boundary. </p> <p>I know it gets hard to figure out what's worth the fighting and whining and when to just give in to keep the peace. But personally I think if we give in all the time then they think they run the show. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-lo-try-to-stop-you-talking-to-other-people-esp-oh#post-2468539 Sat, 20 Feb 2016 09:15:02 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 2468539@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh yes, K often tells me to stop talking. Especially when my husband gets home from work and we're catching up, she yells to stop talking. No advice, just empathy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-lo-try-to-stop-you-talking-to-other-people-esp-oh#post-2468538 Sat, 20 Feb 2016 09:14:30 +0000 BrandNewMom 2468538@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We read a lot of books about patience, so I remind her that we have to be patient like cookie monster when he waits for cookies.<br /> But sometimes it doesn't work, like when I'm trying to talk to the husband when he gets home from work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-lo-try-to-stop-you-talking-to-other-people-esp-oh#post-2468537 Sat, 20 Feb 2016 09:14:22 +0000 ElbieKay 2468537@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A 2.5yo is old enough to understand the concept of taking turns. I think you need to acknowledge her short attention span and give her a milestone. "I'm talking to grandma right now, but I will read a book to you in ten minutes." Or whatever.</p> <p>You realistically can't expect an hour of interrupted time, but you can train her to understand that she may need to be patient while you finish doing something.</p> <p>In order for this to work, you need to follow through on whatever you promise to do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-lo-try-to-stop-you-talking-to-other-people-esp-oh#post-2468534 Sat, 20 Feb 2016 09:10:51 +0000 JerricaBenton 2468534@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think this is very normal. Lo often tells us to stop talking but it's mostly when we're talking about my husband's work. I noticed that she hates when we're complaining or what she perceives as 'upset' so sometimes just changing our tone helps. Otherwise I just say 'we're talking, grown ups need to talk, and she usually drops it. I also second that you should listen to your own music in the car sometimes! Lo even likes a lot of my music now. Or find some new kids stuff that doesn't drive you insane. I actually like Big Block Singsong and Okee Dokee Brothers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-lo-try-to-stop-you-talking-to-other-people-esp-oh#post-2468530 Sat, 20 Feb 2016 09:09:03 +0000 Alba4 2468530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, our 2.5 year old just started doing this. We have been telling him that Mama and Daddy need to talk and he needs to wait and be patient. Hopefully he'll learn in the next few months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-lo-try-to-stop-you-talking-to-other-people-esp-oh#post-2468520 Sat, 20 Feb 2016 08:51:52 +0000 SleepyMonkey 2468520@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Very common. I tell her that she needs to wait and be patient because mommy and daddy (or whoever) are talking. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-lo-try-to-stop-you-talking-to-other-people-esp-oh#post-2468508 Sat, 20 Feb 2016 08:29:01 +0000 Mrs. Lion 2468508@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are going through this too. No solutions, just empathy &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-lo-try-to-stop-you-talking-to-other-people-esp-oh#post-2468507 Sat, 20 Feb 2016 08:26:59 +0000 Greentea 2468507@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think this is natural behavior. LO does this too. I try, in a non-frustrated (sounding) way, to let her know that it isn't polite to talk when someone else is talking- that we have to take turns. It is really tough though, sometimes DH and I need to discuss something and she just has a need like thirst and I don't want to ignore her and can't blame her for getting frustrated as well. I try to encourage her to use her patience and try to encourage her to get into some creative project ("do you want to find a bucket to pour your beads into?")- then at least she feels engaged and we have a moment (hopefully). But a lot of time one of us ends up tossing a ball during a conversation (which makes it hard to concentrate). Is there an activity she enjoys doing while next to you that you can bring along to mum's house? Sticker book or something? Or something you can do to engage her but that is mindless for you, so you can still adult interact? That sounds frustrating if your mum doesn't get it- double frustrating, like two kids! :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-lo-try-to-stop-you-talking-to-other-people-esp-oh#post-2468497 Sat, 20 Feb 2016 08:06:20 +0000 Applesandbananas 2468497@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yikes! Id be feeling frustrated too! Do you give timeouts? I'd probably send LO to time out if he didn't accept "wait, mommy and daddy need to talk". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-lo-try-to-stop-you-talking-to-other-people-esp-oh#post-2468453 Sat, 20 Feb 2016 06:42:29 +0000 Bubbles 2468453@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: 😂 haha this made me lol! One of my most heard phrases at the minute is 'watch just a TINY bit of Peh Pig mummy...' What is it about that pig! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-lo-try-to-stop-you-talking-to-other-people-esp-oh#post-2468449 Sat, 20 Feb 2016 06:09:58 +0000 rachiecakes 2468449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>J does this all the time, we're talking and its, "Mum, muuuuuuuummmm, mum I'm trying to talk to youuuuu, muuuuuum!"<br /> I usually try to tell him he needs to wait his turn. Sometimes that makes sense to him, sometimes it doesn't. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-lo-try-to-stop-you-talking-to-other-people-esp-oh#post-2468444 Sat, 20 Feb 2016 05:24:17 +0000 Cherrybee 2468444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bubbles: Yeah, I want to dash that pig's brains in and force feed them to her stupid pig parents..... which cant be healthy!! But the alternative is listening to her wail and moan "I don't like this, turn it off, its rubbish, hat Peppa, waaah" and that makes me want to do the same to her and feed her to DH :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-lo-try-to-stop-you-talking-to-other-people-esp-oh#post-2468438 Sat, 20 Feb 2016 04:12:02 +0000 Bubbles 2468438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I SAH and my son (2) isn't fussed when I talk to people during the day - but when his dad gets home in the evening he can get very desperate for attention if DH and I launch into a conversation - doing things similar to what you describe. When possible we try and make sure he gets his daddy time in before we start discussing our days, as I know he misses him a lot during the day and is so excited to see him of an evening. But I definitely know the moments you mean, where you just need to share something or have a conversation for practical reasons! Those times if he starts demanding attention I will just say something like 'I can hear you asking for attention but daddy and I are discussing xxx thing right now. You are welcome to listen, or you can go and play until we are done.' Usually it works but only for a few minutes at a time, toddler persistence! I think you're right that there's a balance between making sure they feel heard and respected and involved in conversations, and encouraging respect for other people's conversations. </p> <p>Also fwiw I think you should definitely take turns with her to listen to your own music in the car! Wall to wall Peppa pig songs would send me over the edge! It's your journey too 😊 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-lo-try-to-stop-you-talking-to-other-people-esp-oh#post-2468431 Sat, 20 Feb 2016 03:08:06 +0000 Cherrybee 2468431@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DD (2.5) gets really whiney and *needs* a million things whenever my DH and I try to have a conversation. If we give her what she asks for but continue the conversation, she starts whining about something else. If we ignore her, she does things that she knows will get our attention, like trying to push the TV over or throwing her drink everywhere. Last night, she screamed "Stop it! Stop talking!". We do play with her and interact with her more than each other but sometimes you need to talk about something!! </p> <p>She also does it when we go to my mums house - she misbehaves the entire time - because my mum isn't interested in interacting with her, only in adult conversation. I find it very stressful managing their competing needs - my mum is clearly irritated because she wants to tell me something about work or her health, but E needs constant attention. She's much better with my inlaws because she's the centre of their world and they tend to take turns, one plays with her while the other discusses whatever they need to with us. </p> <p>I don't know how I should handle it. There's a part of me that's saying I should hear what she's trying to tell me, that she feels left out and ignored..... but she does it every time I try to speak to anyone who isn't her! Plus, surely, she needs to learn that its rude to interrupt!</p> <p>I know this triggers something in me - I already feel so trapped in this life; I cant go where I want to go, I cant listen to music in the car (only Peppa Pig nursery rhymes), I cant look at things in shops and now I'm not allowed to speak in my own house. Even as I'm typing this, she is whining, grabbing my hand and has just said "stop typing". She's watching a TV show but isn't happy unless I watch it too. :bummed: </p> <p>Is this really common? Any tips? </p>