https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 16 Apr 2026 01:39:00 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-so-want-you-to-be-a-sahm#post-600482 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 12:36:33 +0000 littlek 600482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He wants LO to be at daycare, because of the curriculum, so being a SAHM doesn't make a whole lot of sense. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-so-want-you-to-be-a-sahm#post-600477 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 12:35:44 +0000 hilsy85 600477@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup, he definitely prefers that I stay at home with LO. He'd support me if I wanted to work, but for him ideally I'd stay at home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-so-want-you-to-be-a-sahm#post-600474 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 12:35:34 +0000 MediaNaranja 600474@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. He knows I'd go crazy, plus I make more than he does so it wouldn't make sense financially. If one of us were to SAH, it would probably be him :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-so-want-you-to-be-a-sahm#post-600424 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 12:28:17 +0000 bunnylove08 600424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not me but Dh does he's sad that he is going to miss milestones. He stayed with her for 2 months for paternity leave </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-so-want-you-to-be-a-sahm#post-599647 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 10:26:56 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 599647@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sometimes he says he wants me to work, but other times he is reminded by how much he liked his mom being home. Ideally I will be a SAHM for a few years and then work once the kids are in school. We aren't even TTC yet so I have a while left before I'm a SAHM!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-so-want-you-to-be-a-sahm#post-599627 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 10:23:57 +0000 DillonLion 599627@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! Not until we have multiple children and the cost of daycare will exceed my income. I'm glad he encouraged me to go back because I am loving being back at work (even though I was SURE I wanted to be a SAHM) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-so-want-you-to-be-a-sahm#post-599605 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 10:21:09 +0000 sarac 599605@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband really loved and supported the idea of a stay at home parent, too. If I wanted to go back to work, he'd support me being happy, but he prefers to have one of us at home. In theory he says he'd be happy to be the one at home, but in reality he's much too career focused and achievement motivated to be happy at home. We work well together, since I'm for the most part happy as a SAHM. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-so-want-you-to-be-a-sahm#post-599429 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 09:54:51 +0000 lawbee11 599429@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For right now he'd like me to work because otherwise we would have to drastically change our lifestyle. He has mentioned me retiring early, though! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-so-want-you-to-be-a-sahm#post-599424 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 09:53:37 +0000 prettylizy 599424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, he is really excited for me to go back to work. His mom was a SAHM and gave up any chances at a career (based on her circumstances, not saying all SAHMs give that up) and she has never been happy at any job she's had since going back to work. He also knows that we like nice things and life is easier when we have more money. I hope we can find a good balance. I'm really looking forward to sharing household chores again though when I start work!! lol!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-so-want-you-to-be-a-sahm#post-599392 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 09:48:45 +0000 mediagirl 599392@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He always said he would love to but after our lo got here and he had a taste of being home with our daughter and two dogs by himself a few days, he changed his mind. It stresses him out too much. :)</p> <p>Edit: Oh. I thought you said does your SO want to be a SAHM/D. Haha!! He would LOVE for me to be a SAHM. I would do it, if we could afford it. We can't, so I'm not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-so-want-you-to-be-a-sahm#post-599368 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 09:43:35 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 599368@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He wants me to be happy, but he is glad that I would like to be a SAHM. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-so-want-you-to-be-a-sahm#post-599255 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 09:24:24 +0000 MsLipGloss 599255@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. But he is open to the idea of me going part-time. We both agree we would have to reassess the situation if we decide to have another baby. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-so-want-you-to-be-a-sahm#post-599232 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 09:19:21 +0000 Alivoo01 599232@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hubby wants to be the stay at home parent. haha! He wants me to continue to work because our current insurance is through me (he's self employed). Otherwise, I don't think he'd mind me being a SAHM. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-so-want-you-to-be-a-sahm#post-599219 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 09:17:27 +0000 bushelandapeck 599219@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH wanted me to keep working at first because he was worry about his own job security. Now that LO is here (and I was laid off anyway) we've decided that it's best all around for me to stay at home. I was secretly hoping he'd change his mind and I'm glad things have worked out this way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-so-want-you-to-be-a-sahm#post-599191 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 09:12:52 +0000 mrs. bird 599191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>he would want me to stay home. he doesn't want our children in daycare, but once they were in school he might be okay with me working if i wanted to, but he would rather me not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-so-want-you-to-be-a-sahm#post-599189 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 09:12:08 +0000 Bookish 599189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not necessarily! He just wants me to like what I'm doing, and right now, he knows that dropping out of my Master's + not working would = a very unhappy mama, and he supports that! If I wanted to be a SAHM, he'd support that too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-so-want-you-to-be-a-sahm#post-599179 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 09:09:46 +0000 Mrs. Pen 599179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He wants me to be happy- above all. He knows that whether I work or stay home, it's hard. </p> <p>He has commented, on days I've left DH with<br /> DS, how in awe he is at what I do every day. He says how do you get anything done with him around! It's a good feeling knowing my husband believes in me.</p> <p>He's fine with me working, however I do think he would have a preference for me to be a SAHM. But iltately he wants what it best for our family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-so-want-you-to-be-a-sahm#post-599149 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 09:04:17 +0000 Anagram 599149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think my husband and I are very similar in that we could go either way, for a temporary amount of time. I think theoretically, he likes the idea of a SAHM, and if we'd stayed in Texas, I might have considered it for a couple of years, till the kids were in pre-K, or I might have gone part-time.</p> <p>But since we just moved to a new state and it's much more expensive to live here, I'm going to keep working. Plus, my job is pretty kid-friendly since I work in education. All holidays off--two weeks at Christmas, 1 week spring break, jewish holidays off, and other american holidays--plus the whole summer. </p> <p>And now that I'm a librarian, I rarely take work home and it's much less stressful. Plus, I kind of love my job, so I hate to leave it and have to start over later in a new school districtl</p> <p>Both of us are on the same page that once the kids are in school all day, I would never stay home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-so-want-you-to-be-a-sahm#post-599117 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 08:55:56 +0000 mlm2934 599117@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He would rather me work - he wouldn't want to slow down dramatically on our financial goals. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-so-want-you-to-be-a-sahm#post-599103 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 08:49:43 +0000 lomom 599103@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He'd prefer I work. I'm a CPA so he really struggles with the idea of giving up my income. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-so-want-you-to-be-a-sahm#post-599095 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 08:47:39 +0000 blackbird 599095@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope! Thankfully we both feel the same way </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-so-want-you-to-be-a-sahm#post-599035 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 07:55:51 +0000 Happygal 599035@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mixed. His mom never worked, and he thinks she would have been happier to have some purpose outside of the home, even if it was part-time. But we talk about me not working, at least for the first few years. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-so-want-you-to-be-a-sahm#post-599017 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 07:36:00 +0000 Smurfette 599017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, he wants me to work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-so-want-you-to-be-a-sahm#post-598989 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 06:38:33 +0000 KissMeCait 598989@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, but mostly because he doesn't want to put our child in daycare (we're not fond of the cost or experience). If it worked out for him to be a SAHD, he would be totally cool with that but he's our breadwinner by a mile so there will probably never be a time when I'll be working and he'll be staying home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-so-want-you-to-be-a-sahm#post-598987 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 06:35:34 +0000 MrsTiz 598987@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He isn't against it. Financially it's not an option for us but he's okay with me working part time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-so-want-you-to-be-a-sahm#post-598983 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 06:30:43 +0000 heffalump 598983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He wanted me to be a sahm because he thought it would be best for lo..... But he was unsure about finances. Luckily for me I barely made any money so it made the most sense for me to stay home anyway :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-so-want-you-to-be-a-sahm#post-598981 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 06:17:06 +0000 Cherrybee 598981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH would hate it if I was a SAHM. It's bad enough when I work from home - he makes little comments about how easy my job is or how it's ok for me, sitting around in my PJs all day. I'd be the same if he was a SAHD though - I'd be so jealous it would probably tear us apart. Sad, really. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-so-want-you-to-be-a-sahm#post-598980 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 06:16:16 +0000 aprk 598980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, we discussed it fairly early on in our relationship and started working towards it financially before we got engaged. I'm lucky! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-so-want-you-to-be-a-sahm#post-598976 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 06:07:30 +0000 Dandelion 598976@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, but only until LO is in school. I totally agree. Ive only been sahm this year while ds is in kindergarten cause my temp job was up and we figured with being high risk I better take it easy. But ive been really bored during the day. I'm glad LO will be here soon to keep me company! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/doesdid-your-so-want-you-to-be-a-sahm#post-598971 Thu, 28 Feb 2013 05:45:02 +0000 illumina 598971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He's always known that I've wanted to be a SAHM, infact now I'm pregnant I think he's actually a little jealous and wishes he could be a SAHD! Unfortunately he makes several times the amount of money I could, so it's going to be me :) </p>