https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 06 May 2026 14:14:46 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dogs-around-kids/page/2#post-2875275 Thu, 07 Mar 2019 05:44:33 +0000 Adira 2875275@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kaohinani: Thanks for the info!! My oldest used to be allergic to milk and my youngest is allergic to all nuts, so I assumed the dogs probably consumed something with their allergen prior to licking them, but who knows. Appreciate the info! &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dogs-around-kids/page/2#post-2875209 Wed, 06 Mar 2019 15:22:43 +0000 Kaohinani 2875209@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Canine (and feline) saliva, urine, and dander all produce proteins that are difficult to break down and produce allergic reactions in some people. My DD used to get hives when a dog would lick her but never reacted to the dander. With time, and immersive allergy therapy, she does not produce the reaction when licked. My DS does not have the same reaction at all. You may also be correct that the allergy response could be caused through a transference of an allergen from something a dog ingested. Many pet foods have grains, peanut powder and fillers (or coloring) that could, potentially, affect an allergy-sensitive person. I state this as a woman who is wheat allergic (as well as, allergic to bee stings, and latex) and is very cognizant of cross-contamination. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dogs-around-kids/page/2#post-2875196 Wed, 06 Mar 2019 13:52:30 +0000 periwinklebee 2875196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: ugh, so ridiculous.... :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dogs-around-kids/page/2#post-2875194 Wed, 06 Mar 2019 13:44:17 +0000 Adira 2875194@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@periwinklebee: Okay, so it's not JUST my crazy in-laws! I've had both my kids totally swell up and break into hives after being licked by a dog (presumably because the dog ate something my kids were allergic to, but maybe it's just because of the dog) and yet my in-laws don't understand why I'm not fawning over their dogs and begging to hang out with them, haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dogs-around-kids/page/2#post-2875192 Wed, 06 Mar 2019 13:38:31 +0000 periwinklebee 2875192@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I have some relatives that got annoyed with my mom when they brought the dog to HER house and she wouldn't let them feed the dog peanut butter there (LO is allergic) and then go around licking everything. Some people just can't or don't want to imagine that not everyone is like them, and that allergies are serious and not hypochondria... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dogs-around-kids/page/2#post-2875187 Wed, 06 Mar 2019 13:09:39 +0000 Adira 2875187@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@KT326: My FIL is better about the dogs around my kids too!! Maybe this is just a SMIL thing, haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dogs-around-kids#post-2875186 Wed, 06 Mar 2019 12:45:19 +0000 KT326 2875186@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: my SMIL is the same way about her dog! She thinks my kids just need to get used to him. Uhhhh he is a 2 year old ~120lb Rottweiler that has minimal training. No, I'm not going to let my kids around him when he knocks them over just by turning around! </p> <p>Thankfully FIL is on our side and always makes sure he is either outside or in another room when the kids are over. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dogs-around-kids#post-2875183 Wed, 06 Mar 2019 11:35:53 +0000 Portboston 2875183@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have two (small) Boston terriers. One is extremely well behaved and will sniff a new person then move on with her life (she sometimes follows around but not to annoy, she just likes to be part of the group) and the other one gets a bit more excited but is getting better about not jumping. The second one usually sniffs people (used to jump) and then goes and lays in bed. </p> <p>If we’re having people over who have kids, they typically get put in our master so they are not a nussance. We recently had a family stay with us for a week and their kids are scared of dogs so that was tough. They are our very good friends and recently moved out of state so they were coming back for a visit. Before they moved the older child was somewhat ok with my dogs but being away for 6 months, she completely reverted. I felt bad that she was getting so upset about them but also felt like I couldn’t keep them locked in a bedroom for a week. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dogs-around-kids#post-2875182 Wed, 06 Mar 2019 11:27:23 +0000 JennyPenny 2875182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaBear87: Oh, nice - that's an awesome tip! Thanks :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dogs-around-kids#post-2875181 Wed, 06 Mar 2019 11:25:44 +0000 MamaBear87 2875181@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JennyPenny: jumping small dogs make me insane. People think because their dog is small they can do whatever they want and it's terrible. </p> <p>To stop the licking there's a few tastes dogs don't like. I'd look up a few and see if they're kid safe. If so mist your kids before you go over. Might get the dog to lay off </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dogs-around-kids#post-2875180 Wed, 06 Mar 2019 11:23:53 +0000 JennyPenny 2875180@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaBear87: Agreed 100%. And I wish all those dogs did was push their nose to my kids. It's a lot of jumping (from the 1 small dog) and some pretty intense licking (from the 1 big dog) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dogs-around-kids#post-2875179 Wed, 06 Mar 2019 11:20:54 +0000 MamaBear87 2875179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JennyPenny: to me well behaved is not jumping, licking etc when visitors arrive. Saying hello with a tail wag and gently asking to be pet are fine. But at that point unless the guests are inviting further attention the dog needs to go lay down. Following around visitors or constantly pushing your nose against them while they sit is not behaving. At some point my dogs will be old enough to do those things but currently they're both under 3 and it's just too much for them unless its someone staying with us for a few days </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dogs-around-kids#post-2875178 Wed, 06 Mar 2019 11:15:45 +0000 Adira 2875178@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sams Mom: @MamaBear87: @Kaohinani: I wish I could trade you ladies for my in-laws!!! &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dogs-around-kids#post-2875177 Wed, 06 Mar 2019 11:13:54 +0000 JennyPenny 2875177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaBear87: Your comment makes me realize too that the "well-behaved" part is in an issue. We have 4 families with dogs that we see. 1 is well behaved and my kids actually are totally fine with him. The other 3 are not at all. 1 of those is always put up as a precaution. But I think the other 2 don't see their dog as poorly behaved and so those are the houses where I try to see how to keep them apart. Because those dogs will not leave my children alone without some sort of physical barrier. But perhaps the owners just see that as "giving love" and not being poorly behaved. The owners in both cases enjoy getting that kind of attention from their dog and so I can see it not immediately being obvious that others don't feel that way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dogs-around-kids#post-2875176 Wed, 06 Mar 2019 11:11:00 +0000 Kaohinani 2875176@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: We have two dogs (a 5-year old Patterdale terrier and a year-old lab-pit mix). While they are "part of the family," I couldn't imagine forcing others (especially children who may be afraid of dogs OR individuals with allergies) to spend an extended amount of time confined with my dogs. As a pet owner, I find situations to make both the visiting guest and my dogs comfortable. I always vaccuum and dust before company visits. The dogs are not allowed on the 2nd or 3rd floors of our home so company can have repose from atleast some allergens (or canine affection). When company visits, the pups are contained in the kitchen, put outside to play in the dog run or (if it is cold and I am in the kitchen with company) my puppy chills in her kennel with toys and my older pup hangs out with toys in DH's office.<br /> I think the way your ILs expect you and your children to "deal" is horrendous 😡... I can understand why you would be apprehensive to visit! On the flip side, do not allow their behavior jade you on how you view other dog owners -- some of us are very accommodating and, honestly, care about the comfort and safety of those around us. 😉</p> <p>@Mamabear87: I agree that most pet owners (at least all the ones I know) are conscientious of visitors in their home. With that stated, if someone just "isn't a dog person," and makes a big stink about petty things (like the fact that my small dog occasionally sits on the couch when visitors are not around) OR that my 50+ lb puppy puts her feet on the gate to greet people), I do become a bit perturbed and do not invite them back again. I have had it happen ONLY ONCE though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dogs-around-kids#post-2875175 Wed, 06 Mar 2019 11:02:17 +0000 MamaBear87 2875175@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sams Mom: once we got our second dog, who's part border collie and has long hair, we had to stop having them over. Her dander and hair is just too hard to keep clean. Poor kid always ends up wheezing </p> <p>@Adira: and absolutely I think most dog owners respect allergies and legitimate fears etc. It's just adults who want my dog outside even though they've been hanging out bothering no one who bug me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dogs-around-kids#post-2875172 Wed, 06 Mar 2019 10:52:46 +0000 Sams Mom 2875172@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaBear87: @Adira: yeah allergies are a totally different boat. But labs shed 24/7 so I just feel bad having people with allergies at my house, even freshly cleaned. </p> <p>As a dog lover, I want everyone to love dogs, but I'm not going to force my 90 lbs of derp and please love me on a terrified kid. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dogs-around-kids#post-2875169 Wed, 06 Mar 2019 10:38:05 +0000 Adira 2875169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaBear87: Thanks. Unfortunately they are the most common dog-owners we see, so they give me a skewed view of dog-owners! It's nice to know most people aren't like this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dogs-around-kids#post-2875168 Wed, 06 Mar 2019 10:30:57 +0000 MamaBear87 2875168@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: your in-laws are being totally unreasonable. Of course your kids would just get over being itchy and uncomfortable if they hung out with the dogs more 🙄. I'm sorry that sounds like a miserable situation </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dogs-around-kids#post-2875167 Wed, 06 Mar 2019 10:29:04 +0000 Adira 2875167@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaBear87: You are so sweet!! &lt;3 My in-laws are definitely not like this. They think it's our fault that my kids are scared and allergic - if we only spent more time around their dogs, my kids would just get used to them! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dogs-around-kids#post-2875166 Wed, 06 Mar 2019 10:22:24 +0000 MamaBear87 2875166@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: an allergy is totally different to me than you just don't want my well behaved dog in the room. We have friends who have a kid who's allergic and my dogs go outside and I vaccum and mop before they come over. I love my dogs but her kid breathing is way more important. </p> <p>Same with someone who has a fear of dogs and asks politely that they be put up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dogs-around-kids#post-2875165 Wed, 06 Mar 2019 10:11:11 +0000 Adira 2875165@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@foodiebee: Yeah, my SMIL told me she found it hurtful we don't want to spend more time with their dogs.</p> <p>It's comforting to know that not ALL dog owners are like this though!! My in-laws seem to view their dogs as even more important than their grandkids (at least, that's how they come across). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dogs-around-kids#post-2875162 Wed, 06 Mar 2019 09:47:19 +0000 foodiebee 2875162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I have a labrador and if someone was allergic and came over to my house, I cannot imagine not placing my dog outside out of respect for their health. That's just crazy inconsiderate to your children.</p> <p>My DH and I have worked hard to train our dog and expose her to various situations, including kiddos of all ages. I would probably be taken aback if someone asked me in my home to put my dog up, because she is a member of my family and if you're coming over to my house, you know she's there. I'd probably approach it by first inquiring what my guest was concerned about from my dog and make a decision based on that. </p> <p>That being said, I have a family member with an aggressive small-breed dog, and we've been vocal about how the dog is not welcome in our home or around the baby once it's here. Family has admitted to doing nothing to train it/correct the behavior, it has tried to bite with intent to harm on multiple occasions, and we had to put our foot down as far as the dog coming into our home. Now, if we go to their house, then I know the dog will be there and will not be controlled, so I'm going to be the one to keep my child out of harm's way. It sucks that they don't share equal concern, but some people are really crappy pet owners. :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dogs-around-kids#post-2875136 Wed, 06 Mar 2019 06:06:35 +0000 Adira 2875136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My kids are allergic to dogs and terrified of them. My in-laws, who have big dogs, don't give a shit. They'll sometimes put their dogs outside for a little bit to give my kids a break, but most of the times they just say my kids need to get over it and get used to their dogs since their dogs "are family too." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dogs-around-kids#post-2875132 Wed, 06 Mar 2019 05:45:14 +0000 Becky 2875132@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely don’t ask people to put their dogs away. Most dog owners I know seem to know their dog’s limits. I’m allergic so we don’t have dogs (and I am not a dog person), but of course my girls love dogs. Every house I’ve been to has told my girls what to do around the dogs, like “She just needs to smell your hand and then she’ll be okay.” Or, “She’s really hyper so we’re going to keep her outside.” Now that I have kids I’m very careful about my non-verbal cues so they learn to be comfortable around them and recognize a dog’s limits (because without them I’m giving off a “please get it away from me” vine). We do have one set of family friends that prefers not to do play dates at their house esp. in winter because of their raucous dog which I appreciate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dogs-around-kids#post-2875131 Wed, 06 Mar 2019 05:23:45 +0000 hitchhiker 2875131@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My kids are terrified of dogs. I'm not sure why, because they haven't had any bad experiences. But they both actively freak out when we pass a dog on the street. Most of our friends don't have dogs, and those that do seem to preemptively put them away from guests when we are over. So I haven't had to say anything. But I thin my kids' behavior would make most people uncomfortable! But I also wouldn't really feel comfortable asking someone to put their dog somewhere else, so I think I would do a lot of holding the kids, taking about how to approach the dog and seeing is we could make peace. But we would probably suggest alternative meet up spots going forward! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dogs-around-kids#post-2875123 Tue, 05 Mar 2019 21:52:15 +0000 lindseykaye 2875123@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@muffinsmuffins: I could have written your post about our late dog. We had a mixed-breed rescue who was the biggest couch potato ever. But she was also anxious, dog-aggressive, and startled easily. We actually had a hospital visit once with our (then) 2 yr old due to an encounter with our dog and it was a nightmare. I never really relaxed about it ever again.</p> <p>We had always been really cautious about her introductions to people and especially our friends dogs. She was mostly only let out if visitors were long-time friends or family. If someone else was uncomfortable around her I would 100% let her hang in our bedroom (honestly she was happy un-making the bed to snuggle all day anyway). As a rule we put her up for any gathering with unfamiliar faces and any larger party scenario. </p> <p>If someone is anxious around or not comfortable with dogs I would much rather they just tell me, and give me the opportunity for an easy fix so we can enjoy each other’s company :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dogs-around-kids#post-2875114 Tue, 05 Mar 2019 19:40:01 +0000 petitenoisette 2875114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmm I don’t think I’d be insulted if someone wanted my dog put away but for us it’s logistically not possible, she would just bark the entire time. I guess in certain months she could go in the yard but she might still bark. This hasn’t been an issue for us because majority of friends in our group have dogs and no one puts their dog away. My dog leaves kids alone and will just lie in her bed once she’s greeted everyone. I am mindful that my dog doesn’t jump anyone when people arrive but other than that she leaves people alone. This isn’t to say that I think she could never hurt anyone and so of course I’m watchful that no one provokes her (but also think this is the job of all the parents around, just like I’d expect a parent to not knowingly let their child break something or hurt my kids, etc. ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dogs-around-kids#post-2875112 Tue, 05 Mar 2019 19:21:53 +0000 JennyPenny 2875112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@muffinsmuffins: I think it’s because the dog they grew up with (for most of their life so far at least) was so old and lazy. He never licked, jumped, and very rarely ran. He would stay perfectly still if you pet him. So dogs that actually move and get in their face totally freak them out. *shrug* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/dogs-around-kids#post-2875109 Tue, 05 Mar 2019 19:18:09 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2875109@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We put our dogs away every single time someone is over. And so does all of our friends. My big dog would never hurt a fly. But he’s big. If he bumps into a toddler they could get hurt. And my little dog is very old and wants to be left alone. </p>