https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 26 May 2026 18:23:35 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/downside-of-having-kids-close-together#post-907908 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 11:46:41 +0000 runsyellowlites 907908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for some reassurance ladies!</p> <p>I think I might just answer with "I really wanted to tandem breastfeed" if anyone else says anything negative... that will likely shut them up! lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/downside-of-having-kids-close-together#post-907793 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 10:47:40 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 907793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>People have an opinion for everything, sheesh. Wait 4-5 years between kids and I guarantee they'll ask why you waited so long or wonder if you had trouble conceiving!</p> <p>My kids are 26-months apart and I got a few comments like that too - I was so surprised because I thought it was a common spacing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/downside-of-having-kids-close-together#post-907759 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 10:36:05 +0000 pastemoo 907759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runsyellowlites: I'm sorry. I thought that would ideal spacing. People always have rude things to say to pregnant ladies--even if they don't mean it do be it somehow comes out rude. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/downside-of-having-kids-close-together#post-907465 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 09:00:36 +0000 swurlygurl 907465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's so sad! I want kids even closer - I didn't realize people could have such negative emotions about it... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/downside-of-having-kids-close-together#post-907458 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 08:56:34 +0000 Maysprout 907458@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry you're getting bad reactions. Our little girls will be 2 and a half years apart and we got some weird/non reactions mainly from our childless friends. Two friends literally didn't say anything and changed the subject, it was odd, I just figure that's their issue of something they're going through not mine so I didn't address it with them. Luckily our families are excited. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/downside-of-having-kids-close-together#post-907371 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 08:02:54 +0000 autumnlove 907371@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup, people were whatever about it and made a lot of comments about the close spacing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/downside-of-having-kids-close-together#post-907334 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 07:40:47 +0000 PinkElephant 907334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was hoping to be pregnant around my daughter's 1st birthday. 2 years between babies is pretty common in my circle!</p> <p>When I hear about kids who will be under 18 months apart, the only thing I might think/say that could be construed as negative is something the lines of asking if a mom or sister will come out to stay with them when baby #2 arrives (because I'd imagine they'll need a lot of help!) People are just too nosy sometimes with their "Was this planned" questions! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/downside-of-having-kids-close-together#post-907263 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 06:20:13 +0000 Dandelion 907263@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm anticipating a reaction like this, too, but of course for another reason. I'm gonna keep my next pregnancy on the down low, just to avoid any responses like this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/downside-of-having-kids-close-together#post-907262 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 06:18:19 +0000 GrapeCrush 907262@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my LO's are going to be 15 months apart, and majority of my family didn't have negative comments, as it's normal in my family for siblings to be (super) close in age(my brother is 12 months younger than me, my youngest brother is 17 months younger than him. my cousins are 15 months apart, etc...). </p> <p>we got more 'are you crazy!?' 'was it planned?!' 'what were you guys thinking?' 'better you than me!' 'oh, let one slip past the goalie I see(yes! DH got this comment)!?' comments from DH's family, our friends and coworkers.</p> <p>I always just responded with 'this is how our family was meant to be!' or that 'our little girl had plans that were different than ours' :o) after a while the comments stop bothering you(well they did for me anyways haha) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/downside-of-having-kids-close-together#post-907080 Thu, 04 Jul 2013 21:37:19 +0000 Mrs. Pen 907080@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Those are terribly insensitive and rude comments! I can't imagine someone saying that. That's nuts. I'm sorry.</p> <p>My sister will be having her second right around her sons 2nd birthday but everyone is thrilled for her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/downside-of-having-kids-close-together#post-906980 Thu, 04 Jul 2013 19:57:48 +0000 matador84 906980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runsyellowlites: yeah i am dreading. people are going to comment about how much we are going to have to pay in daycare, how i just started a new job, how my husband lives/works out of town and how hard it is on me with just one, etc. etc.</p> <p>i do have a friend whose kids are 13 months apart and i was telling her the other day how i was dreading what people were going to say. she said you know what, screw them! and she is right. :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/downside-of-having-kids-close-together#post-906965 Thu, 04 Jul 2013 19:50:57 +0000 Mrsjets 906965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aww that sucks :( </p> <p>My sister was crazy happy but one of my 2 best friends was like 'again!?' </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/downside-of-having-kids-close-together#post-906964 Thu, 04 Jul 2013 19:48:48 +0000 Penny Lane 906964@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>people need to mind their own beesknees. wow.</p> <p>ours are going to be a little less than 18 months apart, and while I've only told family so far they have been very excited and supportive of us.</p> <p>i'm preparing myself for the usual "boy, mormons have a lot of kids", and "wow, you guys move fast" jokes when we make it public, but to actually ask if it was planned?? holy rude, batman! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/downside-of-having-kids-close-together#post-906961 Thu, 04 Jul 2013 19:48:01 +0000 plantains 906961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runsyellowlites: aww, they will come round. P just turned one so they probably have a hard time seeing her as anything other than a wee baby. As your pregnancy goes on and P gets older they will be less skeptical. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/downside-of-having-kids-close-together#post-906960 Thu, 04 Jul 2013 19:47:19 +0000 runsyellowlites 906960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sarac: If it wasn't family or close friends I might feel that way about the minding ones business, but since they are close I'm more in the "they love me so it is their business". Still not very supportive reactions though. :(</p> <p>@matador84: Yea, I don't want to tell anyone else! My dad made comments recently about how we should've waited for P &amp; now we have a personal loan with him we're currently &amp; actively paying off... I can only imagine how much more he'll think we shouldn't be pregnant. :(</p> <p>Aren't people supposed to be happy about babies?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/downside-of-having-kids-close-together#post-906950 Thu, 04 Jul 2013 19:43:24 +0000 matador84 906950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm anticipating this kind of reaction. :-( we won't tell people for about 6 more weeks unless I get bigger and it's more obvious--I can already hear it..."did you plan it?" Even the nurse at the drs office was like, "was it an oops!?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/downside-of-having-kids-close-together#post-906944 Thu, 04 Jul 2013 19:40:00 +0000 sarac 906944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow. 2 years was my hoped for spacing. I'm very disappointed to not even be pregnant as my daughter approaches 2. It seems ideal for me, can't imagine why people have such an issue with it. Also with minding their business. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/downside-of-having-kids-close-together#post-906934 Thu, 04 Jul 2013 19:37:30 +0000 runsyellowlites 906934@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Did anyone else who had their kiddos around 2 years apart (between birthdays, not pregnancies) deal with family that was just so so or not all that excited about the news?</p> <p>I told my sister when she was down recently (because it was such a rare opportunity to tell her in person) and her first response was "WHHHHHHHHHHHHYYYYYYYYY..." followed by "Was it planned?" and "Are you sure you're ready?.." Needless to say it put a damper on me wanting to tell anyone else &amp; I waited a whole other week before telling my mom (whom I saw 3 or 4 times in that time). I told her today &amp; while she seemed more accepting (she's in the "if you're happy I'm happy" camp) she made comment about it being so close too!</p> <p>I seriously don't want to tell anyone else, regardless of being family or not! (I know I couldn't really do that though &amp; there would be alot of hurt feelings if we did). Ugh!</p> <p>Anyone else have this problem? </p>