https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 10 May 2026 14:11:31 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ebfwohm-moms-talk-to-me-about-your-division-of-nighttime-baby-duty#post-678445 Fri, 29 Mar 2013 21:37:30 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 678445@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have kind of a different take on division of duties. LO is not a great sleeper and wakes 5-6 times a night. He also wants to nurse often (but not always). He starts off in his crib &amp; we trade off soothing him until we get ready for bed. Then it's all me. I usually end up bringing him in bed with us to make nursing easier. DH will do a diaper change if its needed. So, DH gets more sleep than I. </p> <p>BUT, DH also does more after work chores. He walks the dog, does dishes, and the whole bedtime routine. I nurse, pump, and take care of bottles. Then DH let's me veg out for a bit and go to bed early. We feel like its working ok so far (and hope LO gets better at sleeping soon!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ebfwohm-moms-talk-to-me-about-your-division-of-nighttime-baby-duty#post-678408 Fri, 29 Mar 2013 21:10:14 +0000 yerpie110 678408@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i've handle all night duty from 2 weeks on. LO is currently 11 weeks and sleeps from 8pm-730am. i dreamfeed before i go to bed at 11pm and she wakes once to eat around 4am. sometimes she'll cry one more time during the night, but it's usually because she's peed through her clothing or needs a changing. otherwise, it hasn't been too bad so far. if she's really having a tough night (growth spurt, wonder week, etc.) i'll wake DH up and we'll split staying up with her - i need my sleep too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ebfwohm-moms-talk-to-me-about-your-division-of-nighttime-baby-duty#post-678407 Fri, 29 Mar 2013 21:10:00 +0000 Schmei 678407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>By the time PB was 4 months old, his bedtime was around 7:30pm. I would pump before I went to bed (ideally, around 9:30) and DH and I had a night time division of labor: if baby woke up before 1am, DH would get up and give him the bottle (I'd leave it on the kitchen counter so he'd only need to briefly warm it). If it was after 1am, I would get up and nurse him. This way each of us knew we would be able to get at least one chunk of uninterrupted sleep.<br /> For a while, he was usually waking around 11pm and then again around 4am, so each of us took a night feeding and we both got some rest. Some nights DH would just stay up reading a book or something so he didn't get all comfortable in bed just to wake up again. But he could sleep later than me in the morning, too, so that worked out for each of us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ebfwohm-moms-talk-to-me-about-your-division-of-nighttime-baby-duty#post-678395 Fri, 29 Mar 2013 21:05:45 +0000 rachiecakes 678395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I went back to work at 7 weeks and breastfed. I had DS in a co-sleeper and would co-bed to nurse. It was the only way I could get any sleep for the first 9 months and worked for us.<br /> DS still weaned by 11 months old and now asks to go to bed on his own and sleeps straight through the night. If he does have an off night and wakes up, I'll bring him into bed with me. That's rare these days though, only when he's sick or teething. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ebfwohm-moms-talk-to-me-about-your-division-of-nighttime-baby-duty#post-678394 Fri, 29 Mar 2013 21:05:39 +0000 MsInformation 678394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD started sleeping 8-hour stretches about a week before I went back to work at 12 weeks. We put her down around 8 p.m. and she has been waking up consistently at 4:30 am. She is still sleeping in the Arms Reach Co-Sleeper bassinet on my side of the bed and I handle all the wakings. She is a pretty fast nurser, so the whole process (nurse + burp + change diaper) takes about 20 minutes and she usually falls back asleep right away. DH sleeps straight through! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ebfwohm-moms-talk-to-me-about-your-division-of-nighttime-baby-duty#post-678382 Fri, 29 Mar 2013 20:52:42 +0000 oahujeni 678382@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't try to set a plan based on his current sleep schedule just yet because a lot can change by the time you go back to work. DS was getting up 3x/night at 8 weeks, but at 12 weeks he was only getting up once. Crossing my fingers for longer stretches at night for you :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ebfwohm-moms-talk-to-me-about-your-division-of-nighttime-baby-duty#post-678355 Fri, 29 Mar 2013 20:25:23 +0000 dagret 678355@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladyfingers: subscribing, bc I'm in the exact same boat, except my LO is 9.5 weeks old! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ebfwohm-moms-talk-to-me-about-your-division-of-nighttime-baby-duty#post-678121 Fri, 29 Mar 2013 17:55:58 +0000 DillonLion 678121@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ha ours is totally unsustainable and curently not fair at all. If we find a new plan that we can both agree to, ill share it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ebfwohm-moms-talk-to-me-about-your-division-of-nighttime-baby-duty#post-678091 Fri, 29 Mar 2013 17:29:20 +0000 brownie 678091@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>By the time I couldn't handle the nights anymore (around 5 months) we started cobedding and I got a lot more sleep. It just didn't make sense for him to get up when I had to wake up and nurse anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ebfwohm-moms-talk-to-me-about-your-division-of-nighttime-baby-duty#post-678073 Fri, 29 Mar 2013 17:09:15 +0000 mrsjazz 678073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Right now LO wakes up once or twice a night and I handle those wake-ups. She usually just wants to nurse and goes right back to sleep.</p> <p>When she's teething or sick she's up A LOT so I eventually wake DH up to help when I'm too frazzled. </p> <p>In the past we would get up together. He'd change her and I'd nurse her. As she started sleeping more hours at night he stopped getting up. </p> <p>I don't pump at night, I used to but it was just too much upkeep for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ebfwohm-moms-talk-to-me-about-your-division-of-nighttime-baby-duty#post-678070 Fri, 29 Mar 2013 16:57:30 +0000 ladyfingers 678070@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Once you returned to work, what did you and SO do about nighttime wakings? Did you continue to get up and nurse? Did you have SO give a bottle for one or more wakings? And if the latter, did you get up and pump, or just sleep?</p> <p>I'm currently handling all aspects of nighttime wakings as I'm still on maternity leave. LO is 8 weeks and waking 2, sometimes 3 times/night. He's in the rock n play on my side of the bed so he always wakes me first. I unswaddle him, nurse in one side, then since I'm up anyway, take him to his room where I change him and reswaddle him, nurse him on the other side back in bed, and put him down, usually already asleep.</p> <p>DH's work schedule though is a bit more flexible than mine. He often works from home or later in the day/nights. Daycare is also near my work, so I'd be the one to bring LO there in the morning, hence having to get up around 5:30/6 to work an 8-5 schedule. </p> <p>Therefore I'd love a more fair division of duty. DH is up for it but I just want something that makes sense and doesn't shaft either of us.</p> <p>What's your routine?</p> <p>ETA These night feedings typically take an hour because he's so sleepy and is a lazy nurser. So that's kind of a killer too, especially once I return to work. </p>