https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 07 May 2026 07:29:02 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/effects-of-infertility-on-marriage#post-719640 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 11:05:31 +0000 Mrs. Polish 719640@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrswin: I feel like I could have written this myself. Our husbands sound so much alike! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/effects-of-infertility-on-marriage#post-678962 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 10:38:20 +0000 mrswin 678962@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Similar to what others have mentioned. It has both brought us closer together but also challenged us at times. Generally DH is extremely laid back and I need to control things which has caused us to conflict on what the next steps in the process should be how agressively we want to persue treatment.<br /> On the flip side during our most recent IUI cycle he was so great and when it didn't work he was very supportive and reassuring. He is so confident that we will get pregnant. I'm really lucky to have found such a good guy who knows how to put up with my special brand of "crazy"! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/effects-of-infertility-on-marriage#post-678857 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 09:11:28 +0000 BSB 678857@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had relationship issues before TTC so about 6 months into TTC, we had to take a 3 month break to work on our relationship. We are definitely stronger than before. Although, we can be both frustrated and upset that we are not pregnant yet. Also, what doesn't help is that I am very hormonal, moody, irrational before I get my period. So that time can be really stressful on my DH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/effects-of-infertility-on-marriage#post-678853 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 09:05:59 +0000 beachbee 678853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree it brought us closer and pushed us further apart. Ours was a long winding journey of TTC for a few years, fertility treatments, successful IVF, stillbirth, and finally the birth of our healthy LO. It's been exhausting and very trying on our marriage. The thing that has helped the most is counseling, both individually and together. It gave us a better understanding of what the other person is going through and really opened up the lines of communication. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/effects-of-infertility-on-marriage#post-678691 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 05:20:07 +0000 cheert16 678691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It was hard on both if us, but I think I took the burden on guilt on myself ( I felt like I was a woman and this was what I and my body was supposed to be doing, and my body wouldn't work properly) My DH did a good job of trying to tell me that, it wasnt my fault, that we would do it together- etc. the worst was when I started the hormones though- that made things difficult because DH didn't how to deal withy crazy emotions. Even when we finally conceived - waiting to hear if it was viable was hard. I am so glad bough that my DH was beside me the whole time because he made me stronger through the whole process, even if he didn't understand exactly wha lt my feelings and emotions were. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/effects-of-infertility-on-marriage#post-678666 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 02:23:09 +0000 TheSwissWifeStyle 678666@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In a counseling session, my Dh told the psychologist that he thought I was brave. He hadn't said that to me before, and it was awesome to hear! It gave me the courage to do things I was afraid to do. (Namely the hsg test, it scared the crap out of me.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/effects-of-infertility-on-marriage#post-678656 Sat, 30 Mar 2013 01:57:51 +0000 tequiero21 678656@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@spaniellove: yeah, much needed! Hard to find fun in times of stress. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/effects-of-infertility-on-marriage#post-678523 Fri, 29 Mar 2013 22:28:41 +0000 spaniellove 678523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tequiero21: He is! I'm glad you made the comment about date nights and trips...that's been missing since we started TTC and we're making an effort to get that in again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/effects-of-infertility-on-marriage#post-678518 Fri, 29 Mar 2013 22:25:47 +0000 tequiero21 678518@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@spaniellove: sounds like a keeper! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/effects-of-infertility-on-marriage#post-678506 Fri, 29 Mar 2013 22:21:10 +0000 spaniellove 678506@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've always been close, but IF has definitely brought us closer. DH has spent so much time caring for me and going to my appointments (every single monitoring appt, writing down my follicle sizes) and watching trashy TV with me to make me feel better. </p> <p>It was rough at first when he didn't understand why I researched everything so much. But after he saw how much of our care is in our hands, he tried hard to make sure we were a good team. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/effects-of-infertility-on-marriage#post-678466 Fri, 29 Mar 2013 21:53:55 +0000 Mrs. Train 678466@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I was on hormone treatments it was really rough. I was do emotional and I don't think anyone even DH knew how to handle me. Our marriage is stronger having fine through Infertility, then adoption, then biological children. I feel like after all that we can survive anything. </p> <p>One things for sure he did not have as hard a time as I did and didn't really understand my pain. I think he could sympathize but not truly understand. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/effects-of-infertility-on-marriage#post-678371 Fri, 29 Mar 2013 20:44:00 +0000 jmarionsmith 678371@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Polish: like you, it brought us closer. as much as our friends and family sympathized, no one but us knew exactly what we were going through. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/effects-of-infertility-on-marriage#post-678354 Fri, 29 Mar 2013 20:22:41 +0000 tequiero21 678354@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It was a long journey.... I think it made us closer. And it definitely made us appreciate our kids that much more. I think what helped was to spend more time together. We went on trips, had tons of date nights, etc.</p> <p>Love my kids so so so much, but I miss my alone time with the hubs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/effects-of-infertility-on-marriage#post-678277 Fri, 29 Mar 2013 19:36:17 +0000 swedishfish 678277@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it was hard on both of us and definitely made us feel like an island unto ourselves BUT it was easier on DH. He met with a urologist and ultimately the urologist decided against surgery for him so I was the one who went through all of the treatments and procedures. All he had to do was provide the sample so he didn't quite understand what I went through. We actually just discussed this last weekend because it bothered me that he really thought we had it easy. Yes, we had it easier than other couples in some ways (our first IVF was a success) but we weren't able to conceive naturally. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/effects-of-infertility-on-marriage#post-678254 Fri, 29 Mar 2013 19:24:24 +0000 Mrs. Polish 678254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How do you handle the stress of infertility in your marriage?</p> <p>For us it actually brought us closer together and drove us apart at the same time. We did bible devotions together that strengthened our communication, but the pain of infertility made us both feel pretty isolated. </p>