https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 06 May 2026 03:12:50 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ei-services/page/2#post-1960344 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 17:36:19 +0000 autumnlove 1960344@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsRcCar: I'm glad it went well! Best of luck to you and your boys! &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ei-services/page/2#post-1960340 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 17:30:43 +0000 MrsRcCar 1960340@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>***Update***<br /> We just concluded our eval with EI. Both of my boys qualify for speech/feeding/communication services. We will start off next week. It went well I was stressed out but the ladies were so nice!!! Dh and I need to discuss if we want in home services or if we want to do OT therapy at either hospital. I did like the therapist that came today, she is available thru EI or the hospital therapy. Overall I am feeling good. Thank you for all the support. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ei-services#post-1959229 Tue, 25 Nov 2014 01:10:25 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1959229@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hope all goes well!! Feel free to join our EI board if you want to. I'm sure both boys are gonna do wonderful! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ei-services#post-1959210 Mon, 24 Nov 2014 23:54:05 +0000 jhd 1959210@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsRcCar: sounds like a good plan! I know this is stressful but hang in there! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ei-services#post-1959195 Mon, 24 Nov 2014 23:37:39 +0000 MrsRcCar 1959195@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jhd: I am hoping so. I am stressed out about this. We (DH and I) decided to just not tell my folks about the appointment. They will both be at work during the eval anyway. We will see what they say and then go from there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ei-services#post-1959186 Mon, 24 Nov 2014 23:32:44 +0000 jhd 1959186@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsRcCar: I hope it goes well! Everyone we have worked with has been great. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ei-services#post-1959143 Mon, 24 Nov 2014 22:49:43 +0000 MrsRcCar 1959143@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jhd: They are going to eval both of my boys, but I am hoping it will only less then 1.5 hours. No else will be home so the distractions will be minimal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ei-services#post-1959131 Mon, 24 Nov 2014 22:42:34 +0000 jhd 1959131@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ours wasn't long...maybe an hour? I can't remember exactly. LO was only a few months old so it was mostly questions for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ei-services#post-1958881 Mon, 24 Nov 2014 19:25:34 +0000 MrsRcCar 1958881@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our eval is tomorrow at 4pm (est). Does anyone know how long it generally takes? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ei-services#post-1948045 Mon, 17 Nov 2014 16:22:03 +0000 Mrs. Tiger 1948045@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsRcCar: good luck with the eval! EI has been very helpful to D :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ei-services#post-1948005 Mon, 17 Nov 2014 15:56:03 +0000 MrsRcCar 1948005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littleredhairedgrl: They are supposed to call me tomorrow (Tuesday) to set up our eval. Hoping soon just so we can get started. When I spoke to EI people they said it was best to do an eval on both boys so we are! I am doing it on a day with no one else home so there are less distractions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ei-services#post-1947887 Mon, 17 Nov 2014 15:10:34 +0000 littleredhairedgrl 1947887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsRcCar: we are going thru a similar thing with A. At our last follow-up with the NICU they suggested getting A evaluated - not so much because she's showing delays, but they don't want her to get behind, and also because of her feeding issues. Dh thinks that it means there is something "wrong" with her if we do it, but I'd honestly welcome some PT for her and it would give me a better sense of where she is developmentally. We are getting our evaluation next week. Have you set anything up yet? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ei-services#post-1940915 Wed, 12 Nov 2014 11:47:54 +0000 MrsRcCar 1940915@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: Thank you for the support! I just wish we were getting more support from my folks. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ei-services#post-1940443 Wed, 12 Nov 2014 08:03:38 +0000 looch 1940443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsRcCar: You're doing the right thing, I firmly believe that nothing bad can come from seeking additional help. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ei-services#post-1940440 Wed, 12 Nov 2014 08:01:59 +0000 MrsRcCar 1940440@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: You are probably right. They are always commenting that he is just fine and developing on track despite the fact that he is a preemie and delayed. They are always saying he just needs more time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ei-services#post-1940429 Wed, 12 Nov 2014 07:52:58 +0000 looch 1940429@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsRcCar: I think for a lot of people, the acceptance of services is the admission that something is less than perfect. It's like your perfect child/grandchild isn't so perfect anymore, and it can be a tough thing to accept.</p> <p>My parents are totally fine with it, but then again, I have a special needs brother. So they are familiar with EI. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ei-services#post-1940426 Wed, 12 Nov 2014 07:50:14 +0000 MrsRcCar 1940426@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: I am sure that FIL will be more then supportive. Even if he thinks our parenting is a little weird or not his style he supports us unconditional. I think my folks are similar to your MIL, but I am not sure why because we discussed at length our plan to home school. (Which is something they think is wonderful) I hear a lot how I am overreacting to things with the boys for example: both boys are RF in the car, replaced car seats after our accident,still ebf E at 9 months, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ei-services#post-1940381 Wed, 12 Nov 2014 07:03:26 +0000 looch 1940381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsRcCar: I meant to reply to you last night, I can totally understand family being hesitant to explore services. My MIL was like that when I had my son evaluated at the age of 18 months. I asked her why she was so hesitant about it and she basically said that the reason was because the diagnosis "follows" the child through school and she was worried that he would be treated differently. But in our case, it did not matter because our son wasn't going to be in that particular school system (we moved).</p> <p>Now, my SILs kids could absolutely use services, but they don't get them because of this reason. It's unfortunate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ei-services#post-1940313 Wed, 12 Nov 2014 00:37:26 +0000 MrsRcCar 1940313@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sweet T: My family tends to be pretty laid back in terms of kids will do it when they are ready. Mind you my brother didn't talk until he was 4 (!!) . I love being around my family but sometimes they make me crazy.<br /> @MrsMccarthy: I am hoping after the evaluation I will have a better handle on things for him. Dh and I agree getting help early will be key and we don't want to wait much longer. When E was in the NICU they told us that he would likely need EI services and it isn't uncommon in preemies. My parents are just a whole different generation in terms of parenting. I am pretty laid back most of the time (or at least I like to think I am) but something's are just too important to let slip by. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ei-services#post-1939986 Tue, 11 Nov 2014 17:59:58 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1939986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My only regret is not getting my son services sooner. The strides he has made are incredible and EI would never hurt a child but can make all the difference especially at the ages when brain development is so rapid. I say go for it and let your family flip out if they must. Explain to them that this is just a precautionary thing and not a diagnosis of anything. Just helping him catch up at a crucial time. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ei-services#post-1939959 Tue, 11 Nov 2014 17:39:18 +0000 Sweet T 1939959@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had our first meeting for EI yesterday. DS2 is 14 months old, ~12 months adjusted. His development is similar to that of a 6 month old.</p> <p>We don't live near family, so they don't really get to have any input, but when I told my parents, both said "well, he's a preemie." I don't know why other generations seem to have a negative view of EI, but we didn't even question it. Do what's best for your family! I'm sorry you're getting grief from others! :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ei-services#post-1939940 Tue, 11 Nov 2014 17:24:04 +0000 MrsRcCar 1939940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BeachMama: I agree. I thonk the shocking start to E's life (accompanied by shocking bills) has my folks off doctors and everything they are about right now. I think they are in more denial then anything else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ei-services#post-1939934 Tue, 11 Nov 2014 17:20:24 +0000 BeachMama 1939934@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Their concerns about the doctor just being in it for the money don't apply since EI services are usually funded by the govt. The only possibility would be if the doctor owned the clinic doing the eval and treatment, but if that's the case you could always find another clinic. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ei-services#post-1939928 Tue, 11 Nov 2014 17:14:21 +0000 MrsRcCar 1939928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Espion: E is an extremely busy baby. He isn't quite crawling yet but he is so close. He is always after his big brother and getting around. The only time he isn't moving is when he is sleeping even then he is a mover. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ei-services#post-1939904 Tue, 11 Nov 2014 16:56:17 +0000 Espion 1939904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsRcCar: I asked my E's pediatrician why language matters at this age, and she said that kids can have lifelong difficulty enunciating properly because they don't use the muscles necessary to form words. I thought that was interesting, because I felt like no one told me why it really mattered. </p> <p>FWIW, we had my son evaluated for language, and they ended up determining that he was advanced enough in his motor skills to justify waiting on his language skills. (He's 17 months with no words, but he babbles like he is having conversations in Yiddish.) We'll probably get him re-evaluated if he makes no progress in the next couple of months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ei-services#post-1939902 Tue, 11 Nov 2014 16:53:28 +0000 wonderstruck 1939902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsRcCar: My DH went through the same thing - my MIL was very happy that we were getting L help so early! And my mom's a teacher, so obviously she was supportive...but yeah, the earlier the better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ei-services#post-1939892 Tue, 11 Nov 2014 16:46:28 +0000 MrsRcCar 1939892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Espion: The boys education and development at extremely important to me. My younger brother had to go to speech therapy in elementary because his speech was so behind. I think my parents just didn't have the resources until he went to school. My brother was always shy becaue kids teased him about it when he was small. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ei-services#post-1939891 Tue, 11 Nov 2014 16:43:13 +0000 Espion 1939891@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsRcCar: Exactly, mama!! What mother doesn't? I've never understood the stigma people place on early intervention. </p> <p>I read an article in the NYT some weeks ago imploring the wealthy to spend as much money on daycares and preschools as they do universities, because THAT is where their dollars would make a true difference! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ei-services#post-1939890 Tue, 11 Nov 2014 16:42:53 +0000 MrsRcCar 1939890@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wonderstruck: The living arrangement is semi permenant at the moment. We are busy getting our debt under control and DH's job is a bit unpredictable at the moment. I think it is just a pride thing for my family. We will not be skipping any treatments because of how they feel. I push a lot of things medically for my kids. I know they want the best too, they just aren't great at showing. They have a pretty different way of parenting. Ultimatly they will side with me. It will be rocky for a bit tho. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ei-services#post-1939885 Tue, 11 Nov 2014 16:39:04 +0000 Espion 1939885@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsRcCar: Oh, sigh. I just read the comment about the family's feeling about the doctor. Do they think we get kickbacks from referrals? Uh, no. In fact, early intervention is usually a state funded service. </p>