https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 11 Apr 2026 10:15:16 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/emotional-over-leaving-baby-with-nanny#post-2084183 Tue, 24 Feb 2015 22:59:08 +0000 Meowkers 2084183@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Seriously thank you SO much ladies for the support and words of encouragement. Sometimes it helps just knowing that other people experience the same thing and that everything will be ok. Big internet hug to all of you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/emotional-over-leaving-baby-with-nanny#post-2083906 Tue, 24 Feb 2015 17:29:26 +0000 kml636 2083906@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's extremely hard, but it WILL get easier. Depends on how your baby is too. Take care of yourself and do what's best for the whole family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/emotional-over-leaving-baby-with-nanny#post-2083890 Tue, 24 Feb 2015 17:17:03 +0000 LuLu Mom 2083890@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Take a deep breathe, you still have 1/2 of your maternity leave left! Use this time to build a bond and create memories, don't use it to worry about weeks away about leaving her. She will always know who her momma is and will be so excited to see you at the end of the day! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/emotional-over-leaving-baby-with-nanny#post-2083813 Tue, 24 Feb 2015 16:30:42 +0000 jedeve 2083813@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used to work at a daycare. Even the kids who were there 50 hours a week preferred their mamas to everyone else!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/emotional-over-leaving-baby-with-nanny#post-2083790 Tue, 24 Feb 2015 16:19:36 +0000 StrawberryShortie 2083790@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Transitions are so tough but you will be okay! As much as my baby loves out daycare provider, she is always happy to see me when I go get her. It takes a village xoxo </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/emotional-over-leaving-baby-with-nanny#post-2083729 Tue, 24 Feb 2015 15:50:48 +0000 mrs. bird 2083729@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh, I wanted to come back to add: there might be times when LO cries when you get home &amp; the nanny leaves or doesn't seem excited to see you, it's not you! Transitions are hard, even good ones, like mama coming home, she will always appreciate when you're home, even if it doesn't come across that way in the moment &lt;3 it'll be hard, but it'll okay </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/emotional-over-leaving-baby-with-nanny#post-2083721 Tue, 24 Feb 2015 15:45:06 +0000 Torchwood 2083721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I nannied, even when the mom was working a TON of hours (she was a medical resident), mom was her favorite person in the world. There was no question that she was the momma, and baby knew it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/emotional-over-leaving-baby-with-nanny#post-2083710 Tue, 24 Feb 2015 15:33:31 +0000 MK0180 2083710@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs - it will get easier. I had the exact same feelings when I went back to work and DS went to daycare. It was so hard and I wanted so badly to quit my job but still get paid. :) He was also 3 mos. I called all the time to check in and I knew he was in good hands. My mom watches him as well and she sends me pics all day about what he's doing and any updates (maybe your nanny can do this?). It's great when she does this - I miss him like crazy but I love seeing what he's been up to.<br /> And you know, he knows who I am and who DH is. Your DD will know who her mommy is! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/emotional-over-leaving-baby-with-nanny#post-2083687 Tue, 24 Feb 2015 15:09:16 +0000 snowjewelz 2083687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I go back to work on Thur and DD is just 12 weeks so I know how you feel :crying: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/emotional-over-leaving-baby-with-nanny#post-2083684 Tue, 24 Feb 2015 15:06:32 +0000 mrsjazz 2083684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Awww. I went through this, too. It's hard and it's still hard sometimes, but my LO knows who Mommy is. She loves her nanny and honestly after having a really sucky nanny previously, I am so happy that my LO loves our new nanny and is so happy with her. </p> <p>Your LO knows who her Mama is. And she may respond differently to your nanny than she does to you, but that doesn't mean anything! My LO will nap for nanny but not nap for me unless I sleep next to her because she wants me! </p> <p>Hang in there. No one can replace you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/emotional-over-leaving-baby-with-nanny#post-2083653 Tue, 24 Feb 2015 14:49:42 +0000 Littlebit 2083653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had the same fears, I even posted the same thing about my baby not knowing I'm his mom. It is so hard, but it really does get a little bit easier. I was in a panic and cried a lot of my maternity leave at the thought of him spending so much time with his sitter/nanny. </p> <p>They KNOW who their mama is. Always! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/emotional-over-leaving-baby-with-nanny#post-2083646 Tue, 24 Feb 2015 14:45:30 +0000 MenagerieMama 2083646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We just went through a rough nanny acquiring spell (mostly an issue because LO knew too much who mommy and daddy were and screamed bloody murder for anyone who wasn't!) but things are going much smoother now. I agree with @littlejoy - we got a couple nanny cams and while they don't get much use per day, the ability to look in for a few minutes while I'm at work and watch LO being sung to by the nanny or getting ready for bed really helps! I never thought we'd use/need them until we had issues with her crying with the nannies, and now I don't know how we could survive without them! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/emotional-over-leaving-baby-with-nanny#post-2083640 Tue, 24 Feb 2015 14:38:01 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 2083640@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It is so hard to leave, but like the others have said, your baby will always be *your* baby and will be so happy to see you when you get home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/emotional-over-leaving-baby-with-nanny#post-2083621 Tue, 24 Feb 2015 14:27:12 +0000 littlejoy 2083621@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I went through this, and it gets easier, I promise!!! </p> <p>An amazing thing about childcare is that your child begins to trust other people, and by having a nanny, you'll be setting the tone for possible date nights, too. </p> <p>We had a nanny from 5 months until now at 14 months. I loved knowing that baby was in our home, and well taken care of. You could always have (and disclose) a nanny cam so you could at least see baby. </p> <p>We start daycare next week (for socialization), and I feel the same way again.</p> <p>Sending encouragement!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/emotional-over-leaving-baby-with-nanny#post-2083602 Tue, 24 Feb 2015 14:15:42 +0000 LBee 2083602@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I posted a very similar thread when I went back to work. I got some great responses: </p> <p><a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-fear#post-1891193" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/irrational-fear#post-1891193</a></p> <p>In the beginning, my son would often look at me like he had literally never seen me in his life. By about 4 months, he would give me the biggest smile when I would get him. Now at 6 months, he lights up and immediately reaches for me. It's hard going back to work, but cherish the snuggles now and focus on the positive reasons of why you are going back to work. If I could change one thing, I wish I wouldn't have spent my last couple of weeks dwelling on the fact that I had to go back to work. </p> <p>Hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/emotional-over-leaving-baby-with-nanny#post-2083600 Tue, 24 Feb 2015 14:13:22 +0000 tiramisu 2083600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel you! Dont worry, she'll definitely know you're her mama. No question about it. I won't lie tho, going back to work is hard and SO emotional. I dreaded it for weeks and even extended my leave by a week cause I was just not ready. The first day I dropped DD off I cried alot. But it got way easier. Like @mrs.shinerbock: mentioned about thinking that LO is getting another person to love her. I feel fortunate that we have a great nanny that DD loves. It makes being at work so much easier knowing she's well cared for and having fun. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/emotional-over-leaving-baby-with-nanny#post-2083598 Tue, 24 Feb 2015 14:13:05 +0000 blackbird 2083598@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh she will always know who her mommy is :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/emotional-over-leaving-baby-with-nanny#post-2083589 Tue, 24 Feb 2015 14:10:45 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2083589@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Big hugs. I sobbed daily for the month before my mat leave ended. Being back at work ended up being good for me though despite not wanting to go back. DD ended up adoring her nanny and having such a blast. It became about another person loving her and her having more love in her life than her loving me less.<br /> My mom worked when we grew up and I'm still in touch with our nannies, but my mom is my mom. She'll always be number one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/emotional-over-leaving-baby-with-nanny#post-2083568 Tue, 24 Feb 2015 14:03:22 +0000 Anagram 2083568@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Meowkers: it IS hard....</p> <p>I'll be honest, when my LO was an inant, she *didn't* always seem to know I was mommy--as in, she's always been kind of easy, behaviorally, and she didn't cry when I dropped her or seem super happy when I picked her up.</p> <p>But as she got older, she DEFINITELY figured out who mommy and daddy were, and now she's excited every day when I pick her up.</p> <p>It's rough, but you get through it. It's hard! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/emotional-over-leaving-baby-with-nanny#post-2083557 Tue, 24 Feb 2015 13:58:01 +0000 autumnlove 2083557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs. I think a lot of parents get emotional about leaving their kids with nannys or daycare but it will be ok! She will look forward to seeing you when you get home every day! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/emotional-over-leaving-baby-with-nanny#post-2083550 Tue, 24 Feb 2015 13:56:08 +0000 mrs.shinerbock 2083550@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>((((Hugs)))). It's hard, I know. But I guarantee your LO won't start thinking of the nanny as her mama. She knows it's you. I had to think of it as my LO was getting another person in her life to love her when I had to go back to work and that's what it is. LO loves the nanny and the nanny loves her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/emotional-over-leaving-baby-with-nanny#post-2083546 Tue, 24 Feb 2015 13:55:08 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2083546@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agree with @mrs. bird! She will always know that you are her mama, and there will be no substitute for you. She will be very lucky to have an extra person love her, but you will always be her mama and you'll never be able to be replaced :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/emotional-over-leaving-baby-with-nanny#post-2083540 Tue, 24 Feb 2015 13:52:23 +0000 mrs. bird 2083540@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh Hun, she will absolutely always know you are the mama! No one could ever fill that spot! I'm a nanny &amp; while I have special relationships with all my nanny kids, it's never been an issue where any of them were confused, they're just super lucky to have an extra adult in their lives to love them. Think of it like an aunt kind of love, it is a real love &amp; bond, but nothing like a mama's love, you will always be top dog &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/emotional-over-leaving-baby-with-nanny#post-2083512 Tue, 24 Feb 2015 13:43:05 +0000 Meowkers 2083512@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm just looking for some empathy here I guess and maybe to get this off my chest. </p> <p>My DD is 6 weeks currently. I'll be going back to work full time when she's 3 months at which point she'll be home with a nanny. I'm getting SO SAD about the thought of someone else spending the entire day with her. Right now I'm the expert in everything related to her because I spend the most time with her. She smiles when she sees me in the morning and stops crying when she's in my arms. I know all her little ques and wants and needs and how to satisfy them. The idea that someone else will be spending more time with her and will now know all those things more than me is making me so so sad. I keep thinking what if DD thinks the nanny is her mama because she'll be with her all day? What if she starts responding to the nanny better than she does to me? urgh. just so emotional over this. :crying: </p>