https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 04 Jun 2026 21:07:18 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/encouragement-needed#post-1934365 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 10:40:20 +0000 coopsmama 1934365@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ShootingStar: I agree with your advice wholeheartedly.</p> <p>It really bothers me when pediatricians try to act like the experts on all things child raising - sleep included. They are the experts on children's health, but there is no way they should be handing out guidelines about sleep because that can honestly depend so much on each individual child. My two have been night and day as far as infant sleep goes. Certainly those guidelines would be ideal but when do any of us fit into the ideal?! @knittylady: I would just ignore his guidelines and take heart that you are doing a great job! My 3.5 month old won't sleep in a crib or Pack n Play no matter what we do - so the swing or our bed it is because we both need sleep more than I need her to sleep in her crib. That will come eventually. Be encouraged that we are right there with you! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/encouragement-needed#post-1934343 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 10:33:29 +0000 ShootingStar 1934343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't even discuss sleep with your pediatrician. Do what you gotta do to survive. My philosophy was to always work towards perfect sleep conditions, but to do what I needed in the moment. If baby will only sleep in the RnP or swing, then put them in there and get some rest. If they wake up for a feeding and you want to try a segment in the crib - great! If they won't settle after a couple tries, back in the RnP. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/encouragement-needed#post-1934312 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 10:15:07 +0000 JoJoGirl 1934312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Holy moly let the 9 week old sleep in the Rock N Play! It's about survival! You aren't screwing anything up. And it will pass :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/encouragement-needed#post-1934309 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 10:14:44 +0000 Mamasig 1934309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>And neither one of my boys have ever liked napping in their crib. I don't really care where they nap as long as they sleep! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/encouragement-needed#post-1934308 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 10:13:31 +0000 Mamasig 1934308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First off, you did not mess up your newborn's sleep! He is only 9 weeks old!!! You can't expect that much from him yet. It's still about survival. As for the guidelines, I say screw it for now. Do what works! If the rnp works use it! Your pediatrician is not with you at night trying to get these kids to sleep!</p> <p>My two boys are 20 months apart. The first couple of months were hard at night. Routines both for the toddler and baby were just go with the flow. Once little brother could be put down longer and go between feedings longer, it got easier. Now at 6 months, he goes down around 7-8 and I can do big brother. I was frustrated in the beginning but it got better. You'll figure out your groove with time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/encouragement-needed#post-1934283 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 09:54:33 +0000 knittylady 1934283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been feeling pretty great about our family of four, but something snapped last night. Our 17 month old was up all.night.long with teething pain and our 9 week old has been refusing to sleep anywhere but our arms for longer than an hour.</p> <p>I'm feeling like I screwed up my newborns sleep. He was such a sleepy little guy and would sleep anywhere anytime. Now he can't be put down ever or he wakes right up. Most of the time I feel pretty level headed about all of this and can remember that this too shall pass, but this morning I'm just spiraling. :/</p> <p>Our ped gave us a bunch of guidelines at his 2 month check up and I feel like I'm failing all of them. Having him sleep in the crib (the only place he'll sleep besides our arms is the rock n play), having him nap in his nursery, having a bedtime routine (I'm struggling to work that out with our toddlers routine at the same time, plus our newborn doesn't really seem to care when I try a routine...)</p> <p>I need encouragement or wine or coffee or all :( </p>