https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 23 Jun 2026 05:34:35 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/encouragement-needed-please-from-moms-of-2-or-more#post-226621 Thu, 19 Jul 2012 13:07:26 +0000 Mrs. Train 226621@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sloaneandpuffy: I do not think you are a wimp at all. I actually get that a lot from my friends. Whenever they complain they look at me and say, "I shouldn't complain, I now you have so much more stress.". </p> <p>I will tell you the same thing I tell them. Whether it's one kid driving you crazy or ten, the stress is real and everyone deserves to be able to vent and voice their worries.</p> <p>That being said I have had plenty of freak outs in the last four years. One in particular was pretty bad. My oldest was about 18 months and my twins were 9. The 18 month old was starting the terrible twos with vigor and the twins were walking and climbing and getting into everything. I was talking to my sister (and mother of three) about his hour long fits and what to do about them. Then she started telling me about how she works it out with her husband to have some time off to relax. I was on the brink of tears jus talking to her and imagining what twenty minutes to myself would be like. As she was talking my oldest came up behind me and bit the back of my shoulder hard enough to draw blood. I yelped and told my sister I had to go. I sat on the floor in the middle of our play room and screamed at the top of my lungs. Then I had a huge crying fit for about ten minutes, (the ugly cant catch your breath kind of cry). My boys just sat quietly by my lap patting me and trying to hug me. </p> <p> Not my finest mommy moment but we are human, and sometimes parenthood can get the better of us. Don't worry about the freak outs, they will happen and you and your kids will be just fine. Something that helped was I joined a mothers group. Every two weeks we meet and there is child care so you are just with other mothers. It's great and it was exactly what I needed. You jus have to find what works! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/encouragement-needed-please-from-moms-of-2-or-more#post-226398 Thu, 19 Jul 2012 10:28:37 +0000 mamimami 226398@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Oceanis723: Well you would certainly know! I am sure you think I am a wimp for worrying about two! :)</p> <p> @banana: You will have to keep us all updated on what happens in a couple of weeks!</p> <p>@Mrs. Bee: Thanks for the encouragement... you guys are a great example for sure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/encouragement-needed-please-from-moms-of-2-or-more#post-225796 Wed, 18 Jul 2012 18:21:00 +0000 Mrs. Train 225796@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>From a mama of four, you can do this. There will be tough times. There will be times when you are tired and on the brink of tears, or in tears. But you can do it. You will find the groove for your family I promise. Just remember Each new day is a start over. So when you have a rough one just go to sleep and know that the next day can be better </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/encouragement-needed-please-from-moms-of-2-or-more#post-225471 Wed, 18 Jul 2012 13:42:18 +0000 Mrs. Bee 225471@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>that was the exact age difference between charlie and olive. the first couple of months weren't that bad because olive just slept a lot. it started getting hard when she was up longer/not napping well and charlie's sleep started going downhill at the same time. but we made it work and we survived, and we've been in a really good groove as a family lately. it's not easy, but it is a lot of fun and i know it's only going to get better.</p> <p>there were definitely hard periods, but it really is amazing how quickly you forget them. the good times really will stand out more than the hard times when all is said and done. somehow, we all make it work. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/encouragement-needed-please-from-moms-of-2-or-more#post-225469 Wed, 18 Jul 2012 13:42:02 +0000 mamimami 225469@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha sounds like this thread is becoming a support group for freaked out pregnant toddler moms!! Glad to have so many in the same boat. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/encouragement-needed-please-from-moms-of-2-or-more#post-225462 Wed, 18 Jul 2012 13:40:01 +0000 banana 225462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm scared too! My baby is coming in less than 2 weeks and I dont' know how i'm gonna deal having a newborn AND a 2 year old! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/encouragement-needed-please-from-moms-of-2-or-more#post-225457 Wed, 18 Jul 2012 13:38:05 +0000 mamimami 225457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Honeybee: Thanks! I feel like a total baby myself freaking out when some people have tons of kids. Glad to hear it gets better after a bit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/encouragement-needed-please-from-moms-of-2-or-more#post-225453 Wed, 18 Jul 2012 13:35:17 +0000 mamimami 225453@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cyndistar3: Thanks for answering. He's 19 months and will be 22 months when the new baby comes. Sooo... still pretty dependent. I know it's going to be chaotic for awhile. We currently have a nanny who comes when I'm at work but now I wish she'd just never leave LOL. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/encouragement-needed-please-from-moms-of-2-or-more#post-225449 Wed, 18 Jul 2012 13:34:33 +0000 Honeybee 225449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At the end of my pregnancy with DS, I started seriously questionning whether I was going to be able to handle more than one child. I told my husband we made a big mistake getting pregnant again, and he basically told me to suck it up because it was too late to change our minds, lol. </p> <p>The truth is, having two kids (especially having two close together) IS hard sometimes. Especially at the beginning, I had days where I thought, "There is no way I can handle this tomorrow." But after the initial adjustment period, it beomes a lot easier and pretty soon you hardly remember life with just one baby. :) You guys are totally capable of doing this! You'll have hard days for sure, but the good days totally make up for those moments you struggle. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/encouragement-needed-please-from-moms-of-2-or-more#post-225443 Wed, 18 Jul 2012 13:32:09 +0000 cyndistar3 225443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First off, how old is your lo? It may make a big difference but my older lo is 3 1/2 so it really isn't as hard as I thought it would be because she has grown up so much since I got pregnant and she is actually helpful at times! The first couple weeks were the hardest because she had to adjust to not being the center of attention but we were sure to give her lots of love and attention and she has adjusted well.<br /> Though I will tell you it will take a little juggling like trying to read a book while soothing a screaming hungry baby and things of the sort. Of course, it might take a little bit but you will figure out what works for you! Good luck I hope you feel better :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/encouragement-needed-please-from-moms-of-2-or-more#post-225440 Wed, 18 Jul 2012 13:30:51 +0000 Andrea 225440@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sloaneandpuffy: I think being so tired and pregnant doesn't help. Sometimes I think being pregnant is more tiring than caring for a newborn but maybe I just forgot already! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/encouragement-needed-please-from-moms-of-2-or-more#post-225437 Wed, 18 Jul 2012 13:29:30 +0000 mamimami 225437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Usually everything seems OK but then when there is one meltdown going on and I am SO TIRED I think, what if there were a newborn here screaming right now and needing to be fed? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/encouragement-needed-please-from-moms-of-2-or-more#post-225431 Wed, 18 Jul 2012 13:27:44 +0000 Andrea 225431@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Me too! I had the most horrible dream the other night. It gave me major anxiety and I realized that the dream was all because I don't know how I will handle everything plus another child. Ack! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/encouragement-needed-please-from-moms-of-2-or-more#post-225429 Wed, 18 Jul 2012 13:27:24 +0000 mamimami 225429@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: Well at least I know I'm not alone!! I know logically people have tons of kids and manage just fine but sometimes I feel like a nervous breakdown is just one toddler tantrum away! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/encouragement-needed-please-from-moms-of-2-or-more#post-225398 Wed, 18 Jul 2012 13:16:35 +0000 chopsuey 225398@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Totally in the same boat. Had a rough day yesterday and was scared about #2 arriving in DEcember! DH is out of town too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/encouragement-needed-please-from-moms-of-2-or-more#post-225385 Wed, 18 Jul 2012 13:13:38 +0000 mamimami 225385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>OK, I know deep down it will be all right.</p> <p>But, last night I had a bad night with my toddler not wanting to sleep and crying, and I simultaneously had a lot of sciatic pain from my pregnancy and I am a wreck today. My husband was not home until midnight and he has to work late A LOT. (I also work.) </p> <p>I am thinking, HOW the HECK am I going to manage when my second baby arrives in October? Help, mamas! </p>