https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 04 May 2026 15:45:35 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/enemy-at-work-advice-please#post-1459917 Sat, 01 Mar 2014 08:00:37 +0000 derevival 1459917@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2PeasinaPod @babyboecksmom @blackbird @yellowbird @habesbabe: thanks for your advice! Thankfully, I don't work with him since he's in a different department, so I think my plan is just to accept this change. If he doesn't want to be mature and talk to me about what's bothering him, there's nothing more I can do other than be nice and avoid him. Thanks again!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/enemy-at-work-advice-please#post-1459125 Fri, 28 Feb 2014 17:59:23 +0000 HabesBabe 1459125@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @Mae: I'd leave it alone unless you have to work closely with him. I'd probably stop saying Hi to him, too. No sweat off my sack. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/enemy-at-work-advice-please#post-1459101 Fri, 28 Feb 2014 17:45:42 +0000 yellowbird 1459101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Something may be going on in his personal life and maybe he doesn't realize he's being so cold? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/enemy-at-work-advice-please#post-1459049 Fri, 28 Feb 2014 17:22:05 +0000 blackbird 1459049@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah but i think if you phrase it like "are you ok?" versus "why are you being a douche to me", it might be better received. q</p> <p>but the guy may just be an ass </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/enemy-at-work-advice-please#post-1459027 Fri, 28 Feb 2014 17:13:06 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1459027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hate those situations and I would probably say something to him like @blackbird: said. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/enemy-at-work-advice-please#post-1459017 Fri, 28 Feb 2014 17:07:48 +0000 2PeasinaPod 1459017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@derevival: Do you work with him on a regular basis? I would just continue to say hello. Whatever the problem is...it's his problem. Don't make it yours :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/enemy-at-work-advice-please#post-1458981 Fri, 28 Feb 2014 16:53:39 +0000 derevival 1458981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird and @ccho14: I'm afraid of confronting him at this point and having him be openly hostile to me. Unfortunately, our offices are cubicles, so nothing is private. </p> <p>@psw27: thank you! I try not to think about it too much because it does upset me. I've been trying the kill him with kindness too, but I'm getting tired of that. </p> <p>@kml636: I hate confrontation too! Ugh</p> <p>@snowjewelz: I don't think anyone else in the office has noticed. He's nice to everyone else! </p> <p>@mae: Your comment really made me laugh. Thank god I don't have to work with him directly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/enemy-at-work-advice-please#post-1458830 Fri, 28 Feb 2014 16:13:42 +0000 Cchoi4 1458830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If he was friendly enough to stop by your office and talk, then I would go ahead and stop by his office and talk to him. It could have nothing to do with you but why wonder? A simple "Did I do anything wrong?" might not only get you an answer but also (if there was something he had a grudge about) make him feel like you're decent enough to notice, care, and address it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/enemy-at-work-advice-please#post-1458819 Fri, 28 Feb 2014 16:12:19 +0000 Mae 1458819@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe he's just a dick. I'd probably let it go unless you have to work with him on a regular basis. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/enemy-at-work-advice-please#post-1458813 Fri, 28 Feb 2014 16:10:39 +0000 snowjewelz 1458813@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd just be curious as to why the sudden attitude change. Do you think anyone else in the office would know why? Personally, I wouldn't pursue it but I'd reaaaally want to know why! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/enemy-at-work-advice-please#post-1458791 Fri, 28 Feb 2014 16:04:03 +0000 kml636 1458791@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If he's not being openly hostile, I wouldn't address it. But I hate confrontation... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/enemy-at-work-advice-please#post-1458774 Fri, 28 Feb 2014 15:59:04 +0000 psw27 1458774@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh. I went through this. We don't work together any longer but he was really rude/cold to me in a very small office. The best I could do was kill him with kindness and not let it upset me, even though it did! So sorry you are going through this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/enemy-at-work-advice-please#post-1458773 Fri, 28 Feb 2014 15:58:58 +0000 blackbird 1458773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You could just stop by his office and say, "hey what's up? you seem distant lately. Everything ok?" without pushing it </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/enemy-at-work-advice-please#post-1458746 Fri, 28 Feb 2014 15:53:29 +0000 derevival 1458746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In the past few months, I started noticing a colleague acting differently toward me. I see him every day and say hi, and he completely ignores me. At first, I excused it by saying he didn't see or hear me or was having a bad day. But, now it's obvious: he really dislikes me. </p> <p>I have no idea what I did or say to make him upset. He used to stop by my office, talk to me, and was overall very friendly. It just seems like overnight things changed. </p> <p>My husband thinks I should just ignore him and not let it bother me. </p> <p>What do you think I should do? </p>