https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Apr 2026 10:59:02 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/etiquette-for-out-of-town-guests-for-baby-shower#post-2134738 Tue, 07 Apr 2015 07:10:33 +0000 Modern Daisy 2134738@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I get offened when i'm invuted to the shower and not the bach party if it's for someone my age who i hang out with at least occasionally. It says to me that they know i wont come to both, so they've decided i should cone to the shower so i'll bring a gift. Other than that i think it's fine to send invites to out of town guests, anyone who you think would want to come! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/etiquette-for-out-of-town-guests-for-baby-shower#post-2134734 Tue, 07 Apr 2015 07:00:32 +0000 MrsBananaGrabber 2134734@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Most of my husband's family lives out of state, so I talked to my MIL first, and she is going to communicate to them that we want them to feel included, but do not expect them to send any gifts. For anyone else who lives far away someone is communicating the same general message. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/etiquette-for-out-of-town-guests-for-baby-shower#post-2092377 Tue, 03 Mar 2015 09:07:48 +0000 LindsayInNY 2092377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I think that's what I'll do... There aren't a ton. Maybe 4 friends (3 in NH/MA and 1 in CA) and a couple family members (AZ being the farthest). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/etiquette-for-out-of-town-guests-for-baby-shower#post-2092289 Tue, 03 Mar 2015 07:39:44 +0000 Adira 2092289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: Totally agree with this. That's what we did for my shower. My mom called up my out-of-town family to let them know about the shower and see if they might be able to make it and THEN sent invites to them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/etiquette-for-out-of-town-guests-for-baby-shower#post-2092196 Mon, 02 Mar 2015 23:13:08 +0000 Mrs.KMM 2092196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think it is wrong to want them to feel included and thought of (even if the chances that they can attend are slim). If it were me being invited, I wouldn't find it gift-grabby if it was someone I was really friends with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/etiquette-for-out-of-town-guests-for-baby-shower#post-2092081 Mon, 02 Mar 2015 20:40:10 +0000 mfa_lady 2092081@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LindsayInNY: haha good for you for deciphering my weird autocorrect. I reached out to my girlfriends right around when the invites were sent (mine was thrown by a friend) and it didn't feel weird at all to me. But again, there was the holiday making it at least a tiny possibility that they'd be around. Not sure if that changes anything, but I think you could still say the same thing. "I know it's a long shot, but if you happen to be in town/on this coast/etc, would love to see you." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/etiquette-for-out-of-town-guests-for-baby-shower#post-2092077 Mon, 02 Mar 2015 20:34:42 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2092077@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Give them a call before you drop their invite in the mail. This way the invite doesn't catch them off guard and you have already shared with them personally you understand if they won't be able to make it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/etiquette-for-out-of-town-guests-for-baby-shower#post-2092069 Mon, 02 Mar 2015 20:29:13 +0000 LindsayInNY 2092069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mfa_lady: My mom and sister and throwing it so I don't know if it'll be weird for me to reach out to them? I suppose I could though. I would to get addresses from a couple anyways. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/etiquette-for-out-of-town-guests-for-baby-shower#post-2092066 Mon, 02 Mar 2015 20:26:14 +0000 mfa_lady 2092066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know what's "proper," but my shower was the weekend before thanksgiving and so there was a chance that folks would be in town for the holiday. For my friends, I tewched out to them individually and said "I know it's a long shot, but in case you're in town I'd love for you to be there." </p> <p>That seemed to work well--some came, some didn't; some sent gifts, some didn't. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/etiquette-for-out-of-town-guests-for-baby-shower#post-2092051 Mon, 02 Mar 2015 20:13:24 +0000 LindsayInNY 2092051@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What's the proper thing to do when inviting out of town guests to a baby shower? Does it matter if it's family or friends? I don't want it to seem gift grabby but I also don't want out of town people thinking they've been ignored or forgotten. </p>