https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 15:23:30 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/etiquette-question-shower-amp-wedding-gifts#post-693773 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 09:35:02 +0000 Foodnerd81 693773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would decline and not send another gift. That sounds really gift grabby to me, to be honest-- you aren't close, emotionally or physically, so I sort of feel like she shouldn't have invited you to the shower at all. And I don't know what a money tree is but it sounds tacky. I think the wedding gift is plenty. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/etiquette-question-shower-amp-wedding-gifts#post-693758 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 09:31:17 +0000 Pepper 693758@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just decline without sending anything. I think sending the wedding gift was enough. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/etiquette-question-shower-amp-wedding-gifts#post-693749 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 09:29:13 +0000 Mrsjets 693749@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would also just decline, unless she attended my wedding shower, in which case I would send a small gift off the amazon registry.</p> <p>ETA - I see she wasn't invited to your shower so I'd just decline. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/etiquette-question-shower-amp-wedding-gifts#post-693662 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 09:00:21 +0000 birdofafeather 693662@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just decline. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/etiquette-question-shower-amp-wedding-gifts#post-693564 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 08:31:38 +0000 Silva 693564@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, I don't really know what a money tree is either...</p> <p>The shower is the day after my due date, and about 3-hours away- so going isn't really an option. </p> <p>She wasn't invited to my wedding or shower (mostly because ours was a lot smaller than hers is going to be). </p> <p>I think maybe I'll just decline. I don't think anyone would be offended? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/etiquette-question-shower-amp-wedding-gifts#post-693498 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 08:07:06 +0000 Grace 693498@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is the shower far away too? In that case I would decline and not send anything. You already gave money for the wedding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/etiquette-question-shower-amp-wedding-gifts#post-693474 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 07:57:13 +0000 MrsRoo 693474@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My first thought was to send something small from the registry, but since its a money tree (im not familiar with those), I'd feel the same as Looch. If she came to your shower and wedding, I'd send something. If not, I wouldn't feel bad about not sending money twice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/etiquette-question-shower-amp-wedding-gifts#post-693414 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 07:20:36 +0000 JerricaBenton 693414@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If she has a registry I'd just send a gift from there. Sending a check for a baby shower seems weird to me, but I'm not familiar with a money tree. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/etiquette-question-shower-amp-wedding-gifts#post-693412 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 07:20:10 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 693412@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Unless you and your second cousin are close enough that she was invited and attended your bridal shower and wedding, I think you should decline, no gift. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/etiquette-question-shower-amp-wedding-gifts#post-693407 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 07:18:32 +0000 looch 693407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I try to recirpocate to what they did for me. If they came to my shower, but I couldn't go, I'd send a gift. If they didn't come, then I wouldn't send anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/etiquette-question-shower-amp-wedding-gifts#post-693406 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 07:17:04 +0000 heffalump 693406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd probably send a gift. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/etiquette-question-shower-amp-wedding-gifts#post-693402 Fri, 05 Apr 2013 07:14:32 +0000 Silva 693402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have already declined the invitation to my (second) cousin's wedding because it is too far away / too soon after our baby is born. Along with the RSVP card I sent her a wedding card and a check.</p> <p>I just received the invite for the bridal shower. They are doing a "money tree" instead of gifts (although they did mention registering at Amazon- but its clear they would prefer cash). </p> <p>Should I send another check for the bridal shower, or can I just decline the invitation without a gift? </p>