https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 08 May 2026 10:53:20 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-bad-asking-dh-to-do-stuff-with-the-baby#post-518368 Mon, 21 Jan 2013 19:37:04 +0000 chopsuey 518368@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When dh is home he helps out, but the night before a work day I have him sleep in the other room so he can get a good night's rest. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-bad-asking-dh-to-do-stuff-with-the-baby#post-518363 Mon, 21 Jan 2013 19:35:31 +0000 birdofafeather 518363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't feel bad bc he wants to spend time with her. I think it will be a constant checking in to make sure we're each not feeling burdened. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-bad-asking-dh-to-do-stuff-with-the-baby#post-517265 Mon, 21 Jan 2013 10:39:02 +0000 bienlivingdesign 517265@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>no :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-bad-asking-dh-to-do-stuff-with-the-baby#post-517198 Mon, 21 Jan 2013 10:13:13 +0000 MaisyMay 517198@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LemonLong: That's how we are for now. It'll change in about 2 weeks as we start adjusting for me going back to work.</p> <p>@Andrea: That's what I tell him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-bad-asking-dh-to-do-stuff-with-the-baby#post-517192 Mon, 21 Jan 2013 10:11:20 +0000 hilsy85 517192@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sometimes I feel a little bad asking him to change a diaper or something, but LO is really happy on his changing pad so it means that DH gets to see lots of smiles! I do feel bad asking him to get up in the middle of the night or in the morning with him, so I rarely do it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-bad-asking-dh-to-do-stuff-with-the-baby#post-517093 Mon, 21 Jan 2013 09:26:25 +0000 Weagle 517093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did in the beginning a bit, but LO was also super easy then. Now I don't feel badly at all! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-bad-asking-dh-to-do-stuff-with-the-baby#post-517076 Mon, 21 Jan 2013 09:17:33 +0000 yoursilverlining 517076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don’t feel badly; LO is as much his daughter as she is mine and we’re both equally responsible for her care. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-bad-asking-dh-to-do-stuff-with-the-baby#post-517052 Mon, 21 Jan 2013 09:05:25 +0000 autumnlove 517052@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I only felt bad during maternity leave! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-bad-asking-dh-to-do-stuff-with-the-baby#post-517049 Mon, 21 Jan 2013 09:04:10 +0000 LemonLong 517049@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>During my leave I took care of baby while DH was at work, then when he got home he did most of the care until it was bedtime. Once we were in bed, baby duty was mine again so he could sleep. Now that I'm going back to work too, we'll be switching off so it will be equal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-bad-asking-dh-to-do-stuff-with-the-baby#post-517022 Mon, 21 Jan 2013 08:47:02 +0000 sera_87 517022@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, but at the same time I deal with him 20- 21 hours of the day. Mama needs a break. DH also gets adult interaction, regular timed breaks &amp; an hour of gym time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-bad-asking-dh-to-do-stuff-with-the-baby#post-516972 Mon, 21 Jan 2013 07:24:23 +0000 SugarplumsMom 516972@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used to, but I don't anymore. She's his baby too and after being with DD all day long, mommy needs a break (especially when she's sick and fussy)! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-bad-asking-dh-to-do-stuff-with-the-baby#post-516970 Mon, 21 Jan 2013 07:22:04 +0000 heffalump 516970@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do. I'll have a migraine and ill have to ask him to watch lo all day on a weekend and feel bad about it because she's exhausting to chase after now. But I'm a sahm, I do it all day every day by myself. I shouldn't feel bad that he does it for one day! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-bad-asking-dh-to-do-stuff-with-the-baby#post-516968 Mon, 21 Jan 2013 07:19:16 +0000 sorrycharlie 516968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All the time! I technically can go back to sleep, nap etc if I want. Also, he's home maybe an hour a day and Sundays so tbh, he doesn't know her as well &amp; gets sad when she won't calm, etc. I'd rather him sleep so he doesn't have a work accident from being tired! He's an electrician. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-bad-asking-dh-to-do-stuff-with-the-baby#post-516954 Mon, 21 Jan 2013 06:31:17 +0000 Andrea 516954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am on maternity leave so I feel like most of the baby stuff is my "job" at the moment. He can't nap like I can during the day so I don't want him to lose too much sleep. It's not so much "feeling bad" as not wanting him to be sleep deprived for work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-bad-asking-dh-to-do-stuff-with-the-baby#post-516953 Mon, 21 Jan 2013 06:29:49 +0000 oahujeni 516953@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel this way sometimes, especially when he has to work the next day. He wants to help, though, but I've always had the "do it myself" mentality and feel guilty asking others to do things. Doing it right now, actually. LO was fussy and DH was about to get him but I jumped out of bed to get him first and told DH to go back to sleep even though I've been up all night already and am about to pass out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-bad-asking-dh-to-do-stuff-with-the-baby#post-516947 Mon, 21 Jan 2013 05:53:17 +0000 Bao 516947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No not really because she is just as much his baby too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-bad-asking-dh-to-do-stuff-with-the-baby#post-516940 Mon, 21 Jan 2013 05:21:43 +0000 MaisyMay 516940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO is 4 weeks old today, and I'm noticing that there are times when I feel bad asking DH to do stuff with the baby. She was really fussy tonight and didn't go to sleep well. He said he'd get her to sleep while I pumped, but I felt like I should have done it since he has work tomorrow and I'm still on leave. He ended up doing it.</p> <p>I am fairly certain that this stems from the fact that I am not working, but it I still feel like I should do more, even if it's his day off or whatever.</p> <p>Do other moms feel this way?</p> <p>ETA - I know this is silly. She's his daughter too! </p>