https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 28 May 2026 23:06:04 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-excluded-because-of-pregnancy#post-909030 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 21:26:38 +0000 ninja 909030@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a friend ditch me after I told her I was pregnant. She told me she was having fertility trouble, and couldn't handle pregnant friends. It hurt me, but then she got pregnant two months later. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-excluded-because-of-pregnancy#post-908987 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 21:07:38 +0000 Mrs. Confetti 908987@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: I've been there and feel your pain - hugs to your sweet preggo self. I wish I could tell you that it gets better, but really it doesn't. People who became distant with me during pregnancy are now basically...not in our lives anymore. I never saw it coming, and it hurt horribly. Do you have friends IRL who are pregnant/have little babies? Because the best thing I did was meet other preggos when I was pregnant myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-excluded-because-of-pregnancy#post-908701 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 18:47:09 +0000 lawbee11 908701@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh that sucks. I'm sorry :( I can't believe one of them said that about you being a bitchy pregnant lady...that would really hurt my feelings!</p> <p>I am kinda having the opposite problem--I keep getting invited to do things but at almost 8 months pregnant I am so tired and hot and swollen and I just want to lie in our recliner and do nothing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-excluded-because-of-pregnancy#post-908645 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 18:10:59 +0000 sorrycharlie 908645@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>all the time!! things have gotten better since, but it kind of opened my eyes to who I really wanted to keep contact with. though it totally sucked. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-excluded-because-of-pregnancy#post-908606 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 17:36:43 +0000 LovelyPlum 908606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm in the opposite boat-we were MAJORLY excluded because we didn't have kids yet. And when we would try to talk about plans for future kids, it would turn into, "oh just wait, it will be your turn soon." Sorry, not helpful. It got to the point where it hurt to hang out with them.</p> <p>I'm sorry you feel excluded. Hugs, lady. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-excluded-because-of-pregnancy#post-907745 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 10:32:24 +0000 skibobrown 907745@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, this kind of stuff happens. I would mention it to your friends -- tell them that you feel like they've been a little distant, and then remind them that you haven't died or morphed into a totally different person just b/c you're pregnant. Also maybe ask if you've done anything to offend them. Who knows... they might not realize they're doing it in the first place, or maybe they're annoyed at you for something unrelated? </p> <p>Even if they do come around though, friendships change as a result of babies. It's time to start looking for some new pregnant friends who will be having babies at the same time as you. Start doing a prenatal yoga class, or join a mommy and baby group right after your baby is born. You'll probably be surprised at how much you want to gravitate towards other moms once your baby is born. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-excluded-because-of-pregnancy#post-907725 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 10:27:38 +0000 JerricaBenton 907725@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: Maybe your 26 year friend will come around? Pregnancy and babies can bring about weird things in people, especially if it brings up feelings they've tried to squash down. That's a long friendship for her to throw away! I know she's hurt your feelings, but I would keep trying with that relationship. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-excluded-because-of-pregnancy#post-907706 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 10:23:44 +0000 .twist. 907706@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JerricaBenton: that is so weird and totally insulting. Like, we want to go out for dinner with you, but mostly for the wine. Haha wow! I also thought these two girls would be like a few of your close friends, I guess I'm finding out that they aren't. Which sucks because they're my only friends in town. </p> <p>@Pepper: it sucks that something so awesome can push people away!! It really does make you see who's there for the long haul and who's not. I kind of expected my friend of 26 years to be in it for the long run but maybe I was mistaken! The one friend who I know is/will be there lives 3 hours away, funny how things work out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-excluded-because-of-pregnancy#post-907685 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 10:18:43 +0000 JerricaBenton 907685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pepper: This is a good point! I was so pleasantly surprised that a few of my best girlfriends, who are serious party-girls, are so into LO and love to come over and hang out. They have no problem eating at our house or doing things in the afternoon for now. They know one day we'll be able to be out past 9 again (I hope!?) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-excluded-because-of-pregnancy#post-907676 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 10:16:47 +0000 Pepper 907676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I felt the exact same way. Some of my friends would plan events and somehow I'd end up being left out or invited at the very last possible minute. I had a friend who did this all the time, and she basically stopped talking to me once I became pregnant with LO. We're no longer friends! </p> <p>I would get upset, but I would just remind myself that once LO was here, those friendships would change. The people who wanted to be there would be there, and those who aren't there can keep it moving! I've been pleasantly surprised by how many people ARE here for me, and I can't wait to return the favor someday when they have kids. Hugs, mama! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-excluded-because-of-pregnancy#post-907674 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 10:16:26 +0000 JerricaBenton 907674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: One would think so! It was just weird because she invited us and then turned around and said no! I guess our company wasn't enough? LOL </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-excluded-because-of-pregnancy#post-907666 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 10:14:26 +0000 .twist. 907666@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JerricaBenton: that would be so annoying! I don't understand what's wrong with going over to a friends house for dinner rather than a restaurant?! Can you not have the same amount of fun and conversation and save money at the same time by going to a friends? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-excluded-because-of-pregnancy#post-907650 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 10:09:47 +0000 JerricaBenton 907650@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's annoying, I would definitely be upset by those scenarios! We have a couple we used to socialize with all the time who started turning down all invites when I got pregnant, but they have fertility issues so I gave a pass. Since we've had LO, we had a couple invite us out to dinner and I explained that we couldn't keep LO out that late yet but invited them to our house for dinner. She was shocked that I wouldn't get a babysitter and turned me down! I was like, 'ummm ok then!' It was about a month ago and LO was only 3.5 mos old and she's EBF! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-excluded-because-of-pregnancy#post-907615 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 10:01:20 +0000 .twist. 907615@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swurlygurl: I suppose that is the way of it, hey? I'm now wishing I would have taken some classes for stuff so I could have met some other moms. </p> <p>I hate feeling so insecure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-excluded-because-of-pregnancy#post-907606 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 09:58:36 +0000 swurlygurl 907606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: That is so sad, and mean! My friends who didn't have kids and never spent much time around kids definitely started distancing themselves... Time to find me some new friends, with children, I guess! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-excluded-because-of-pregnancy#post-907566 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 09:44:06 +0000 .twist. 907566@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swurlygurl: seriously! </p> <p>And I think a lot of my insecurity with these two particular friends, is that they have both in so many words told me that I've been a bad person/friend throughout my pregnancy. One even went as far as saying I've "been a really bitchy pregnant lady".</p> <p>My husband has two kids from a previous relationship and he's assured me I'm not a crazy preggo. As well as a few other people... Haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-excluded-because-of-pregnancy#post-907557 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 09:38:58 +0000 swurlygurl 907557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know if it's hormonal or not, but I totally felt the same way! No one ever invited me to go out for girl's night anymore... Just because I can't drink doesn't mean I'm not good for some fun conversation! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-excluded-because-of-pregnancy#post-907552 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 09:37:24 +0000 .twist. 907552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Does anyone ever feel like they're being pushed out of their friend circle because of their pregnancy? </p> <p>I'm totally feeling this way right now. I can't tell if its hormones or not. I'm usually pretty chill and level headed about friends and drama and stuff but lately I just can't seem to shake the feeling like my friends don't really want me around anymore. </p> <p>My very oldest friend, of 26 years, just moved back to my city. I just read on Facebook that her and one of my other friends (who've only met maybe a handful of times) got together for burgers and beers the other night. This other friend lives about 5 minutes from me and could have easily picked me up to go along. </p> <p>I tried asking my long term friend if she wanted to get together on Sunday to check her new place out and she said she would like that but she might not be in the city and then I never heard back from her. She didn't even try to make the plan work and when I asked for details she just didn't respond.</p> <p>On top of that, this same friend (not the 26 year friend) and I used to chat every day, and all of a sudden about 2 weeks ago she just stopped talking to me. I have to text her to get any sort of response when before we use to just text each other randomly throughout the day. </p> <p>Am I being hormonal and irrational? This feeling has been nagging at me for days and its becoming depressing. :( </p>