https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 28 May 2026 15:21:16 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-like-you-dont-really-fit-in-anywhere#post-1579877 Sun, 20 Apr 2014 20:35:36 +0000 Happygal 1579877@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel very comfortable in the IF board. But in my real life, I'm out of place. My friends either have babies, or are single and wild. I can't keep up! It can feel lonely. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-like-you-dont-really-fit-in-anywhere#post-1579871 Sun, 20 Apr 2014 20:29:05 +0000 dagret 1579871@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Add me to your "off list!" I'm - not glad, exactly, but comforted? That others feel similarly. </p> <p>Took almost 2 yrs/2 cp's/ IUI to conceive #1. Just started my 3rd cycle since my son was born. I was on the April POAS board, but I'm not ready for that level of symptom-spotting and intensity in my TTC-ing quite yet, you know? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-like-you-dont-really-fit-in-anywhere#post-1579697 Sun, 20 Apr 2014 16:40:16 +0000 spaniellove 1579697@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think even when we were TTC#1 I felt a little alone because no one was talking about DOR or failed IVF here and I didn't know where to go with anything. Although I don't wish it on anyone, it's good to see that there's more support for that now. So the best thing you can do is to just start talking about things and eventually the companionship will show up! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-like-you-dont-really-fit-in-anywhere#post-1579647 Sun, 20 Apr 2014 15:49:04 +0000 AmeliaBedilia 1579647@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: TTC- Unique situations? Anyone else have any ideas? I am not set on that name- it's more important that everyone have a place where they feel comfortable than having the perfect name. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-like-you-dont-really-fit-in-anywhere#post-1579641 Sun, 20 Apr 2014 15:42:26 +0000 badwolf 1579641@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I kind of feel like this. We are technically NTNP, preparing to TTC in the next month or two. I already know I have PCOS and hypothyroid and have been mentally preparing for years for the likelihood of difficulty TTC, but I'm kind of in limbo right now since I don't know quite what to expect. I'm not ready to POAS but I've been dealing with all the fun of PCOS for 13 years and I'm dreading months' worth of BFN's. I know it's possible to conceive without much difficulty but I'm not optimistic about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-like-you-dont-really-fit-in-anywhere#post-1579331 Sun, 20 Apr 2014 10:05:13 +0000 MrsH 1579331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swedishfish: I'm not TTC but you can hang with me anytime &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-like-you-dont-really-fit-in-anywhere#post-1579305 Sun, 20 Apr 2014 09:34:07 +0000 mrbee 1579305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@AmeliaBedilia: sounds good! Any ideas on a name? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-like-you-dont-really-fit-in-anywhere#post-1579234 Sun, 20 Apr 2014 07:40:49 +0000 AmeliaBedilia 1579234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe there should be a TTC board for anyone who doesn't feel like they have a board they fit with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-like-you-dont-really-fit-in-anywhere#post-1579086 Sat, 19 Apr 2014 21:21:31 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 1579086@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't share your issue, but as a 42 year old woman with two kids who wants another, but doesn't have time or a partner on the same page right now, I definitely feel like I don't fit in! We probably would need to either adopt or do IVF at this point (given my age) and there's a lot of commitment that goes into either of those paths that require partners to be on the very same page about a child. Because my partner is ambivalent, we won't move ahead. It's not like I could say "oh whoops honey, I accidentally got IVF today!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-like-you-dont-really-fit-in-anywhere#post-1579085 Sat, 19 Apr 2014 21:19:07 +0000 tequiero21 1579085@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs! I know how u feel. Took over three years to have my kids, w intervention. Then, when we were ready to try for #3, I had nowhere to go. I have two kids, wanting a third. Couldn't really join IF cuz many didn't even have one. Lots of women in the ttc groups seemed like they were on their first too. Felt greedy to want a third. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-like-you-dont-really-fit-in-anywhere#post-1578347 Sat, 19 Apr 2014 02:24:46 +0000 Cherrybee 1578347@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think most people dealing with IF feel this a little bit. Its because IF isn't just one straightforward issue with clear boundaries and definitions. How long do you have to be trying before you're classed as having IF? Do you have to have specific issues? Do you have to be pursuing treatments? What about secondary IF - are you less deserving of support if you already have a LO? Of course, the truth is, TTC can be brutal and never more so than when its just not happening. In those times, all we can do is support each other, commiserate together and join in hope. You fit in on all of those boards and more. Wishing you all the :goodluck: in the world Swedishfish. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-like-you-dont-really-fit-in-anywhere#post-1578300 Fri, 18 Apr 2014 23:30:05 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1578300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aww honey. I'm sorry. I feel this way all the time. I am trying for baby number two and I am trying very hard to do so whilst gradually weaning my son. I have him down to only 2 feeds and I think he will be down to one this month. It's hard because most have weaned fully but my son is really resisting and I feel really torn about going cold turkey just yet. I am also older than most at almost 37. In the end I end up kind of bouncing around here and there. Luckily I do find that everyone on here is super friendly and supportive for the most part. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-like-you-dont-really-fit-in-anywhere#post-1578291 Fri, 18 Apr 2014 23:12:59 +0000 googly-eyes 1578291@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swedishfish: Glad to have found someone to relate to.. I think part of it is that many of the ttc crowd are ttc#1 and that has a different sort of excitement to it. I hope you are at least comforted from this thread knowing you aren't the only one! &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-like-you-dont-really-fit-in-anywhere#post-1578273 Fri, 18 Apr 2014 22:35:44 +0000 swedishfish 1578273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Confetti: thanks. I hope you get your sticky baby soon! :goodluck: </p> <p>@singingbee: thanks! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-like-you-dont-really-fit-in-anywhere#post-1578254 Fri, 18 Apr 2014 21:51:05 +0000 AmeliaBedilia 1578254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One of my favorite things about this community is how positive and accepting it is. Sometimes I feel funny being here since we don't have kids yet, not pregnant, just TTC#1 and feeling like it is never going to happen, and I have never received anything but welcoming. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-like-you-dont-really-fit-in-anywhere#post-1578231 Fri, 18 Apr 2014 21:32:32 +0000 singingbee 1578231@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swedishfish: I felt like that after losing our first daughter. It was weird. It wasn't Like we had difficulty and then it wasn't like we were trying for the first time. It was hard. Hang in there and I'm keeping my fingers crossed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-like-you-dont-really-fit-in-anywhere#post-1578196 Fri, 18 Apr 2014 21:04:38 +0000 Mrs. Confetti 1578196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swedishfish: I feel you too. Trying for number two for 8 months new - dealt with a miscarraige, finally AF is back and now 2 cycles with no BFPs. But lucky to have my first, and just sad each month that LOs will be further apart in age. It's hard. Just wanted to know I feel for you. xo </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-like-you-dont-really-fit-in-anywhere#post-1578176 Fri, 18 Apr 2014 20:34:17 +0000 swedishfish 1578176@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@brownie: no judgement here. I hope things work out for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-like-you-dont-really-fit-in-anywhere#post-1578171 Fri, 18 Apr 2014 20:29:29 +0000 brownie 1578171@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swedishfish: yeah no second take home at this time. We are investigating other options that I don't feel comfortable talking about. I worry about the judgement. Thus I have been avoiding the ivf threads and groups. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-like-you-dont-really-fit-in-anywhere#post-1578087 Fri, 18 Apr 2014 19:24:27 +0000 Ash 1578087@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>&lt;3<br /> That's the great thing about hb - you belong on all of them and everyone will accept you! </p> <p>*hugs* :goodluck: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-like-you-dont-really-fit-in-anywhere#post-1578070 Fri, 18 Apr 2014 19:05:59 +0000 swedishfish 1578070@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@googly-eyes: I completely understand where you're coming from. The newborn stage was really difficult for me as well. I'm not looking forward to that again but I'm looking forward to having another LO. The tides turned for me when R turned 6 months old.</p> <p>@travelgirl1: I also knew I had fertility issues before TTC so I met with my RE after only 3 months. Turns out DH has fertility issues as well! Good luck TTC #2! :goodluck: </p> <p>@raintreebee: good luck! :goodluck: </p> <p>@AmeliaBedilia: I hope you get your BFP soon! :goodluck: </p> <p>@FaithFertility: thank you :heart: </p> <p>@LAZB: I am so sorry for your loss. I truly hope that you get pregnant soon. :goodluck: :heart: </p> <p>@MrsMcD: @mrs. 64: @Pepper: @rahlyrah: thanks :heart: </p> <p>@mrs. bird: you are choosing the path that's right for you. I hope you get your BFP soon. :goodluck: </p> <p>@bluestriped bee: that's a good idea! Maybe I will start a thread.</p> <p>@brownie: hugs :heart: I hope you get your second take home baby soon. :goodluck: </p> <p>@bhbee: glad to know I'm not alone! I hope you get your second LO's BFP soon. :goodluck: </p> <p>@SweetiePie: I can't imagine what that feels like. Working through my emotions to accept needing IVF was difficult. It must have been worse for you because you needed IVF for totally different reasons. :heart: </p> <p>@Raindrop: you are NOT a big whiner. TTC is emotionally exhausting no matter which number child it is. I hope you get your BFP soon! :goodluck: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-like-you-dont-really-fit-in-anywhere#post-1578047 Fri, 18 Apr 2014 18:39:29 +0000 travelgirl1 1578047@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swedishfish: I will join you! I was in a weird position in that I knew I had fertility issues BEFORE we tried to TTC so I skipped the months of trying naturally and went straight to treatment which worked first time. I'm now on my first cycle of daily ultrasounds and bloodwork to TTC #2. I don't feel like I belong on a POAS board because it seems like I'm not doing what everyone else is doing but I feel like I'm not far enough into stuff to chat on the infertility boards either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-like-you-dont-really-fit-in-anywhere#post-1578020 Fri, 18 Apr 2014 18:10:40 +0000 raintreebee 1578020@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>hi i have one ivf baby and will be trying for a second in about 9 months or earliet! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-like-you-dont-really-fit-in-anywhere#post-1578003 Fri, 18 Apr 2014 17:40:22 +0000 AmeliaBedilia 1578003@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, while I don't have the same story, it's easy to feel lonely. We are in cycle 13, but not quite a year yet. We have been doing a long distance marriage until 2 weeks ago and have had tons of stress, so I don't know if those things have kept us from our BFP. I see all these people in our shoes doing testing, and it doesn't feel right. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-like-you-dont-really-fit-in-anywhere#post-1577997 Fri, 18 Apr 2014 17:34:47 +0000 FaithFertility 1577997@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swedishfish: I am here!!!!! I am a great listner!!!!! Wall me anytime!!!!!!!!!! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-like-you-dont-really-fit-in-anywhere#post-1577943 Fri, 18 Apr 2014 16:51:24 +0000 LAZB 1577943@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just yesterday I joined the IF board even though I've already had a baby and this is my first cycle trying for my second. My situation is very different too, because my baby passed away at five weeks old, so most people wouldn't be ttc so soon after having baby number one. Since it took a year the first time, and will probably take some intervention this time, I figured the IF board fit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-like-you-dont-really-fit-in-anywhere#post-1577933 Fri, 18 Apr 2014 16:44:47 +0000 deactivated_account 1577933@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi friend. So sorry you feel this way. I think you can join any darn board that you want!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-like-you-dont-really-fit-in-anywhere#post-1577932 Fri, 18 Apr 2014 16:44:32 +0000 mrs. 64 1577932@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There might not be one place that fits everything you've been through, but I think that means you can get support from any/all of the places that have been a part of your journey. Of course you know the bees are here to support you whether we have been through the same things or not. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-like-you-dont-really-fit-in-anywhere#post-1577910 Fri, 18 Apr 2014 16:34:13 +0000 Pepper 1577910@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swedishfish: Hug! &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ever-feel-like-you-dont-really-fit-in-anywhere#post-1577909 Fri, 18 Apr 2014 16:34:10 +0000 mrs. bird 1577909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yes, because we weren't choosing an approach that was aggressive as many people would have. i really wanted to take time to try some other things first and feel like i exhausted all other options before seeking out the advice of an RE. </p>