https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 16 May 2026 02:09:39 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ex-boyfriend-keeps-trying-casual-communication-i-dont-want-to#post-193230 Sun, 17 Jun 2012 22:14:22 +0000 cyneswith 193230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd say "Look. I know you don't have a problem being friendly with exes, but I find it awkward. I'd appreciate it if you would stop contacting me." Honest AND polite. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ex-boyfriend-keeps-trying-casual-communication-i-dont-want-to#post-193199 Sun, 17 Jun 2012 21:43:39 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 193199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had an ex boyfriend who would not stop texting my and sending me messages on Facebook. I ignored him and eventually he just stopped. It was really annoying for a while, but I'm glad he stopped. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ex-boyfriend-keeps-trying-casual-communication-i-dont-want-to#post-193126 Sun, 17 Jun 2012 19:48:29 +0000 ladyfingers 193126@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Crumbs: Yeah, hints are obviously not working. I have a big flaw in that I hate confrontation. So when he texts, "Is everything OK, did I do something wrong" after I ignore him, I go for, "No, I'm just really busy, sorry," rather than, "No, you didn't do anything wrong but it might be easier if we don't talk as much." Because that's not really a conversation I can have over text, and I really hate having conversations like that period lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ex-boyfriend-keeps-trying-casual-communication-i-dont-want-to#post-193079 Sun, 17 Jun 2012 18:55:08 +0000 SugarplumsMom 193079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So you mean he's been randomly trying to communicate with you for the last 6 years? It sounds like the guy doesn't take any hints =/ If his msgs are just random and casual, maybe you can just ignore him indefinitely and he'll back off finally. If not, then you'll gonna have to tell him to stop. I vote for ignoring, it's much easier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ex-boyfriend-keeps-trying-casual-communication-i-dont-want-to#post-193069 Sun, 17 Jun 2012 18:44:56 +0000 chopsuey 193069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would ignore or ask him to stop contacting you. I actually had a guy I dated casually for a bit text and email often too. I told him that I had no desire to keep in touch or be friends. And haven't heard from him since! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ex-boyfriend-keeps-trying-casual-communication-i-dont-want-to#post-193059 Sun, 17 Jun 2012 18:38:59 +0000 ladyfingers 193059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I dated this guy for about 1.5 years, from 2005-2006. We didn't end on awesome terms, but we started talking again after my mom died in December 2006. But ever since I've been with DH, I have tried to kind of back away from any informal communication. He was a freelance writer for us at my last job, and after I left there, there wasn't really any reason to communicate anymore.</p> <p>He doesn't really reach out to try anything. From what I know, he's in a serious long-term relationship, and he's not that kind of person anyway, to stir stuff up. But when we were together, he always prided himself on the fact that he was really good friends with all his ex-girlfriends -- and their husbands/bfs, too. So I don't know if that's what's going on here or what, but every once in a while he'll text me, and I'm just like, *eyeroll* </p> <p>Sometimes, it's a weird text: two Christmases ago, he texted me to tell me that Hot Topic had a big sale and he figured I liked "that kind of crap." (Which I really don't.) Sometimes, it's a question that he could ask any number of people but chooses to ask me instead, like, "who was your mortgage broker." Sometimes, it's a question for Google, like, "What was that movie with Scarlett Johanssen and Bill Murray when they're in Japan?" And so I answer, and then he starts with, "So how is everything going anyway?"</p> <p>And I just don't want to have a conversation. Once, I ignored him and he sent me a text asking if I was mad at him, if he had done anything wrong *eyeroll*. The thing is, 1. I am not the biggest fan of him anyway, he's a fine person but I find him to be very annoying and one of those "I always have something clever and cutting to say on Facebook" type of people, 2. There's no reason for a friendship, and 3. Not that DH would care tremendously, but given 1 and 2, I don't feel like it's important enough to add that dynamic to things.</p> <p>So do I keep ignoring him? Tell him to stop (and how and what to say about that??)? Blah, I hate social awkwardness like this. </p>