https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Apr 2026 18:38:38 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/excuse-my-french-but-wtf#post-2913930 Tue, 14 Apr 2020 10:50:53 +0000 petitenoisette 2913930@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree that I would not assume anything by the line hours later. I definitely wouldn’t go in for a blood test right now. I know this is really hard but there is nothing a blood test can do for you and you are just exposing yourself to great risk unnecessarily going to the dr. Honestly I’m surprised they would even agree to see you. I hope you can get some peace. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/excuse-my-french-but-wtf#post-2913905 Mon, 13 Apr 2020 21:15:06 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 2913905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Msglass: I’d still go in for a blood test, but that’s just me. I’d just want to be sure </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/excuse-my-french-but-wtf#post-2913842 Mon, 13 Apr 2020 11:24:19 +0000 crazydoglady 2913842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Msglass: I agree with @Fawn: . I would assume that was negative. I'm sorry. :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/excuse-my-french-but-wtf#post-2913836 Mon, 13 Apr 2020 10:46:54 +0000 Fawn 2913836@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry you're going through this. :sad: That looks negative to me. I know it's so tough to not look, but I would try not to look at tests hours later. I used similar tests and always saw a faint line hours later even when I definitely was not pregnant. I probably wouldn't go in for a blood test, though if it's going to make you feel better its not a bad idea.</p> <p>I've had a chemical pregnancy as well - there are a lot of changing emotions in a short period of time, it's tough. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/excuse-my-french-but-wtf#post-2913835 Mon, 13 Apr 2020 10:38:25 +0000 Msglass 2913835@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just thought I’d share one more update - we are friends with an OB who told me to test one more time this morning and if the test came up negative that I didn’t need to come in for any further testing. This morning I took a test and it definitely looked negative but when I went back and looked at it again hours later I can still see a faint line....is this cause of concern or just an evap? Would you go to the doctor? </p> [attach=6934/20/q8qgs1.450x600.E4EF155B-5295-4F50-9E20-941BBB41286F.jpeg] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/excuse-my-french-but-wtf#post-2913784 Sun, 12 Apr 2020 10:21:00 +0000 JennyLayneAZ 2913784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Msglass: Im so sorry ❤ :crying: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/excuse-my-french-but-wtf#post-2913781 Sun, 12 Apr 2020 06:24:43 +0000 karenbme 2913781@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Msglass: So sorry to see your updates. I agree that getting blood tests is the way to go. Then you’ll know for sure what’s going on. </p> <p>I’m also sorry that the nurse you spoke to was dismissive. I think for practitioners who see these things every day they can lose touch with how emotional it is for their patients. At least that’s been my experience. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/excuse-my-french-but-wtf#post-2913779 Sun, 12 Apr 2020 05:44:58 +0000 Msglass 2913779@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CatchAFallingStar: I decided against going to an urgent care. The plan now is to see a doctor tomorrow to get blood drawn. The test I took this morning was lighter than yesterday’s so it’s pretty clear that this is an early miscarriage. Still bleeding pretty steadily too. At this point I’m just trying to work through the emotions of loss and trying to start moving on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/excuse-my-french-but-wtf#post-2913774 Sat, 11 Apr 2020 21:53:57 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 2913774@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Msglass: did you end up going to urgent care? So sorry you’re going through so much uncertainty. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/excuse-my-french-but-wtf#post-2913755 Sat, 11 Apr 2020 12:23:10 +0000 crazydoglady 2913755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Msglass: I agree with @bhbee: pregnancy loss (if that's what this is) isn't necessarily linear. </p> <p>As much as I would love to be reassuring (and I so dearly hope I am wrong) I would assume that this is a chemical and just allow it to run it's course. I wouldn't bother calling the nurse again as they can't tell you much. If you are experiencing any unusual cramping/pain, then you should call, but (from what I am seen and I am absolutely no expert) many ectopics will darken as usual) but become an issue around 6-8 weeks. Since yours doesn't seem to be following that trajectory, I wouldn't necessarily worry about that. Some chemical pregnancies hold on for a while, but I think the key thing is that your tests aren't darkening. There is nothing wrong with being hopeful. I have had pregnancy losses where I didn't hope at all (to protect myself) and ones where I hoped with everything I had...and they sucked equally. I just hope that you get an answer as soon as possible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/excuse-my-french-but-wtf#post-2913751 Sat, 11 Apr 2020 07:56:27 +0000 bhbee 2913751@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Msglass: I’m so sorry, I have felt all of that and I know how much it hurts. But I also might advise waiting to see what happens, at least a few more days. </p> <p>Personal experience in this - I was working with an RE during one of my losses so betas were easy to get. I knew things weren’t darkening enough but every test looked unquestionably positive. My first beta around 14dpo was 28, which is the kind of number that isn’t promising but also isn’t definitively bad. So it didn’t end my limbo. Second beta is what really tells you something, it was 3-4 days later and still 28! That made clear it wasn’t viable (though I would have still tested positive on a stick) but still didn’t tell us anything about whether there was anything to worry about. So they had me wait again, third beta around a week from the first was 7 so finally dropping. And that was maybe 11 ish days from the first positive test I got. That was a long, long week and my period started around a day later. Hcg dropping can be different for every person and every pregnancy, even when it’s low. And my experience with hcg dropping from a higher point (later loss) is that the last bit takes a while to go sometimes, not sure why. </p> <p>Not sure if any of that is helpful but maybe helps manage expectations for all the terrible waiting. I’ve dealt with all the crappy nurse responses too. And in truth it’s all just a painful experience and I’m so sorry you’re in it. I hope you’ll have a clearer answer in a few more days :heart: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/excuse-my-french-but-wtf#post-2913750 Sat, 11 Apr 2020 06:01:37 +0000 erinbaderin 2913750@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know it’s so so hard but I would try to wait - don’t risk exposing yourself to coronavirus at an urgent care. They won’t really be able to tell you anything anyway from a single blood test. I’m really sorry you’re going through this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/excuse-my-french-but-wtf#post-2913749 Sat, 11 Apr 2020 03:59:32 +0000 Msglass 2913749@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Still bleeding bright red, but I took another test (it’s 5am now) and it is still positive, actually looks darker than other tests. I’m planning on going to an urgent care as soon as I can this morning because I just need to know what my body is doing even if it means just confirming that this is an early miscarriage. I just need to know. My heart hurts from all of the wondering. The smidge of hope that I have left is so small, but I am holding onto it for now. </p> [attach=6934/20/q8m8z8.450x600.1EDDE1A9-8D2D-4FEC-88EA-1319670C6B19.jpeg] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/excuse-my-french-but-wtf#post-2913748 Sat, 11 Apr 2020 00:32:43 +0000 Msglass 2913748@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I just woke up to pee at 1:00am, and I’m still bleeding, not a ton but like light period bleeding. I took another test because I wanted to see if it’s negative again. And it came out positive. Thoughts? I’m scared to be hopeful and I’m also not really looking forward to calling my birth center to talk to them about it after being treated like a nut-job for taking more than one pregnancy test to begin with. I feel like they’ll just brush me off but I so badly just want someone to take me seriously and give me answers. Is it common when you’re miscarrying to still get positive pregnancy tests? Even this early? I would have thought the digital would for sure be negative at this point even after a good hold. </p> [attach=6934/20/q8lzek.450x600.04C91EF2-1FB3-4C82-853C-780EE2BFFC74.jpeg] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/excuse-my-french-but-wtf#post-2913743 Fri, 10 Apr 2020 20:29:01 +0000 caitcat 2913743@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Msglass: I’m so sorry to see your update. I had a very similar conversation with my doctor’s office after my first chemical pregnancy, and I remember getting off the phone feeling an awful combination of crazy and defeated. The nurse I spoke to the second time was incredibly supportive and validated the ups and downs and emotional rollercoaster I’d been on with it, even though it was so early. </p> <p>Again, so sorry this is what you’re going through. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/excuse-my-french-but-wtf#post-2913741 Fri, 10 Apr 2020 19:46:11 +0000 Ajsmommy 2913741@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry you’re going through this and double sorry the nurse was semi dismissive and rude.</p> <p>But it does kinda seem like a chemical pregnancy to me.. I believe I had one during my ttc journey although I never had that confirmed. I got a very faint positive one morning, def visible and def positive. I shared it with two fellow bee ttc’ers and was cautiously optimistic. The next morning I tested with a cheapie and bfn.... as if I never had the faint positive at all. So it fed happens and you are not alone</p> <p>I’m hoping for you maybe it was a glitch though... keep us updated and good luck!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/excuse-my-french-but-wtf#post-2913740 Fri, 10 Apr 2020 19:28:15 +0000 crazydoglady 2913740@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Msglass: I'm so sorry. :heart: As far as the nurse goes, I am sure they are so used to talking to people who are aren't very aware of the topic, or they may say these things as a way to pacify patients. My first pregnancy was similar. I got a positive test at 10 dpo, it got darker the next day, and then the tests slowly faded. I hadn't heard of a chemical pregnancy before, and I was crushed. While I was only (knowingly) pregnant for five days, a lot of dreaming and hoping can happen in five days. It seemed like no one really understood why it was so hard for me and I was told by some to "be patient." I got pregnant again very soon after, and that ended in a loss at around 11 weeks. I eventually got pregnant with my now 4.5 year old. He's as stubborn as all get out...I think he just wasn't "ready" (also evidenced by my 32 hour labor 😂.) All this to say, is I'm sorry and it sucks, but you aren't alone, and I think that it will all make sense someday. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/excuse-my-french-but-wtf#post-2913737 Fri, 10 Apr 2020 18:39:52 +0000 Msglass 2913737@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JennyPenny: thank you for sharing a bit of your experience and for understanding. It might be silly that I’m already typing away on one of these forums but right now my biggest comfort is knowing I’m not alone in this. I’m also trying not to be fearful of this turning into some kind medical emergency. I made the mistake of googling about ectopic pregnancies and it scared me a lot. But for now I just feel kind of crampy like I’m about to start my period so I’m trying not to worry too much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/excuse-my-french-but-wtf#post-2913735 Fri, 10 Apr 2020 18:17:20 +0000 JennyPenny 2913735@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m so sorry, both that you have all this stress and that the nurse treated you that way. I got something similar from the doctor I saw at my OB practice when I was having a chemical pregnancy. I’m not sure if it’s ignorance on their part or that they expect us to be ignorant. Either way it does not feel good. It’s easy to get very emotionally attached to something quite quickly, devastating to have it taken away, and then worse to have people act like it was nothing :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/excuse-my-french-but-wtf#post-2913734 Fri, 10 Apr 2020 17:31:24 +0000 Msglass 2913734@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@crazydoglady: I started spotting a little while ago. I called the on-call midwife at my birth center and she basically said all I can do is wait it out at home. She told me it was strange that I took so many pregnancy tests and she also asked me what I meant when I expressed concern over a chemical pregnancy. She said that it’s probably just my period. And then she said “it could have just been a false positive because you know you can’t always trust pregnancy tests.” I am heartbroken and she made me feel like I made up this entire thing in my head even though yesterday I got a positive digital and the day before that I did too and had faint lines since Monday. I think I was pregnant. And I feel like I lost something, but the midwife acted like it didn’t matter. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/excuse-my-french-but-wtf#post-2913732 Fri, 10 Apr 2020 17:25:55 +0000 crazydoglady 2913732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Becky: Agreed. </p> <p>@Msglass: Do you have any more FRER to test? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/excuse-my-french-but-wtf#post-2913731 Fri, 10 Apr 2020 16:53:29 +0000 Becky 2913731@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Msglass: Although the wait is tough, I would definitely not go get betas right now and expose yourself to others. I have never gotten betas before—my practice only does it if there is a reason. Crossing my fingers for you though! I got a negative on a digital after a positive with my current pregnancy so it is possible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/excuse-my-french-but-wtf#post-2913723 Fri, 10 Apr 2020 14:47:33 +0000 Msglass 2913723@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CatchAFallingStar: so I called the birth/midwife center where I go for my OB care and the nurse seems to think that because I got a positive digital result yesterday morning that I don’t have anything to worry about. She said that they don’t recommend testing in the middle of the day because urine can be diluted. She also said that since I’m not bleeding or cramping and have no other reasons to suspect an issue with this pregnancy that it should be fine. I don’t know if I’m satisfied with that answered. I told her I’m still concerned and she said she’d check with the midwives to see if they could do anything else to ease my mind but I have yet to hear back. I might try calling an urgent care but I doubt they’ll give me a blood test. Technically according to my period tracking app I am still not due for my period until Monday, so it is still very early. I am clinging to the hope that the reason for the negative digitals this afternoon is because I tested in the middle of the day and not with fmu. I can still see the lines on the other tests. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/excuse-my-french-but-wtf#post-2913720 Fri, 10 Apr 2020 14:09:55 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 2913720@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Msglass: can you possibly go to your doctor for a beta HCG blood draw? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/excuse-my-french-but-wtf#post-2913719 Fri, 10 Apr 2020 13:00:39 +0000 caitcat 2913719@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry you're in limbo. I've had pregnancies play out different ways with similar testing patterns, and that wait to know for sure is so hard.</p> <p>My first like that lead to my now-3-year old (it was just super slow to register on tests, I guess, or my dates were off), but I've had two chemical pregnancies since then that went very similarly. So sorry you're stuck in that in-between state now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/excuse-my-french-but-wtf#post-2913716 Fri, 10 Apr 2020 12:28:51 +0000 karenbme 2913716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Msglass: Agreed with bhbee, only time will tell, but you're right that this may be a chemical pregnancy, or an ectopic. With both of my ectopic pregnancies I got a light line that stayed light longer than it should have. Ectopic pregnancies are pretty rare, but if you don't get a darker line or a period by the time AF is due I would probably call the doctor. So sorry you're going through this. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/excuse-my-french-but-wtf#post-2913715 Fri, 10 Apr 2020 11:43:05 +0000 bhbee 2913715@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Only time is going to give you a true answer which I know is the worst right now :bummed: </p> <p>Given your first positive was on Monday, my gut instinct is that this is probably chemical. A faint line on say 10dpo is usually pretty strong by 14-15dpo. </p> <p>But it’s just a guess from someone who has lost pregnancies at various points and done a million tests throughout. There are definitely people who have weird testing patterns and everything turns out ok. Try fmu tomorrow and see what happens. Biggest hugs :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/excuse-my-french-but-wtf#post-2913713 Fri, 10 Apr 2020 11:12:03 +0000 Msglass 2913713@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I started a thread a few days ago entitled “false positive in FRRR” I got a super faint line in First Response Rapid Result on Monday, then proceeded to get more faint lines on Tuesday and Wednesday and a positive First Response Digital but negative Clearblue Digitals. Yesterday morning I got a positive Clearblue digital with fmu. I figured that since I finally got that digital positive that it meant I am for sure pregnant and all day yesterday we were so excited. We told family and friends and we’ve just been so happy. Fast forward to this afternoon at 11:45-ish when I took another Clearblue digital for peace of mind and thinking I’d definitely get another positive...I got a NEGATIVE. I then tested with two Amazon cheapies (Pregmate) and got suuuuper faint lines (which I thought would be stronger by now) and I got a faintly positive Clearblue with the lines. I’m confused and praying so hard that this is just because my hcg levels are lower in the afternoon. But I’m also wondering if this is a sign that I’m having a chemical pregnancy. If you have had a similar experience, please share! I’m honestly so freaked out right now and terrified that I will have to call family and friends to say that we are losing this pregnancy. Does this sound like a chemical or am I just still really early? Is it really possible to test positive on a digital one morning and then test negative the next day in the afternoon? This has not happened to me before and it’s making me sick to my stomach. </p> [attach=6934/20/q8kyc3.450x600.EB307F3B-BC7B-4F06-BE8E-2C553A69DC77.jpeg] [attach=6934/20/q8kyc5.450x600.A5E9F624-8E76-4D43-959A-916568F9688D.jpeg]