https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 20 Aug 2026 08:29:23 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exhaustion-pregnant-vs-parent#post-1214140 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 15:45:12 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 1214140@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pregnant with a toddler was definitely the worst! It's actually kind of a blur in my mind as to how I got through it...not sure ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exhaustion-pregnant-vs-parent#post-1214137 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 15:44:30 +0000 Amelieisme 1214137@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As someone who is currently 20 weeks pregnant and has a nearly 16 month old, it isn't that bad! I have fairly easy pregnancies with no nausea/vomiting, but the exhaustion does hit. My "normal" bedtime right now is 8-830. Just can't keep my eyes open after that. Luckily, DS goes down at 7 and is an awesome sleeper so he isn't really affected by my early bedtime (DH is a different story!). I do WOH so I am not chasing him around all day, but working. Maybe its harder to SAH with a toddler (depends on my work day!). Anyway, its doable. Now, infanthood with number 2 and DS running around is something I am terrified of! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exhaustion-pregnant-vs-parent#post-1214112 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 15:36:55 +0000 googly-eyes 1214112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know how they do it, but I will say that parent tired is worse than ftm pregnancy tired hands down. I don't even think it's close at all. Second time + pregnant/newborn moms must be the most tired but you do what you have to... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exhaustion-pregnant-vs-parent#post-1214089 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 15:31:48 +0000 FarmWifeGina 1214089@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly? Disney Jr and PBS. I try very hard to keep it to a minimum, especially since my 4 year-old is in preschool all day 4 days of the week, so I really only have the 2 year-old during most weekdays, but sometimes momma needs a nap so bad she can't see straight. That's how I've gotten through these 39 weeks anyways. And I'm sure it will continue to some extent after #3 is here. But in a year or two, this too shall pass- unless we get knocked up again, lol. Which is not the plan, but this pregnancy wasn't exactly planned either... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exhaustion-pregnant-vs-parent#post-1214073 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 15:29:47 +0000 Kimberlybee 1214073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is something I am going to have to embrace and look forward to. We were going to TTC when H turns 1....which is less than 6 months away! Wow, that's crazy fast. Not so sure now.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exhaustion-pregnant-vs-parent#post-1213919 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 14:56:43 +0000 Running Elley 1213919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's been a lot harder being pregnant this find around. It was kind of nice that E was so young during my first trimester because he still napped 3x per day and I was able to nap with him. Now that he's a full fledged toddler it's much much harder. I can't wait to give birth largely because of it (even though obviously having the newborn and toddler isn't going to be a walk in the park). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exhaustion-pregnant-vs-parent#post-1213900 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 14:52:29 +0000 shopaholic 1213900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want to applaud all you 2nd &amp; 3rd time around moms! Such positive outlooks! And, FWIW, my semi-rant must have been attributed to PMS because and Aunt I don't like showed up. lol. </p> <p> @Ree723: This was me yesterday. Laying on the floor and letting LO crawl all over me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exhaustion-pregnant-vs-parent#post-1212994 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 10:01:56 +0000 leelee 1212994@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was thinking the same thing! DD is 16 months and I'm pregnant with #2. Pregnancy is much harder this time around having to chase her down everywhere. I originally wanted 4 kids now I'm pretty that is not gonna happen! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exhaustion-pregnant-vs-parent#post-1212984 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 09:59:03 +0000 tlcbaby 1212984@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I forgot how crazy first tri exhaustion was until I saw this post! I barely made it through the day at work and usually laid down for a nap the second I walked through the front door!</p> <p>I also can't imagine running after a baby and being pregnant, but, like everything else, I guess it is just one of those things you do and barely have time to think about how crazy exhausting it is! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exhaustion-pregnant-vs-parent#post-1212980 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 09:58:22 +0000 autumnlove 1212980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm tired all the time! :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exhaustion-pregnant-vs-parent#post-1212950 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 09:47:05 +0000 lawbee11 1212950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was just telling my mom that I totally understand why there is a 5-year age gap between me &amp; my brother! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exhaustion-pregnant-vs-parent#post-1212942 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 09:45:02 +0000 mrs. wagon 1212942@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am more exhausted now than I have been in my whole entire life!! But here are the things that have changed now that I'm a parent of 2 toddlers (or, 1 toddler and 1 kid? yikes):</p> <p>1) I go to bed crazy early. I used to stay up til 1am sometimes. Now if I'm still awake at 11pm, it's a big emergency. Usually I'm in bed by 10:30pm. Some nights, especially Monday nights, I just give up on trying to catch up or do anything fun and I go to bed at 9.</p> <p>2) Every minute of every day is crazy productive. I look back on my time before kids or as a mom of 1 and I really marvel at how much I get done now vs. back then. I actually cook now, when back then I didn't have time or energy. But it's out of necessity now (getting takeout every day for 4 gets expensive AND exhausting to think about!) so I think that gives you a boost of motivation, when you have no choice!! </p> <p>3) Wagon Jr. is a LOT more self-sufficient now. I lay out his clothes so he dresses himself, he never needs us at the potty anymore (only for really messy poops for wiping), he washes his hands by himself, eats by himself... There is very little hands-on time with him that is not just playing or spending time together. </p> <p>4) Wagon Sr. and I have had almost 4 years of perfecting this dance of teamwork with two kids. We've made sacrifices to be able to be on the same schedule, so we're always two parents vs. two kids. It's rare that one of us is alone with both kids. So that obviously works hugely to our advantage. </p> <p>5) I never feel guilty when completing housework when the kids are around. I used to think that if the kids are awake, I should be playing with them. Now I don't hesitate to finish the dishes or cleaning up from dinner. It only takes a few minutes and then I can be totally free and clear to play with them. </p> <p>But I will say this... both kids are in a good place sleep wise, and that makes a HUGE difference. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exhaustion-pregnant-vs-parent#post-1212756 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 08:48:50 +0000 bushelandapeck 1212756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: Ugh, I am also a terrible sleeper. There is not a night that goes by when I don't wake up at least 2-3 times for no reason. When I was pregnant with #2 this was even worse and I was tired all day long. I am dreading having to go through the first tri for a third time, but like @littlek I am excited and hope it happens soon. Crazy! lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exhaustion-pregnant-vs-parent#post-1212745 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 08:44:30 +0000 littlek 1212745@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I imagine it's very exhausting BUT I really hope to experience it soon. B needs a little bro/sis. :)</p> <p>Same as PP, I sleep awful since having B. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exhaustion-pregnant-vs-parent#post-1212714 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 08:23:45 +0000 winniebee 1212714@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rachiecakes: same I'm a terrible sleeper. Unison was safe for me while pregnant so a few times a week I take a half tab to make sure I get decent sleep. </p> <p>I'm exhausted just thinking about being pregnant while having a toddler. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exhaustion-pregnant-vs-parent#post-1212708 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 08:21:44 +0000 MamaBehr 1212708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am nuts and clearly I don't understand where babies come from (I'm expecting my third). </p> <p>JUST KIDDING! It is tough, but you make due. The first trimester with a toddler and preschooler running around was hard, but I think the newborn phase is harder. The only difference is with a newborn I can be a hot mess and no one cares, in your first trimester you have to pretend you are alright! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exhaustion-pregnant-vs-parent#post-1212669 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 07:55:18 +0000 GrapeCrush 1212669@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pregnant with #2 and chasing a toddler(DS was 15 months old when I had DD) was the most exhausted I ever was...ever! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exhaustion-pregnant-vs-parent#post-1212665 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 07:51:18 +0000 Andrea 1212665@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ha. I started drinking coffee! That is all! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exhaustion-pregnant-vs-parent#post-1212629 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 06:38:32 +0000 Smurfette 1212629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@shopaholic: I wonder this all the time! When R was born DH and I both were like can you imagine doing this with a toddler running around? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exhaustion-pregnant-vs-parent#post-1212612 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 06:02:11 +0000 rachiecakes 1212612@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't been able to sleep through the night since before I was pregnant. DS sleeps fine. I'm up all hours.<br /> Since I solo parent at night, I'm too scared to take anything.<br /> Couldn't imagine being pregnant or caring for another LO right now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exhaustion-pregnant-vs-parent#post-1212601 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 05:08:35 +0000 SugarplumsMom 1212601@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know, right?! I remember being out of my mind exhausted and see a girl out hiking with her newborn! How the hell do ppl do it? My friend has 4 boys ... four boys! I would go out of my damn mind! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exhaustion-pregnant-vs-parent#post-1212596 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 04:30:25 +0000 Cherrybee 1212596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wonder this too! How DO people cope!!?</p> <p>Looking back, I slept most of my pregnancy away. I worked from home frequently, got up late, took lunchtime naps....and still felt tired! One of the things I find hardest about being a mum is that I can't just opt out - you know? - call in sick for a day and lie in bed! How do you do it?!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exhaustion-pregnant-vs-parent#post-1212584 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 03:55:12 +0000 ALV91711 1212584@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@shopaholic: I often wonder the same thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exhaustion-pregnant-vs-parent#post-1212580 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 03:35:41 +0000 Penny Lane 1212580@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinpye: yup to all of this!</p> <p>I spent my first probably 20 weeks of this pregnancy going to bed as soon as LO did, waking up when he did, and napping with him in the mornings. I was SO tired, and he wasn't even at the running around stage yet (I get to experience that stage now in my 3rd tri instead)</p> <p>you get through it because you have to. there is no other option! ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exhaustion-pregnant-vs-parent#post-1212569 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 02:36:06 +0000 erinpye 1212569@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, being pregnant with #2 and caring for a toddler, I feel as if I've never been this exhausted in my life, and that's coming from someone who's been through the newborn stage. However, honestly, hard is hard, and ranking it doesn't do any good. You're doing a hard job, as all parents are. I hope you get some much needed rest soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exhaustion-pregnant-vs-parent#post-1212563 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 02:31:43 +0000 lamariniere 1212563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Luckily for me with this 2nd pregnancy, other than the first tri, I've had a fairly easy time of it. DS is an older toddler and always SSTN, so at least I can get my mommy rest. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exhaustion-pregnant-vs-parent#post-1212562 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 02:30:53 +0000 Ree723 1212562@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, from someone who is currently 28 weeks pregnant and chasing around a 16 month old, I'll just say it is really, really tough some days. Today being one of those days. The first tri was awful when it came to exhaustion - I felt like the world's worst mother as I had zero energy to do anything with my LO other than snuggle with her. After 12 weeks or so, it got much better but there are definitely days where I just lay on the floor and let her play around me whilst I half-doze... I'm looking forward to being done with pregnancy so I can feel like myself again and actually play with my LO like I want to. </p> <p>I'm really exhausted today though so I may be a bit whingier than I normally would be. :-/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exhaustion-pregnant-vs-parent#post-1212553 Wed, 13 Nov 2013 01:36:31 +0000 shopaholic 1212553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh... having one of those totally drained and exhausted nights. Made me think of a comparison.</p> <p>First trimester pregnancy exhaustion was no joke. But I think my "new parent adrenaline" has started to wear off. Though, at 8 months, I guess it's not so new. I've been having more and more of those, just-wanna-pass-out nights. I almost miss pregnancy exhaustion, when I could sleep as much as I want to. </p> <p>Scares me to death of what happens when you're pregnant with your 2nd (or more) AND you have to take care of a LO! I see people on FB and out shopping with 3-4 kids! Ahhh! How do you guys do it? </p>