https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 19 May 2026 19:22:01 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/explain-logistics-of-divorce#post-2909723 Thu, 06 Feb 2020 09:37:09 +0000 psw27 2909723@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not divorced but I am a divorce lawyer. People do all sorts of things - stay living in the same house, move out, nesting arrangements, etc. They also do all sorts of types of divorce - joint petitions, no fault divorces, fault divorces. Nasty divorces and amicable ones. Each case is unique and has variables. States also vary - as @autumnmama79 said, some states require physical separation, others (like where I live) don't care. Some states have fault laws and others don't. I'm happy to chat more if you need any advice or recommendations. Good luck! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/explain-logistics-of-divorce#post-2909711 Thu, 06 Feb 2020 01:06:50 +0000 Autumnmama79 2909711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: I’m sorry you’re in this position. DD’s dad and I divorced 8 years ago. Once I announced that I was tired of the crap and wanted a divorce it was a bit of a whirlwind. We attended some fledgling counseling sessions but ultimately it was already over. We stayed living in the same house for a year. To save money and as a bit of transition for DD. That living arrangement only worked bc there was little to no conflict between us. He slept on the couch if I remember correctly. </p> <p>Where I live, you need to be separated for a year prior to filing for divorce. It was very important to agree on a ‘separation date’. I handled the actual divorce 100% on my own, following ministry guidelines and filing the required documents at the courthouse. We we’re able to settle parenting time and child support through this self directed process as well. </p> <p>Again, I’m so sorry. I think we were in the same 2016 due date group? Sending you love and strength. Do you have any other questions or thoughts? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/explain-logistics-of-divorce#post-2909652 Wed, 05 Feb 2020 12:04:27 +0000 crazydoglady 2909652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runnerd: No advice, I just wanted to offer hugs and support. :heart: Is your SO opposed to counseling? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/explain-logistics-of-divorce#post-2909650 Wed, 05 Feb 2020 11:46:37 +0000 mrskansas 2909650@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just flat out told my husband I wanted to leave/get a divorce. I wasn't able to move out right away so I moved into the spare bedroom for about month until I got my own place.</p> <p>The actual legal divorce took a while. I moved out in June and our divorce was just finalized two weeks ago. Everything was very amicable though.</p> <p>If you have any specific questions I'm happy to help! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/explain-logistics-of-divorce#post-2909649 Wed, 05 Feb 2020 11:34:33 +0000 gotkimchi 2909649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think @portboston: did this and @autumnmama79: hopefully they see this and can offer advice. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/explain-logistics-of-divorce#post-2909648 Wed, 05 Feb 2020 11:22:23 +0000 runnerd 2909648@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can anyone explain the logistics of how they asked for and started divorce process? Especially if did not move out?</p> <p>Bonus points if you did this while still very much wishing you stay married/loving spouse. </p>