https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 11 May 2026 22:41:27 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exposing-newborn-to-non-vaccinated-children#post-302681 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 13:33:08 +0000 ladyfingers 302681@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@however briefly: That's ridiculous, I'm so sorry :( This is exactly why I believe strongly in vaccinating, even on an alternative or delayed schedule! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exposing-newborn-to-non-vaccinated-children#post-302534 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 12:25:38 +0000 dookie32 302534@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@however briefly: Ugh yeah I'm sorry for that turn of events :(. I'm sure it's a little awkward now but hopefully she will understand where you are coming from and that you only have the best interest of your LO in mind. Even though our in-laws they don't agree with us, they have been respectful of our position. When my husband explained that we were going to have to keep my son away from the kids, they cooperated and didn't try to argue about it. It would be pretty unfair of your in-laws to get bent out of shape about you trying to avoid contact with their daughter since their decision could potentially affect the health of your child. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exposing-newborn-to-non-vaccinated-children#post-302518 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 12:20:19 +0000 cvbee 302518@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: @Mrsbells: I read this on the CDC site...it's not really black and white but it is the sort of thing that made me think what I thought:<br /> "Did you know that your baby gets disease immunity (protection) from you during pregnancy? This immunity will protect your baby from some diseases during the first few months of life but immunity decreases over time." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exposing-newborn-to-non-vaccinated-children#post-302463 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 11:55:29 +0000 littlebug 302463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, I agree w/pps, I would definitely let your pediatrician be the bad guy. </p> <p>Pertussis is way too scary for me to risk it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exposing-newborn-to-non-vaccinated-children#post-302448 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 11:43:48 +0000 mrbee 302448@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@however briefly: Honestly, I think with whooping cough going around, I wouldn't risk it. I would just say that you will check with the doctor, and then write her back later once you've heard. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exposing-newborn-to-non-vaccinated-children#post-302445 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 11:39:26 +0000 however briefly 302445@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@olive: actually that is my exact situation now. </p> <p>She's just emailed me back and apparently I misunderstood because her baby has had absolutely no vaccinations and they are not planning on vaccinating her at all (and they are both very passionate about it). I've just spent two hours trying to word an email back to her bringing up my concern primarily about DTaP but everything is coming out very accusing even though I don't mean for it to. I think I'm going to leave it for now and talk to a doctor and probably just end up doing exactly what you did and just try to go to a different room or something when they are around. I know this is going to cause a fight at some point and they are going to use the argument of, "Well, our child made it through just fine, blah blah, blah" and I probably won't deal with it all very well but I can't see any other solution.</p> <p>The only good thing that she corrected me on was that her sister watches her baby for her instead of daycare but there are like six kids in that family and they all have heaps of friends running in and out of the house all the time. I'm not sure if that sort of almost secondary exposure is as worrisome. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exposing-newborn-to-non-vaccinated-children#post-302343 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 10:29:57 +0000 dookie32 302343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had to deal with this situation a few months ago. My son was baptized at 6 weeks and my BIL is the godfather. He lives out of town so he was coming up with my SIL and their 3 kids- all of whom are not vaccinated at all (ages 5, 3 and 1). I was REALLY freaked out about having the kids around my son. I wanted my husband to tell them the kids couldn't come but that was sort of impossible with him being the godfather. It lead to a huge fight with my husband and in the end, I had to compromise for the sake of family peace. They did come but we kept my son as far away as physically possible from them. It was an extremely stressful weekend for me- thankfully my son was going through a sleepy period and spent most of the weekend napping. </p> <p>It's really an uncomfortable situation when it's family and I think you definitely have to tread lightly. People get extremely defensive when it comes to the decisions they make with their children. I feel that when you make a decision to not vaccinate, one of the consequences that you have to be prepared for is that people are going to not want your kids to be around their kids until they have had their shots but not everyone sees it that way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exposing-newborn-to-non-vaccinated-children#post-302301 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 10:09:23 +0000 runsyellowlites 302301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We didn't have any small children around DD when she was just born, especially if they're in daycare. They are constantly exposed to germs &amp; some vaccines given shed bc they are live virus vaccines so they're also exposed to that.</p> <p>I agree that letting your pedi be the bad guy is the way to go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exposing-newborn-to-non-vaccinated-children#post-302276 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 09:56:30 +0000 Mrsbells 302276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cvbee: No unfortunately the baby isnt born immune to everything you are immune to. They do get a boost to their immnunity from the antibodies found in breastmilk but not against vaccinated diseases. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exposing-newborn-to-non-vaccinated-children#post-302261 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 09:46:00 +0000 mrbee 302261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cvbee: I wish that was the way it worked! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exposing-newborn-to-non-vaccinated-children#post-302226 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 09:29:53 +0000 Andrea 302226@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like Mr. Bee's idea! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exposing-newborn-to-non-vaccinated-children#post-302223 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 09:28:48 +0000 however briefly 302223@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. jacks: THANK YOU. Everything you said was exactly where I was pretty much willing to draw my lines in concession.</p> <p>@mrbee: That's actually a really good suggestion that I'm feeling silly for forgetting about.</p> <p>I've just written my sister-in-law and as a first step I've asked her to detail exactly what vaccinations they are planning on getting and when. After that, I'll figure out exactly how much I'm going to have to ask of them and go from there. I'm definitely not as stressed out about this as I was a couple of hours ago though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exposing-newborn-to-non-vaccinated-children#post-302217 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 09:26:49 +0000 cvbee 302217@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I thought baby is born with our immunities? So if you are up on your vaccines, baby is okay? No? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exposing-newborn-to-non-vaccinated-children#post-302206 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 09:21:41 +0000 yoursilverlining 302206@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way; and don’t feel badly about your feelings! If people want to gamble with their own child’s health, I guess that’s their prerogative, but considering there are whopping cough outbreaks in almost every single state and whopping cough kills babies and young children – they are not going to be allowed to gamble with my child’s health too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exposing-newborn-to-non-vaccinated-children#post-302198 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 09:15:53 +0000 mrbee 302198@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ask your ped for their recommendation. That way, you're not the bad guy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exposing-newborn-to-non-vaccinated-children#post-302168 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 09:03:05 +0000 blackbird 302168@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Noooooo way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exposing-newborn-to-non-vaccinated-children#post-302146 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 08:54:58 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 302146@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would request that she get a DTaP, since pertussis kills babies. The other things you are likely to be more protected by herd immunity, but there's a pertussis epidemic right now across the country. </p> <p>I know that's contrary to what I usually preach about vaccines, but she's family and the likelihood of polio and some of the other vaccine preventable diseases is pretty low. Ideally I'd like her to have pneumococcal and HiB too if they are willing to do some vaccines for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exposing-newborn-to-non-vaccinated-children#post-302126 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 08:47:51 +0000 LivsMama 302126@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@however briefly: no way. The daycare thing is the kicker for me as well. I wouldnt put my child's health at risk-especially at such a young age. Maybe her husband will rethink his decision when he might not be able to see his niece </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exposing-newborn-to-non-vaccinated-children#post-302115 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 08:43:02 +0000 loveisstrange 302115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@however briefly: No way. Children carry so many germs anyway... the fact that she's unvaxxed and in daycare just is the cherry on top. She wouldn't be in the same room as my baby until my LO had had their first round of shots, at least.</p> <p>I do agree that maybe you should consider finding alternate lodgings. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exposing-newborn-to-non-vaccinated-children#post-302073 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 08:24:03 +0000 pastemoo 302073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaBehr: I agree--I would stay at a hotel instead of with them. Talk to them... Once your niece is in childcare she is exposed to whatever is out there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exposing-newborn-to-non-vaccinated-children#post-302072 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 08:23:25 +0000 however briefly 302072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you everyone for both validating my feelings as well as the support and advice. We're still FAR from this actually happening so I think I will slowly broach the subject with my sister-in-law. As we're the ones who have married into the family, I think we have a bit better understanding with each other. Maybe she can use this as a way to convince her husband that choosing to do more vaccinations or moving them up is something that should be done. </p> <p>I agree with @jessiejo17 in that since I will be staying in someone else's home I just would not feel comfortable saying their other grandchild cannot visit the house while we're there or even to hide out upstairs when they bring the child over. The last thing I want to do is alienate myself and child from the family. </p> <p>Thanks again for backing me up. I was starting to feel way too "paranoid first time mom" there for a bit and second guessing myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exposing-newborn-to-non-vaccinated-children#post-302062 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 08:19:14 +0000 ladyfingers 302062@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Absolutely not. But unfortunately, I don't have any good advice on how to broach the topic or smooth anything over :(</p> <p>I would either stay somewhere else or leave with the baby when the kid comes over *shrug* It's not worth keeping the peace, to risk having your newborn catch something awful. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exposing-newborn-to-non-vaccinated-children#post-302055 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 08:15:37 +0000 LuLu Mom 302055@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree that it's important to protect your child from illness, however I do feel beacuse it is not your house that you don't have the right to tell the grandparents their other grandchild isn't allowed to come over when your child is there. Your in laws are allowing you to stay with them and I don't think that allows you to dictate who can visit their home. </p> <p> If this is going to be a problem, since they only live 5 minutes away and I'm sure drop in all te etime, maybe another arrangement needs to be made to ensure a healthy baby? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exposing-newborn-to-non-vaccinated-children#post-302048 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 08:13:36 +0000 MrsBrewer 302048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@however briefly: I have no advise but I feel like I'm in a very similar position. Granted I'm not pregnant or trying yet, but my best friend decided not to vacinate her daughter. It scares the crap out of me, and I really don't like it. My SIL is a nurse, and she was telling me all of the dangers. So I hear ya! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exposing-newborn-to-non-vaccinated-children#post-302044 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 08:12:09 +0000 winniebee 302044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You're in a tough spot. I wouldn't let my newborn around any unvaccinated kid, though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exposing-newborn-to-non-vaccinated-children#post-302031 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 08:00:50 +0000 MamaBehr 302031@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do not envy your situation, because I can only imagine the ridiculously uncomfortable conversation that might have to take place. I also have to agree with everyone, that I wouldn't want my baby around a niece in daycare with no shots. </p> <p>What if you started hinting at this making you uncomfortable now? How far away is your stay with them? Maybe if you start hinting at it, then when you have the conversation about it they won't feel like it is out of the blue? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exposing-newborn-to-non-vaccinated-children#post-302024 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 07:52:54 +0000 looch 302024@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Since your niece is in day care, I'd insist on the vaxes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exposing-newborn-to-non-vaccinated-children#post-302018 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 07:49:35 +0000 Mrsbells 302018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@however briefly: Yeah just like @mediagirl: I ideally didnt want any kids around my baby until she had started getting her shots, but I made an exception for my niece and nephew who are 3 but they have had all their shots. I personally wouldnt expose my brand new baby to someone who purposely refuses to vaccinate their kid especially with the rise of whooping cough </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exposing-newborn-to-non-vaccinated-children#post-302012 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 07:41:19 +0000 sorrycharlie 302012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@however briefly: eck, yeah I probably wouldn't be comfortable, but that's just me. my husband was asking why he needed the whooping cough vaccine and I showed him some articles and videos online and he understood very quickly. maybe you can explain the situation to your husband as far as just what will happen if your newborn contracts something? it's hard, but scary to have a little baby get sick. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/exposing-newborn-to-non-vaccinated-children#post-302007 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 07:38:42 +0000 however briefly 302007@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsbells: She will be around 15 months when our baby will be born. She is still young now and has only gotten one vaccination. My BIL is against getting more but my SIL is wanting to do a delayed schedule. Not sure what will end up happening but I have a feeling "delayed" in their minds is much older than 15 months. She is exposed to short term daycare (only a couple of hours a couple of times a week) but it's daycare nonetheless. </p>